- Who What Now
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TBH I think this girl saw tons of youtube videos and tumblr posts from American LGBTQ people coming out to their parents and feels like she's been robbed of the experience, now that most of her culture views coming out as gay as being about as edgy as coming out as straight
Is it really safe to be running a projector this hard?
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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I'm disappointed that the OP didn't even seem to try to eject her mom from the party.
unfortunately loads of kids in abusive households learn to just stay the hell out of the line of fire from an early age when there's nothing else they can do, even when that means standing by and pretending nothing is happening while their siblings get ripped into
there is a happy ending, though
quote:So my original post didn't get much attention, but I got some assistance! Thanks to those who helped. <3
So I finally got ahold of Rain after a surprisingly short amount of time. Apparently, this was normal behaviour displayed by mom to her when we were growing up. My brother (15M) and I never noticed it, but we understand now. Better late than never, I guess :/
I talked to Rain and offered my support. She appreciated it, and we had a really deep conversation. I found out a lot of really terrible poo poo that mom had done to her, and it is pushing me closer to moving out. The only thing stopping me is fear of my mother and for my brother, honestly. I think that's understandable, though.
Thankfully, I learned that Rain is in therapy and getting help. She said it really helps, but mom's comments are still hurtful and offensive, that's why she cried. I told her to not worry, because showing emotion is just part of being human.
Rain is also planning on helping fund my move-out when my friends and I can find a place. She and I both want me out of that toxic environment. What mom did and has done to Rain makes me literally nauseous. I may be overreacting, but it's bad to me.
Thanks so much for all the help! This update is kinda scattered cuz it's been a weird couple of days haha.
TL;DR, Talked to sister, offered support. Learned mom has done horrid things to her, felt bad for not noticing before. Planning to move out of this toxic environment, sister has offered to fund my move out when I'm ready. All is well. <3
EDIT: Thanks for the support guys. I'll try to respond to comments, but I'm super busy trying to get my affairs in order at the moment. If I don't reply immediately, I apologise! A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 17:38 on Apr 5, 2017
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Apr 5, 2017 17:36
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haha, right? my mom's attempt to address my queerness was "If you want to take dance lessons, I'll support you"
My mum spent 5 minutes being mildly uncomfortable and then the very next weekend started trying to set me up with her friend's daughter, because a Jewish mother's desire to marry her kids off to doctors is the most powerful force in the universe apparently.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:36
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Yeah, I don't think she wanted drama. Just active acceptance rather than ambivalence.
Dad wasn't ambivalent at all. He hasn't expressed anything negative about her coming out.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:36
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- Gloryhold It!
- Sep 22, 2008
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Rain's a rather odd choice for a fake name
I'm disappointed that the OP didn't even seem to try to eject her mom from the party.
They don't teach you how to have a spine in college.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:36
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Dad wasn't ambivalent at all. He hasn't expressed anything negative about her coming out.
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e: gently caress it, you're right.
but still he seems pretty unfazed by it and that's not probably not what she was looking for.
sout fucked around with this message at 17:39 on Apr 5, 2017
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Apr 5, 2017 17:36
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Dude needs to eject on his wife before he ends up accused of molestation. He better get ahead of that one and get her craziness on paper somewhere or poo poo could get real bad for him.
She's gonna accuse him of it during the ejection anyway. Dude is hosed.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:43
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Dude needs to start wearing a GoPro on his head 24/7.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:47
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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Fortunately it's not the 1980s and if dude is proactive about getting ahead of it he probably won't literally be imprisoned solely on his crazy wife's testimony that he flies around the house raping babies and feeding them to lions for Satan or whatever
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Apr 5, 2017 17:50
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Rain's a rather odd choice for a fake name
this was also the first thing I thought until two paragraphs in saw "she's Wiccan, just like me" and it made sense
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Apr 5, 2017 17:54
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I think the word they wanted was aloof or distant.
I don't know why this has been a 3 page conversation. All anyone is saying is that the girl is mad because his reaction in the moment was basically nothing, the girl was clearly looking for a little more than "oh okay" and then back to not paying attention to her in that moment. He's not some bigoted monster or anything, he just misjudged the situation and made a mistake. He seems to be actively working to rectify it by being welcoming and poo poo afterwards so they're all probably going to be fine. Even accepting people with good intentions can make mistakes people.
Welcome to the internet, where everything is made up and intentions don't matter.
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Apr 5, 2017 17:56
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- christmas boots
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To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
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I think the word they wanted was aloof or distant.
I don't know why this has been a 3 page conversation. All anyone is saying is that the girl is mad because his reaction in the moment was basically nothing, the girl was clearly looking for a little more than "oh okay" and then back to not paying attention to her in that moment. He's not some bigoted monster or anything, he just misjudged the situation and made a mistake. He seems to be actively working to rectify it by being welcoming and poo poo afterwards so they're all probably going to be fine. Even accepting people with good intentions can make mistakes people.
Ugh, not everything has to be soooo dramatic!
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Apr 5, 2017 17:56
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He's a British man of a certain age who is also a father. His muted reaction is fairly normal given that.
And since that Rain story was so depressing, let's have some low level pettiness:
Brother Wedding is day before 1st Anniversary, is it reasonable to be upset?
quote:u/AnniversaryTrouble
Hey Reddit!
My wife and I (both 30) just got married last year. We were looking forward to our 1st anniversary, but now my brother (24) just scheduled his wedding for the day before. It's a shock because last I heard he wasn't even planning on getting married until next year. We live fours away so now we'll be spending alot of our anniversary driving and unpacking.
He then asks if I can be co-bestmen with my other brother. My wife and I both used all our vacation time for our honeymoon this year so we can't take any additional time off for me to even do any best man duties or go to the rehearsal, which I told him. I would have loved to be there for everything, but now I can't and it all is just frustrating.
To be fair to him, his fiancee's (24) parents are paying for most of the wedding and they chose that date for them because it was the cheapest Saturday they could get. So it's not malicious, but I feel slighted against here, while my wife is straight up furious.
This is my brother's first girlfriend, they've been together for a year and half. Neither of us are a fan of her. They still live with their parents, neither has ever had a real job.
Then, there's my mother. She is clearly on his side and brought up disappointment in our eloping that they said previously they were cool with. She then slyly insinuated that my wife made that decision on her own and my anger now is just appeasing my wife. I don't even know how to handle that one.
Am I being unreasonably angry or is it justified? Any advice on how I should approach talking to my family would be most appreciated.
TLDR: Brother scheduled wedding out of nowhere day before anniversary. Can't take off any more time to be his best man and now have to spend our anniversary driving back home from the wedding. Are my wife and I justified in being angry about this?
Thanks!
The eloping is some what of a buried lede. If you elope, people are probably not going to think about your wedding date too much.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:08
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This post is cursed!
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a Jewish mother's desire to marry her kids off to doctors is the most powerful force in the universe apparently.
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Brother Wedding is day before 1st Anniversary, is it reasonable to be upset?
No.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:31
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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My (22F) boyfriend (26M) wants to be homless and is unsure if he can compromise and live a normal life with me
quote:I knew this day was coming where I would have to make this decision and I would really appreciate feedback from you all. Im sorry this is so long.
My boyfriend has always been into a very alternative lifestyle, and I dipped my toes and tried it out. After living with eachother for 2 years in an apartment, he was determined to never pay rent again. We bought an RV together and have lived in it for a year in Washington. I was excited about it at first but it is not the lifestyle I want.
For a year we have lived on the side of the road outside his work. We have a loud gas generator for power. We pee in jugs and dump them at night. We poop at mcdonalds or the grocery store. We illegally dump our trash. We keep cold food in a cooler with ice. No hot water. No internet. It is just as expensive as our apartment was (gas, insurance, repairs) and we still live paycheck to paycheck at minimum wage jobs (about $2,000 a month, him making more than I do, and we both went to college) Although the RV is cozy/cute, I have never been happy this way and get very stressed and cry often about my life situation that I know I dont have to be in. I feel like it is more his home and dream and I am just tagging along playing poverty. I am insanely jealous of my friends with apartments. But I really love being with my boyfriend (and his cat that I am completely in love with) and have stuck it out. I want to build a life together and to be honest I am waiting for him to change and be OK with a regular life which I know I am not supposed to do. At the same time I think he is waiting for me to be OK with being homeless.
Recently we quit our jobs and moved to oregon with some savings. I keep thinking we are finding a place to settle down and we apply for rv parks and jobs. But then he wants to move onto another place, and i get confused and cry and we decided on a new city. Now we are in portland and he got a job and I was applying for rv parks and jobs too. Yesterday in the car he said he will work at this job 2 weeks and then we should move to another city. I was so confused, I thought we had decided on portland. After lots of talking I found out he was just playing along with finding a new town but actually wants to never get a long term job or live in an rv park.
Last night we really talked about what we want for the future and there was a lot of crying and we are not sure what to do. He wants to take it more extreme and I want to tone it down.
I want to improve our lifestyle. I want a better paying job in an office that I stay at long term. I want to save money to try and retire early and have money for emergencies. I want an apartment. Or to atleast get rv hookups in a nice park and have a yard and one day get a plot of land we can call our own. I need the basic first world ammenities like a toilet lol. I want internet. I want to 'get my life together'
He wants to go full hobo and have no job. He is happy with doing odd jobs for small money and asking for money on the side of the road. He does not care for a safety net or saving money. Or hot water. He hates planning for the future, and wants to be able to vagabond anywhere at any moment. I think he loves the survival aspect, he grew up in alaska getting bucket water from a well every day. He loves me and wants me to do it with him but im not comfortable in this lifestyle.
If I ask him if he can compromise he says he is unsure what he wants. He says maybe he can be happy living somewhere steady with a job for as long as a year but he is not sure and will not give me a straight answer. He says he doesn't know if he can stay in a city without trying it out first, and he doesn't want to get 'stuck there'. I cant build my life around maybe I am very frustrated that he can't decide what he wants. He is making it entirely up to me to decide it seems. I guess my options are move out and live the lifestyle I want, or keep doing his version of compromise maybe we can kind of try to settle down somewhere but not sure what he wants, and I will follow him around thing?? I am definately not going to be able to do the full hobo no job at all life. He is not giving me a straight answer on if he even wants to compromise by getting a job or living in an rv park. I ask for a straight answer and he says "I cant give you that."
If I do move out I have good options, I can move back in with my parents on the other side of the US in Texas and they will support me until I am on my feet. They have offered many times and have even offered to support him while he gets on his feet (they are very worried about me living this way) but he doesn't want to obviously and used to get angry if I even brought it up. And I love daydreaming about an apartment close to my family. but he does not think he can do a long distance relationship  help please
edit: I feel like this is something I need to do and I think it will be hard but I can do it. I feel so bad about the circumstances though. If I leave, he will have no car to get to his current job an hour away and no way to bring parts home to fix the rv which is what we are currently doing. It is currently immobile and we were waiting for parts before this conversation happened. He has been using my car to do everything. I feel really bad putting him in this situation he is still my best friend
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Apr 5, 2017 18:46
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- Ride The Gravitron
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That woman needs to cut and run
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Apr 5, 2017 18:48
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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That guy needs to buddy up with sword husband for the slacker stoner comedy of the year
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Apr 5, 2017 18:49
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Holy poo poo, that poor girl. Why would you stick with this dude? You don't have a toilet for gently caress's sake.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:51
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My best friend [20F] just came out as lesbian. Now my parents and siblings are pressuring me [21F] to come out and embarrassed me at family Christmas get together
So, is OP gay or not? That seems like a vital point of info to leave out.
E: beaten, apparently. I just want to know how how schadenfreude I should be experiencing.
Pvt.Scott fucked around with this message at 18:55 on Apr 5, 2017
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Apr 5, 2017 18:52
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Sometimes there is hidden gold in the comments as well;
quote: I've dated a man who wanted to live this way, and it was hell. He berated me for caring about my education and wanting to pursue my dreams. He wanted to take care of a baby while WALKING from Texas to ALASKA. He thought the earth was flat, and it was his dream to travel to the edge of the earth.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:52
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- Pelvic Floor Wax
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So, is OP gay or not? That seems like a vital point of info to leave out.
Looks like it
quote: It did hurt a lot because I have struggled with depression and confusion over my sexuality
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Apr 5, 2017 18:55
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quote: an art history major, driving a Subaru (WTF?), and dressing "gay".
Sell the Subaru and buy a jeep to throw them off
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Apr 5, 2017 18:55
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My mum spent 5 minutes being mildly uncomfortable and then the very next weekend started trying to set me up with her friend's daughter, because a Jewish mother's desire to marry her kids off to doctors is the most powerful force in the universe apparently.
Startlingly accurate.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:56
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- Pvt.Scott
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drat. I was really hoping it would be a straight as gently caress girl now officially gay to her friends and family.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:57
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quote:I called him some terrible things. I told him that I never loved him. I told him that he was the most despicable person I've ever met.
Pretty hard to come back from this, even if they smooth this spat over.
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Apr 5, 2017 18:57
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- Danaru
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My favorite posts are when someone fucks up a good thing by acting crazy over nothing (see: paternity tests and people who accuse their partners of cheating on them with blood relatives)
Falsely Accused my Husband of . Please help!!!! (29F 30M 2 years married 6 years together)
"I can't let our marriage end like this!" --Person who purposely went out of their way to completely obliterate their marriage for no reason.
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Godspeed, post
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Pretty hard to come back from this, even if they smooth this spat over.
I thought she was being pretty hard on herself at first but by the end I agreed with her self assessment.
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Apr 5, 2017 19:03
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"I can't let our marriage end like this!" --Person who purposely went out of their way to completely obliterate their marriage for no reason.
some people just get this insecurity tic in their brain based on absolutely nothing (beyond moderate mental illness) and spend their entire relationships terrified of being lied to or cheated on and uh this usually kills the marriage especially if you accused your husband of loving his niece and screech at him that you never loved him
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Apr 5, 2017 19:07
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I'm [23 M/F] having some trouble trusting my bf [25 M/F] after a couple 'kinky activities'.
quote:So. I'll try to keep this short. Anyway, for a while my boyfriend and I (of 2 years) had a 'once a month open kink' thing. Basically, we took turns suggesting a kink we were kinda shy to bring up once a month that the other person couldn't out right deny.
It started off fairly innocent I guess with stuff like dress up, role play, oral while he was gaming. Some have been one timeBut, last month he said that he wanted to watch me have sex with another guy. At first I was pretty hesitant. But, eventually agreed...
We discussed who we wanted it to be. If it was a random or someone we knew. Eventually he suggested one of his friends. I agreed. The night came, we had sex, bf watched. Overall it was fine. Figured it was done. Later BF mentioned that he really enjoyed it and wanted to do it again. Same friend. Total, I've had sex with his friend 3x so far while my bf watched. I've been fine with it for the most part.
My bf seems kinda distant since it has started though. Like, I don't feel like we have the same connection as before. Also, over the weekend I got an anonymous text that basically said "Friend's Name paid for the sex". So now, I've got all these ideas that the only reason my bf wanted to watch me have sex is because the guy paid him for it...
So now I'm all confused. Kinda hurt. They were both supposed to keep it quiet, so at the least one of them told someone. And I don't know what to do.
tl;dr Had sex with bf's friend per his request. Friend may have paid money for sex with me...
Edit. It isn't an issue with consent. We could always say no. It was more of a "take the request seriously". I turned down stuff and so did he.
Did you take part in this because you wanted to or did you just do it because you thought it would make your bf happy?
It wasn't something I would have brought up myself. But, I was curious and did want to try it. Overall, I did enjoy it.
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quote:Previous post here
So, I confronted my bf about the text. Asked him to explain. He said he had no idea and wanted to get to the bottom of it. We drove over to visit his friend. We got there, asked him if he knew that number and he did. Turns out it was his 14/15 year old brother. So they went to talk to the brother, who apparently had read through the friend's phone and saw the conversations about what we were doing between the brother, him, and I. He thought it would be "funny" to text me the stuff about the money.
They talked to him about how that was hosed up and privacy of people's phones (apparently he's looked through the friend's phone before).
They both offered to let me look their their phones at what they've been saying to each other for the past couple months to prove that there has never been any talk of money or anything like that. I did and most of their conversations were fairly boring and typical of friends. The only bits about "me" were the initial conversation seeing if there would be interest and stuff like that. Otherwise, we discussed it in group text.
On the way home I asked bf about his distance and basically he said he's just been having a lovely time at school/work/holiday slump. His parents are divorced and are basically fighting over who gets him for thanksgiving. He said he didn't want to bring it up because he didn't want to dampen my mood. I basically said it wouldn't and I like talking about feelings and our moods. He apologized and said he'd do better.
Thanks for everyone who replied to the original thread, you all were a lot of help.
tl;dr. not being pimped out. phone number was a nosy brother.
Oh good I'm glad he'll do better and be more into the cucking
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Apr 5, 2017 19:09
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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some people just get this insecurity tic in their brain based on absolutely nothing (beyond moderate mental illness) and spend their entire relationships terrified of being lied to or cheated on and uh this usually kills the marriage especially if you accused your husband of loving his niece and screech at him that you never loved him
I'm gonna say it's 40% mental illness 60% soap operas and r/relationships coaching the mentally ill that vague discontent should always conclude in a huge dramatic season finale blowout as soon as a potential excuse presents itself
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quote:Once I read the messages I instantly pulled my husband over and started yelling at him. I shouted until my throat hurt and I told him that I wanted a divorce. I called him some terrible things. I told him that I never loved him. I told him that he was the most despicable person I've ever met. He started yelling back and once he proved that Jenny really was his niece (I didn't notice the message where she called him her uncle) I felt like a complete bitch. He spent the night at his friend's house and he told me he needs to re-evaluate our marriage. I'm panicking so hard right now. I can't believe I messed this up. I can't lose him. He's the most amazing person I've ever met. I can't let our marriage end like this. Please help.
BPD is a hell of a drug.
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- La Brea Carpet
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Remember that forum for people who married people with autism? Well..
I'm getting sick of my [29F] husbands [33] self centred attitude and his lack of empathy.
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We've been together for 7 years and married for 1.5. We make each other so happy which is probably why I thought we could work through anything together but I'm beginning to doubt this.
Mark is socially awkward and has mild (high functioning) Aspergers. This is not an excuse for his behaviour but we struggled in the beginning due to his lack of empathy/sympathy towards anyone. He tried though. He tried to understand. he tried to offer support although it often felt forced and fake but I was happy he at least tried to be there for me when I needed him.
My family has been going through a rough patch. My nephew (8 months old) has just been diagnosed with congenital brain abnormalities (though theyre not even sure what it is so technically its not even a diagnoses) that was apparently evident at birth however they failed to inform anyone of this nor did they follow anything up. Theres a huge mess with the hospital and legal sides of things as my brother spent the last 7 months trying to figure out why the baby wasn't gaining any weight and why he was crying so much.
They performed TONS of expensive medical tests over the last several months. My brother wasn't in a great financial position to begin with so this placed a pretty big stress on them.
I'm in a great position financially, have a great job all that stuff and I can afford to help them which is what I decided to do. I discussed it with Mark. I wanted to get a second opinion from a specialist as I don't trust the hospital as far as I can throw them. I told mark that I wanted to cover the cost of the second specialist and extras and if surgery was needed, Id step up too.
I was also really upset emotionally when I discovered the news. Mark couldn't understand why I was upset. Nor why I would want to financially help my brother. He "reminded" me that the baby wasn't mine so why care?. I reminded him that he was an rear end in a top hat (excuse my French) to think that the baby had to be mine for me to love him.
He then proceeds to tell me that he hopes we don't have a "child like that" together as hes sure I'd be hysterical and cry in front of everyone and he wouldn't know what to do and doesn't think he could comfort me.
Later on he tells me that since I'm going to be wasting my money by giving it away, he was going to be buying more coins on his game. Now Mark spent over 400 on a game that's basically free to use. He spends money to buy items in the game. Its a simple phone game. I wasn't thrilled with this news and had previously asked him to please not do that. I have no issues with him purchasing video games and he has a tone of that but spending so much money to buy coins in a mobile game just didn't sit right with me.
So he used this opportunity to basically tell me that he gets to do what he wants since Ill be spending my money doing something I want.
Now in theory that may all be fine but this isn't me going out to buy a shoe ffs! I cant believe he would use this in such a callous and thoughtless manner. His actions through out this entire thing has been terrible.
I'm beginning to resent how he acted with the baby too. Because the baby cried so much, my brother and SIL was basically drained as they couldn't sleep. I offered to look after the baby from time to time to give them a break and during these times, mark would lock himself in the room with loud music to tune out the baby. He would have a huge attitude with me as to why I wanted to look after a baby that wasn't mine (he was never forced to look after the baby with me, could do his own thing outside the house and I tried explaining to him the reasons for why I wanted
to do this but I think he just isn't ever going to get it)
I remember all the negative poo poo he would say about the baby and it makes my blood boil. I know this anger is misdirected but I just cant handle Mark.
His values are so beyond different to mine that I don't think he'll ever understand why I do things. In theory he says he gets it. When I tell him how hurt I am by things, he takes a step back and tries to support me and acts like he gets it but clearly he doesn't.
I think I want to leave him but its so hard because I know he will make promises to do better (I tried breaking up with him before due to his lack of empathy) but I just don't know if hes capable of doing better. I cant risk having a child with him. I don't want my kids to grow up and be like
Mark. Someone who only cares about his needs and is incapable of showing a single drop of compassion towards others. It scares me. I know its terrible but it scares me.
I'm emotional from everything that has happened so maybe I'm jumping the gun too fast, id love to hear what you guys think.
In particular, people who might be similar to Mark, did you guys change ? and if so what worked for you ?
tl;dr: I'm married to a selfish, self centred guy who doesn't care about anyone but himself.
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Time for another romp through /r/childfree! It's like the reddit mock thread equivalent of turning a game onto easy mode. It took less than a minute to strike gold
Don't feed the trolls (rant)
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Disclaimer This is petty as gently caress and maybe I am just easily triggered but I had to rant to you guys.
I have an Instagram account and over a year ago I posted this photo. I'm playing video games last night when I see I received a notification that someone commented on my photo so of course I get excited whenever someone leaves a comment. I open the notification to see that someone had commented on the photo the following:
"But you ride a motorcycle?"
Now I assume that he was pointing out the fact that I am making a statement about how getting a vasectomy reduces your carbon footprint but I am apparently a hypocrite for riding a motorcycle that releases emissions. I deleted the comment, because I absolutely refuse to engage a random loving twit that wants to troll me, but here is my response if I did choose to respond:
First off, to people that don't know, a lot of motorcycles are capable of getting up to 50 miles per gallon if you ride them right, so yes, I am still cutting down on emissions. But secondly, I also drive a car most of the time during the year because I live in the midwest, so, naturally I pollute the environment with the emissions from that vehicle also.
But just by me existing and being a human on this earth, I create pollution, garbage, waste, litter, the list goes on and on. My mere existence contributes to poisoning this earth whether any of us want to admit it or not. Even if you chose to live in the wild for the rest of your life living on nothing but the land, you still have to exploit the resources of the environment to survive.
My point in the post was to say that choosing to not have kids will at least cut down on your carbon foot print, because every single time another child is born, it's contributing to that environmental degradation. It's just a fact of life that people choose to ignore.
Thanks for listening to my petty rant...I just had to get it off my chest and I'm not going to waste my time arguing with someone I don't even know who is trying to get me angry.
"Someone called me out on my douchey instagram post so I immediately ran here to avoid having to defend myself  "
Why can't we go first? WE HAVE CHILDREN!!!!
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Hello, all! I love lurking on this thread and when this happened I immediately thought of you all.
Yesterday, I flew home from a nice little west coast getaway. This was our first time flying Southwest (who use first come first serve seating). I really am not a good flyer. I always try to sit in the front because it feels a lot less bumpy to me. My friend who travels on SW a lot recommended I pay $15 extra for early check in (so that I get on the plane earlier and can grab a seat towards the front).
To my disappointment, even with the early check in we ended up in the B group (instead of the A group). Eh, no huge deal. Well we get to the gate and there are SO many families (the flight had continuing service to Orlando).
Well, the A group boarded and we got ready to get on. Then, they allowed families to board. At least 25 mom, dads, and kids got on the plane before the B group.
I was really annoyed. We paid extra money to board early, but all those people got to go first??
Got on the plane, and had to sit pretty far towards the back (it was so bumpy). The parents in front of us (who had 2 little kids who yelled and fought for most of the flight) were complaining to the flight attendant that the A group got to board before them.
What. The. Hell.
If it is so important for your family to get on the plane early, PAY THE EXTRA MONEY. There are billions of other parents on the planet. You are not special.
Bonus Story: Over Oklahoma I guess there were storms, so the seatbelt sign was on because it was bumpy. Still this little 2 year old was by himself skipping up and down the aisle. The bumpiness got worse, the captain asked the flight attendants to take their seats. The kid STILL never sat down. It would have been funny to see the parents try and blame the flight attendants or the airline if little pookie had gotten hurt.
Admittedly I don't fly often, but I've never heard of an airline just letting you pick your seats if you get on first, it's always been printed right on my ticket. Even regardless it's pretty blatant stdh
Yes, I'm a "scary lady"...
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My mother had guests in the living room, they brought their 5-year-old son. Suddenly, the kid opened my bedroom door and looked around. I stopped playing my game and looked at him with my resting b!tch face, listening to metal in the background. He quietly closed the door and left. Then he asked my mother "Who's the scary lady in that room?" I almost died laughing! Scaring kids with my face feels like a superpower! :P
Hey! I made a meme
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