Pick posted:

The telegraph would have been invented sooner.

Pick posted:

The telegraph would have been invented sooner.

Dead Reckoning posted:

IDK, they've been doing it that way in the middle east for centuries.

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Me [20F] with my boyfriend [ 27M] of 2 years, he's lost his mind because he thinks I used to have nipple piercings? (Nsfw?)Relationships

So this is such a weird situation. I've been dating Ryan for 2 years now. He is the only guy I've ever dated. He's seen my breasts plenty of times before so I don't know why he's suddenly gotten this idea. We even live together so this whole thing is just even more ridiculous..

For the record I have never had nipple piercings but I did used to have a lot of facial piercings when I first met Ryan.

Now for context I have pretty bumpy areolas. I didn't consider it weird at all as I've seen other girls that have the same kind. So the other day we were fooling around at home and he stops and just like gets his face really close to my chest but he wasn't doing anything? Just staring.. And so I asked him if anything was wrong and he points at my nipples and says "What the gently caress are these bumps on the side right here?"

I would have started laughing if he hadn't sounded so angry. I was so perplexed I just explained "You mean the bumps? Those are normal I've always had them."

Now here is where he lost his absolute mind. He starts screaming about how I'm a "Lying slut" and a "whore" because I "obviously used to have nipple piercings and no one gets those unless they're getting hosed". I was a virgin when I met him!

I was stunned and I'm ashamed to admit I immediately started crying. It was like I went to bizarro world, my sweet and loving boyfriend was just yelling on a tirade about what a bad person I am while I tried through the sobs to explain that it was normal. After about 5-10 minutes of yelling he stopped, got up and went to the bedroom, and grabbed a bag and started putting my clothes in it. He said if I "want to be a whore then I can go be one".

I have no friends and my family and I don't have a good relationship so I told him no, I wouldn't leave and we could talk more when we both calmed down. So he dumped all my stuff out onto the ground, packed himself a bag, and said he was going to a friends house and left.

I'm so hurt, confused, a little terrified actually. What the hell just happened? How do I convince him I'm not lying?

tl;dr: Boyfriend is convinced my bumpy areolas mean I used to have nipple piercings and he's lost his freakin marbles. How do I convince him I'm not lying?

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Pvt.Scott posted:

Don't forget arranged marriage traditions where the couples don't meet for a good long while.

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Krista is the love of my life. Beautiful. Smart. Funny. I can spend hours with her just chatting about nothing. Everything is so natural and fun. She has been my rock as I go through a very difficult program that will run another two years -- it has been my dream and my nemesis. She, however, has helped me every step and I owe her for that.

But.... There's something a bit askew. We've been together for over a year. About 5 months ago, she began to exhibit these odd signs. She'd come over when she knew I would be (mostly) free and would feign illness. On one occasion she said she felt like she had a fever and asked that I take her temperature. It was only very slightly elevated, meaning there was no sign of infection, rather she probably drank coffee or wore a warm coat. Yet, she insisted she had a bug. She stripped naked, wrapped herself in a blanket and wanted to be cuddled and have me play with her hair. Okay, so a bit odd.

About three weeks after that, she said that she had a sore lower back. She asked if I'd rub her back and I happily agreed. She took of her shirt... Then her bra. Then her pants, panties and socks. She laid prone and asked that I gently rub her illiac crest and gluteus medius in a circuluar motion. I did and she fell asleep. Okay, so this was more odd.

After that, it became more frequent. Every two weeks or so, she'd come over and would need to be babied. Washing her hair. Taking care of her during a brief bug. Rubbing her while she was wrapped (naked) in a blanket until she fell asleep. Rubbing her stomach when she felt off.

Tonight it escalated. She had wisdom teeth extracted and came by with her sister. Her sister left and we sat in bed. I studied for upcoming POM sections. She said she was starting to feel pain. She kept asking about taking pills but wouldn't actually ask the question. Finally, she showed me what pills she had. Diclofenac. Okay, not all that common, but not unheard of. Suppositories. Okay, unheard of. She asked me to do it. I felt conflicted about the whole thing, but helped her out. My roommate, who is ahead of me in our program, was studying in the kitchen, so I nonchalantly asked him about diclofenac suppositories. He had never seen them used.

She's asleep in my room as I write this. I can't get back to studying and I have no idea what's going on. 99% of our relationship is amazing. This... Has thrown me. Am I insane? Is this normal?

tl;dr: My nearly perfect girlfriend exhibits signs of what I can only assume is a desire to be babied. It has escalated to suppositories. Do I ask her about all of this? Am I just paranoid?

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I [mid-20s M] am not sure where I should start looking to find a compatible girl to eventually settle down with because I value certain things that I can't find in many girls

I posted this previously in another subreddit, but I thought I might open it up to a broader audience.

Trying to keep this short, so it might sound arrogant to list positive traits about myself, but that really isn't my intention.

I'm mid-20s, from California, tall, physically attractive, intelligent, compassionate, romantic, thoughtful, and family-oriented. However, I'm also very picky with women. I turned down a lot of girls in college who I didn't think were compatible, not out of malice or anything, but because I didn't think it was respectable or honest to get into a relationship knowing that the girl isn't right for me. As I'm nearing the end of graduate school, I'm wondering where I'm supposed to find a compatible girl, having never been in a relationship.

I'm looking for some things that I've only found once in a girl so far, but because I knew we weren't compatible in other ways, I didn't pursue her. What are they? No alcohol, no religion, no animal products of any kind (though, I'm willing to go for vegetarians if I can eventually persuade them to give up dairy products). I want a woman who is also a virgin like me so that we can grow together, plus no baggage from the past. I don't like smartphone addicts or social media addicts. This isn't to say smartphones and social media are dealbreakers, but just that being unable to live without them constantly around is.

I look at my parents and I really see a couple that is unlike a lot of other couples of my parents' generation. Both of them are very healthy and very romantic. Despite an arranged marriage (in India) and about 30 years, they love each other so much. They have a level of mutual understanding that I wish to cultivate with a woman, but I'm honestly afraid of getting used. Beyond that, I don't even know where to begin looking. If I was a Christian, I might have gone to a church. If I was into drinking alcohol, I might have gone to a bar or a club.

I get the sense that I'm too liberal for the more conservative girls who may fit some of those traits and also sense that I'm too conservative for the more liberal girls who may fit some of the other traits.

So, where can I boost my chances of meeting a compatible girl?
Thanks in advance.

OP posted:

I'm in a program because of court. I got kicked out today, because they found out that I found the router password. This is not the wifi password. This is the password for logging into the router. The password was "password", so I don't think they can really blame me. They only found out because I told my friend, and they told their friends. And someone snitched. Anyway, I feel this is a really stupid reason for me to get kicked out of the program, and I need to be in this program for court, so I don't really know what I'm going to do now? Any way I can get back into this program?

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Is there some reason you should have been trying to guess it in the first place?
In any case, you're now in "hire a lawyer" territory. Your probationary program is in serious, immediate jeopardy.

OP posted:

I just thought I'd try, and it worked. I only logged into the router and then clear the logs. This is so stupid

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Get a lawyer like the poster above said, because you got kicked out of rehab. Look you did something petty and maybe they shouldn't have kicked you out, but it's too late for that now.

OP posted:

Would I have to start another program over again from the beginning? I already smoked weed because I got kicked out.

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Man, you are just trying to go to jail aren't you? Read my top level post. I didn't see this information when I wrote it. You'll almost certainly spend a few nights in jail before they let you back into a program, and that's if they do. You weren't in as much trouble as you thought until you smoked weed. You've now really violated your probation.

OP posted:

Sometimes, weed doesn't show up on my drug tests.

Danaru posted:

Kicked out of Drug Program for Guessing Password on Router

dudeness posted:

And on that note, any advice about preparing him for or steering him away from the highly communicative, challenging world of being paid/commissioned for artwork?

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Hi there im dana. Im a 31f with a 29m boyfriend who just can't keep it in his pants. We have two children and have been on and off for 7 years. Yesterday, I received an envelope in the mail with no return address and my name on it. I thought it was strange. I almost threw it away, but something told me to open it.
When I opened the envelope, I took out a total of 3 papers. One was a handwritten letter to me and the next two were screenshots of text messages. The pages with the text messages were highlighted and underlined to describe who was who in the conversation. I'll insert some names here so that there is no confusion. We will call the women Maria and Sarah. Lets start off with the handwritten letter.

" Hello Dana, you are receiving this letter because Maria told me to run it back to you that your man still eats her rear end in a top hat and she doesn't give a poo poo about him being with you. She thinks it's funny that he eats her rear end and fucks her on command and goes home and sticks his tongue in your mouth after being done with her. If you're wondering how I'm involved in this situation, it's because I was sleeping with him for a few months and had no idea about you. Unlike Maria, the moment I found out about you, I completely cut him off immediately and told him that he was very wrong for sleeping with me while he had a woman at home. We would also never use condoms. This went on for about six months. I don't know where he told you he was every Tuesday and Thursday for a few hours but I can prove that he was with me. And I also know for a solid fact that he still messes with his ex-girlfriend maria (see screenshots included) and that baby that she had last year is most likely his. .. I don't want to be involved which is why I'm not going to tell you who I am but I just thought you should know that he is screwing multiple women behind your back and not even bothering to use condoms. One day this man will give you something that you are not able to get rid of, I'm not wishing this on you but it's a possibility with how Reckless he is. If this were me I would definitely want to know. if you would like even more screenshots or proof that he still cheats on you please text me at XXX-4539".

Anonymous is Sarah. I have absolutely no idea who Sarah is. Maria is another story. When me and my boyfriend went on a break he started dating her. And this was about four years ago. Supposably it stopped but now that I'm receiving this letter I believe otherwise.

On to the screenshots. Somehow Sarah got Maria's phone number and texted her and told her to stay away from my boyfriend. I don't know how Sarah found out but she knew that he was still messing with her. Sarah starts off by saying that Maria needs to go find her own man and stop trying to wreck other people's relationships. Sarah also advises Maria that my boyfriend and her were not using condoms and they'd been messing around for months. Maria texts back and says that she doesn't care that he is with me and she's going to keep having sex with him and if he wants to cheat on me that has nothing to do with her. She then goes on to brag about all the nasty things he does to her while he's with her and thinks it's funny that he goes back to me when she sends him back. Maria tells sarah in the texts to "run that back to dana lol" . Sarah then says "I started to follow him and investigate because something seemed off and one of those nights that I followed him I saw you with him, I was under the impression that him and I were dating exclusively so i got very upset, I decided to follow him after he left dennys and then that's when I found out he had a whole family at home". Sarah then tells Maria that she is planning on running it back to me because she feels sorry for me.

Whoever you are, thank you so much. I am sitting on the couch waiting for him to come home so he can get his poo poo and get out. TL;DR

Pick posted:

No alcohol, no religion, no animal products of any kind (though, I'm willing to go for vegetarians if I can eventually persuade them to give up dairy products). I want a woman who is also a virgin like me so that we can grow together, plus no baggage from the past. I don't like smartphone addicts or social media addicts. 

Whorelord posted:

Maria told me to run it back to you that your man still eats her rear end in a top hat and she doesn't give a poo poo about him being with you. She thinks it's funny that he eats her rear end and fucks her on command and goes home and sticks his tongue in your mouth after being done with her.

Pick posted:

I [mid-20s M] am not sure where I should start looking to find a compatible girl to eventually settle down with because I value certain things that I can't find in many girls
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I'm looking for some things that I've only found once in a girl so far, but because I knew we weren't compatible in other ways, I didn't pursue her. What are they? No alcohol, no religion, no animal products of any kind (though, I'm willing to go for vegetarians if I can eventually persuade them to give up dairy products). I want a woman who is also a virgin like me so that we can grow together, plus no baggage from the past. I don't like smartphone addicts or social media addicts. This isn't to say smartphones and social media are dealbreakers, but just that being unable to live without them constantly around is.
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Pebergehund posted:

Im just gonna assume that Ms Perfect also needs to be gorgeous and share all his hobbies too

Whorelord posted:

My relationship is over, I just can't anymore.

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Maria told me to run it back to you that your man still eats her rear end in a top hat and she doesn't give a poo poo about him being with you. She thinks it's funny that he eats her rear end and fucks her on command and goes home and sticks his tongue in your mouth after being done with her.

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maskenfreiheit posted:

i knew a woman like this but instead of a specific furry pose it was a horsie

Batterypowered7 posted:

Fr*ckin' f*erce!

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My fiancee, Lauren, and my mom have had a pretty good relationship over the last five years. When Lauren and I announced we were getting married, my mom was absolutely over the moon with excitement. The wedding is this weekend and I am so giddy!

Lauren has an 'invisible' physical disability. It's not really obvious unless someone tells you that she has it or if you are super observant (some days she will walk with a slight limp). My mom has known about this disability for years and has always been accommodating when Lauren has had to rest while we were out somewhere, helping around the house, etc.. Once my mom made an off-color joke about Lauren being a 'cripple' but I shut that down as soon as it happened and she's never said anything like that since. I asked Lauren to let me know if she ever said anything like that to her when I wasn't there, and Lauren confirmed that the jokes stopped after I told my mom to stop. My mom also knows about the occasional struggles Lauren has had in her field (law) because she cannot wear heels in court as they are too painful - for one judge she had to get a note from a doctor. After that last incident my mom commented that "maybe Lauren should have worn the heels the one time," but I explained that it was just too painful and she wouldn't be able to do her job properly if she was in that much pain.

We are making a good amount of money in our careers and are paying for our wedding ourselves, even though my parents offered. My mom can be a bit of a control freak and we wanted to be able to make decisions about our own wedding without her hovering over us, questioning and vetoing our decisions. We figured the best way of doing this was to pay for the wedding ourselves so that she couldn't play the "I'm paying for it" card. So far, so good.

But today my mom was dropping off some table decorations and we got to chatting about the wedding. Lauren's dress was in the hallway, along with a very nice pair of flats she had bought specifically to go with the dress. My mom pointed at the shoes and said, "She's not wearing those with the dress is she?"

I said that she was, and my mom suddenly got very angry. She started asking why Lauren couldn't wear heels for "my" special day. I said that I loved the shoes Lauren had picked out, and besides, I didn't want her to be in agony during our wedding! My mom began yelling (she never yells) that Lauren was clearly exaggerating her disability to get out of wearing heels to spite my mom. She called Lauren a cripple again and said that our children would be 'Tiny Tims.' I would have kicked her out of my apartment if she didn't storm off by herself.

I want to emphasize that I've never seen this kind of behavior from my mom in my life. I haven't​ told Lauren about it yet because I'm still a bit in shock. I do plan on telling her what happened, because I plan on uninviting my mom to our wedding and I want Lauren to know why. I guess my question here is twofold. First, should I tell Lauren everything my mom said, including the cripple part, or just give a basic summary? I don't want Lauren more anxious than she has to be before the wedding, but I don't know what would be more stressful. Second, should I further 'sanction' my mom in some way? Given that this was a one-time thing, I feel like some family members might think I'm overreacting if I do anything more. But I definitely don't feel comfortable if this is my mom's current attitude towards Lauren and our future children - how could I broach that subject with her?

Tl;dr - My fiancee is not wearing heels to our wedding because she medically cannot. When my mom found out about this, she started screaming and called my fiancee a cripple. I will be uninviting her from our wedding but I don't know about next steps.

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She called Lauren a cripple again and said that our children would be 'Tiny Tims.'

zakharov posted:

My (27 M) mom (62 F) is furious that my fiancee (27 F) will not wear heels to our wedding

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Lauren has had in her field (law) because she cannot wear heels in court as they are too painful - for one judge she had to get a note from a doctor

Gorilla Salad posted:

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How the gently caress is it any business of the judge what footwear she has on?

Also, aren't flats a hell of a lot more professional than heels?

zakharov posted:

Heck yes, wedding drama time.

My (27 M) mom (62 F) is furious that my fiancee (27 F) will not wear heels to our wedding

Gorilla Salad posted:

Also, aren't flats a hell of a lot more professional than heels?

Troposphere posted:

All idiot men that insist women wear heels should be forced to wear heels themselves

zakharov posted:

OK now what about the woman in this story doing the same thing?