Play posted:

My experience is actually the same wrt to women. Tonight I'm gonna sit my girlfriend down and let her get at the blackheads on my back. She's going to be loving ecstatic. Maybe I should just save it for her birthday and then I wouldn't have to actually buy her anything

maskenfreiheit posted:

this thread is now about /r/popping

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I am a 41-year-old mother of a 15-year-old son and I live out of wedlock with my boyfriend of 3 years. Last January, my son came back home from what he led me to believe was his basketball practice with two friends, who left him at our doorstep. But as I was making supper, four police cars were in front of our apartment complex and three officers were at my door. My boyfriend was suspicious as our complex was a frequent target of burglaries, and just last December, had been raided two times by the local police. He was anxious and grabbed the Arbalest he owned from his cousin. He opened the door and pointed the unloaded Arbalest at the officers by mistake, who drew their pistols and demanded my husband drop his weapon. He complied and was handcuffed as the officers entered my home, without showing a search warrant, handcuffed me and pushed me around as they demanded to see my son. My son was in his room, they proceeded by arresting me, my husband and my son without due explanations. Everything went silent after the whole ruckus, I was facing the wall, and for a moment, I believed everyone was dead. As I was escorted, the Officers acted rude, we were threatened with their firearms and me and my husband were called "welfare recipients" by one of the officers. I felt the baton of a male officer touch my Left buttock as I was escorted out. I was not told anything until I was informed at the station that there was a burglary at a medical marijuana farm and my son and his friends were identified by a surveillance camera. The four plants of Marijuana were found in our Apartment, my son and my husband are being charged, with my son being released on bail. My boyfriend is still being charged on assault of officers and conspiracy to commit burglary and selling stolen goods as well as Illegal weapon possession. My son will only be charged with burglary and Drug trafficking. What options would I have against my family being teared apart and being brutalized at our own homes with no regards for our lives ? I am looking to sue the Officers who humiliated our family and shamed us in our own neighborhood for being black and poor. I now have frequent PTSD and a complete distrust in this sort of American "law enforcement" that can terrorize people in their homes with no repercussion.

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Your husband pointed an unloaded type of crossbow at the officers and you think they responded inappropriately!?

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My(43M) lady(26F) of 5 years left me suddenly, 2 weeks after getting engaged. We were happy. Reasons make no sense. With a new man already. It's wrong, I'm weak, but I want her back.Breakups
submitted 12 minutes ago by Throwawaytk321

I'll try to keep a long story short but will answer any questions. Throwaway account so I can be as personal as necessary.

We were happy. Age difference never mattered. No I don't have money. I am fit and in great shape and look young. She had just moved in officially a monthish beforehand - she'd been living here for months but kept her old apartment as a security blanket I guess. She asked if we were ready to move in because things were going so perfectly(her words).

We were together 5 years. Only just recently lived together - jobs kept us a bit distant(first year and the last year we saw each other daily; in between 3 years only on weekends). But we were always close - we had the kind of relationship where literally other couples would ask us how we keep the magic alive. We were affectionate, loving, sex life was phenomenal, you name it. We were not stale or stagnant or bored or anything. We always held hands in public and around the house.

I proposed finally on Valentine's Day. She accepted immediately. We got into a fight within 2 hours about how I'm not affectionate enough(I am affectionate, I love the hell out of her and show it). We worked it out and stayed engaged. Within 2 weeks she's arguing with me about how I'm not affectionate, and then about how I'm mean to her(I've never been mean at all to her! Her examples are totally harmless tiny things she totally misinterpreted and should know better!) I got the impression she was trying to pick fights for some reason.

She texted me one morning that she got her apartment back. Wouldn't hear a word about working things out. Not a word. Moved out. Had major surgery 10 days later(planned) and let me come along. We stayed friends kinda. We text and talk about meaningless poo poo but absolutely zero meaningful topics or reconciliation.

Anyway, after the surgery, she needed to be looked after for a few days due to heavy meds(god how I wish it was me looking after her!). She went to a "friend"'s house. Another man. It's been a week, she doesn't need to be looked after, she's fine. And she's still there. Tells me they're friends but I'm not stupid. Finally admits to her mother they're a couple. Even her mother is on "my side" that this is ridiculous. Same with her sister.

Despite all this, we were magic together. We really were. I want her back so bad. It's been 3 weeks since she moved out. We're on friendly terms. I've stated clearly that I want her back but have said I'd give her time to think before I make a big gesture. She acted like I told her the weather forecast or something. Whatever. I told her I'd give her time to think things out but she won't spend 5 minutes alone with her thoughts - she'll text me just to chit chat 5 minutes after new guy goes to work, for example.

tl;dr fiancee leaves me pretty much overnight for another man. I should be angry but I just want her back.

Pick posted:

men!

Improbable Lobster posted:

Well, at least one of them dodged a bullet

maskenfreiheit posted:

this thread is now about /r/popping

Pick posted:

I've never been mean at all to her! Her examples are totally harmless tiny things she totally misinterpreted and should know better!

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My [16M] brother [19M] constantly puts down my taste in music and elevates his music taste above mine.

Today alone he's already gone on two rants about how "mainstream music is dead" and how "the only true music is indie music". I mostly listen to artists such as Anderson Paak, Kendrick Lamar, and Danny Brown, but he finds all 3 of those detestable and won't be quiet about it. He constantly lectures me about how I should listen to "underground rock" (his words not mine) such as Arctic Monkeys, Twenty One Pilots and Panic at the Disco.

I tried listening to these bands, but they just didn't click with me. Whenever I tell him this, he says it's because I'm not as smart or musically talented as him. How do I get my brother to stop lecturing me about "true music".

tl;dr My brother is a self proclaimed hipster/music critic and won't let me listen to whatever I want to. How do I get him to stop?

gentle pete posted:

gentle pete posted:

gentle pete posted:

Play posted:

tell him to shut his filthy faux-hipster mouth.

arctic monkeys and panic at the disco. underground bands, you've never heard of em

all the ladies say I posted:

LOL loving right? Anderson Paak is better than that loving cock dribble.

Elsa posted:

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My guy friend and I made plans to hang out Thursday but I'm sick so today he texted me "do you still want to hang out Thursday ?" I said "if I'm feeling better than yeah" and he said "I still want to see you even if you are sick" and I said "I don't want you get a cold" and he said "I'll be okay" then he texted me and asked me "can I come take care of you" I didn't text back because I don't understand why we can't wait until I'm not sneezing and coughing everywhere

Tl:dr; I told him that I had not just any type of cold it is more like a mucus cold. Even though I want to hang out I rather wait until I feel 100%

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He wants to spend time with you because he enjoys your company and might have feelings for you.

Elsa posted:

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A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Oh my God elsa

Elsa posted:

Elsa posted:

yes? did I do something wrong? :bigtran:

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u/abandonedfiancee
This happened about eight months ago, and I’ve tried to be reasonable and put it past me but I’m really struggling. I’ve been told what he did was reasonable, makes sense, etc, but I keep coming back to that moment of total abandonment and fear when I realised he’d run. I just feel completely alone around him now.

We were walking home from a work function at a bar at around 1am. Neither of us had drunk that evening so we weren’t even slightly tipsy. Two guys across the street from us crossed over and approached us asking if we knew where such-and-such a street was. As fiancé turned around to point out where the street was, one of the guys pulled out a knife and told us to stop moving and to give him all our poo poo (phone, wallet, etc). I was surprised by how calm I was in the moment, and told them I needed to reach into my coat pocket to get my phone. As I was doing that, the guy pressed the knife against my ribs as warning because I guess he was worried I had a gun (even though that’s pretty unlikely in my country). When this happened, my fiancé bolted. It took me a bit to even realise he’d left me, and when I realised that he’d run I was certain I was about to get badly hurt or die.

Fortunately, the thieves seemed to get kind of spooked by him getting away and just hurried me up. They took my phone, bag (with my purse with all my money, cards, personal effects), necklace (worth like ten bucks) and legged it. The whole ordeal from start to finish took maybe five minutes.

I was kind of in shock and wandered off back up the street, heading back towards the bar, not even really thinking. A few minutes later my fiancé found me and told me he called the police, who arrived about ten minutes later.

I found out that fiancé had run about a block away, calling emergency services as he ran. We were both okay physically, except for a tiny bit of broken skin on my ribs where they’d pressed the knife.

My fiancé says what he does makes sense – that if he’d hung around and it turns out they’d wanted to hurt us or worse, we’d both be hosed because no one else would be around to call the cops or an ambulance. That he wanted to be alive and able to help in case something happened to me. He also says that by running away, the thieves didn’t want to hang around any longer than necessary (which is true), which might have saved me. His mum agrees and has praised him for not being an idiot, but my own mother has quietly told me she thinks he’s a coward for abandoning his wife-to-be (but she also has very oldschool beliefs about gender roles). Fiancé asked me not to tell our friends exactly what happened, because he says they wouldn’t understand his actions unless they were there.

My own thoughts are that, by running away, he potentially significantly decreased my chance of survival. I’m only about 157cm (5’2”) and 51kgs (110lbs). He’s 178cm (5’10”) and 75kg (165lbs). The two guys were about his size. They would have been able to easily overpower/subdue me, but my fiancé there would have made it 2v2 (although we would have still been at a disadvantage, them still having a knife and size advantage) and not left me completely at the mercy of two criminals who mug couples at night. I also wonder, what would have happened if him leaving me had given them the courage to do something worse? I mean, I don't think they would have - they seemed pretty strung out, interested in valuables and cash only - but what if?

I look at him and wonder, do I even want kids with him? If I did have a child with him, would he abandon him or her in a dangerous situation because it was the ‘smart’ thing to do?

I’ve lost a lot of attraction to him. He accuses me of wanting to use him as a meatshield just because he’s a man, and that what he did was smart and not the machismo stupidity I ‘wanted’ that could have gotten us both killed. I didn’t want him to try to fight them… I just wanted him by my side. Which I guess is selfish, because it was a dangerous situation. I don’t feel safe around him anymore, which I used to. I’m even scared of the dark again, despite him lying in bed right next to me.

As I'm typing this, I kind of feel like Lex in Jurassic Park, after being ditched by the lawyer - "He left us! He left us!". Stupid thing to add, but I keep thinking of that scene!

I don’t know what to think. He doesn’t want to see a counsellor because, again, he says they wouldn’t understand the situation unless they’d experienced it themselves. We fortunately don’t have a wedding date set, so there’s no immediate pressure of marriage. Please help!

tl;dr: My fiancé ran away and left me to face two muggers by myself. He says it was the smart, logical thing to do, but I can’t get over how abandoned I felt in the moment and I’ve lost a lot of regard for him.

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So this morning an Amber Alert was issued in my town after a woman left her two young kids (9 months old and 2 years old) in her car to go into a gas station, and someone stole the car.

It's been all over the the news in my town, and luckily the two kids were found safe. However, every single comment about this is saying how "it's not the mothers fault! She's young (22) and didn't know any better! Sometimes it's too much work to get your kids out of the car, so of course she left them in there!" and on and on ad nauseam.

But yeah, it's totally this chicks fault. It's not only dangerous to leave your kids in the car, it's also illegal. 70 police officers and K-9's spent 3 hours looking for the kids because this woman couldn't be bothered to take her kids into the gas station with her.

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No, you're not courageous, you're irresponsible. Irresponsible because you won't have time for your baby, but also for your college coworkers gently caress you for thinking it's OK to be late at every single meeting or groupwork because you're a mom. gently caress you for thinking you don't have to put the same hours into a work because you're a mom. gently caress you for thinking your coworkers have to adapt to your schedule because you know, you're a mom! And gently caress you for only talking about how much it's hard to do a Masters with a child, we don't have to hear you whine all the time.

So please, don't be a fool like me by giving them a chance and the benefit of the doubt. Please don't team up with moms in college. And if you want to know if she's a mom, there's a perfect way to know about it, just check their Facebook profile picture. I guarantee you will see the face of their baby up there.

Good luck!

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Please tell me this isn't happening. My comic nerd/geek couple are procreating. Which is fine. You do you, nerds.

But they've gone FULL ON BREEDER on the three month (it hasn't aborted itself! We're parents) mode. Gawd help me.

Let's also just say both of them are about 100 pounds overweight (no judgement there, I'm a fat girl too) but NO WAY should this woman who is CLEARLY 100 lbs overweight be carrying a kid. OMG, I can't even.

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Grandma painted a "family tree" for her art class the other day, and she added a leaf with my childfree aunt's cat's name on it! So cute. Grandma loves this particular cat so it was the only pet to make the family tree, but I'll still take it.

Elsa posted:

Bubblyblubber posted:

Me [27F] and my fiancé [28M]; we were being robbed at knifepoint, and he ran away and left me

Gluten Freeman posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjjzVbTBF8o

Danaru posted:

Peeking in on /r/childfree because... lord help me I'm not sure why.

"Stop blaming the mother!"


Comments range from "uh pretty sure it's the thief's fault not the mother's" to complaining about how amber alerts are annoying no really.

If you're a single mom and pursuing a Master's Degree, gently caress YOU.


Finally someone takes a stand at those god drat lazy single mothers trying to make a better future for their child!

Oh, My loving GAWD.


Their bar for people being too excited about having a kid is "my baby isn't dead"

Grandma added my childfree aunt's cat to the family tree.


"Grandma added my childfree aunt's cat to the family tree." is the "for sale: baby shoes. never worn" of reddit posts

Danaru posted:

[BALTIMORE, MD]Looking to sue 5 police officers for excessive force and emotional distress/ humiliation and poor shaming. Would I have a case ?

Elsa posted:

Elsa posted:

Play posted:

gently caress all the sudden I NEED to know that callsign

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45 points 46 comments submitted 3 years ago by trojangirl27 to r/relationships

Hi Reddit, I've got a doozy for you. Bear with me, because this story is a bit ridiculous.

My best friend of 10 years literally disappeared off the face of the earth without telling anyone including myself. Here's a bit of a backstory. The day before she disappeared, she received an anonymous note on her (presumably from some guy) claiming how hot she was, and detailing a few of the locations she had gone over the past few days leading her to believe that she was being followed. I told her to go to the police about it, which she did. She filed a restraining order and was supposed to call me later that day. Never got a call from her. I tried to text/call her multiple times, even called her house phone where I was hung up on. To make matters even worse, we were supposed to leave to go on a 2 week trip for Christmas that next week. Instead of calling me herself to tell me she couldn't go, her mom simply called and said "she's not going on that trip with you", and I never heard anything else. I bought her a non-refundable ticket as well but that's beside the point this far into the game.

So Christmas comes and goes, I'm alone on this vacation without my best friend who doesn't even respond to me or reach out to say Merry Christmas, which was just another red flag. New Years rolls by, still nothing. Meanwhile, as the mystery continues, I have been trying to contact her parents via phone/email/facebook and the very last time I had called I was told "We need our privacy" and was hung up on by her mom. So at this point I was super frustrated and angry and hurt that absolutely no one was telling me what was going on.

4 months roll by and I had started a blog, which was basically a collection of letters directed at her of stories about my life, nothing pertaining to her. Finally I got a call from her mom asking me to take it down but not giving me any information about where my best friend was. So basically I told her that I was sorry but I was not going to take my blog down unless it was a police matter, and if that was the case to have them contact me and I would gladly take it down. She then complied and dropped the issue.

Another 5 months roll by without any information. I've had to deal with the stress of having my best friend (who was like a sister to me) disappear of the face of the earth, her family being awful towards me and not telling me anything, and I had to replace her in a sense by meeting new people and socializing more in order to help fill that void (not saying that's a bad thing). So there I am walking up the steps to my new apartment when my phone rings. I had just gone on an interview that day and answered with my professional voice thinking it was my potential employer and on the other end its her, and all she says is "Hey, its (blank)". Like it was no big deal, like it was just a casual phone call. Tried to make small talk before telling me what had gone down.

The situation ended up being about a family who didn't know how to handle a stalking situation, and instead of taking it through the law, or doing anything realistic, they enlisted the opinions of psychics who told her she would die, and shipped her off to live with a terrible family who didn't let her leave the house.....for the first 5 months. Mind you, she was gone for 10. So for 5 of those months she was staying with family in another part of the country. I found out that she indeed had a cell phone the entire time. She also had an email address. Not once did she even attempt to contact me. Do you know how many forms of communication there are these days??? She could have used a drat carrier pigeon for all I care.

So she came back and we met to talk, which is when she told me about the phone and the email address etc. Then she casually mentioned that she had texted her F-buddy when she moved to the other location with her family to let him know she had moved. This was FOUR months before she even attempted to contact me. Over the next few months she then had contacted several other people and saved me for last. Convinced that either my phone was tapped or she was scared to talk to me for whatever reason. She gave me a slew of letters she wrote me while she was away that never mailed and I can't bring myself to read them just yet. She then said "all I ask is that you help me through it", and honestly at this point I'm so upset and hurt over the whole situation that I feel like I need to be a little selfish right now and take care of myself. It makes me feel like a bitch to say so but what I'm willing to do for her and what I can do for her right now are two entirely different things. I can tell she's shook up from the situation, but at the same time I went a year crying myself to sleep some nights because I had no idea what happened to her.

I'm not sure how to feel or what to do from this point on. Our relationship is pretty damaged, and I know it's not my fault. She has a lot to work through but at the same time she thinks that she's just going to slip back into the routine and things are just going to go back to the way it was and that's just not the case. There was a major trust factor that was broken here. She should have let me know she was leaving some way or another. And she should have let me know she was alive the second she could...but she didn't. I'm seriously questioning everything.

Any advice is much appreciated.

tl;dr: friend left for a year to escape stalker, didn't tell me she was leaving and wants to pretend nothing ever happened and pick up where we left off. Don't know how to feel.