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Improbable Lobster posted:You're making a lot of big assumptions that I don't think are very reasonable to make I guess that's fair, we just dunno. Maybe he is literally just eating meatloaf and chicken nuggets and only dislikes his wife's cooking cause he's a big ol manchild, or maybe she sucks at cooking and he's actually making perfectly healthy options but she's the caricature of a peta supporter. if it was about picky eating I guess i could sort of side with the wife but that seems like a bit of a stretch contextually, I dunno. Either way you prolly shouldn't force your growing children to needlessly restrict their protein intake, let em decide to or not to be vegetarians on their own.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:35 |
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quote:So, I went to the doctor for Ares' one year check up. He weighs 19lbs, and the doctor says he is underweight. I really don't understand. Ares has chubby baby cheeks, chunky little legs and his fingers are also very plump. He doesn't look underweight to me at all.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:39 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Either way you prolly shouldn't force your growing children to needlessly restrict their protein intake, let em decide to or not to be vegetarians on their own. Except she's not saying that they should eat only vegetarian food?
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:43 |
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Sedisp posted:Except she's not saying that they should eat only vegetarian food? Uh? quote:The other thing is about our children. She says they should eat the vegetarian more and wants to gradually make them vegetarian like her. I said they're both our children, neither of us should make unilateral decisions on what they can or can't eat. She can't forbid them from eating something without my approval, and I won't forbid them from eating something without her approval. Nobody stops them from eating the vegetarian, its there whenever they want it. They simply choose more often than not to eat what I'm cooking.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:45 |
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Gradually eat more vegetarian food is not forbidding your kids to eat meat. She likely wants her kids to be vegetarians (most parents want their kids to make moral decisions they agree with shocker of shocks) but if she's doing it gradually that's not forbidding them from eating meat in their house. Especially if she agreed to letting them pick what they eat instead of forcing it. At the end of the day lol no don't let your 10 and 8 year olds pick what they eat.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:54 |
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Sedisp posted:Gradually eat more vegetarian food is not forbidding your kids to eat meat. She likely wants her kids to be vegetarians (most parents want their kids to make moral decisions they agree with shocker of shocks) but if she's doing it gradually that's not forbidding them from eating meat in their house. Especially if she agreed to letting them pick what they eat instead of forcing it.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:57 |
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Sedisp posted:Gradually eat more vegetarian food is not forbidding your kids to eat meat. She likely wants her kids to be vegetarians (most parents want their kids to make moral decisions they agree with shocker of shocks) but if she's doing it gradually that's not forbidding them from eating meat in their house. Especially if she agreed to letting them pick what they eat instead of forcing it. She's clearly resentful of the husband giving them an alternative and them taking it tho. So long as the husband is just cooking american style protein + starch + veg there's literally no reason to stop them from doing that rather than giving em a b12 deficiency cause you treat your children like a purse chihuahua.
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# ? May 30, 2017 03:59 |
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ArbitraryC posted:rather than giving em a b12 deficiency cause you treat your children like a purse chihuahua. Eggs? Milk? Vegetarian is not Vegan?
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misguided rage posted:That's a very fine hair you're splitting That is how this whole argument started, with arbitrary just looking fir a reason to hate the vegan.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:02 |
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If the husband is cooking healthy meals the most reasonable option is to simply let the kids eat whichever they want? Like the only issue they have with the status quo is the wife wants everyone to change their diet to suit her.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:03 |
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ArbitraryC posted:She's clearly resentful of the husband giving them an alternative and them taking it tho. Not really
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:04 |
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Improbable Lobster posted:Not really I mean unless you just think the OP is lying about the situation?
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:05 |
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Been noticing some strange acting between my [17M] sister [19F] and my dad [42M], including her sleeping in his bed more often. Is it anything suspicious?quote:Our mom committed suicide a few months ago, needless to say its been extremely difficult for our whole family since then. We're all still in grieving and mourning, its tough for us all.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:06 |
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ArbitraryC posted:If the husband is cooking healthy meals the most reasonable option is to simply let the kids eat whichever they want? Like the only issue they have with the status quo is the wife wants everyone to change their diet to suit her. No the most reasonable option is usually to compromise on something as easy as maybe sometimes dinner can be vegetarian. If she pushes it beyond that then you can put your foot down but if not you've probably saved a whole bunch of simmering hatred for eachother with as something as simple as "I no longer eat meat every dinner every day."
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:07 |
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It's weird, but death fucks people up. Maybe they should talk to a grief counselor or something
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:10 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:Been noticing some strange acting between my [17M] sister [19F] and my dad [42M], including her sleeping in his bed more often. Is it anything suspicious? What the gently caress
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:10 |
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quote:So, I went to the doctor for Ares' one year check up. He weighs 19lbs, and the doctor says he is underweight. I really don't understand. Ares has chubby baby cheeks, chunky little legs and his fingers are also very plump. He doesn't look underweight to me at all. I. Just. What. Okay naming your kid Ares, well, there's worse choices, but seriously just gently caress that and go for Zeus or Poseidon or loving Hades. Why the gently caress are some people so loving stupid about being vegan and poo poo? Your baby needs protein! And a year old baby at 19 pounds is loving starving! Most babies are born about half that!
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:12 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:That is how this whole argument started, with arbitrary just looking fir a reason to hate the vegan. No, the story literally stated that the mother was trying to make the children vegetarian and that she didn't like when he let them eat meat? Edit: This is of course assuming that he is faithfully recounting the situation.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:13 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I mean unless you just think the OP is lying about the situation? So you're asssuming the dudes story is 100% accurate with no embellishments what so ever but also his shrew of a wife doesn't actually care about her moral views/kids health and just sees them as accessories? Cowslips Warren posted:I. Just. What. You're expecting parents who name their kid Ares to be rational?
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:14 |
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Sedisp posted:No the most reasonable option is usually to compromise on something as easy as maybe sometimes dinner can be vegetarian. If she pushes it beyond that then you can put your foot down but if not you've probably saved a whole bunch of simmering hatred for eachother with as something as simple as "I no longer eat meat every dinner every day." I guess it's just hard for me to understand the situation because I already have a pretty varied diet and don't eat meat everyday, but like I don't think her talking about how disgusting she thinks his animal carcasses are is gonna go away if he has them less often, if the OP isn't lying it doesn't look like she'll be happy until they've all become gradually vegetarian. Like "you can have meat on fridays but I will be super passive aggresive about it while you cook/eat it" is not a reasonable compromise but I guess maybe she's only super passive aggressive about it now because he hasn't cut back at all and she'd change her tune if they met halfway.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:14 |
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ArbitraryC posted:but like I don't think her talking about how disgusting she thinks his animal carcasses are is gonna go away if he has them less often, if the OP isn't lying it doesn't look like she'll be happy until they've all become gradually vegetarian. Like "you can have meat on fridays but I will be super passive aggresive about it while you cook/eat it" is not a reasonable compromise but I guess maybe she's only super passive aggressive about it now because he hasn't cut back at all and she'd change her tune if they met halfway. Oh yeah if she keeps sniping any time its meat night or whatever then gently caress her but the passive aggressiveness could just be because she feels like she's losing connection with her family.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:17 |
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Sedisp posted:No the most reasonable option is usually to compromise on something as easy as maybe sometimes dinner can be vegetarian. If she pushes it beyond that then you can put your foot down but if not you've probably saved a whole bunch of simmering hatred for eachother with as something as simple as "I no longer eat meat every dinner every day." Yeah how hard is it to say, Tuesdays and Thursdays are vegetarian days? Omelette night or whatever. Easy compromise and that's a couple days a week you're not cooking two meals worth of food.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:19 |
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I'd eat a lot more meat then usual and get dumped, so nobody should ever take my advice.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:23 |
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Sedisp posted:Oh yeah if she keeps sniping any time its meat night or whatever then gently caress her but the passive aggressiveness could just be because she feels like she's losing connection with her family. It sounds like we've reached a mutual conclusion. I dunno it's just I've literally had a roommate like what the OP described and it was a super miserable year, she was one of the fat vegans that eats only carbs and faux-meat but super outspoken about everyone elses diet. I agree in this case it might just be possible that she's only ramping up the attitude because the OP hasn't even really tried to meet her halfway, even if he doesn't like her "indian dishes" surely they could go for a stir fry with tofu or some cheesy pasta etc a couple times a week.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:25 |
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Slaughter a chicken and eat it right in front of her imo
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:26 |
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Sedisp posted:You're expecting parents who name their kid Ares to be rational? People tend to use fake names in these things.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:28 |
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GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:I'd eat a lot more meat then usual and get dumped, so nobody should ever take my advice. I went on a date with a vegetarian once, I suggested an Indian place because they have lots of veggie dishes. She got really irritated I ordered a dish with chicken, there was no second date. It was irritating since her profile said she's vegetarian but "doesn't make a big deal about it"
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:30 |
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SirSamVimes posted:No, the story literally stated that the mother was trying to make the children vegetarian and that she didn't like when he let them eat meat? That doesn't contradict what I said.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:33 |
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i'm seeing a lot of confusion on this central point, so i just want to reiterate an important rule of thumb that will serve you will: don't gently caress your dad i don't care if you think you have a good reason. stop, think, and don't gently caress your dad. do something else. literally almost anything else! ok, now everyone but the dads leave the room. ok? just gotta talk to the dads a minute. all dads here? alright, good. here's the secret lesson: don't gently caress your kids
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:38 |
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smh at this sex-negative hate-speech
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:39 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:I went on a date with a vegetarian once, I suggested an Indian place because they have lots of veggie dishes. She got really irritated I ordered a dish with chicken, there was no second date. Sounds like a good place to take her, bullet dodged. It's sucks that people waste so much time pretending
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:i'm seeing a lot of confusion on this central point, so i just want to reiterate an important rule of thumb that will serve you will: Ur just mad I lost ur iPod.
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# ? May 30, 2017 04:59 |
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I'm holding out hope that no loving is happening in that story.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:05 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:I'm holding out hope that no loving is happening in that story. Yeah, champ, they're just, uh, wrestling.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:16 |
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How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings?quote:I'm assuming I'm posting this in the right place, but this is my first time actually asking a question, so if I mess something up please don't hate me. Anyway, I [25F] have been with my bf [25M] for 5 years. The first 3-4 years of our relationship I was in grad school. I wasn't allowed to work, so I had no income. Regardless, I still managed to scare up the funds on occasion to buy small gifts for birthdays, Christmas, v-day, etcetera by writing papers, tutoring, or doing online surveys and I tried to do something nice for anniversaries. When I couldn't come up with money, I would just make something meaningful (e.g. I have in the past made a page-a-day style calendar with nice things written on each page that counted down the days of summer break, a 100-reasons I love you book for v-day, a bottle of happy pills that could be broken open with a tiny note from me inside each one, and many more). I would also bake him his favorite cake or cupcakes and usually a few trays of cookies or something fun and new I thought he might enjoy. I guess I should add as a note that I lived out of state from the school I went to and my parents didn't want me in this relationship, so for things like his birthday or anything random I chose to send over the summer, I would have to find a chance to sneak some baking time in when nobody was home, pack a box, and pay to ship it back to him. quote:Then that is my fault. He does care. I talked to him about the constant forgetting and me feeling taken for granted years ago. He was highly apologetic and tried to turn it around. Then a year ago said he would try harder to be a better bf in general. He takes me out on dates and is helpful around the house and with my dog. He even changed the oil in my car rather than letting me go to a mechanic. And he was so excited about the god-danged pot. The look of triumph on his face when he announced he had remembered something I mentioned wanting was absolutely priceless. This is why I am not angry about it. quote:A. I apologize a lot. Yes, that's a personal trait, but I have no issue with it as it doesn't hurt anyone. B. I like to make other people happy, occasionally to my own detriment. Yes, that is a personal flaw, but it is literally the reason I am here. I am aware of my flaws, aware that they are a product of myself and am actively working to change the one I found problematic. The only person I was talking about was me (e.g. how do I make change relative to only me not how do I make someone else make me feel better). I don't see how that is failing to hold myself accountable. Also, I don't put any weight on zodiac signs. I was making an attempt at humor which apparently did not go over well with you. But I am sorry if you found my commentary distasteful.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:24 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:Why the gently caress are some people so loving stupid about being vegan and poo poo? Your baby needs protein! And a year old baby at 19 pounds is loving starving! Most babies are born about half that! Friend's siblings kid is only allowed to drink mothers milk or be raw vegan. The child, obviously, chooses mothers milk. It is 3 years old and in the bottom 5% of size of all children and grossly underweight. I unreservedly hate her and I hope she loses her court battle to keep her kid.
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:i'm seeing a lot of confusion on this central point, so i just want to reiterate an important rule of thumb that will serve you will: Thanks for emphasizing the super controversial message of don't gently caress your dad. We really needed it.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:33 |
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dudeness posted:How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings? He didn't throw out your loving cupcakes so shut up
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:34 |
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Pick posted:He didn't throw out your loving cupcakes so shut up You're not allowed to be mad at someone if they eat cupcakes you give them instead of throwing them out. Yup, it all checks out.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:39 |
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Did we ever find out what kind of cupcakes they were?
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