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Lets ignore everything about how this an admission he owes you child support in arrears and how you should have destroyed his life earlier. Right now what your daughter needs is a role model. And the best role model is a parent who is there, loving, unconditional, and who will destroy anyone who would harm her children so you need to get that money and never talk to him outside a courtroom.
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Is there a legal way to tell him to pay the child support he owes and then gently caress off forever?
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My (26F) boyfriend (28M) brushes his teeth too loud.quote:No seriously, I know this is stupid. I have 1000% sympathy for this woman.
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May 11, 2017 20:55
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zakharov posted:Is there a legal way to tell him to pay the child support he owes and then gently caress off forever? His name is on the birth certificate and she has written evidence he is aware he didnt pay child support so, yes, yes she can.
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May 11, 2017 20:55
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Three Olives posted:She named her child Faith, clearly the father would be a better parent. At least it wasn't "Destiny"?
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May 11, 2017 20:56
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new phone who dis posted:At least it wasn't "Destiny"? The worst ones still missing to connect four of "indicate poor socioeconomic upbringing" are Chastity and Nevaeh.
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May 11, 2017 20:58
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Barudak posted:His name is on the birth certificate and she has written evidence he is aware he didnt pay child support so, yes, yes she can. This isn't really true. He owes the money, but that doesn't terminate his legal rights as a parent.
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May 11, 2017 20:58
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dudeness posted:My (26F) boyfriend (28M) brushes his teeth too loud. This is me. I'm loving horrifying. I floss, brush my tongue, brush my TONSILS, get q-tips to squeeze out tonsil stones, gagging like a rottweiler the entire time. It's not uncommon for me to throw up at some point, so I try to do this on an empty stomach. Then I water-pik and finish it off with mouthwash. I do this twice daily. I'm seriously wondering if I have a disorder.
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May 11, 2017 21:02
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Transistor Rhythm posted:This is me. I'm loving horrifying. I floss, brush my tongue, brush my TONSILS, get q-tips to squeeze out tonsil stones, gagging like a rottweiler the entire time. It's not uncommon for me to throw up at some point, so I try to do this on an empty stomach. Then I water-pik and finish it off with mouthwash. I do this twice daily. I'm seriously wondering if I have a disorder. is that oral hygiene or a torture regimen
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May 11, 2017 21:04
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new phone who dis posted:This isn't really true. He owes the money, but that doesn't terminate his legal rights as a parent. It doesnt, but it massively helps her case for continued sole custody.
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May 11, 2017 21:05
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At the absolute minimum, meeting the daughter should be off the table until he's taken care of the back owed amount.
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May 11, 2017 21:05
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fruit on the bottom posted:At the absolute minimum, meeting the daughter should be off the table until he's taken care of the back owed amount. It's not up to her, unfortunately. Unless she went through the legal hoops to get his parental rights terminated no court is going to let her withhold visitation for that reason. Eventually it will all probably end up in court with his wages garnished and probably supervised visitation but since the mom made no legal moves of her own for 5 years including seeking support her options are going to be limited. I will say in the dude's favor that an apology, a huge check, and a willingness to cooperate are pretty much the only way you come back from something like that.
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May 11, 2017 21:09
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Either he's serious about making amends or not. In either scenario the right thing to do is ream him for every cent.
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May 11, 2017 21:11
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barudak seems to have a trigger re: alimony admit it, you're Jake Cherry
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May 11, 2017 21:12
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Transistor Rhythm posted:This is me. I'm loving horrifying. I floss, brush my tongue, brush my TONSILS, get q-tips to squeeze out tonsil stones, gagging like a rottweiler the entire time. It's not uncommon for me to throw up at some point, so I try to do this on an empty stomach. Then I water-pik and finish it off with mouthwash. I do this twice daily. I'm seriously wondering if I have a disorder. You definitely have something
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May 11, 2017 21:18
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P-Mack posted:Either he's serious about making amends or not. In either scenario the right thing to do is ream him for every cent. I know a guy who filed a child support claim against himself because he was tired of having a nebulous financial situation with the mother and it worked out for him in the end. That dude should probably do a similar thing because being under a court order to pay X amount in both back pay and current pay would make it almost impossible for her to deny visitation. It sounds like he's trying to go the nice guy route instead of the legal one, which sounds good at first until you realize that you're putting all your faith into an individual you spent 5 years loving over to make the right decision for their kid at the expense of their own personal feelings.
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May 11, 2017 21:18
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Pick posted:barudak seems to have a trigger re: alimony I wish I could be so well placed in life. No, I just grew up knowing lots of kids with deadbeat dads and moms who didnt know their rights/were intimidated by the father.
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May 11, 2017 21:19
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Parenthood is a social construct. Children should be left feral in the street, such that only the strong survive.
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May 11, 2017 21:22
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Barudak posted:His name is on the birth certificate and she has written evidence he is aware he didnt pay child support so, yes, yes she can. In some states the government will pursue the father even if the mother doesn't want do. If she ever used government services for anything then he may be on the hook to pay it all back. I can certainly understand her anger but I say she take small steps to introduce the father to the girl, if anything so the girl doesn't later resent the mother from holding the relationship back. If it were me I'd pay for a lawyer for both of us to discuss terms so that neither of us is taken advantage of.
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:Parenthood is a social construct. Children should be left feral in the street, such that only the strong survive. agreed, all social constructs are illegitimate imo
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May 11, 2017 21:23
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:Parenthood is a social construct. Children should be left feral in the street, such that only the strong survive. Let them drown in pools.
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May 11, 2017 21:27
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I like that he tries to make amends, acknowledges he hosed up, and the threads response is to poo poo all over him, take him for as much as possible, and never let him see the kid. Lol
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May 11, 2017 21:32
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Blue Train posted:I like that he tries to make amends, acknowledges he hosed up, and the threads response is to poo poo all over him, take him for as much as possible, and never let him see the kid. Lol Being taken for as much as possible is literally what amends would be in this scenario.
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May 11, 2017 21:36
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TBH it's a little hosed up that she can get anything, he offered to abort it, she choose to have it anyways and not adopt it out so she should have to pay.
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May 11, 2017 21:36
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Three Olives posted:TBH it's a little hosed up that she can get anything, he offered to abort it, she choose to have it anyways and not adopt it out so she should have to pay. Work a little harder on the trolling.
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May 11, 2017 21:38
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P-Mack posted:Being taken for as much as possible is literally what amends would be in this scenario. Actually a court determines your payments based on the last 5 quarters of earnings. Unpaid support from before the filing is required as back payment. Custody is determined independent of the support case
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May 11, 2017 21:41
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Three Olives posted:TBH it's a little hosed up that she can get anything, he offered to abort it, she choose to have it anyways and not adopt it out so she should have to pay. Wish your parents had aborted you
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May 11, 2017 21:41
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Improbable Lobster posted:Wish your parents had aborted you
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May 11, 2017 21:42
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Is there a special document that you can give when you are turning down child support? It feels like there should be a statute of limitations or something. She knew who the father was, she choose not to contact him or get a court order and now she can get a huge court order for money he didn't think he owed? That's hosed up.
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May 11, 2017 21:43
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Pull up thread, pull up! My [37M] wife [28F] gets mad that I am an early riser. quote:TL;DR: Wife wants to dictate the time I am allowed to get out of bed.
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May 11, 2017 21:44
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Barudak posted:I wish I could be so well placed in life. No, I just grew up knowing lots of kids with deadbeat dads and moms who didnt know their rights/were intimidated by the father. That sucks. families loving over kids is the worst.
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May 11, 2017 21:44
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You can apply whenever and once accepted, goes back retroactively to birth. A woman could file when the child is 16 and the guy would be hit with 16 years of payments off rip
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May 11, 2017 21:45
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Haifisch posted:Pull up thread, pull up! That's insanely early, gently caress him
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Three Olives posted:Is there a special document that you can give when you are turning down child support? It feels like there should be a statute of limitations or something. She knew who the father was, she choose not to contact him or get a court order and now she can get a huge court order for money he didn't think he owed? It's pretty easy to not have a kid as a man
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May 11, 2017 21:46
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If we make it so that the government subsidizes 100% of a womean's sexual health she'll have no compunctions about just tossing that wily pus-pus any which way she wants. Guy's are only more amorous cuz we can bust a nut and flee our obligations dicks in hand so if women had that same power think how much hot young snatch would murder its way inside my house, perching upon my bust of Apollo and screeching out ways i will die (alone, scared) fuuufkcing gently caress i cant WAIT for Sexy Gov't Harpy Future
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May 11, 2017 21:47
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Condoms cost pennies, if you're that scared of child support then wear one or be prepared to actually pay for the life you helped bring into the world.
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May 11, 2017 21:47
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Improbable Lobster posted:It's pretty easy to not have a kid as a man The penis is not to be trusted it will trick you every time
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May 11, 2017 21:48
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Improbable Lobster posted:Condoms cost pennies, if you're that scared of child support then wear one or be prepared to actually pay for the life you helped bring into the world.  " - the traditional song of every guy whining about child support.
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Improbable Lobster posted:Condoms cost pennies, if you're that scared of child support then wear one or be prepared to actually pay for the life you helped bring into the world. Condoms can break, they don't feel as good, woman can take the pill, use an IUD, plan B, have an abortion or adopt out the baby. They both could make the responsible choice not to have the baby, she chose not to do so so I don't see why her choice is on him.
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