DragQueenofAngmar posted:

Leon Einstein posted:

You come to the strangest conclusions. It's more like she thought the grass was greener, then she found out it wasn't. It's quite common for high school/college relationships to end up this way without being the result of a "manic episode". Out of all the ridiculous stories posted, you find this one implausible? lol It's a tale as old as time.

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(Throwaway for obvious reasons, privacy and all that)

A little background, but I'll leave out the long story, just the necessary stuff:

I live in a neighborhood in Utah. Relatively recently, a family moved in a house a few blocks from where my house is. I see their house every time I drive home from work. They moved in less than a month ago. I, being a good neighbor have introduced myself to them and made them feel welcome in our community, that sort of thing. They seemed kind and normal enough. They have two children, an older girl that looks like she's about in late elementary school and a younger boy that looks about 5.

It was very much a surprise to me when I found out they were Neo-Nazis since they didn't look like skinheads or have tattoos or anything like that. However, when I walked into their house, it became very obvious to me due to certain items having blatant Nazi symbolism on them. I was of course, very shocked when I first saw it, but strangely they both seemed fairly unmoved and unashamed about it. I was able to learn that they are homeschooling all of their children. Here in Utah, we get a lot of homeschoolers, the law is fairly light on them.

However, given the circumstances that there are children being indoctrinated in a deeply intolerant and extreme ideology, their main source of education being from these same people, is there anything that I can do? The whole thing doesn't seem right to me. Aside from calling CPS, I'd also be satisfied with at least getting the children into a public school.

TL;DR A married National Socialist couple with two children that they homeschool recently moved into my area, is there anything I can do?

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You're talking about a state with a shitload of mormons, so no.

Danaru posted:

[UT] There is a couple near my house that are Neo-Nazis and have homeschooled children, possibility of calling CPS? (self.legaladvice)

Psycho Society posted:

No, he's right, she's probably just a grass is always greener kind of person and not BPD. You also make bad posts, maybe you should think about that

Mirthless posted:

I said bipolar, not BPD, and if her behavior qualifies as normal to you guys you have had some weird dating experiences you should probably share with the thread

Mirthless posted:

I said bipolar, not BPD, and if her behavior qualifies as normal to you guys you have had some weird dating experiences you should probably share with the thread

purple death ray posted:

What's more likely that a young idiot was being young and idiotic or that she was having a multiple year long manic episode

Batterypowered7 posted:

That depends, are you Mirthless?

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

i can't believe any of you read that loving post lol

if it's over 10 paragraphs you're just watching an idiot suck themselves off with words for half an hour

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473 points 135 comments submitted 1 year ago by cantwatchthrowaway to r/relationships

Three years ago my cousin (I'll refer to him as Bob from now on) came from Korea to America for schooling. My mom very generously offered to watch over him not knowing what he was like. Firstly even if he was a sweetheart his parents flat out didn't offer any type of payment my mom had to pay all his expenses, and we are not exactly swimming in money. He was a nightmare he cried not once, not twice, but THREE times over a span of two months because he was left alone for an hour while we got groceries. Keep in mind he does not suffer from any mental disorders, and we asked him several times if he wished to join us. He was just brought up over pampered, and his parents would hire people to come to his every beck and call while they were out so he wouldn't feel lonesome. He was extremely violent and we argued almost constantly because he was treating my mom extremely poorly for all she's done. His parents for some reason want him to have an "american education like me", but also refuse to come here. My mom begged them to come the last time. We finally got rid of him by tricking him into thinking we were going to the amusement part and shoving him onto an airplane back the last time.

Anyways last week his incompetent parents called me to tell me that he will be coming to NY, and that I have to watch him. I told them no, but I'm not sure if I'm allowed to leave him at the airport??? Most of my family lives in Korea/France and my mom/aunt + kids took a cruise to Hawaii, so I am the only person within my family to be able to care for him. But I don't want to. The kid is straight up weird, and just being near him gives me so much stress. I know for a fact that he didn't change because my brother, who lives in Korea, told me he may even be worse than before. I am freaking out so badly I'm not sure if I'm allowed to leave him? I can't afford a plane ticket back I'm barely able to pay my rent much less a plane ticket. I'm really stuck on this please help.

TLDR; Horrible cousin is coming from Korea. Don't want to watch over him.

Leon Einstein posted:

I did read it; which part stood out as bipolar? Perhaps I missed something. What is so abnormal about a 22 year old wanting to bang new people after being in a relationship with someone for 4 years? You've never heard of young people wanting to sow their oats?

purple death ray posted:

What's more likely that a young idiot was being young and idiotic or that she was having a multiple year long manic episode

Bubblyblubber posted:

No way in hell I'm reading all that, all posts should be short and sweet like this one:

How do I [18F] get out of watching my [16M] cousin? He is literally on the plane flying from Korea... Non-Romantic

Bubblyblubber posted:

No way in hell I'm reading all that, all posts should be short and sweet like this one:

How do I [18F] get out of watching my [16M] cousin? He is literally on the plane flying from Korea... Non-Romantic

Bubblyblubber posted:

No way in hell I'm reading all that, all posts should be short and sweet like this one:

How do I [18F] get out of watching my [16M] cousin? He is literally on the plane flying from Korea... Non-Romantic

Mirthless posted:

I guess maybe I'm projecting?

Leon Einstein posted:

BINGO!

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

The long post was kinda heart-wrenching and upsetting me. It's so mundane but I'm sad now. Like seeing someone write "I had the most amazing relationship in the universe and I threw it away because ???" makes the universe seem even more hopeless than it did yesterday.

Fullhouse posted:

I read about half of that gigantic post before skipped to the end and I don't know why it isn't just two sentences of "I had a great boyfriend I didn't deserve and threw it away because I thought the grass was greener outside, but actually I'm just a huge dipshit"

Panfilo posted:

Does CPS have a harder time in Utah because of all the Mormons? Or are most of the CPS workers Mormon too and just look the other way?

fruit on the bottom posted:

Wait, the sociopath with no empathy felt bad for keeping a secret from her?


Hmmm

Blue Train posted:

You should invest in a water bottle hth

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I've had a crappy relationship with my roommate, Bad decision on my part. Just want to know other people's opinions if there are only two options with this ultimatum or if this is something that there are other alternative options.

"Just writing this so that you have it in writing so that you can basically always reference what my stance is and how I feel. I will make every attempt to establish, maintain and build our friendship as a platonic relationship with no romantic strings attached. I will have no expectation nor entitlement towards any romantic gratification or reward and never expect any form of response to my feelings at any point in the future. I will remain open to a relationship because I will always feel the same way about you, but I will no longer act upon those feelings and make every effort to keep them to myself and let them make no further averse effect on our relationship. If there were to be any change in our relationship, I will only allow that to be initiated by you and you alone. I will no longer press, pressure, or discuss this stressful topic with you into the foreseeable future and will work towards a better friendship first and foremost. This is my promise to you OP. The only disclaimer is that I reserve the right to withdraw my friendship in the case that your romantic relationship continues with Arthur (and only Arthur). This is a choice for yourself and your future that I will no longer interfere with nor attempt to influence, yet I retain this right nevertheless. I hope that we no longer have to have long discussions any longer and that we can remove any and all toxicity from our relationship and grow to become more trusting and closer as friends because of it, or, at the very least, part in a peaceful and respectful manner. I love you OP, in every way, and I only hope for a better future for us and our friendship and, although it may be hard to believe sometimes, your happiness."

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Me [20F] with my roommate [21M] gave me an ultimatum, is the answer black & white.

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Hi reddit. So let me give you a little background on my boyfriend of 2 years. He's a stubborn guy who can be sweet a lot of the time but stubborn the other half and is very straight forward in wanting his ways to be the only ways. In the two years that we've dated, I've never really let his stubbornness get in the way of our relationship, until the other day.

We were on a day trip to a town about 2 hours away from us, and on the way back my bf was driving. We were around 45 minutes away from home when I asked him if we could please stop somewhere, I really had to pee.

"But we're almost home, can't you wait?" He said. "Um, I really have to go." "It's only 45 minutes."

I knew it was one of his stubborn streaks coming into play again, so I rolled my eyes and curled up in the front seat, trying to distract myself, but it was impossible.

20 minutes pass before I say, "Can't we please just stop at the gas station right off the exit?" At this point I knew there was no making it home because it was starting to get painful. "No, you can hold it." "I really don't think I can." "Well you're going to have to, we're not stopping."

Of course I wanted to hold it. Who wants to pee their pants at 22? But, probably only three miles away from home, I felt my body just go weak from how long I had been holding it, like any normal human would when they're forced to hold it like that. And so I went all over the front seat of his car (this is so embarrassing.)

As soon as my bf found out, he was furious because it was his car, and immediately told me I would be paying to have the car cleaned and for new seat covers? Now, I would understand this if I hadn't asked to pull over about 100 times, or if I didn't need to go that badly. But I had clearly stated it was an emergency and a full bladder can only hold on for so long, and he had absolutely no reason not to stop. He was just being stubborn because he could and then punishing me for his actions.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Me [20F] with my roommate [21M] gave me an ultimatum, is the answer black & white.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] of two years made me pee my pants in his car and is now making me pay to have it cleaned

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

Like most mental illnesses, there's a broad range and it's not unbelievable for someone with sociopathy/anti-social personality disorder to feel love and empathy in certain situations. It's not the "beep boop I am an emotionless robot" that people think. Hell, it's possible he doesn't actually feel guilty about lying but chooses not to because he's aware that it's "wrong."