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This is long but I'd appreciate it if anyone can read please. I'm 20, a full time college student and I live with my parents. I have always had self esteem issues and I struggle with depression.

When I was 16, I had my first kiss. The day I had my first kiss was also the day I first gave a BJ. From age 15, I was always talking to random guys online. Almost every guy that I've ever met/had sexual relationships with, has been via the internet. I lost my virginity at 16 1/2 to a 35 year old man. I was also having a FWB relationship for 2 years with a 40 year old. (All these men always thought I was at least 18, that's what I would tell them.) I don't feel that I was ever being taken advantage of, I sought all of these men out. From age 16 and on I had sex with probably 30 different men, all different ages. The oldest being 55. I made Craigslist posts, I joined Sugar baby websites, I would find them on dating apps, etc etc. I met one guy up probably a total of 10 times, and he would pay me 300$ each time to do anal. I had sex with him and another guy (separate times) for money. All the other guys I slept with were not money involved. The summer before my senior year, I spent the summer 3 hours away with just my grandma. (Family has a summer house and I managed to get a camp job there, and I stayed and took care of my grandma. Parents were back home 3 hours away.) During that summer, I was talking to a guy I met through twitter. We were "dating" and I made a big trip to visit him. I drove the 8 hours, paid for a airbnb and I visited him. I did this over 4th of July weekend. My parents found out because I got a speeding ticket while in the visiting city. I told them that all my fellow counselors were going to that city on a trip and they used me to drive them there. I cried and blah blah and they obviously believed me, but were very mad at me. During that summer as well, I met up with a lot of men. I ended up getting pregnant. I can't really say who the father was. I had sex with a guy with no condom on the beach, I was 17, he was 30ish. He is probably the father. I eventually came clean to my mom after weeks of freaking out. My therapist helped me tell her. She was upset of course, but supported me when I got an abortion. I told her I had unprotected sex for the first time. She thinks it was my first time. It obviously wasn't and the circumstances were very different. I met the guy online. Now, I am 20 years old and I am VERY close with my mom. I still have issues with men and my sex life because of what I did when I was younger. I still do it. Now that I'm 20, I date and sleep with older men, but I guess it's more appropriate than being 16 and doing it.

Lately I've been wondering if I should tell my mom all of this. I feel a little bit of pressure and as if I have this big secret. The only reason I want to tell her is because I like I said I feel like I have all this information that no one knows. Should I just keep it to myself? Tell her when I'm much older? I know I'm a lovely person for doing all of that stuff.

Tl;dr should I tell my mom about my sexual past and all the bad things I did when I was underage

fruit on the bottom posted:

Parents want to hear about the sex their children are having about as much as children want to hear about the sex their parents are having.

Proceed accordingly

maskenfreiheit posted:

ymgve posted:

Even in ye olden days I'm pretty sure they emptied their chamber pots daily

maskenfreiheit posted:

Should I (20F) tell my mom (50F) about my past of inappropriate sexual relationships?

ArbitraryC posted:

Is it regressive to say this is exactly why promiscuity has such a bad rap.

CharlestheHammer posted:

Promiscuity isn't the problem with that post.

Her old man fetish in her teens was much more troubling.

Nessa posted:

No good would come out of telling the mom. Why would you do that.

"Oh hey mom, I betrayed your trust hundreds of times when I was a teenager, and made poor and dangerous sexual decisions. I just thought you would want to know that I like banging dudes my dad's age and sometimes they give me money for it!

I'm glad we had this talk."

Like, I think I would die if my mom found out about my teenage relationship with an older guy.

Anony Mouse posted:

My (40F) husband (41M) keeps sneaking out at night, I spotted him with strange men on a street corner. Last night, he came back home with cash stashed into his jacket. I feel like Breaking Bad's Skyler White right now, how do I get the truth from him?

CharlestheHammer posted:

Promiscuity isn't the problem with that post.

Her old man fetish in her teens was much more troubling.

MF_James posted:

"Also, despite realizing these were poor choices, I STILL DO IT BECAUSE...."


I wonder if she was sexually abused, hyper sexuality is often a key indicator, or she is just making poor life choices all by herself.

CharlestheHammer posted:

Yeah but that isn't worth caring about.

Also it would be a lot better than pedophilla.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Totally tell her, and post the response.

MF_James posted:

"Also, despite realizing these were poor choices, I STILL DO IT BECAUSE...."


I wonder if she was sexually abused, hyper sexuality is often a key indicator, or she is just making poor life choices all by herself.

Nessa posted:

Who, me? Fat chance.

My mom has enough on her plate trying to deal with my weirdo brother and trying to sell her dilapidated hoarder house. She does not need need to know about my teenage sex life.


I'm betting it's poor self esteem.

At least in my case, male attention and feeling desired by an older man made me feel a whole lot better about my awkward, underdeveloped, teenage body. I was desperate enough that I was willing to share him with my best friend until jealousy got the better of me.

However, that was only one dude over two years.

maskenfreiheit posted:

Should I (20F) tell my mom (50F) about my past of inappropriate sexual relationships?

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I don't disapprove of relationships with an age gap; I'm dating someone much younger myself. But for you I don't get the impression you're happy in what and who you're dating, and perhaps you ought to seriously consider what you want out of a relationship, sex and your life.

But Rocks Hurt Head posted:

barely holding in your vomit and shuddering with revulsion while you have sex

Anony Mouse posted:

Have some people up to some shady poo poo:

Me [20 /F] with my sugar daddy [50 M/], something wrong with me or not the right one?

Lady just give it up, you clearly aren't cut out for this kind of work.

My (40F) husband (41M) keeps sneaking out at night, I spotted him with strange men on a street corner. Last night, he came back home with cash stashed into his jacket. I feel like Breaking Bad's Skyler White right now, how do I get the truth from him?

Croatian mob? Sex worker? Insurance scammer? Drug dealer? If she finds out I hope she at least gives us a hint. (probably drug dealer)

Motherfucker posted:

Heh at sugar-daddy chick, it sounds like she literally staked her future on it, like at a very young age in school she just went 'gently caress all this math and homework I'll just get a ~SUGAR DADDY~' and embarked on a professional career as a symbiotic parasite only to realize she doesn't enjoy the taste of elderly cock far too late.

Pick posted:

It's all about that feeling of power, and having ownership over another person. It's probably a real turn-on.

maskenfreiheit posted:

The Lone Badger posted:

That isn't normal? This is very disturbing.

new phone who dis posted:

Two years?

Jesus.

sir pissbucket posted:

whilst I'm not expecting people here to think I'm an angel I would like a bit of sympathy because it's been hard on me too, it's not fair 

La Brea Carpet posted:

Hot off the presses

I (M/23) am having problems with my gf (21/F) due to issues in the bedroom, I have a weird habit of using a potty in the room instead of going to the normal toilet, has she right to be mad? I don't know what to do?

Mak0rz posted:

I like to imagine it's one of these and he spends like ten minutes getting strapped in before dropping a dook

Motherfucker posted:

for some reason this makes me angry. Like I thought my internet armor was impenetrable but this poo poo has me frowning and sneering at my monitor.

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I don't even know where to begin. Of course I love my brother, but I'm not in love with him! We've always been very close and I consider him to be my best friend.

I will admit that I take about him a lot, but only because he's a big part of my life. She start bringing this up about a year ago when I was upset about my brother moving out of our apartment to live with his girlfriend. I was upset because I got a bad vibe from his girlfriend (I turned out to be right about her btw) and my therapist suggested I was too attached to him. I said I was just worried about him and she asked me if I thought other people were this way with their brothers (edit:she phrased this in a way that sounded less confrontational). Just stuff like that, peppered in in a way that it didn't really bother me until recently.

Last month my brother moved back in after said girlfriend cheated on him with his best guy friend. It was a whole thing he was really depressed about it. She asked how it made me feel and I told her I was just happy to have him home. She started asking me a series of questions with an undertone of "you are possessive of your brother and feel a sexual attraction to him". She said that such feelings were not unusual to develop in our situation despite me telling her I don't have feelings for her.

Well three nights I had a sex dream. About my brother. And I'm still pretty horrified about it. I firmly believe this was caused my my therapist putting these thoughts into my head and making me worry about it, despite knowing that I just love him in a normal way.

I don't know what to do. Is this kind of thing normal with therapy? It's starting to stress me out and ever since that dream I've been really weird about my brother. Last night he finally demanded I tell him what's wrong and I admitted to him what she's been telling me and there was all this horrible tension between us when we normally get on so well. He told me not to worry about it but he looked really strange, and then he went to his room and I haven't seen him since.

tl;dr: Had sex dream about adopted brother; therapist thinks I'm in love with him