Elsa posted:

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Pvt.Scott posted:

There's nothing wrong with tracing, you know. That's what finding/posing/composing reference pieces and then mashing them together on a lightbox is for. Well, these days it's a light pad. Even the old masters traced and transferred stuff, and murals are often started by projecting the lineart to trace onto the walls. Keep doing freehand stuff and work to improve, but use tools at your disposal too. Christ.

Psycho Society posted:

Elsa is really having a breakthrough moment here. Crazy poster... or crazy good poster??

Elsa posted:

Elsa posted:

Elsa posted:

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

All the best artists are loving insane.

poly and open-minded posted:

maybe mirthless should start drawing?

Streak posted:

those comics suck. go back to regular posting.

Pick posted:

men who do this suck rear end

http://i.imgur.com/RNS6SMj.mp4

^ a man who should be murdererd

Pick posted:

men who do this suck rear end

http://i.imgur.com/RNS6SMj.mp4

^ a man who should be murdererd

Play posted:

I think that's just corn flour that can explode like that.

poly and open-minded posted:

maybe mirthless should start drawing?

Elsa posted:

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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years (it will be four years in May). His best friend is Jeff, and they've been best friends since college. I'm gay, Jeff is straight, my boyfriend is bisexual. I know he used to have a huge crush on Jeff when they were younger (they met in their freshman year of college) but since Jeff is straight it never went anywhere and they actually ended up becoming really good friends. I honestly like Jeff, for the most part. He can be a bit annoying sometimes, but he's usually nice. He and I never really connected well so we're kind of just nice to each other whenever we hang out in a group, but I would never call or text Jeff just to chat or hang out.

My boyfriend has always told me he's usually more interested in women than men, and I am his first boyfriend (he's had four girlfriends before me). I was never offended or bothered by this, but I think it may be a little important later on in the story.

So we just got back from a trip to Europe. It was our first trip out of the country together and we had a lot of fun, but literally the first day of the trip I dropped my phone and the camera broke! So my boyfriend told me I could just take pictures on his phone and if I wanted to upload them to Facebook or Instagram or anything I could do it from his phone (he's not really active on social media, so he wouldn't be upset or offended by it). Well one night, I was sending myself some pictures we'd taken that day from his phone. My boyfriend was asleep and just told me to put his phone to charge once I was done. And as I was sending myself the pictures through WhatsApp he got a message from Jeff. I opened it by accident (I was trying to swipe away the notification and accidentally pressed on it, opening it) and saw it was a video clip. Two women with huge tits were just making out and sucking on each other's tits. Jeff had written "this one drove me crazy!"

I suddenly felt really, really angry. I don't know what came over me, but I wanted to respond to Jeff saying that it was me, not my boyfriend, but I stopped myself. Then, I did something I wasn't proud of: I started looking through my boyfriend's messages with Jeff. I know it was a really lovely thing to do, but what I found was even more disturbing. For every quick, normal conversation, there were at least two pornographic videos or photos, and they were all women. Usually it was lesbian porn. But then, I got to one really disturbing part. My boyfriend had sent Jeff a picture of a woman standing in front of him in line at the grocery store, and said something like "check out the rear end on this one." Jeff sent back the OK emoji and the drooling emoji, and then something saying "talk to her man." My boyfriend replied, "Nah, great rear end but absolutely no tits. She's more your type." I have two little cousins, and I suddenly realized that there were pictures from the one time we went to my little cousin's soccer game since it was his championship and it landed on his birthday. My boyfriend had sent Jeff pictures of at least three women and said something like "the upside to these kids' soccer games is they're full of MILFs." This one happened while I was right there with him and I just never noticed. I feel like an idiot.

At that point I wanted to vomit. I put the phone away and went to bed that night feeling so empty and heartbroken... I can't imagine he would ever say or do anything like that. It was just so gross. I've never heard him talk that way about anyone. Worst of all, it hurts even more because these are all women... Clearly, he wants something that I can't provide that only females can, and it makes me feel so inadequate. Like, I kind of knew this was a possibility but it only now hit me how awful it is to realize I physically can't please him in certain things.

I don't know how to confront him without admitting that I snooped through his phone while he was asleep. It's not about the porn, it's about the lack of respect for myself and for all these other women he's obviously taking pictures of. I don't know how long these go back. I don't know to what extent it's Jeff pushing him or if he was just always like this. I don't know what to do or what to say. It's so awful.

Elsa posted:

boner confessor posted:

1) there's no "going back to" being an alcoholic, your choice is between an alcoholic who drinks and an alcoholic who does not drink

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BF and I have been together for about 2 years, and while the relationship is otherwise great, boundaries and trust are a touchy subject because they usually lead to arguments.

In my opinion, trust is something you earn, and you do so by avoiding inappropriate situations. BF thinks that you should blindly trust someone unless they give you a reason not to. Basically, he should be able to do anything he wants without me being uncomfortable by it or having reservations.

This always leads to an argument when I try to explain boundaries or dealbreakers I have. Most recent example, I tried to explain that I wouldn't be ok with him approaching women at bars/clubs and exchanging contact information with them or with hin having sleepovers with other women (both things he has done in the past while we were together).

He got offended and hurt when I said that, thinking that this means I am treating him like a child or that I don't trust him. I do trust him, but I also believe that once you are in a commited relationship some things are just not appropriate anymore and shouldn't be done.

But I really don't know. Am I in the wrong here? Are those things I should be comfortable with him doing? And if not, how can I possibly get him to understand that it doesn't mean I don't trust him?

TLRD: whenever I try to estabilish boundaries, BF thinks that I don't trust him because if I did I wouldn't have a problem with him doing anything he wanted to do.

EDIT: Thank you so much for all the comments everyone! It has been a real eye opener. It's good to know I am not crazy here.

zakharov posted:

Here is another chump who needs a Stone Cold Stunner.

BF (24M) and I (24F) can't seem to agree on boundaries

zakharov posted:

Here is another chump who needs a Stone Cold Stunner.

BF (24M) and I (24F) can't seem to agree on boundaries

Khorne posted:

I like the posts where you think it's going to be about something real bad, because she dresses up boundaries with all the usual fixings. Then it's just about not going to clubs, getting other girl's numbers, and sleeping with them.

I don't think that's boundary chat lady. I think that's dump his rear end there's no chat to be had if you want a monogamous relationship.

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I don't really know where to start or finish this story so I'll just bullet point it.

We have been together three years.

We love (maybe loved?) each other very much

Six months ago we were driving at high speed down a country road when he lost control of the vehicle and plowed through an old wooden fence, coming to stop pretty hard against a tree

I was flung forward into the windscreen and got a face full of glass despite wearing my seat belt. Apparently the seat belt 'failed' in some as-yet unspecified way.

As to the issues now: I have a hosed up face. Really hosed up. I was a reasonably attractive woman and will never again look like I did. I feel like a hideous monster.

He asked me to marry him last week and I refused because I know he only wants to stay with me because he feels responsible for this face I have now. I love him and I know he didn't mean to hurt me, but I know he blames himself and even I sometimes look at him and feel anger.

I don't know what to do. Should I stay with him even though I know he wants to marry me to punish himself for what he did? Or should I let him go? I'm also scared no one else will even consider me. Please help me.

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We met at church and get on really well, there's so much chemistry between us and I just love being around him . We would generally it at church or talk on WhatsApp, or via phone calls.
He asked me if I wanted to go hang out on Saturday I said I couldn't because Arsenal were playing, he laughed and said okay. Then on Tuesday he sent me a text asking if I didn't want to go get drinks after school, I said I couldn't, Arsenal were playing ...

So what seemed to the final nail in the coffin was when he recently asked me to hang out and I said "can't Arsenal", he grinned and said "WOW that's the 3rd time you use Arsenal as an excuse" I said "that's the 3rd time you ask me to hang out during game time" He was like " Okay then, enjoy Arsenal" I said "download the schedule, I can send you the link to Arsenal's website if you want" He said with disdain, I might add "That won't be necessary"

After the game had ended I sent him a message saying "Arsenal's done playing do you still want to hang out ?" His response "Good to know"

Have I blown it ? I really really like him and Id be crushed if I ruined things ! What can I do to fix this ? Also why is he responding like this ?

tl;dr: The guy I like asked me to hang out 3 times, and during all times my favourite sports team was playing ! He seems pissed and uninterested how do I fix things ?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I [19/F] told the guy [21M] I like I couldn't hang out with him 3 times, because I had to watch my favorite sports team play ! He seemed really pissed off, when I declared I couldn't go out again because Arsenal were playing ! Have I blown it ?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I [19/F] told the guy [21M] I like I couldn't hang out with him 3 times, because I had to watch my favorite sports team play ! He seemed really pissed off, when I declared I couldn't go out again because Arsenal were playing ! Have I blown it ?

Moridin920 posted:

Dude sounds like he's being a cockbag to me.

Moridin920 posted:

Well we'd have to see what she looks like to know if it's mental or she's legit got disfiguring scars all over her face. If it is the latter though you'd be surprised at what they can do nowadays.


Dude sounds like he's being a cockbag to me.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Yeah I think the third time someone blew off the (first?) date for a tv show I'd be done too, especially one that airs multiple times per week.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Yeah I think the third time someone blew off the (first?) date for a tv show I'd be done too, especially one that airs multiple times per week.

Moridin920 posted:

Well we'd have to see what she looks like to know if it's mental or she's legit got disfiguring scars all over her face. If it is the latter though you'd be surprised at what they can do nowadays.


Dude sounds like he's being a cockbag to me.

WampaLord posted:

Maybe if you really want to date someone, you should prioritize them.


I'm not sure if this is a joke/trap, but Arsenal is a sports team.

Blue Train posted:

Just download the schedule and work around it, don't be a cockbag