fruit on the bottom posted:

Monsanto!

I [26M] just got married to 24F yesterday...I want a divorce.

Pick posted:

That's not what Home Ec really was, but I agree because people should know how to do laundry properly. Delicates bags for your bras, people! This isn't rocket science!

Pick posted:

Learn how to make murrfins from scratch. If you can't do this you sucken me.

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u/ColoradoWookHunting

This girl I've known since 2014. We were super close for a while, but then drifted apart in early 2016. We never were together or did anything sexual. I never even made a move because at the time, I was kind of one of those NiceGuys that were too afraid to make a move, but pined after her, but didn't want to ask her out or do anything cause I was afraid to. Anyway, we kind of stopped talking to each other around March of 2016. We'd see each other around here and there at parties and make small talk, but that's about it.

Anyway, we ran into each other again at a festival last Saturday (the 29th). We were both a bit drunk and didn't give a gently caress. I decided to be extra flirty and physical, which she seemed to reciprocate. She even said that her phone number is still the same and to hit her up sometime.

Anyway, I texted her the Monday after that Saturday, saying it was good to see her, and asked her how she was. She asked me how I was and where I am staying at. I replied back telling her what's up. She didn't reply back to that text message until 24 hours later. She then went on to tell me how she likes that I'm doing so well and how I am doing a lot of great things.

I then follow up asking if she wants to catch up and hang out sometime soon and that I was going to be out of town this Friday. She said she would like to, and proceeded to give me her schedule, and she suggested that we have dinner sometime after work. I then told her I'd text her when I get back from out of town. She followed up with "Sweet. Sounds good!" Meaning that she sounded very interested, hence telling me her schedule and even suggesting an activity.

Well, last night I texted her saying "Hey, I'm back from [Sate]. How was your weekend?" I was planning on following it up with a plan sometime this week. She said this morning "I'm doing good. How was Colorado?! Are you down to get dinner tonight?"

I have no idea what to say. I left my wallet on the drat plane. If I tell her the truth she will either think I am a cheap gently caress, or I am a loser who accidentally loses poo poo. I have no idea what to do and I just want to crawl into a hole and die.

TL:DR; Friend wants to have dinner tonight. I lost my wallet with my bank card and money. I'll get it figured out Wednesday or Thursday. Can't do nothing now. HELP!! I AM FREAKING OUT!

Barudak posted:

Good Home Ec included a mixture of actual no fooling financial advice since a wife would be balancing the family expenditures as well as ye olde lyfhakes

Ouhei posted:

So he figured they should get married because they have conservative parents, but his parents didn't want them to get married? It's always so confusing when people make such stupid loving decisions with their lives.

fruit on the bottom posted:

Maximum dweebage

I [27/M] left my wallet on the plane now I have to blow off the girl I REALLY like [25/F]. HELP ME!!

Barudak posted:

I 100% unironically blame movies and television for this, much like the Im keeping my baby for no goddamn concievable reason.

When everything you consume has this, its drat hard to not assume its what youre supposed to do.

Pick posted:

Wives don't do this any more. No one does this any more. There's no point in doing this any more. The average couple is in up to their rear end in student debt and might as well be in more debt from buying stupid garbage they don't need so they are forever beholden to their credit lords. grandpa

Barudak posted:

I 100% unironically blame movies and television for this, much like the Im keeping my baby for no goddamn concievable reason.

When everything you consume has this, its drat hard to not assume its what youre supposed to do.

Pick posted:

Wives don't do this any more. No one does this any more. There's no point in doing this any more. The average couple is in up to their rear end in student debt and might as well be in more debt from buying stupid garbage they don't need so they are forever beholden to their credit lords. grandpa

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Last week my girlfriend stopped at her friends place and was talking to some guy she had recently befriended throughout the night. Even though she says that she brought up our relationship to him he went in to kiss her at one point in the night and she rejected him. After a couple of days, she bumped into him and he insulted her in front of all of his friends. Both times I wasn't there and couldn't immediately react but how should I go about dealing with this guy? Even though he did make a move on her I'm not looking to start a fight with this guy since we live in a small town and we have mutual friends. Would a text calling him out suffice or should I look to talk with him in person?
tl;dr: Guy hit on and insulted my girlfriend when I wasn't around, not sure how to deal with him.

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unless you wont to come across as an immature hot head, dont do anything.

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...you don't? Why on earth do you think this has anything to do with you? You don't need to "call him out" or talk to him. If it happens again, your girlfriend can tell him "Look, that's not ok for you to say to me". Both of you should avoid contact with him, since he's obviously a jerk. You don't need to get involved in someone else's conflict. Let your girlfriend handle herself.

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You don't? I'd just drop it. If it's a reoccurring thing and your girlfriend needs help I'm sure she will vocalize this to you.

Pick posted:

TheScott2K posted:

My wife does most of the shopping during the day while I'm at work. I swipe my card maybe three times a week. As a result, she keeps an eye on the finances and handles what bills get paid and when. Shes the best wife and an amazing mother to our little girl, too.

Pick posted:

are u suggesting "knocked up" is a poo poo garbage movie for trash fire losers, barudak?!

Pick posted:

are u suggesting "knocked up" is a poo poo garbage movie for trash fire losers, barudak?!

WampaLord posted:

I'm frankly amazed that movie even brought up the concept of abortion.

Pick posted:

I take very close care of my money, and for this reason I was referred to by an unbecoming nickname for a while, to brand me for my stinginess and care. Well who's laughing now??

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u/thegraymaninthmiddle

Would it be wrong of me to message him before hand about boundaries and stuff? I trust my girlfriend and don't think she'll cheat on me but I can't help but get nervous about this. It doesn't help that she's told me she doesn't think he has feelings for her, but I think she knows. She's kind of the only friend he has.

Is it lovely of me to be worrying about this? Or am I an idiot for being ok with it at all?

She has other people sharing the same apartment, one of which I know pretty well and am on good terms with, but they both refuse to share a room. Should I try talking to them about this? I don't want them to tell her though and make it seem like I totally don't trust her.

Tl;Dr Is this a totally unfair situation for me? Or am I being distrustful and unecessary to worry about it?

Barudak posted:

I dont think Im being so soft spoken about it to be construed as a suggestion, no.

Blue Train posted:

What's the nickname

Pick posted:

It's anti-Semitic so no.

Pick posted:

It's anti-Semitic so no.

TheScott2K posted:

I can't figure out if people are less functionally literate now or if the internet is just exposing a lot of people's fragile grasp on the written language that has always existed.

fruit on the bottom posted:

My (18 M) girlfriend (18 F) of 3 years is most likely going to be roommates with a dude that has romantic feelings for her

Barudak posted:

She is going to gently caress his brains out, preemptively start working out and getting new hobbies so youll be ready to hit the dating market once its over.

Barudak posted:

She is going to gently caress his brains out, preemptively start working out and getting new hobbies so youll be ready to hit the dating market once its over.

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la_bromita• 3h
Messaging him first about boundaries will potentially come across as jealous and controlling, like you can't let your girlfriend speak for herself. A boundary that you set against this roommate is really only enforceable by the action of your girlfriend. You can't enforce it yourself, and any attempt you make will be received as a threat by the roommate and your girlfriend.

I encourage you to deconstruct your feelings around this issue. Here are some thoughts:

Perhaps this roommate has feelings for your girlfriend. So? Does that inherently present a threat to your relationship? Does that mean that she will leave you for him? Are you feeling afraid that he will communicate those feelings to her? Are you feeling jealous that she will be living with him and not you?

Worst case: what if she does end up leaving you for him? What can you do right now to prevent that outcome? Will talking to the roommate and attempting to set boundaries prevent that? How would your girlfriend feel about that? What if there is nothing you can do, and her leaving you is how this ends regardless of what you do?

Consider that perhaps a better strategy is being the best boyfriend you can be. Consider that her living with this person presents no inherent threat and causes no damage to your relationship, and so any concern you have about it exists only within the realm of your anxiety about the outcome. Is it possible that your anxiety over this potential outcome will create what you fear?

TL;DR: relax

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thegraymaninthmiddle • 2h
Dude, thanks so much. I needed to hear this. Thanks for giving me some level headed advice that offers more than RED FLAG RED FLAG, GET THE HELL OUT!

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la_bromita• 2h
Thanks for saying so!! I really hope this turns out well! It sounds like she really matters to you.

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thegraymaninthmiddle• 2h
She does. Our relationship has been in a rocky place and we've recently started really being together again and it's been feeling more normal and fun than it has in so long. I'm excited about everything.

And you're right, all this paranoia only serves to hurt that bond we've started rebuilding as of late.

And she did ask me if I was ok with it and I said yes, as long as she was willing to keep some boundaries with him and she said she was. Acting on this fear that she's hiding all this poo poo from me is just unhealthy for both of us and will only hurt our relationship.

Three Olives posted:

accept that it's over.

Barudak posted:

Cant move in with my boyfriend of 3 years, but can move in with a different dude who wants to jump my bones is odd, I feel like we need more details.

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My significant other and I have been together for over 4 years now, and throughout our whole relationship we have loved and admired each other to the full extent. We still act like giddy teenagers in love. We have a huge age difference and neither of us notice it...we just honestly love each other, and i'm convinced the age gap has even helped us stay interested.(I know that sounds cheesy).

I am 25 and my man is 43. He is extremely handsome, smart, funny, strong, etc etc etc. And he is a successful business man. However, my family hates him and at one point convinced me he was an awful person (near the beginning of the relationship) because they didn't like or approve of the age gap. I soon found out none of what they were saying to me was truthful, and majority was way over-exaggerated out of worry. I did the snooping myself to come to this conclusion, with no help from my boyfriend or family.
I have never caught him lying/cheating. The only issues he has is anger, but would never be violent towards me, and what man doesn't have anger issues right?

However, no matter if it's been 2 months or 4 years there is part of me that doesn't want to believe he is telling me everything about his life...I don't know why, but I keep wanting to catch him in this big lie. I don't know if it is because of my family's input early on in our relationship, or just me being overly-cautious of my heart. Either way I can't ignore it anymore, but I don't know what to do without feeling like an OAG(Overly Attached Girlfriend).

There are a things about him that I find hard to believe: 1. He states that he sometimes helps out with FBI/GOV. things...because of his shotokan skills. I know he has amazing shotokan skills as I have seen them, and he is a 10dan master black belt...which is crazy. He trained his whole life though practically. He can also speak arabic, farsi, urdu, and hindi. So it's not impossible that he is involved in government things, but I can't help but be suspicious when he is gone for days at a time or over-night.

He told me at one point he had gotten a yacht, and then also told me at one point he got a suuuuuuuuuper expensive car, however I never saw either of these in real life. The car is apparently over-seas because that is where it was assembled and it wasn't matching up with the American regulations of blah blah blah, and the yacht he sold for reasons I'd rather not go into because it was my fault he didn't want to keep it.

I KNOW he is not cheating on me for a fact..because he is CONSTANTLY in contact with me, and if I look through his phone there is never anything that points towards another woman. It is all just business stuff. He always answers my calls too, and there is always the way he looks at me...

Reddit please help me understand why I have this suspicion all the time. It's almost like he's too good to be true because he's perfect for me, but I don't want to believe it...I want to find something hugely wrong with him. WHY? Do you think my gut instinct is right and maybe there is something he isn't telling me/something he is lying to me about? What should I do about this? Should I look into technology to snoop his phone, etc? Just to calm my nerves?

Tl;Dr- Been with bf four years. Part of me is still very suspicious that he is too good to be true. Don't know what to do to kill the suspicion.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

feel like this could be said to anyone who just turned 18 and has been in a HS relationship tbh

dudeness posted:

I know he isn't cheating, but I can't help feeling he is hiding things from me.