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blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

Ok, dick weeds. take it outside.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:07

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# ? May 26, 2024 00:50

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

edit: nah i'm done

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:09

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

Can we please take this to PMs and not get the thread gassed

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:09

Who What Now: Sep 10, 2006; by Azathoth

Edit: threads moved on

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

finally found this one again

My (18M) Mother (34F) Just Cut Me Out Of My Family's Life After I Contacted My Grandparents

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:11

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

imo it is a fair point that it is pointless and crappy to make up stories about who a goon is personally and use that for lazy jabs in response to their bad, masturbatory droning about a topic they don't express any particular insight into and has barely anything at all to do with the discussion anyone else is having atm. this is my ruling *slams down squeaky hammer*

finally found this one again

My (18M) Mother (34F) Just Cut Me Out Of My Family's Life After I Contacted My Grandparents

oh god it's a VC Andrews novel come to life

there's been a lot of crushing poo poo posted ITT but this one might be about the worst

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:15

Nissin Cup Nudist: Sep 3, 2011; Sleep with one eye open

We're off to Gritty Gritty land

I googled "Pnurtis" just to see if it was a legit name at one point? I did not see any other people named Pnurtis.

I did see this thread as one of the top results

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:19

Theotus: Nov 8, 2014

Nissin Cup Nudist posted:

I googled "Pnurtis" just to see if it was a legit name at one point? I did not see any other people named Pnurtis.

I did see this thread as one of the top results

Pnurtis, so hot right now.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:23

Who What Now: Sep 10, 2006; by Azathoth

That reminds me, how is baby Pnurtis doing?

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:24

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

I Was The Fury posted:

my (25f) car got stolen. We had a decent insurance pay out but my husband (28m, of 3 years) spent the money on a new gaming system while I was out of town. My dream job is at risk with no car and he doesn't give a single crap.

i missed this one in the slapfight but good loving god this dude is The Worst

she could legit :murder:

this dude and I don't think any jury would convict her

quote:

what possible redeeming quality did this guy ever have jfc

seriously how does anyone even get married to somebody like this????

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:27

the bitcoin of weed: Nov 1, 2014

I Was The Fury posted:

my (25f) car got stolen. We had a decent insurance pay out but my husband (28m, of 3 years) spent the money on a new gaming system while I was out of town. My dream job is at risk with no car and he doesn't give a single crap.

what possible redeeming quality did this guy ever have jfc

dude has no car, no job, spends all of his wife's money on burger king and :pcgaming:

, and has gained 100 pounds since their wedding. this isn't a marriage, this is a mother and her failson

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:32

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

i like how he eats at burger king because he "doesn't like whole foods"

what's not to like? is it because she can only afford the produce there, and he's afraid of vegetables?

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:35

Tacky-Ass Rococco: Sep 7, 2010; by R. Guyovich

Mirthless posted:

oh god it's a VC Andrews novel come to life there's been a lot of crushing poo poo posted ITT but this one might be about the worst

The psychopathy of the woman in these cases is always fascinating to me. The men are monsters, but very run-of-the-mill. In this story in particular, it almost feels like grandma was the ringleader.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:40

Mr. Meagles: Apr 30, 2004; Out here, everything hurts

Mirthless posted:

i like how he eats at burger king because he "doesn't like whole foods"

what's not to like? is it because she can only afford the produce there, and he's afraid of vegetables?

only burger king gives him the mega nutritients and energy needed for the extreme porno sex

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:44

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My (18M) Mother (34F) Just Cut Me Out Of My Family's Life After I Contacted My Grandparents

It's pretty much 100% guaranteed that if a grown adult has a screaming meltdown at the mere thought of contacting their family, it's going to be due to severe abuse and rape

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:48

Submarine Sandpaper: May 27, 2007

Gorilla Salad posted:

It's pretty much 100% guaranteed that if a grown adult has a screaming meltdown at the mere thought of contacting their family, it's going to be due to severe abuse and rape

kid found out he was a product of incestual rape too unless I missread.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 17:51

PHIZ KALIFA: Dec 21, 2011; #mood

Maybe the ancestral rape wasn't so bad. Maybe the grandfather was Noah and we're all figments of a dream being had by some lemur, watching Noah's granddaughters work his wrinkly shaft.

edit: I've been sent back from the future to prevent a 300 page derail to say, once and for all, that YES lemurs dream, YES their dreams frequently involve biblical allegory, NO that offers NO PROTECTION from ANY kind of Freddie Kreuger style Nightmare Incursions.

PHIZ KALIFA fucked around with this message at 18:11 on Apr 19, 2017

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:05

Gloryhold It!: Sep 22, 2008; Fucking
Adorable

Um...

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:08

Theotus: Nov 8, 2014

Also really stuck out to me that the Mom mentioned the Grandparents and extended family didn't really start trying to worm their way back in and send those passive aggressive coded letters until they found out about her first daughter. Take that however you will.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:11

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Tacky-rear end Rococco posted:

The psychopathy of the woman in these cases is always fascinating to me. The men are monsters, but very run-of-the-mill. In this story in particular, it almost feels like grandma was the ringleader.

There is an interesting long form article you can read called something like My Grandma the Poisoner about a person coming to terms with the evil his grandmother inflicted on the family.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:14

Bonzo: Mar 11, 2004; Just like Mama used to make it!

Burger King is some stank rear end food and I can't imagine eating it three times a day.

Am I [16M] an "monster" for giving up on helping my brother [17M] lose weight after I found out that he goes to burger king and other fast food establishments on his walks?

My brother is fat, there is no sugar coating it. He did this to himself he chooses to sit in his room all day and play over watch, league of legends, PS4 every other video game in existence. Even now that something called Pokemon Go is out, his overweight rear end will not go out and play it.

I am active, I am athletic and I play football, I plan on getting a football scholarship. I have tried to get my brother to eat healthy and get active. I invite him to go on a walk with me at night with the dogs, I invite him for my morning run, I invite him to come to the gym with me in the afternoon. I have gone down to Whole Foods and I have bought healthy food and even prepared it.

He recently started going on walks, but he was gaining weight. This did not make any sense to me, how can someone be gaining weight if he is eating healthy and going for walks. This was not minimal weight gain, he was gaining weight rapidly. This morning I decided to follow him and I followed him all the way to the burger king.

He went in and he got 3 burger king items for breakfast I am not kidding. I went in and asked him what the hell he was doing and he told me to and I quote " Kill yourself, I can eat what I want when I want. You do you, and I will do me". I told him fine eat yourself to death.

He told my parents I embarrassed him and they both think I am an "uncaring monster". They told me he needs motivation to lose the weight and not everyone if gifted like I am. I pointed to our older sisters (they go to university, and room together) they are two of the most nonathletic people I know and they are not fat.

My parents told me I need to go live with my sisters and so I have. I am going to be living with my sisters for the foreseeable future. I just give up on him, I don't understand how he can just sit there and ignore all my help and do the loving opposite of what he needs to do.

How do I navigate further communication with my parents/brother?

tl;dr: Brother has been gaining weight, while I have been trying to help him lose weight. I gave up on him and now I am an monster for giving up on him. Parents have sent me to live with my sisters

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:16

Who What Now: Sep 10, 2006; by Azathoth

Submarine Sandpaper posted:

kid found out he was a product of incestual rape too unless I missread.

No, that's the reading I got too.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:16

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Barudak posted:

There is an interesting long form article you can read called something like My Grandma the Poisoner about a person coming to terms with the evil his grandmother inflicted on the family.

My paternal grandmother was Lucille Bluth without the warmth.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:17

Nancy: Nov 23, 2005; Young Orc

Why do my friends [17M] and [17F] act so stupid around each other

quote:

My guy friend asked my girl friend out a few months ago and she said no. Now she always teases him because she thinks his reactions are funny, and he teases her back. Sometimes they stick their tongues out at each other. Or sometimes they say stuff just to irritate each other. He also holds stuff that she wants out of her reach (like if she was about to pick up a pencil, he'd grab it away from her and hold it up so she couldn't reach it) and they both start laughing. What the gently caress are they doing? Why do they act so dumb?
tl;dr: what are they doing

what are they doing :confused:

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:17

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Charles Get-Out posted:

Why do my friends [17M] and [17F] act so stupid around each other

what are they doing

And a question posted where a 1 was put in front of the ages.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:18

Tacky-Ass Rococco: Sep 7, 2010; by R. Guyovich

The adoptive father in that story deserves all the World's Greatest Dad mugs.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:18

Space Kablooey: May 6, 2009

Bonzo posted:

Burger King is some stank rear end food and I can't imagine eating it three times a day.

Am I [16M] an "monster" for giving up on helping my brother [17M] lose weight after I found out that he goes to burger king and other fast food establishments on his walks?

My brother is fat, there is no sugar coating it. He did this to himself he chooses to sit in his room all day and play over watch, league of legends, PS4 every other video game in existence. Even now that something called Pokemon Go is out, his overweight rear end will not go out and play it.

I am active, I am athletic and I play football, I plan on getting a football scholarship. I have tried to get my brother to eat healthy and get active. I invite him to go on a walk with me at night with the dogs, I invite him for my morning run, I invite him to come to the gym with me in the afternoon. I have gone down to Whole Foods and I have bought healthy food and even prepared it.

He recently started going on walks, but he was gaining weight. This did not make any sense to me, how can someone be gaining weight if he is eating healthy and going for walks. This was not minimal weight gain, he was gaining weight rapidly. This morning I decided to follow him and I followed him all the way to the burger king.

He went in and he got 3 burger king items for breakfast I am not kidding. I went in and asked him what the hell he was doing and he told me to and I quote " Kill yourself, I can eat what I want when I want. You do you, and I will do me". I told him fine eat yourself to death.

He told my parents I embarrassed him and they both think I am an "uncaring monster". They told me he needs motivation to lose the weight and not everyone if gifted like I am. I pointed to our older sisters (they go to university, and room together) they are two of the most nonathletic people I know and they are not fat.

My parents told me I need to go live with my sisters and so I have. I am going to be living with my sisters for the foreseeable future. I just give up on him, I don't understand how he can just sit there and ignore all my help and do the loving opposite of what he needs to do.

How do I navigate further communication with my parents/brother?

tl;dr: Brother has been gaining weight, while I have been trying to help him lose weight. I gave up on him and now I am an monster for giving up on him. Parents have sent me to live with my sisters

with the parents and bro

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:20

flick my Mr. Bean: Nov 18, 2014

Charles Get-Out posted:

Why do my friends [17M] and [17F] act so stupid around each other

what are they doing

He should have a long talk with both of them about their mutual bullying.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:21

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Football Boy with Scholarship needs to get a degree in nutrition or if he gets drafted and interviewed and aksed about what motivates him to give it his all say "my lazy fat piece of poo poo brother"

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:21

Tacky-Ass Rococco: Sep 7, 2010; by R. Guyovich

Barudak posted:

There is an interesting long form article you can read called something like My Grandma the Poisoner about a person coming to terms with the evil his grandmother inflicted on the family.

Thanks, that was truly horrifying.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:33

flick my Mr. Bean: Nov 18, 2014

My brother plays ~~flag~~ football and hope to get drafted to a ~~intramural~~ college team but keeps criticizing me because he's 30 lbs lighter

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:40

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

Today in "posts where OP is just looking for validation for what they already know:"

My (26f) husband (23m), in his own words "doesn't want to do anything else in life except smoke pot, work at McDonalds, and play WOW" Help?

quote:

Hi reddit. I'm really sorry for how TL;DR this is. I'm very emotional right now, and just kinda ranting. Throwaway account, because. Though if anyone knew us, our situation is unique and I'm sure they'd recognize it anyway. -_-

My husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years, been together for 5. Our relationship has always been spotty at times, and a bit of trial and error. We met on World of Warcraft, in a time when both of our lives were pretty lovely. We were both unemployed, barely scraping by on savings, and playing way too much WOW. We kinda clung together and used each other as motivation to get jobs. He also lived in the US, while I live in Canada, so that meant our relationship was forced to be a long distance one for a very long time. There have been other major issues in the past--I've struggled with anxiety and an eating disorder, he cheated on me, we had an open relationship for a while that went sour because I started to develop feelings for someone else (it ended, I broke all contact with the other party, and we moved on), but it seemed like things had finally started to come together for us.

I initially used our relationship as an anchor to better my life. I got a job within weeks of us beginning our relationship back in 2009. He moved home, back in with his parents, but he got a job and started to make things work. After six months or so, I decided to go back to school. I enrolled fulltime, and graduated this past May with my bachelor's degree. I've been working a comfortable job for a year and a half now, making roughly in the 40-50k range. For the last year of school, I worked 25 hours a week and took five fourth year accounting classes to finish up my degree. So I've basically been working my rear end off.

My husband worked for almost 3 years at Dunkin Donuts during the first 3 years of my education. Which I was okay with. I encouraged him to go back to school, but he cited many reasonable points as to why he should wait--college was very expensive in his state, he wouldn't have the money to come visit me because he wouldn't be able to work as much, and when our immigration papers went through, he would be able to go back to school in Canada for a fraction of the cost since tuition in my province is roughly $6000/yr (he'd be looking at about $20,000/yr in his state.)
So I agreed. Before we got married, though, we sat down and he said that he'd like to pursue a business degree like me. He's a people person, so he thought that would be a great way to utilize his skills. Previously, he wanted to be a teacher, but after seeing some of his friends struggling finding jobs, and how underpaid and high stress it is, he decided against that. We decided that once he moved up to Canada, he'd enroll in school.

A second thing we agreed upon is that when he moved to Canada, he'd stop smoking pot. Personally, I don't do it. I'm against it for myself, because it makes me act unmotivated, lazy, and all-around just reminds me of the waste of space that I used to be before I went back to school. I have friends who smoke, and one who swears up and down it cured her cancer, and what she does in her free time is her own business. But I don't want to be with someone who smokes. I know that's an unpopular Reddit opinion, but it's just how I feel. I told him I was not happy with him smoking, but as long as he was in the US, 500 miles away from me, I'd begrudglingly accept it since our situation sucked and it was his coping mechanism.

Well, in March 2013 he moved up here. We had to wait on stuff to officially import his car up (he had to pay it off, we had to get the documentation in order and sent to the US border, work out vehicle inspections, etc) so he didn't officially "immigrate" until the end of April. But from April until mid June, he didn't look for a job. He was offered one job, but refused it because he had a family reunion back in the US that weekend. He finally got a job because a friend of his managed a McDonalds for a while and took him down and introduced him to the other management and asked them to hire him.

My husband has been at McDonalds ever since. In late summer 2013, I told him we needed to get his college stuff in order, and he told me he wanted to wait until winter 2014 because he had just recently moved. I could understand why, it was a huge transition. But then winter 2014 turned into spring 2014, which turned into fall...

Now he is telling me that he has no desire to go back to school. That he doesn't want to go, and that the only reason he will go is because I am "forcing" him to go, and because I'm selfish and only care about money and not his happiness. I care deeply about his happiness--however, I was under the expectation that he wanted to go back to school.

He's cited multiple reasons, varying from "I'm stupid" (he's not, just naive), to "I don't know what I want to do." I suggested he go back, get his accounting, and then he can come work part time where I work (government job, pays well, and he's basically a shoe-in, both myself & my sister work there). I've encouraged him to go to open houses at schools, see a career counsellor, or just go and take a few classes in different subjects without committing. But he's refusing. And every time, it goes back to the "you're selfish and only care about money."

He's also started smoking pot, aggressively. Lying constantly about it. He'll leave tissues with soot and resin on them from when he cleaned his pipe, then vehemently deny it and gaslight me into thinking I'm crazy. He'll wait until I've gone to bed, then get up and smoke pot at 2-3 AM, then be grumpy the night morning and start fights with me because he's so sleep deprived. My job is in the federal government, and I'm trying to get a very decent promotion that would put me in a very good path to my desired career, and unfortuantely they are very strict on drug use. He doesn't understand that pot, while mostly harmful, is still technically illegal and could hurt my career. Just earlier today, I was cleaning our apartment and found a stash of pipes, a bong, and several packages of CIGARETTES, which shocked me. The husband I know would never, ever smoke cigarettes, he HATED them. He's also mentioned in passing that the friends he hangs out with (from McDonalds), are really into heavier drugs, which worries me... I know pot isn't a "gateway drug" like the crazy anti-drug people say, but I know my husband, I know how easily influenced he is, and how much he wants people to like him. I can easily see him going down a huge spiral. My uncle also died last week of substance abuse and this is all hitting way too close to home.

I don't know what to do. I didn't marry someone who just wants to work 25-30 hours a week at a min wage job (the typical hours he gets), and spend the right of the time high and playing World of Warcraft. I still game, but I work 40 hours a week (and for a while had a part time job- but I gave it up because of time constraints.) I go to the gym at 6 AM four times a week, and I'm a runner. I pay all the bills, and he pays for any "fun" stuff we do, so he has no concept of what his life will be like if he had to live on his wages alone, or if we both made minimum wage. Even with me paying all the bills, and just dishing out over $1000 on a trip to Blizzcon and a trip to Disney for us in the fall, I have 7x the amount of savings he has. And I don't know what to believe anymore. reddit, am I a selfish, awful person for wanting my husband to grow up and become someone? How long do I wait for him? Do I give up and let the pot issue go, even though I hate how it makes him act, and it's affecting MY life negatively? Advice please?

TL;DR: my husband works part time at a min wage job, smokes pot, and plays WOW for 8+ hours a day. I want him to make something of his life. Don't know if I should give up or keep holding out for a change of heart.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:43

Barudak: May 7, 2007

That post is amazing. She married a shiftless wow addict who refused to improve his life who cheated on her, did the open relationship, then closed it up on her when she found someone better.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:49

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

Tacky-rear end Rococco posted:

The psychopathy of the woman in these cases is always fascinating to me. The men are monsters, but very run-of-the-mill. In this story in particular, it almost feels like grandma was the ringleader.

the whole "tending the garden" thing disturbs the hell of out of me and it seemed to go over the poster's head that grandma wasn't actually talking about a literal garden. no amount of suffering is enough for grandma.

what a horrible loving story. /r/relationships always seems to cover a new low in human depravity but jesus loving christ this was just... too much. :smith:

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:50

blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

Incest family reminds me of a book I read called "Under the Banner of Heaven" about the extremist Mormon polygamy cults (plus a specific murder, and the history of Mormonism), and the stories of how they live and how some people escape.

poo poo is wild.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:51

Nancy: Nov 23, 2005; Young Orc

I [33 F] went on a date with a guy [28 M]. Is this weird?

quote:

He seems sweet and very into me, but I'm a little nervous about the age difference. He's the youngest in his family and his oldest sibling is only my age. I normally tend to date older. My last boyfriend was 40. We are going out again this week, but I'm having doubts about the age. Please let me know your honest thoughts.
tl;dr: Is it weird for a woman to date a man five years younger?

Title's my favorite part, woman's obvious issues are a close second

# ? Apr 19, 2017 18:54

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

28 seems plenty old enough to date whoever you want really, particularly if he has a decent career himself.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 19:01

Bonzo: Mar 11, 2004; Just like Mama used to make it!

Barudak posted:

That post is amazing. She married a shiftless wow addict who refused to improve his life who cheated on her, did the open relationship, then closed it up on her when she found someone better.

She's hosed. When you immigrate to Canada from the US (which I did years ago) your spouse is on the hook for you for several years. If they divorce and he goes on any kind of social assistance, the government can came back to her for reimbursement.

I'm also curious how he got status. When you apply for immigration you have to state your profession or at least provide some kind of proof that you can contribute to society in some way. If he was going to go to school, you would probably need a letter form the University stating that they accepted you or some other proof that you will start taking classes. They would also look to her to make sure she can support him financially but if she's only making 40-50 a year then that rules out most major Canadian cities unless you live in a tiny apartment or a rural area.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 19:03

Jeffrey of YOSPOS: Dec 22, 2005; GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

How do I (32M) approach my Fianc�e (31F) about my desire to be a clown?

quote:

I am an artsy type guy, but I've always had stage fright about performing. I don't doubt my capabilities, I play guitar and sing very well, but my dad (59M) was an abusive person who would shoot down my creative side. So now, everytime I want to share something I have written or made, I hear his negativity, reminding me that there are other people who are better and that I need to focus on my day job.

Anyway, after 20 years of writing music and creating projects, I'm tired of never having been on stage in front of people. A few weeks ago, I decided to to create a character to perform as. I am the dad of 3 and work a 60 hour corporate engineering job. I am so stuffy, boring and responsible that it hurts, so I wanted him to be the opposite of who I have become. I wanted him to be expressive, creative, fearless, and a little bit evil.

Last night I drew the character I had been envisioning and it came out as STOP! The Clown. After drawing up the designs, my Fianc�e took off for work and all of my kids were with their mom, so I dove right in and started painting myself up as a test. It came out better than I ever could have planned. Think Pennywise and Joker had a baby and then baptised it in blood.

I then did some test videos to some music I am working on, and again.. loving awesome. I am actually attracted to this wicked clown. He is everything I wish I was.. but now I have to come out with him. If I am shy or avoid bringing him to the public's attention, then i am right where I began. The first step, is to share it with my Fianc�e, but I am afraid of what she will think. What if I'm just being cringy and weird? What if it turns her off of me entirely? She loves horror movies, is creative and accepts my artistic side, but is this too much? How do other clowns get to just become their clown selves?

My end game is that I would like her to join me and write music, dress up and invent stories to make into videos with our characters. It would be so much fun, and 90% of me believes she would enjoy that.. but that 10% has me on the fence.

Thoughts?

tl;dr: I have performance anxiety so I created a clown character that I really love, but I'm shy to "come out" with it, especially to my fianc�e, who I would like to join me.

# ? Apr 19, 2017 19:07

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

[19f] My boyfriend [22m] wants to control what I put in my body

quote:

For obvious reasons, this is a throwaway. But I have not avoided confrontation with him.
My SO and I have been together for 2 years. We've had a rough patch in the past, but other than that I have no complaints about him, he's really great to me.
The only problem is, he tries to control what substances I put into my body. I'm not talking about food or drinks, I'm talking about medications.
I have depression and anxiety, and he's known that from the start. But he doesn't suffer from any mood disorders, so he doesn't really understand them and he was never properly educated on them. When we first met, I was at a really bad low with depression. But he made me happy and I got out of the dumps. Because of that, he thinks that he has cured me. As much as he does make me happy, I am not on any meds for it, so I don't consider my brain to be at normal levels.
I've been very stressed at school, and there's been a lot of big changes in my life. This has spike my depression again and I told him that I want to go back on medication for it. He said, "No, I don't believe in medicine. And I thought you didn't either." Which was true, I didn't agree with the medicine. But I don't like therapy, and I want to try the medicine again. But he's using the fact that I didn't like it before as a rule not to use it.
I told him that my opinion has slightly changed; I just want to try it and see if it helps me because I'm tired of the way I feel. I've even been extremely irritable with him, and he never knows why I'm so moody. I try explaining it to him, saying that maybe he should realize I really do have a problem. But he tells me that it's "all in my head". (Duh, right?) anyway, he seems to think that I want to be depressed; I want to have something wrong with me. He truly believes that I have nothing wrong with me because I'm "so smart" so why would I have a disorder. He's tried telling me not to go back on medication.
Before anyone says that I shouldn't let him control that, I won't. If I believe I need medication then I will certainly go to my doctor and take his opinion instead.
Furthermore, I talked to him about birth control. We use only condoms. But I get really worried sometimes, even though it's never broken or gave me a pregnancy scare. I just feel like I should be extra careful. So I told him that I want to go on a contraceptive. Not necessarily oral, but an arm implant. He said I shouldn't get it in my arm because he's afraid it will harm me or travel into other places of my body. He thought pills are better, but that he still won't "let" me take them. I asked why, and he said "I'll never touch you while you take those nasty pills" I asked why, and he said that they're going to harm my organs and not let me have kids when we want to.
I know this seems a little dragged out, but I wanted to give good details. What is he trying to accomplish? I'm so confused and I need advice on this, other than breaking up with him. He's not abusive and he doesn't control me in anything else; just medicine. I don't want to have to sneakily take it. But I won't listen to him. Please, offer some advice
tl;dr When I requested to go on antidepressants, my boyfriend didn't want me to. He disagreed and said that I have nothing wrong with me, though I am depressed again. Then I brought up the thought of birth control, to which he also disagreed with and said he won't touch me at all (not even kiss) if I'm on those. He feels that way because he thinks my reproductive organs will be destroyed, not allowing me to have kids with him in the future.

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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

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