boner confessor posted:

no he's right, the south is terrible. it's a cultural and economic desert. please do not move here

I Was The Fury posted:

Me (32f) and my mother-in-law (57f) at odds over my new tattoo.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

the joke is that the whole US is run by racist wealthy aristocrats my dude

(also i know, i lived in the south for 24 years)

frakeaing HAMSTER DANCE posted:

Lol cats don't "learn" it's okay to pee on clothes. There's a medical issue

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When I was 19, I was in a bad car accident that left me with chronic pain and back problems. It took a year of physical therapy before I was able to walk again and my doctors had put me on a cocktail of pain medication and other drugs to help me function normally. I still lived at home with my parents and they supported me and helped drive me to and from my appointments. Besides the car accident, our relationship was completely normal and loving.

A few months later, the pain from the accident still had not subsided and my doctors put me on a long term pain regimen to help me manage the chronic pain. The doctors (plural, because I had multiple specialists involved in my treatment plan) warned me that I might form a dependence on the drugs, but that they didn't have many other options to help me apart from prescribing me pain medication and more physical therapy. A few months after that, I did start to form a dependence on the medication, but my doctors were aware and had little choice in what they could prescribe me. They assured me that as long as I stayed monitored, that I would be in the clear. I later joined a pain management group at the hospital at the advice of my doctor to help me navigate through dealing with the pain, pills, and family, because my situation is a common one.

A year went by and I was able to move into my own apartment and finish my studies. I did have the drug dependence, but I was taking my medication exactly as it was prescribed to me and it wasn't impacting my studies in any way. The only affect that I had was that I would wake up 'needing' to take the pain pill, but I never got high or anything like that off of my medication. I needed it to manage the pain and simply didn't have the option of double dosing to get a buzz, because that would mean going without the medication later in the month.

That Christmas break, I stayed with my parents. I woke up one morning and went to the kitchen for a glass of water to take my medicine and my mom saw me. She freaked out, saying that it had been two years since the accident and that I shouldn't still need pain pills. I told her that I was still seeing my doctors due to the pain and that they had prescribed the pills to me and told me to take them every day. My mom responded by grabbing my pill bottle from me and tossing them down the sink. I freaked out and tried to grab the pills and she turned the garbage disposal on to stop me. I ended up with several minor cuts on my hand from the garbage disposal and my mom used the blood on my shirt to 'prove' to my dad that I had been desperate to grab the drugs. My dad took my mom's side against me.

I told my parents that they were crazy and that they had thrown my prescription down the drain for no reason at all. I couldn't just get a new RX which meant that I would be in agony for the remainder of the month. When I ended up losing my job later that month because I was in too much pain to work, my mom called me to tell me that it was my punishment for a drug addiction.

I cut my parents out of my life and I've been happy for over a decade without them. Last week, my dad emailed me saying that he was sorry for how they treated me and that he wanted to make amends and I have not responded to him yet. I don't know what to tell him without becoming angry and upset over what they did to me. It took years to repair the damage from losing my job and not once did they try to contact me and help me out. Plus, I'm still on a pain medication regimen and I don't want to hear about how I'm still an 'addict' after all these years.

What should I do?

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Our parenting styles clash often: for example, I believe in letting my kid fall down staircases, and my wife doesn't.

boner confessor posted:

i just want white northerners to stop loving moving here

boner confessor posted:

that or a stupendously lazy owner. it takes a lot of lack of effort to gently caress up a cat's natural inclination to piss in a sand box

frakeaing HAMSTER DANCE posted:

Lol cats don't "learn" it's okay to pee on clothes. There's a medical issue

El Golden Goose posted:

Couldn't a big contributor be leaving all the litter boxes in one room? Don't cats like having separate private spaces to do their business in?

PHIZ KALIFA posted:

while me and the rest of the Yankees put vinegar in your BBQ sauce.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

the joke is that the whole US is run by racist wealthy aristocrats my dude

(also i know, i lived in the south for 24 years)

boner confessor posted:

not really, if you're going to have multiple cats or cats that dont get along then you want multiple boxes, meaning it's common enough to keep them in one dedicated room if your life decisions have been unfortunate enough to land you in the situation where you have more than two or three cats

Blotto_Otter posted:

Please feel free to move to North Carolina, those idiot fuckers already think vinegar is BBQ sauce so there's no way to gently caress that place up any worse than it already is

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

lol at pretending there's anything on the East Coast that wouldn't be improved by a neutron bomb

Charles Get-Out posted:

I live in the South and in the state that is arguably in the best position (at least in economy/jobs/growth terms) and it's still pretty bad.

But yeah the North doesn't get to claim any special sort of "not full of racists" prize imho.

Improbable Lobster posted:

The north doesn't have monuments to the CFA

Blotto_Otter posted:

Please feel free to move to North Carolina, those idiot fuckers already think vinegar is BBQ sauce so there's no way to gently caress that place up any worse than it already is

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

bamhand posted:

Cats don't stink if you just use the right litter and clean it. My girlfriend (who's owned cats) literally did not realize the lidded box next to the trash can in my kitchen was a litter box until she saw the cat go in it.

duz posted:

"Honey, why did your cat just throw itself away?"
I'm curious what she thought it was?

VanSandman posted:

And just what do you think is supposed to go in BBQ sauce, you maniac? I bet you make it out of beef like some sort of texan!

bamhand posted:

Cats don't stink if you just use the right litter and clean it. My girlfriend (who's owned cats) literally did not realize the lidded box next to the trash can in my kitchen was a litter box until she saw the cat go in it.

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

yeah no you were both just nose blind your cats make your entire home stink to everyone who isn't a cat owner. same thing with weed, stoners

purple death ray posted:

I don't know why I would let anybody who isn't down with cats and weed in my apartment tbh

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

yeah no you were both just nose blind your cats make your entire home stink to everyone who isn't a cat owner. same thing with weed, stoners

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I don't like cats and the fact they loving stink is a big reason

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My [34 F] parents [60s M/F] want back in my life after kicking me out due to a drug habit that resulted from a medical condition.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Same. Cats are great weed companions, just give them catnip.