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Haifisch posted:My (25/F) boyfriend (28/M) of two years turns every minor topic into a debate. Learn to recognize the prophylactic apology and the argument-ender apology. These apologies only exist so that you're not "allowed" to be mad any more. Hugh did this all the time, so that story is just me going "yep, yep, yep, he's going to keep doing that and it will never stop."
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Pick posted:Learn to recognize the prophylactic apology and the argument-ender apology. These apologies only exist so that you're not "allowed" to be mad any more. Hugh did this all the time, so that story is just me going "yep, yep, yep, he's going to keep doing that and it will never stop." I'm glad we've come to know bitter wheelchair floor painting man on a first-name basis.
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May 8, 2017 18:33
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Dude knocked up a 15 year old and made her get an abortion didn't he? Look on the bright side. At least he didn't knock up a 15yo and force her to keep it (and then inevitably ghost on her). Nazzadan posted:This seems likely. Also adds credence to her not actually being 19 Nah, it was either he made her get an abortion or made her get birth control like an IUD. I can't see someone referring to some paperwork as "had a...procedure..." like that.
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May 8, 2017 18:36
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Haifisch posted:My (25/F) boyfriend (28/M) of two years turns every minor topic into a debate. hot take: it's borderline abusive to share bad ideas with your bf then get mad when he points out they're bad Pick posted:Learn to recognize the prophylactic apology and the argument-ender apology. These apologies only exist so that you're not "allowed" to be mad any more. Hugh did this all the time, so that story is just me going "yep, yep, yep, he's going to keep doing that and it will never stop." But how do you distinguish between someone giving a prophylactic, and someone who honestly thinks they're right but also recognizes a relationship means more than "winning" every argument, which is probably a healthy respectful way to think? maskenfreiheit fucked around with this message at 18:40 on May 8, 2017 |
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May 8, 2017 18:38
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maskenfreiheit posted:hot take: it's borderline abusive to share bad ideas with your bf then get mad when he points out they're bad None of her examples really seem like something anyone should argue over tho, like boss was obviously a dick, it's her business what food she wants to eat, and while yeah you can't stop creeps from sexualizing 15 year olds that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed to pursue their hobbies and interests. He just sounds exhausting.
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May 8, 2017 18:41
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maskenfreiheit posted:But how do you distinguish between someone giving a prophylactic, and someone who honestly thinks they're right but also recognizes a relationship means more than "winning" every argument, which is probably a healthy respectful way to think?
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May 8, 2017 18:42
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Pvt.Scott posted:Yeah. Most dudes of Gor were just sword fodder or menial workers, arguably with less rights than the women! Even in perverted sex fantasies, the Class War rages on
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maskenfreiheit posted:hot take: it's borderline abusive to share bad ideas with your bf then get mad when he points out they're bad Look, my boyfriend told me he would give me venture capital for any business idea I came up with, so he has no right to reneg just because I want to make heelys for dogs!
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May 8, 2017 18:43
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Naerasa posted:Look, my boyfriend told me he would give me venture capital for any business idea I came up with, so he has no right to reneg just because I want to make heelys for dogs! One of my favorite sagas.
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May 8, 2017 18:48
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ArbitraryC posted:None of her examples really seem like something anyone should argue over tho, like boss was obviously a dick, it's her business what food she wants to eat, and while yeah you can't stop creeps from sexualizing 15 year olds that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed to pursue their hobbies and interests. I might have a unique perspective since I have a background in policy, but I think people underestimate how bad online abuse can be. I think it's totally valid for him to express concern for these young women. That being said, her saying they can turn off comments and will require parental permission is probably a pretty easy fix. Also I may be bringing in my own baggage, but I really dislike being "talked at" by partners, and I think while mansplaining is a big issue, being expected to sit passively and do nothing but nod and give affirmation is equally insufferable. ArbitraryC posted:If you think you're right 100% of the time you're probably wrong most of it. No, if someone raises something I didn't account for I go "oh, good point, I didn't think of that". I'm wrong a lot of the time, but if I don't understand why someone thinks their position is right I'll asked a few questions. I've found phrasing things as questions works a lot better. Example: "What if people leave lewd comments on the youtube?" vs "That's a bad idea - people will leave lewd comments" maskenfreiheit fucked around with this message at 18:52 on May 8, 2017 |
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May 8, 2017 18:49
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maskenfreiheit posted:
You're stupid. I'm sorry I said that. You're stupid though. Dumb as a brick shithouse mortared in turds. Sorry.
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May 8, 2017 18:49
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kickstarter proves that rollder skates for dogs is completely viable as a business plan. like duh, obviously, i'm sorry we live in a world where that's true, but pet spending is one of the few areas that never decreases and there's only so much a person can humiliate their cat with bow ties
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May 8, 2017 18:51
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i can tell im dumb because heelys for dogs sounds amazing
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May 8, 2017 18:53
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Goddamnit
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May 8, 2017 18:55
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When you film yourself doing this to your dog, please use your full legal name in the video title.
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May 8, 2017 18:56
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also there's a huge amount of spending that boils down to "thing person will use 1 time and it doesn't work that good so it collects dust forever" and by god dog roller skates are going to be one of those things and he missd the boat and now his wife is going to nag him about the millions they lost, for years and years
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Narcissist: Me [33f], have fallen in love with another man and need advice on whether to leave my husband[30m]. quote:u/Thrownaway3355 From the comments: quote:
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May 8, 2017 18:57
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maskenfreiheit posted:Also I may be bringing in my own baggage, but I really dislike being "talked at" by partners, and I think while mansplaining is a big issue, being expected to sit passively and do nothing but nod and give affirmation is equally insufferable.
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May 8, 2017 18:57
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Barudak posted:When you film yourself doing this to your dog, please use your full legal name in the video title. as a libertarian i feel that the government shouldn't be involved in a dog's decision to wear heelys on their own property
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May 8, 2017 18:58
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Haifisch posted:My (25/F) boyfriend (28/M) of two years turns every minor topic into a debate. I dated this person for three months and they ended up hitting me and storming out because we had differing opinions on cinnamon and I gave up instead of arguing, which is what he wanted to do. I "didn't have enough passion" for him. Passion against cinnamon.
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Milotic posted:Narcissist: Why leave him? It's worked for two years
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May 8, 2017 19:01
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maskenfreiheit posted:hot take: it's borderline abusive to share bad ideas with your bf then get mad when he points out they're bad Are you the lovely boyfriend here and if so, why didn't you also defend your excellent restaurant behavior?
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May 8, 2017 19:01
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ArbitraryC posted:I mean for some examples yeah, like I dated someone that would have an easy to fix problem, make no effort to fix it, complain to me about said problem constantly, and get huffy if I suggested they go with the easy solution, that poo poo's exhausting and everyone ends up unhappy. In her example tho her boss literally made a mistake and reamed her for it, there's literally no reason to defend the boss or do anything other than say "that poo poo sucks, did she at least apologize?". It's not a scenario that requires advice or fixing and he certainly shouldn't have taken the boss' side. to be honest i was half paying attention and didn't see the other two, egregious examples - just the ballet one. Anyone who wants to tell you the correct food to order is weirdly controlling. Also anyone who doesn't understand the difference between wanting validation (yeah that's lovely) and sharing an actual idea is not a good match.
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Barudak posted:Lets make it worse: Breast Reduction My brains not working today, it took a few seconds to get that. Then the horror set in.
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ArbitraryC posted:I mean for some examples yeah, like I dated someone that would have an easy to fix problem, make no effort to fix it, complain to me about said problem constantly, and get huffy if I suggested they go with the easy solution, that poo poo's exhausting and everyone ends up unhappy. In her example tho her boss literally made a mistake and reamed her for it, there's literally no reason to defend the boss or do anything other than say "that poo poo sucks, did she at least apologize?". It's not a scenario that requires advice or fixing and he certainly shouldn't have taken the boss' side. Hell, sympathizing with a boss at all is a red flag, imo. Solidarity. "The boss has to yell to manage the office well" like gently caress off out of here, that's not how poo poo works.
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Milotic posted:Me [33f], have fallen in love with another man and need advice on whether to leave my husband[30m]. You know, sometimes I wish if things like this were proven in a court of law they could put on your drivers license just below height and eye color "Bad Person"
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Barudak posted:You know, sometimes I wish if things like this were proven in a court of law they could put on your drivers license just below height and eye color "Bad Person" The issue is that the sex is seriously lacking, both in frequency and quality. It's the husbands fault
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I like how she has a 2 year ongoing affair where she has great sex with this other guy (that's likely exciting in large part do the taboo) and turns around and complains about the frequency/passion of her sex life with her actual husband as if the two have nothing to do with each other. Maybe you'd be loving your husband more often and more passionately if you weren't diverting all your emotional and physical energy into a second relationship, just a thought.
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Listen, I aint sayin we cant have criminal neighbors, no offense George, Im just sayin I dont want one o' them bad types moving in and ruckusing up the place.
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WampaLord posted:Hell, sympathizing with a boss at all is a red flag, imo.
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ArbitraryC posted:I like how she has a 2 year ongoing affair where she has great sex with this other guy (that's likely exciting in large part do the taboo) and turns around and complains about the frequency/passion of her sex life with her actual husband as if the two have nothing to do with each other. Maybe you'd be loving your husband more often and more passionately if you weren't diverting all your emotional and physical energy into a second relationship, just a thought. Well she also frames staying with him ( probably still loving that dude though) as a favor to him so she has some issues.
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The SO that insists that sometimes you have to yell to make an inferior perform correctly is not a good SO, especially if they yelled this, at you e: and APRICOT CHICKEN DOESN'T GO WITH TURNIP GREENS YOU MISERABLE WHORE. DON'T YOU DARE ORDER OR ENJOY THAT Pick fucked around with this message at 19:13 on May 8, 2017 |
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Pick posted:The SO that insists that sometimes you have to yell to make an inferior perform correctly is not a good SO, especially if they yelled this, at you But what do you expect them to do? Just listen passively while being talked at and agree with everything? Seems like nonsense to me and furthermore my expertise on policy gives me a unique insight into
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how dare you order a meal with what I project is a substandard flavour profile
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Pick posted:The SO that insists that sometimes you have to yell to make an inferior perform correctly is not a good SO, especially if they yelled this, at you
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May 8, 2017 19:18
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Well you can't hit them anymore so what are you supposed to do
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Also, don't argue with someone who knows and likes horses about what a "pony" is. It's not a baby horse. Don't argue with me that it's a baby horse! It's not a baby horse! A baby horse is a foal (genderless), a filly (female), or a colt (male). Why are you still arguing with me and saying you think I'm wrong? Look, we're heading to the stables, to meet my friend, who has a horse, and there will also be a pony there, but that pony is not a baby horse. It is an adult pony. Yes, I know what I'm talking about!! You say you've never even touched a horse!
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Blue Train posted:Well you can't hit them anymore so what are you supposed to do Don't hit your partners, people jfc. That's what children are for. Me [26F] dating a guy [27M] and he told me this weekend that he will 100% be physically disciplining his future children. Relationships quote:236 points 224 comments submitted 10 months ago by Whywiththespanking to r/relationships Never stop never stopping (hitting your children)
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I didn't think I could possibly care any less about horses but well
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