Pick posted:

I find being a selfish shithead xtremely empowering so

Axolotl posted:

After 30, women turn into shriveled, grossly misshapen crones and are unfit for marriage.

ranbo das posted:

In Japan apparently once you hit 26 as a girl you basically have 0 shot of marriage because you're considered too old.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

But they are only viewed as selfish shitheads by people less enlightened from social media algorithms.

Or something.

ranbo das posted:

In Japan apparently once you hit 26 as a girl you basically have 0 shot of marriage because you're considered too old.

Axolotl posted:

They call them "Christmas cakes" or some poo poo like that, right?

ranbo das posted:

In Japan apparently once you hit 26 as a girl you basically have 0 shot of marriage because you're considered too old.

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I [34F] totally realize that this is my issue but I can't help it and the don't know how to get over it. My cousin [33F] has 3 kids [M ages 4-7] and she is still breastfeeding all 3 of them. It isn't just an occasional thing, it happens between 6 to 12 times a day/night for each of them. It's not just comfort sucking either. She actually still makes milk, I've seen it. She says she will continue to breastfeed until the kids no longer want to. There are no developmental delays or anything with any of the boys and they are a middle class American family that can afford proper food and nutrition (not from a developing country that lacks adequate nutrition)

I know breast is best. I know breast milk is beneficial. I don't get squicked out when I see babies breastfeeding, but for some reason I get an icky feeling when I see her older kids do it, whether we are out in public or at her home, my home or the home of a family member. I have never said a word to her about this or told her how I feel. I know this is all on me but no matter what I do I can't shake the squicky, gross feeling. I don't want this to effect my relationship with her or my family.

tl;dr My cousin is still breastfeeding her 3 sons (ages 4 to 7) several times a day. It squicks me out and no matter what I do I can't get over or change how I feel, even though I do want to change.

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She is very anti-big pharma and thinks society is over medicalized. I am fairly certain she is anti-vaccine although I have never asked her because I don't want to open that can of worms.

To be fair, although I disagree with her not taking them to a doctor (she didn't get prenatal care for her pregnancies and gave birth at home as well) the kids have never been seriously sick or broken a bone or anything like that. I would definitely say something in that case but I know people can get very defensive about parenting choices and I don't want to cause a rift or close my relationship with them. Even though it is definitely not what I would choose if I ever had kids.

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She is very much into attachment parenting (no prenatal care pregnancy, homebirth, anti-vaccine, extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping and the family bed, unschooling/homeschooling, no hitting and gentle discipline). She is a member of a very popular attachment parenting website and follows all the ideals from there. Even though I am not a mom I don't agree with it myself.

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They don't go to school, she home schools them. The only kids they know also have mom's who breastfeed past when they are babies so the kids don't know any better. She tells them they can stop whenever they want but they don't seem to want to. Like I said I know I am the one with the issue and I may also be projecting onto them.

purple death ray posted:

Yup, nobody wants a Christmas cake past the 25th. Leads to all kinds of sad things like late 20s women posing in school uniforms with stuffed animals trying to look like children so someone might marry them.

Pick posted:

You should not be breastfeeding a seven year old.

Pick posted:

I'll trade you three nonprivilege points for two Toosie Rolls and first dibs on the monkey bars

SpaceClown posted:

Give 1 (one) reason why that isn't based in arbitrary cultural bias.

Haifisch posted:

Pictured: An OP trying way too hard to pretend this is okay so they don't have to do anything about it.

I [34F] get uncomfortable when my cousin [33F] breastfeeds her older kids [M ages 4-7] around me and I don't know how to get over it.

SpaceClown posted:

Give 1 (one) reason why that isn't based in arbitrary cultural bias.

SpaceClown posted:

Give 1 (one) reason why that isn't based in arbitrary cultural bias.

Pick posted:

You should not be breastfeeding a seven year old.

Avenging_Mikon posted:

There's no biological reason to, as nutrients and anti-bodies aren't required from the mother's milk, if they're eating other things, and the continual sucking can deform jaw and teeth development.

SpaceClown posted:

i like to think japan is ahead of the curve and soon everywhere will be 90% of boys will be NEETs too afraid to talk to girls and 90% of girls will refuse to talk to the gross NEET boys. everyone will be super aloof and all of our characters in our films and tv shows will be hyper exaggerated as a high pressure relief valve because we're too emotionally suppressed in our day to day lives.

Pick posted:

Blue Train posted:

I was an altar boy and my jaw and teeth are fine

Faffel posted:

I thought that was quite obviously the way the world is going, tbh. As people start to feel more and more redundant, how do you feel enough worth to even present yourself to someone you would consider a worthy mate? What value could you offer in a world where all your needs are met before you even really need to turn any attention to them?

Suicide culture seems to be becoming more and more popular too. Western society is pretty self-obsessed, but we really seem to be losing our resilience to the unfortunate facts of reality and how unimportant an individual truly is.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Bet your rear end is blown out like an old tyre, though.

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

Are there any social media "celebrity" families that aren't completely dysfunctional?

I [22F] am seriously scared by my fiance [21M] he is saying horrible things about me and our son [1M], I am 8 months pregnant

Faffel posted:

I thought that was quite obviously the way the world is going, tbh. As people start to feel more and more redundant, how do you feel enough worth to even present yourself to someone you would consider a worthy mate? What value could you offer in a world where all your needs are met before you even really need to turn any attention to them?

purple death ray posted:

Kids shouldn't be sucking on anything once their teeth are starting to come in, you'll gently caress them up.

Three Olives posted:

Japan has loser manchildren like the US, right? Why not just pair up the old women that can't find a man with the loser men that can't find a woman. I mean I guess you should sterilize them both, you don't want them breeding and spreading their loser genes but they would probably be happy or at least getting laid.

Three Olives posted:

Japan has loser manchildren like the US, right? Why not just pair up the old women that can't find a man with the loser men that can't find a woman. I mean I guess you should sterilize them both, you don't want them breeding and spreading their loser genes but they would probably be happy or at least getting laid.

SpaceClown posted:

neither of them want each other.

Three Olives posted:

That's why they are forced to marry each other, I mean it's not like they have anything else going for them except bumming everyone out.

If the 26 year old woman had lowered her standards low enough she would be 26 facing a lifetime of loneliness, sorry, you are stuck with this one now.

Pick posted:

wow you loving suck

Pick posted:

It's pretty clear that what most people are missing is love and affection, which almost everyone can offer provided there's a opossum under their truck which is blocking the route of escape. You could have thrown your Rockstar at it, but you made a terrible mistake...

Pick posted:

Why the hell would you assume they were happy? Like, to you, apparently happy = getting laid and owning a Keurig and yelling at children laughing outside, but to normal people, it requires feelings like affection and caring.

ClamdestineBoyster posted:

Lol.

Haifisch posted:

Pictured: An OP trying way too hard to pretend this is okay so they don't have to do anything about it.

I [34F] get uncomfortable when my cousin [33F] breastfeeds her older kids [M ages 4-7] around me and I don't know how to get over it.

Pick posted:

It's pretty clear that what most people are missing is love and affection, which almost everyone can offer provided there's a opossum under their truck which is blocking the route of escape. You could have thrown your Rockstar at it, but you made a terrible mistake...