Elsa posted:

Barudak posted:

I dont want to gently caress this guy, I just want him to want me sexually like I do to him.

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So I just got an e-mail stating that next Thursday is going to be "Take our Daughters & Sons to Work Day".

I promptly informed my manager that I would be taking that day as my personal day SPECIFICALLY due to this event.

Why is it that businesses still think it's approrpirate to have this event? The children hinder workflow, cause multiple resources to be used to keep them confined, and prevent people from concentrating on projects. Basically it fucks with everything that makes a business profitable and forces people like myself to waste our single personal day to avoid the mombie and daddict hell.

I don't get to bring in my dog to work because there are people who are afraid of dogs (just FYI, my dog is 30 pounds of Corgi who will definitely lick you to death) but I'm not allowed to say "I have an issue with children". So I am not allowed a pupper day because 1 person is afraid of dogs and everyone has to bend to her will but I have a problem with kids and I get completely ignored even though I'm the ONLY IT person on premises.

Welp, have fun fixing your own computers baby brains.

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-My Dad. In a restaurant this weekend where we moved tables because a baby was screaming.

Gems like this are one of the reasons why my brother and I don't want kids.

Growing up and hearing "kids ruin your life" and "...all the fun we had before kids" has an impact on you.

My Mum is in denial about my childfree wishes. This latest comment implies he hasn't got the memo. I wonder if he will also be sad, or glad we took all his backhanded comments as life advice...

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Just a small rant I thought of while setting here watching Y&R. There has never been a female childfree by choice character on a soap opera. That really pisses me off. Because, soaps have begun to incorporate progressive storylines in the past 20 years. Like Stone having AIDS on GH and gay characters on AMC, OLTL, and GH.

But, not once have they thought of writing in a female character that is childfree by choice. It chaps my rear end. Anyone else who happens to be a soap viewer agree that it's time that we be represented? I think Mariah on YR or Hayden on GH would be perfect choices to make CF. If you watch those do you share the same opinion as me?

I Was The Fury posted:

This isn't how I remember Cinderella

Clark Nova posted:

Haven't you ever had anyone do this exact kind of dumb poo poo to you? Consider yourself lucky.

Charles Get-Out posted:

Oh no!!

I[18 M] just found out my GF [19 F] of 1 year has been receiving dick pics

MF_James posted:

What, the suicide/depression? I can see that, it's none of her business, especially since his actual daughter does not feel comfortable with the stepmom. If you mean in general? I'm sure there were plenty, but the fact that he was likely lonely as gently caress will allow him to ignore/overlook a lot of stuff so he doesn't have to deal with crippling loneliness anymore.

Fullhouse posted:

there is exactly one mentally unstable person in that story and it isn't the OP

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Why would you lock up a pumpkin?

ravenkult posted:

What always amazes me in those stories is the family members just relaying the information without comment. ''Yeah my lovely new wife wants to cut you, my only daughter, out of my life.''

Okay....and? You're just saying that? Like if I was in his spot I'd ask for a divorce immediately and probably not even tell my daughter what the wife said because who gives a poo poo, she's nuts.

ravenkult posted:

What always amazes me in those stories is the family members just relaying the information without comment. ''Yeah my lovely new wife wants to cut you, my only daughter, out of my life.''

Okay....and? You're just saying that? Like if I was in his spot I'd ask for a divorce immediately and probably not even tell my daughter what the wife said because who gives a poo poo, she's nuts.

Danaru posted:

Let's peek in on /r/childfree and see how they've been doing.

Why the gently caress is 'bring your kid to work' day appropriate?


I love the implication that they actually did ask if they can bring her dog to work, and someone objected.

La Brea Carpet posted:

I [27 F] confused about the behavior of my married co-worker [37 M].


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNIZofPB8ZM

I thought most people grew out of this in high school?

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Lately, though, he's been acting a bit weird. When I talk to my colleague (who's sitting next to me), he would interrupt us and ask him something about work and when my colleague asks him "Did you want something from me?", he replied "Why would I want something from you?". This happened 3 times. He sometimes talks about topics I like.

Mirthless posted:

lol what the poo poo

it's usually the sadbrains dudes who do this poo poo

"they gave me a piece of chocolate one time and make it a point to include me in team activities, does this mean he's DTF?????"

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

"look i dont wanna hook up with him i just wanna know if hes silently longing after me and now i feel like he isnt???????"

Captain Yossarian posted:

Nice Gandalf AV

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Easy, the epileptic woman takes an uber to his parents house and mercy-s the guy's brother. 5 people suddenly have much better lives, it's like the trolley problem.

That one is really sad. I personally couldn't deal with someone who dropped everything to run over to do an errand for their parents, but the brother makes that situation hard. If his parents can afford a month-long trip to europe they can afford to hire a caretaker for their son.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

don't kinkshame

My [20F] stepmother [50F] learned about my history of depression and wants to cut me off from the family.

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Angie is mine. I will protect her against ANY and ALL threats. I would not have let you speak to Angie if I knew you are mentally unstable. You had a DUTY and a RESPONSIBILITY to tell me, and so did your father. What would happen if you wante to hack up Angie in pieces in the night? Because your father refused to tell me anything about what is going on. I do not want you talking to Angie. You have fed poison in her ears. You turned her against me and (Dad’s name). I will not have mentally unstable people in my family.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

ime a lot of men* have a very hard time being alone, alone in the sense of not having a romantic partner. i think a lot of that is that men aren't really taught how to have any sort of vulnerable intimate connection in any sort of relationship but a romantic one. a lot of times a guy's friends are really basically just drinking buddies or work acquaintances, because our culture teaches boys that emotions aren't okay to show or really admit to having. the one exception to this is with a romantic partner, and without that, it gets very lonely for them very quickly. this dad sounds like he is desperately clinging to this woman and ignoring her massive faults for this reason

*apparently i have to have this disclaimer that this is based on my experiences talking with men who are willing to open up about this sort of stuff, and talking to women who's SOs have expressed these sorts of things because last time a bunch of people freaked out when i said things like this lol

Panfilo posted:

This does make sense, but is this implying there are more women who stay single for protracted periods vs men because they have more people they are comfortable with opening up to. But these guys that are remarrying are doing so with single women, who presumably would rather be in a relationship than be single.

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My lovely, kind fiancé (let's call him Luke) and I will be getting married next year, and we will be inviting all members of our families to the wedding. He has two relatives on his mother's side of the family - his aunt Maureen and his grandmother Shirley who of course will be invited. I am very happy for them to attend, as they are nice and I get along with them, but I am very irritated that Luke and are expected to pay for them to attend.

Now, Shirley and Maureen live together in a council flat and are very very lazy. They have never had jobs before and live on benefits. They refuse to come and visit us (apparently Luke's family used to suggest taking a train but their excuse was 'we don't know how to use trains'), so we always have to go to see them (and Shirley complains if we don't visit often enough). They practically only leave the house to go food shopping - they don't even walk their dog. As such, they will absolutely not make their own way to the wedding.

Now, my lovely MIL-to-be (we shall call her Hannah) has kindly offered to pick Shirley & Maureen up and take them to the wedding, but this would not be fair on her. She would have to miss the end of the reception as they would definitely want to leave early, and I feel that she deserves to enjoy her son's wedding without having to leave early just to drive her mother and sister back to London

So the only other option we can think of is that Luke and I pay for a taxi. The journey there and back will cost us over £100. This may not seem like that much money, but we have just bought a house and are not spending that much on the wedding so it's quite a lot for us. The money is the least of the problem though - if they had graciously asked and made it clear that they appreciated the gesture, that they would love to come but sadly could just not afford it, then yes I would be thrilled to pay for them. But they're not coming because of money (they ABSOLUTELY can afford to take a train and obviously could work out how to get there) - they just simply can't be bothered to make the effort. I'm also annoyed that we just seem to be EXPECTED to pay. When James called Shirley up on his birthday and she congratulated him on the engagement, she said 'how will we get there?' like we had to find a way for them. And quite apart from all that - I also know that they will not enjoy themselves at all!!

The ceremony is to be held in my church, which is not their thing at all. They are heavy chain smokers and I know will hate to spend 40 minutes not being able to smoke. I am a musician so music will be a fairly integral part of the service (hymns, organ music, anthems by the church choir that I'm a member of) and Shirley will dislike it immensely. She once heard 10 seconds of cello music on youtube and said 'turn that racket off!' so I'm pretty sure that this music will be horrible for her as well. I'm worried that she will be vocal about the church music and others will hear (as I have never heard her or Maureen ever speak at a volume below shouting).

I am also worried about the reception as Maureen is an alcoholic, and as we will be providing drinks rather than there being a bar, she will be able to drink whatever she wants for free. Hannah could try to help control her, but again, it should not be her responsibility to chaperone her adult sister at her son's wedding. In the past, Maureen once went to prison for getting in a fight and breaking someone's jaw so I am nervous that if she is asked not to drink too much she could get violent.

They will not want to stay very long. They could always miss the service if it will be too boring for them, but then that means that we would have to pay over £100 for them to spend three hours or so at the wedding!

I've voiced to Luke that I am not happy to pay for them to come of course. He agrees with me but says that he is used to the behaviour of Shirley and Maureen and feels that they may not forgive him if he doesn't, whereas my thoughts are that if they cannot be bothered to make an effort for us, they don't deserve to come. I do not want to get in the way of him and his family so I wouldn't dream of saying anything to them without his blessing, but there has to be another way. Does anyone have any further suggestions as to what to do, or will I really have to just grin and bear it? From an outsider's perspective, am I being selfish or justified in feeling this way?

Thanks in advance!

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

ime a lot of men* have a very hard time being alone, alone in the sense of not having a romantic partner.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

this is true. but (again anecdotally) it seems that more women stay single after a divorce for example, while men tend to get hitched again

i feel like this came up a while back in this thread about why old guys who's wife dies end up remarrying so quickly when you don't see that happening in reverse as much

Werong Bustope posted:

I [23F] do not want to have to pay for two of my fiancé's [29M] relatives [40sF, 70sF] to attend our wedding.

Panfilo posted:

This does make sense, but is this implying there are more women who stay single for protracted periods vs men because they have more people they are comfortable with opening up to. But these guys that are remarrying are doing so with single women, who presumably would rather be in a relationship than be single.

Avenging_Mikon posted:

My best friend broke up with his long term (3+ years) girlfriend a month or two ago, and dude is still breaking down crying over it, despite it being an amicable dissolution of the relationship.

I suspect a part of it is they live in the same building, and still go out for dinner. The guy just cannot NOT be in a relationship. And he's only 27.

ThePeavstenator posted:

literally do nothing, this problem will solve itself

Panfilo posted:

There are a couple other factors with post divorce people. Women are more likely to have custody of kids which affects dating/remarriage compared to a man paying child support and seeing his kids every other weekend. Women are also more likely to be victims of domestic violence and it would make perfect sense if they were more averse to risking marriage with another Abusive guy.

But the lonely man theory is definitely interesting and explains a lot.

Danaru posted:

Let's peek in on /r/childfree and see how they've been doing.

Why the gently caress is 'bring your kid to work' day appropriate?


I love the implication that they actually did ask if they can bring her dog to work, and someone objected.

MF_James posted:

take your kid to work day was cool for me*

*Airlines don't have that, but my father was a pilot so I got to ride jumpseat in the cockpit, or if i was flying with my mom I'd sit in first class and live like a king! Ahhh the 90s and early 00s were a good time to fly.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

it seems like the other half of the equation is really twentysomething women obsessively latching on to random middle-aged sadsacks who cross their path as much as widows/divorcees

nomad2020 posted:

Late, but I'm going to give this guy the benefit of the doubt and say he needs to figure out he doesn't have play caretaker brother anymore. My bet is on the parents having him royally hosed and it being time to move on.

purple death ray posted:

The very early 00s I'm assuming

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Uhh it's okay to be sad when your longterm relationship ends - grief takes time.