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Got banned from the taco bell bathroom but does that mean that I can still come in and order from the mainpart?

there was an unforaunte event where some people were selling drugs in the bathroom there and somehow my name got roped into it even though I had stopped like three weeks before the others got busted and I was then informed that I was no longer allowed to use that restroom for any purposes by the manager and the police sargeant signed it because of strong circumstantial information that I was involved in what was happening there. either way though it's fine by me because i want nothing to do with taht bathroom anyway there are lots of really dangerous people hanng out in there usually but i still want to use the restraunt part of it because i'm on a very tight budget and that place is perfect for keeping within it whilke still eating healthy, anyone know what i'm probably looking at as far as my status as a customer thhere?

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whilke still eating healthy

putrid aidsman posted:

Got banned from the taco bell bathroom

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Reddit, my girlfriend is exploiting my cancer for personal gain and I'm so angry but have no idea what to do.

A little while ago I was diagnosed with Stage 1 cancer which is terrifying, but I was given a rosy outcome by the doctor.

Most of it was removed via surgery, but I am doing a round of chemo just to be safe and reduce the chance of it coming back. Even though the outcome was as good as it could possibly be, this whole thing has completely shaken me. It really flipped me on my head to realize that I could die at any moment, and it seems to have created a shift in my entire thinking. As a result, I'm in a really bad place right now, so I don't know if my rage that this post is regarding is consistent with my normal behavior.

My girlfriend has been super supportive through this whole thing, which is why it's so shocking that she would even CONSIDER doing something like this. For some background, my girlfriend is kind of an enormous Game of Thrones fans.

She has read all of the Game of Thrones books multiple times and went to events and stuff, and she is constantly on forums on reddit and other sites talking about it. This doesn't bother me at all — I have my own obsessions. I have, in the past, asked her if she wanted me to watch the series or read the books and she said I didn't have to. Which is good, because I've never really been into fantasy.

Anyways.

A couple of hours ago I reach for her laptop to print something out and I open Microsoft Word and see that she is currently drafting a letter to George Martin (the writer of Game of Thrones). It starts off as a normal cutesy fan mail but then in the second paragraph it goes on to state that her boyfriend is his biggest fan and has been given 6-8 months to live by his doctor, and that it would "make his life complete" (actual words) to be able to read the next book before I die. She essentially asks if theres any chance he can finish it in time so that her boyfriend can enjoy it before his passing. And she uses my actual name in there. I AM loving LIVID. I don't get how she could use me in this way, or even joke about my death. She could have easily just put her own name in there instead. I guess she didn't think I would mind because she made no effort to hide it or anything, but I just can't loving believe she would be so oblivious to something like this. I deleted the letter in a rage and now I'm actually up and pacing around trying to think what to do. She gets home in 4 hours.

Reddit, is this grounds for breaking up? What do I do?

tl;dr: Girlfriend exaggerated my cancer diagnosis for her own personal gain, and now I'm so angry and hurt I can't see straight.

dudeness posted:

Me [25 M] with my GF [28 F]: Girlfriend is using my cancer for personal gain and I'm furious

Haifisch posted:

My [55F] daughter [17F] backed out of a family trip to be with her boyfriend [18M]

Gee I wonder why the daughter isn't too invested in the family trip.

fruit on the bottom posted:

My [23F] husband [30M] insists on using separate coasters in the living room, is he being unreasonable?

We moved into a new house a few weeks ago, and just bought a pack of coasters this morning. There are four coasters in the pack, each one has a different design. Two are going in the bedroom and two in the living room. We picked out which ones we wanted on our tables in the bedroom, and then he asked me which one I wanted to be mine in the living room. I assumed that we would just share the two coasters in the living room, but he said he wants us to have separate coasters. I thought it was stupid for him to refuse to share the coasters, I don't understand why we can't just use whichever coaster we are closest to.

TL;DR: My husband wants us to use separate coasters in the living room.

fruit on the bottom posted:

My [23F] husband [30M] insists on using separate coasters in the living room, is he being unreasonable?

We moved into a new house a few weeks ago, and just bought a pack of coasters this morning. There are four coasters in the pack, each one has a different design. Two are going in the bedroom and two in the living room. We picked out which ones we wanted on our tables in the bedroom, and then he asked me which one I wanted to be mine in the living room. I assumed that we would just share the two coasters in the living room, but he said he wants us to have separate coasters. I thought it was stupid for him to refuse to share the coasters, I don't understand why we can't just use whichever coaster we are closest to.

TL;DR: My husband wants us to use separate coasters in the living room.

fruit on the bottom posted:

My [23F] husband [30M] insists on using separate coasters in the living room, is he being unreasonable?

We moved into a new house a few weeks ago, and just bought a pack of coasters this morning. There are four coasters in the pack, each one has a different design. Two are going in the bedroom and two in the living room. We picked out which ones we wanted on our tables in the bedroom, and then he asked me which one I wanted to be mine in the living room. I assumed that we would just share the two coasters in the living room, but he said he wants us to have separate coasters. I thought it was stupid for him to refuse to share the coasters, I don't understand why we can't just use whichever coaster we are closest to.

TL;DR: My husband wants us to use separate coasters in the living room.

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The husband... or this is hell of a coincidence. We've spoken about it since, but for reddits benefit, the table in the living room is on one side of the sofa and she sits on that side usually meaning the drinks need to be in certain spots so she can hand my drink to me without knocking hers over, or me getting up, walking in front of her and blocking the tv while I get the drink.

I wanted to know which design she wanted as "her coaster" because I was just putting them on the table and wanted them in the right place... sounds petty maybe because I could move them later, but that's why.

Thumbtacks posted:

I wonder if there are gay incels because I feel like that clashes with their whole worldview

TOOT BOOT posted:

Alopecia boyfriend is a a moron and an rear end in a top hat besides. Most people would probably be happy to be dating a 10/10 even if she only looked that way made up. She probably puts 10x as much effort into her appearance as he does.

pidan posted:

Here's the heartwarming version of alopecia girl:

Breetai posted:

If you value whatever shreds of innocence you still retain do not read the comments.

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So, a little context is important here. My mother has racked up some legal debt from a nasty divorce. Like, 200K and counting in three years. Right after the divorce, she got a 2 year lease on a house for herself, my sister, and I in a nice school district.

Then she met her boyfriend. To pay off her debt, she does 6 shifts a week at an major hospital (Labor and Delivery nurse). And she spends lots of time with BF but not sis and I. So for the past two years she's basically paid for me to raise my sister. I take her to school, cook, manage the "family" house, food shop (she gives me the money), etc. She comes home every 4-10 days to check on us. Maybe a call or text inbetween.

Well I just graduated a few days ago, and I finally had a free evening so I asked my sis if she wanted to grab some italian food at a local place.

She said "I cant, my bra's in the laundry!".

I was like, "Just wear another one! I'm hungry, stop playing dress up and get ready!"

She was like "No, it's my ONLY bra."

"What?"

"Mom won't take me shopping and none of my old ones fit. Well, that one is tight too but at least it closes in the back."

It took me a moment to get past the bizarre nature our conversation had taken.

"Uh, why not just order something on amazon?" (Our closest mall is a ways away)

"Mom won't order online either!"

"Then I'll order it. I'll leave amazon open, order what you want but not more than $100 ok? "

"Thanks bro!"

Well two days passed and I didn't think anything of it. I only use amazon for schoolbooks and games and I didn't bother to check what my sister ordered beyond seeing the receipt in my inbox.

I came home from work today to find my mom standing in the kitchen holding a torn open Amazon bag and two lace panties/bra sets.

"What the gently caress is this?"

I told her.

I should have lied and said the were my GF's. I ain't got one but hey, she doesn't know that.

She proceeded to yell and scream at me for a good hour till she left for work. Pervert. Pedophile. Incestous Lecher. God will throw me in hell etc...

I tried to explain to her what happened, she got angry. She swears I'm accusing her of neglecting her daughter and trying to usurp her role as a parent. She's not even mad at what my sister bought...just that I paid for them.

Just a few minutes ago she called on her break about how she talked to her co worker and now she knows the FBI will track my computer and she doesn't want it in her house now.

I'm at my wits end. I don't know why this is such a big deal for her. I don't know what to say to assure her that nothing weird is happening at home.

tl;dr: I bought my sister underclothes. My mom opened my package and is losing her poo poo over it. Was I wrong and how can I calm her melodramatic tirades down?

Blue Train posted:

Such a horrible woman. at the end of the blind date, she refused to see him again because he was " too nice " and because as she say in this part of the video " he's not tall enough and doesn't have enough hair ". 

Lol if true

chitoryu12 posted:

She was making a joke about how she'd like someone similar to her dad (who was really caring and helped her out with her alopecia), but with more hair to "give their kids a chance".

putrid aidsman posted:

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My sister is finishing up her junior year of high school, and recently our parents (57M + 55F) have begun talking to her about applying to college. According to our parents, she is extremely resistant to these conversations and gives one-word replies the whole way through until she can leave or change the subject. Our parents finally outright confronted her about her plans once she finishes high school, and she told them indignantly that she doesn’t need to go to college because she’s going to be a social media influencer making money from Instagram, Youtube, and Snapchat.

My parents have serious issues with my sister’s decision, and I have to say I agree with them. It would be one thing if my sister didn’t have the grades to get into college as-is, and was planning on taking community college courses to build up her transcript. But my sister has excellent grades and extracurriculars. She could definitely get into great schools that would offer her a lot of opportunities. I would also understand taking a few years off before college or skipping it altogether to pursue steady work that doesn’t require a degree, but my sister won’t be doing that either. She refuses to even consider CC courses or a job because she says they’ll take away time she could use to “promote her brand.” Right now she has a couple thousand followers on Instagram and a few hundred on Youtube—nowhere near enough yet to support herself with money from ads/sponsorship deals.

My parents are at the end of their rope with my sister. Since finding out about her plans, they’ve tried several times to convince her otherwise, but it always ends in either her ignoring them or getting into a bitter argument. I live in the same city as my family and visit them frequently, and now my parents want me to talk to my sister the next time I'm there. I have a good relationship with my sister, but she's never really thought of me as an authority figure, and we have totally different personalities and goals. I fear that whatever I say to her will have even less weight than what my parents say. How do I approach this issue without causing her to immediately shut down?

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My mother [46F] is throwing a fit because I [20M] bought my sister [14F] a bras and underwear on Amazon

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My mother [46F] is throwing a fit because I [20M] bought my sister [14F] a bras and underwear on Amazon

blarzgh posted:

$200K in divorce debt is probably an exaggeration, but if the marital estate didn't pay for it, that means it was all spent on her winning custody of the kids.

She's probably just stressed and ashamed, and at first was worried about whats going on when she can't be there, and later that her son has to raise her daughter.

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My husband and I have been married almost a year and a half. A series of events led to us having a dog, Jessie, pulled from animal control by a rescue on the basis that we would foster her. This was about two months ago. It was a "foster to adopt" type of plan, and we agreed that if she didn't get along with Maggie (our current dog) or if she was aggressive, etc. we would try to get her adopted ASAP. Turns out Jessie and Maggie hit it off and became best friends, and I took an extreme liking to Jessie. So we told the rescue not to post photos of her for adoption so we could continue to feel her out in our home.

Well, weeks turn into months and before I know it I am in love with this dog...our bond is very strong. My husband and I disagree on a lot of training/behavioral stuff and he is an intimidating presence, which led to Jessie being quite timid around him, especially if I am not around. We recently moved and she has been having issues peeing in the house and she's pretty afraid of my husband, won't go up to him on her own, gets low to the ground if he approaches her, etc. We never did have the rescue post photos of her and I firmly want to adopt her ourselves. He has expressed a couple of times that he thinks we shouldn't keep her, but it has always been after she does something that upsets him and I chocked it up to being an emotional response that he would get over. He really hasn't bonded with Jessie, though, and hasn't made much of an effort to.

Thursday night my husband texted me while I was asleep saying Jessie peed in the house (for the second time that week) and that if it happens again "she's gone". I ignored it, realizing that he was probably very upset after having to clean up the mess and being frustrated with her. The next day I get another text from my husband while I was at work saying she peed again and he was contacting the rescue and telling them to post photos of her and put her up for adoption. This completely set me off. I could not even focus at work, I eventually had to leave the office to sob and put myself back together. We have already discussed that this was thoughtless of him to text me during the work day about this issue.

I freaked out on him and later apologized and basically begged him to let me keep Jessie and train her not to go to the bathroom in the house. I give us both time to cool down and then I make my case to him, and all he says is that he is sorry and he knows this will be hard on me. Well I went absolutely batshit. I know it's kind of crazy but I legitimately feel like someone is taking a family member away from me. He keeps saying "it's just a dog" and that I am letting Jessie get in the way of our marriage and I am putting her before him...but I just can't believe that I literally have no say in this. He has made this decision all on his own with no regard for how connected I am to the dog. And I blame him for not being able to connect with her himself, because of the way he has treated her. She is a sensitive dog and I have told him that he needs to treat her as such, but of course he doesn't listen to me. In my eyes he is reaping what he sowed with Jessie.

I don't even know what I am asking for here on r/relationships. I guess, am I crazy? Am I crazy to be so upset about this? I feel like I am married to a jerk. I also feel like I am spiraling completely, the emotions I am feeling over this are so heavy and I can't really place them. I think my reactions are very extreme, and that maybe I have a little too much attachment with this dog. I see no way to keep the dog and have our marriage be healthy (we already have a lion share of marital problems) but I also feel that if we give the dog up, I don't know when or how I will be able to forgive my husband.

Tldr; we agreed to foster a dog as a trial to adopt, I love the dog very much but husband doesn't want to keep her. I am feeling hatred and resentment toward him for not considering how I feel about this and for not bonding with the dog himself.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My (25F) husband (29M) wants to get rid of our dog and it's making me hate him

My husband and I disagree on a lot of training/behavioral stuff and he is an intimidating presence, which led to Jessie being quite timid around him, especially if I am not around. We recently moved and she has been having issues peeing in the house and she's pretty afraid of my husband, won't go up to him on her own, gets low to the ground if he approaches her, etc.

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My partner and I adopted our son, Troy. Troy is 3 years old and he's been with us about a month now. My partner really likes combat sports like UFC and WWE. WWE is more a TV show I think. I don't know what you classify it as.

Anyway Troy likes wwe. About an hour ago he was falling asleep so I took him to bed. They were watching a WWE ppv. Takeover Chicago. I told him he can watch it in the morning. He was falling asleep and struggling to keep his eyes open. He fell asleep while I was carrying him before we made it to his room.

She keeps calling me a buzzkill for taking him to bed on time. I'm so over it.

tl;dr: partner keeps calling me a buzzkill.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My (25F) husband (29M) wants to get rid of our dog and it's making me hate him

Hot Dog Day #91 posted:

Could have been defrauding the martial estate!