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A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

sexy mouse posted:

https://np.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5aw3vg/whats_the_shittiest_thing_youve_ever_done/d9k3r28/

did you already talk about how this guy secretly drugged the mother of his child causing a miscarriage?


+600

someone liked that story so much they bought the dude reddit gold over it

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new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound

Pick posted:

"Men think I only exist to sexually gratify them... even my dad," thinks woman that men choose not to empathize with because they'd rather live in the world where they don't have to consider the feelings of over half the world's population.

Lots of your guys' feelings are dumb and exhausting to deal with. For every grunting Neanderthal male out there, there's a woman who has deep and powerful feelings over every tedious aspect of her life and demands constant emotional validation on all of them.

Panfilo
Aug 27, 2011
Probation
Can't post for 11 days!
People that have their poo poo together don't get jerked around by assholes, and certainly don't post on r/relationships about it.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

And what's the deal with the toilet seat, am I right?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS
My [22F] boyfriend [23M] doesn't let me drink

quote:

I'm 22 and can legally drink without anyone's consent or approval. He's told me multiple times that he doesn't like a woman that drinks and that it's low class and trashy. Never mind the fact that he drinks and smokes more than anyone I know. Whenever I bring this up he either gets angry and tells me to shut up or he laughs it off and says alcohol is for men. The other night we went to a party and I took a couple of secret shots. Well someone told him and he came over to me, checked my breath and then got upset. He left. Without saying anything and left me there. Someone gave me a ride home. And the next day he told me how embarrassing it is for him to be with such a drunk slut. He told me to go buy groceries and dinner, and then told me to leave. It's been kind of weird since then. Ive been apologizing a lot, and even bought him some clothes to say sorry. But he is still being weird about it. I know I hosed up and shouldn't have drank. But I think he's being a little ridiculous at this point. What can I do? I wanna fix things with us.

Tldr: boyfriend doesn't let me drink

What's the twist? The OP's username is impregnantinCA

TheManFromFOXHOUND
Nov 5, 2011

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] doesn't let me drink


What's the twist? The OP's username is impregnantinCA

:wow:

This is the best twist in this entire thread.

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound
This one girl I dated would come home and need to vent for at least an hour about petty work grievances she would never voice to anyone that mattered but apparently it was my thrice-weekly duty to sit and listen about how Helen had used her coffee cup again to water her plants and even though she told Helen it was OK and Helen washed it afterwards she was still uncomfortable with it but she didn't want to say anything and look like a bitch.

Zzulu
May 15, 2009

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Affirmative

Submarine Sandpaper
May 27, 2007


new phone who dis posted:

This one girl I dated would come home and need to vent for at least an hour about petty work grievances she would never voice to anyone that mattered but apparently it was my thrice-weekly duty to sit and listen about how Helen had used her coffee cup again to water her plants and even though she told Helen it was OK and Helen washed it afterwards she was still uncomfortable with it but she didn't want to say anything and look like a bitch.
Well if it wasn't venting it'd just be conversation which would be AOK. I've made and keep making this same mistake where I date women who tend to bitch endlessly but at first I fall for their "frankness." Eventually I'll find someone who's frank and not a negative nancy. Obviously your x was not frank and super passive to boot.

the bitcoin of weed
Nov 1, 2014

new phone who dis posted:

This one girl I dated would come home and need to vent for at least an hour about petty work grievances she would never voice to anyone that mattered but apparently it was my thrice-weekly duty to sit and listen about how Helen had used her coffee cup again to water her plants and even though she told Helen it was OK and Helen washed it afterwards she was still uncomfortable with it but she didn't want to say anything and look like a bitch.

feeeeeemaaaaaalessssss

putrid aidsman
Apr 13, 2017

by Lowtax

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:


What's the twist? The OP's username is impregnantinCA
:eyepop:

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Submarine Sandpaper posted:

Well if it wasn't venting it'd just be conversation which would be AOK. I've made and keep making this same mistake where I date women who tend to bitch endlessly but at first I fall for their "frankness." Eventually I'll find someone who's frank and not a negative nancy. Obviously your x was not frank and super passive to boot.

conversations involve at least two active participants, if you could replace half of the conversation with a stuffed animal and a tape that played "uh huh" every couple minutes without the other half noticing that is not a conversation, you do not need to be there

The Walrus
Jul 9, 2002

by Fluffdaddy
I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

Submarine Sandpaper
May 27, 2007


A Wizard of Goatse posted:

conversations involve at least two active participants, if you could replace half of the conversation with a stuffed animal and a tape that played "uh huh" every couple minutes without the other half noticing that is not a conversation, you do not need to be there

after the first work tale you ought to be able to ask questions and make it a conversation. If that's not even happening then deff yikes.

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

The Walrus posted:

I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

Who gives a poo poo?

Tiny Deer
Jan 16, 2012

new phone who dis posted:

Lots of your guys' feelings are dumb and exhausting to deal with. For every grunting Neanderthal male out there, there's a woman who has deep and powerful feelings over every tedious aspect of her life and demands constant emotional validation on all of them.

The feelings in this case are 'I don't want my dad to want to gently caress me' though.

Also, the women you date sound unbearable. I don't know what you're doing but you should try something else.

ThePeavstenator
Dec 18, 2012

:burger::burger::burger::burger::burger:

Establish the Buns

:burger::burger::burger::burger::burger:

The Walrus posted:

I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

could be a total mama's boy but booth seating owns so its a 50/50 tossup

burial
Sep 13, 2002

actually, that won't be necessary.

Leon Einstein posted:

Who gives a poo poo?

Probably definitely the correct answer? but personally, I'd want to sit on the bench seat with my SO.

Ouhei
Oct 23, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

WampaLord posted:

:gonk:

I [29F] caught my dad [68M] watching my sex tapes.

:gonk: :gonk: :gonk:


:gonk:

There's not enugh :gonk:'s in the world for this, but what kind of scrub gives their laptop to someone without clearing the porn videos out of their recent files? Especially if they're of you!

Still though :gonk:

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

The Walrus posted:

I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

my wife and I nearly always sit across from each other when we eat out, i think this is something that varies from couple to couple

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound

Tiny Deer posted:

The feelings in this case are 'I don't want my dad to want to gently caress me' though.

Also, the women you date sound unbearable. I don't know what you're doing but you should try something else.

It's internet dating. Wheel of fortune and 90% of it is Lose a Turn.

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

sexy mouse posted:

https://np.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5aw3vg/whats_the_shittiest_thing_youve_ever_done/d9k3r28/

did you already talk about how this guy secretly drugged the mother of his child causing a miscarriage?


+600

if you look at his post history this guy dusts this account off specifically to recount this story every 2 or 3 months

what a loving creep

i mean, that's Reddit, wall to wall, all the time (anybody remember the rapists of reddit debacle?) but jesus it never fails to amaze me just how bad they are

Tiny Deer
Jan 16, 2012

The Walrus posted:

I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

Emily Post would say that is correct, although the absence of a chaperone might raise eyebrows if you arrive or leave with your gentleman friend. Ideally a matron aunt would sit beside you to ensure propriety and also give the mother a conversational partner, to avoid the awkwardness of forced conversing upon a first introduction.

PleasingFungus
Oct 10, 2012
idiot asshole bitch who should fuck off

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

Understatement title of the year here considering how crazy she ends up being.

I (M21) caught my GF (F22) in a lie that would have gotten my little sister (F11) in big trouble.

Wow!

The update's interesting, though it's hard to match up to the original.

quote:

I drove to my ex's parents' house on Tuesday and took her the rest of her stuff. It started out bumpy because her dad met me on the driveway and argued with me about what he sees as my sister being a spoiled brat and turning me against his daughter. As soon as I started losing it and raising my voice my ex ran out and sent him inside the house.

I told her we're over and I'm moving on. She made some empty threats but I just told her to do what she has to do and walked away. That night I took the suggestion repeated here to take my sister for ice cream and apologize. She chose Frugos instead (as usual) so we went there and I explained how sorry I was and that I will be better. I told her that I totally believed her. She was happy to hear everything I had to say. It makes a huge difference to a child when you give a sincere apology I could tell. She even texted a couple of her friends to gloat that my ex was gone.

Okay now the hard part.

On Wednesday I took her to the park to kick the soccer ball around and to have an overdue talk with her. I asked her about my ex and she told me that she was mistreated by her more than I knew about. She had a lot to say about her time at mom's house during the time when I was away. I didn't know how hard it was for her when I enlisted and left. That was hard to hear. It was kind of a move to get myself out of a situation with zero thought to leaving her behind. The short version is that we have all failed her badly. She didn't say it but just everything she has to say about how things have gone down around her made it clear.

When I was first discharged I got good job working for the city. But I was drinking every weekend and my house was the hang out spot for my friends and that's how I met my ex. I was even drinking on a lot of week nights. I didn't immediately take my sister with me even though I knew about how my mom was living. My wake up call was when my sister called me because the cops were there looking for mom to question her, and her boyfriend. That was when I finally cleaned up, rented a house close to my sister's school and brought her to live with me.

She doesn't remember that I waited so long to bring her with me. She remembers it as if I acted quickly which is totally false and makes me look way better than I was. It was really shocking and brutal to hear things from her perspective. She has been through more than I can have imagined. She is a very strong person.

So definitely no more girlfriends for me for a long time. That was an emotionally expensive lesson to learn with everything that my sister had to go through while I was being blind and dumb. I'm going to wait and literally become a monk until she is in college. She gets so many straight A's with some B's here and there. She has a bright future.

EDIT: I'm sure I'll date someday again. Right now I'm not ready, not even close. I might be a few months away from changing my mind but a couple of years is more likely.

*tl;dr; My girlfriend was mean and awful to my sister. I broke up with her. She's gone forever. My sister and I are closer and I'll be better. *

Ouhei
Oct 23, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

Mirthless posted:

my wife and I nearly always sit across from each other when we eat out, i think this is something that varies from couple to couple

There's a big difference when you're by yourselves vs. sitting with others though, especially if it's lopsided and if it's meeting his mom for the first time. That poo poo is basically an interview at that point.

zakharov
Nov 30, 2002

:kimchi: Tater Love :kimchi:
Speaking of eating out...

My [24,F] finace's sister [25, F] called me yesterday and is upset with me over my relationship with my mom?? Super confused on how to handle this

quote:

I'll try to make this quick. My fiance and I just got engaged about a week ago. My mom decided to take us out for a celebratory dinner, and invited my little brother, and my fiance's sister (Sarah). I thought the night was going well, I haven't seen my little brother in a while so we had some bonding time which I really enjoyed. Sarah decided to bring a friend of hers as well, which I wasn't expecting, but was fine with. My mom was really kind and paid for her and her friend as well.

My family has sort of a weird relationship. We're super close with each other, but we joke around a LOT. We basically make fun of each other in a joking way, and have been this way since I can remember. My fiance thinks it's hilarious, and has joined in on it and vice versa since we started dating. My mom and brother make fun of him right back, so it's all in good fun, and they get along great.

Yesterday, Sarah called me randomly at first asking what we were up to, and then randomly said how she didn't enjoy the engagement dinner at all, and how I upset her and her friend. Basically her and her friend thought my brother and I were super rude towards my mom, and said that I made her and her friend uncomfortable the whole night.

I apologized that they felt that way, and explained that we grew up differently and that my family just has a different relationship than hers. She was still upset though and said that I was ungrateful and that she wishes that our moms' situations were switched and that she would trade my mom's life to have her mom back in a heartbeat.

I was pretty offended at that point, because yes, I'm so sorry that they lost their mom, but I don't think it warrants her basically saying she wishes my mom was dead so that she could have hers back. I just re-iterated that I'm sorry they felt that way, and hung up pretty soon after that.

I'm not sure how to handle this now. Sarah is supposed to be a bridesmaid to my wedding, but right now I don't even want to speak with her after that call. I haven't told my fiance about it yet because I wanted to take some time to think about this. Any advice on how to move forward? I obviously haven't been in Sarah's shoes, so I'm having a hard time seeing it from her perspective.. Any advice would be really helpful in case I'm looking at this the wrong way, or should just let it go and ignore it?

TL;DR fiance's sister went attended a celebratory dinner for my engagement put together by my mom. Called yesterday to say that I was ungrateful of my mom and is upset with me. Not sure how to handle this
.

:stare:

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound

The Walrus posted:

I was just out for dinner the other day and I saw a situation that elicited a question.

What would your response be if on the occasion of you meeting your boyfriend's mother, he sat on her side of the table, leaving you to sit by yourself on the other side?

If it is germane to your answer, your boyfriend and his mother are sharing the bench seat while your side of the table has chairs.

Is she from out of town? That would impact my answer.

Psycho Society
Oct 21, 2010

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] doesn't let me drink


What's the twist? The OP's username is impregnantinCA

That's a lede that indiana jones had to excavate from a mine in Tasmania, jfc

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound

zakharov posted:

Speaking of eating out...

My [24,F] finace's sister [25, F] called me yesterday and is upset with me over my relationship with my mom?? Super confused on how to handle this
.

:stare:

She misses her dead mom a lot and is dealing with it poorly. I'd just dismiss it.

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

zakharov posted:

Speaking of eating out...

My [24,F] finace's sister [25, F] called me yesterday and is upset with me over my relationship with my mom?? Super confused on how to handle this

quote:

I'm not sure how to handle this now. Sarah is supposed to be a bridesmaid to my wedding, but right now I don't even want to speak with her after that call. I haven't told my fiance about it yet because I wanted to take some time to think about this. Any advice on how to move forward? I obviously haven't been in Sarah's shoes, so I'm having a hard time seeing it from her perspective.. Any advice would be really helpful in case I'm looking at this the wrong way, or should just let it go and ignore it?
.

:stare:

lol, every single time

basic communication really isn't Reddit's strong suit

Psycho Society
Oct 21, 2010

PleasingFungus posted:

Wow!

The update's interesting, though it's hard to match up to the original.

God drat it that girl's mom's boyfriend might have sexually assaulted her it sounds like? Jesus christ. gently caress people

Tiny Deer
Jan 16, 2012

PleasingFungus posted:

Wow!

The update's interesting, though it's hard to match up to the original.

God, that poor loving kid.

These last ones have been really depressing. Not a criticism, just...drat.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
:japan:

I've [30m] left behind a past of infidelity, only to be thrown into a culture of infidelity.

quote:

I come from a string of toxic relations rife with infidelity both on my part, and on the other party's.

After my last breakup 3 years back, I decided I was done with this whole business of infidelity and transgressions, and have since moved to Japan due to occupational reasons. After arriving in this foreign land, I met a wonderful woman (25f, Japanese) whom I am terribly fond of.

However, much to my appal, I've found that Japanese have a highly unusual take on fidelity. To list off a few things off the top of my head:
-Cheating happens, a lot, for both men and women
-Physical transgressions are generally not considered to be cheating, unless emotions are involved
-And perhaps, most unusual, sex with a third party is not always considered cheating, particularly when it's paid for

If you need more elaboration, there's a video on youtube about cheating by Asian Boss which sums up pretty well.

I've since expressed my concern to my partner, and while, thankfully, she does not hold the view that cheating is okay, I've mostly been brushed off as being too conservative. While that is somewhat a relief, I'm still not fully accepting of the fact that my partner has a much lower standard of fidelity than me.

To a large extent, I can understand how she feels. In fact, I've always reasoned with myself by drawing parallels to substance usage. I've dated women who have very strict views on substance use, and frankly, there's little I can do but brush them off as conservative. Simply, I can't change my views because substance use is simply not a big deal to me. Likewise, for a women who has been steeped in a culture that normalises cheating, it would be simply impossible for her to take a different view to this.

While I have complete faith in her, and take her words at face value, the lower standards she holds to infidelity would simply mean that she could be in situations which are completely acceptable to her, but be orthogonal to my views. I'm quite at loss of what to do. Her answer to this was simply for me to lower my standards to that of hers, which is something that I've since strongly set my mind against.

Reddit, please offer me your piece of mind. Onegaishimasu.

tl;dr: Partner has lower standards of fidelity than I.

small ghost
Jan 30, 2013

zakharov posted:

Speaking of eating out...

My [24,F] finace's sister [25, F] called me yesterday and is upset with me over my relationship with my mom?? Super confused on how to handle this
.

:stare:

Grief is a hell of a thing.

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

Haifisch posted:

:japan:

I've [30m] left behind a past of infidelity, only to be thrown into a culture of infidelity.

quote:

To a large extent, I can understand how she feels. In fact, I've always reasoned with myself by drawing parallels to substance usage. I've dated women who have very strict views on substance use, and frankly, there's little I can do but brush them off as conservative. Simply, I can't change my views because substance use is simply not a big deal to me. Likewise, for a women who has been steeped in a culture that normalises cheating, it would be simply impossible for her to take a different view to this.

i really hope by "substance use" he means the sauce because they don't gently caress around with drugs in japan

Tiny Deer
Jan 16, 2012

Haifisch posted:

:japan:

I've [30m] left behind a past of infidelity, only to be thrown into a culture of infidelity.

Is any of this true or is his wife just that slick

"Yeah, honey, in uh, Canadian culture it's normal for me to gently caress a hockey team every Friday. It's not cheating, it's a cultural thing, baka gaijin."

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Tiny Deer posted:

Is any of this true or is his wife just that slick

Wife is slick, because all of the above only culturally apply to the man in relationships.

Psycho Society
Oct 21, 2010

Tiny Deer posted:

Is any of this true or is his wife just that slick

"Yeah, honey, in uh, Canadian culture it's normal for me to gently caress a hockey team every Friday. It's not cheating, it's a cultural thing, baka gaijin."

I would think so, but he cited Asian Boss which is generally regarded as being on point

https://youtu.be/ENscSDOsodE

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010

Aren't love hotels basically for cheaters only?

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Ouhei
Oct 23, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Aren't love hotels basically for cheaters only?

No they're for when you're out with your crush and it starts raining so you need somewhere to go while you wait it out, according to anime at least.

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