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Danaru posted:Ditch that dude before you find a cat-sized patch of grassless dirt in your back yard That's a rookie mistake. You cut out the grave shape by stomping on the shovel head to get a fair way down. You then cut a generous grid out of the plot and carefully extract your grass and root slices and put them to the side. Finish excavating. Put evidence in hole. Fill hole. Replace grass and roots, blend and disguise as best you can with spare dirt/grass. Water generously for a few minutes around and on the plot, fertilize the plot the next day. If the grass does die in a suspicious grave shape, it will take a while and hopefully enough time will have passed to soften the blow of losing Mittens/grandma.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My[26F] boyfriend[27M] put my cat on the side of the road and lied to me. Neighborhood? more like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oP5qPvCAyfE with the red car at 12 seconds
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La Brea Carpet posted:I[m21] haven't hung out with my gf[18] in 3 months is there a word for this? it's not ghosting since she's in communication, she's just soooooo busssyy
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maskenfreiheit posted:is there a word for this? it's not ghosting since she's in communication, she's just soooooo busssyy ...um, having sex with and dating another person?
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Jun 24, 2017 16:46
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Literally A Person posted:...um, having sex with and dating another person? if someone doesn't meet you in person for 3 months and isn't in another state you are not in a relationship
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maskenfreiheit posted:is there a word for this? it's not ghosting since she's in communication, she's just soooooo busssyy Breaking up homeopathically. Their relationship is even stronger now that they only talk by naval flag signs ever fortnight.
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Literally A Person posted:...um, having sex with and dating another person? What exactly do you think sex is EDIT: Literally A Person posted:That's what I mean. An other person. Whoops I read that wrong too Danaru fucked around with this message at 17:03 on Jun 24, 2017 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:if someone doesn't meet you in person for 3 months and isn't in another state you are not in a relationship That's what I mean. An other person.
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maskenfreiheit posted:is there a word for this? it's not ghosting since she's in communication, she's just soooooo busssyy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LzrKi-QNnzA
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I thought the first sentence could have prepared me... She mad gay
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I'm[24F] starting to think my boyfriend[28M] was lying about being a government spyquote:
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Jun 24, 2017 18:57
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To be fair, who would suspect the obviously-pretending-to-be-a-spy guy as actually being a spy?  Dude's opsec game is on point
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SuddenExpire posted:Neighborhood? more like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oP5qPvCAyfE with the red car at 12 seconds She named him Skidmark. That's so perfect I'm gonna cry.
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SuddenExpire posted:Neighborhood? more like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oP5qPvCAyfE with the red car at 12 seconds That woman is a goddamn hero.
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Danaru posted:My [15M] sister [24F] has this boyfriend [24M] who keeps nudging me to fight him because he's done 6 months of martial arts. Probably also an r/relationships thread: My [24M] girlfriend's [24F] brother [15M] acts like he hates me no matter what I do even after I got into martial arts just so we could have something in common.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My sister (19F) threw a giant tantrum over my boyfriend (21M) not giving her a gift on my birthday (21F). Jesus Christ, this is like, chilling. Peeing on things as revenge in particular is a sign of mental illness. Destroying poo poo, cutting off people's hair, pouring glue on a cat, etc.- none of this is normal 5 year-old tantrum stuff. The parents hosed up by giving in but this girl is not well and they hosed up worst of all by not getting her help years ago. Still, as the sister, how do you not just snap and scream in her face about what an entitled maniac she is at some point?? I'm not a yeller and don't have a temper, but with some of these stories like this involving really over-the-top unreasonable behavior, I don't know how people keep it together for years without blowing up at some point.
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HoAssHo posted:Jesus Christ, this is like, chilling. Peeing on things as revenge in particular is a sign of mental illness. Destroying poo poo, cutting off people's hair, pouring glue on a cat, etc.- none of this is normal 5 year-old tantrum stuff. The parents hosed up by giving in but this girl is not well and they hosed up worst of all by not getting her help years ago. Now that she's an adult, you just hold birthday parties all the time and never give her anything until she really snaps. That leads to a 72 hour inpatient mental health stay with a BPD diagnosis as a parting gift.
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Jun 24, 2017 22:13
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Sometimes, people refuse to address their child's negative behavior because it triggers some guilt, anxiety, or insecurity which they really don't wish to address.
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Jun 24, 2017 22:16
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Doc Hawkins posted:Sometimes, people refuse to address their child's negative behavior because it triggers some guilt, anxiety, or insecurity which they really don't wish to address. It doesn't even have to be that deep. I see that clinically all the time. Kid has one tantrum, parent caves "just this once." Kid has the tantrum again the next week, parent doesn't give in right away this time, so the kid escalates to the point where they cave. Rinse and repeat until you've created a monster that is gouging their eyes out or throwing up on people on purpose or breaking their mom's fingers when they don't get their way. I guarantee the sister pitches fits over anything that isn't her way, not just birthdays. At this point the parents are basically held hostage to her tantrums. The anxiety is just fear that "Oh gently caress I really don't want to deal with that today."
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Dienes posted:It doesn't even have to be that deep. I see that clinically all the time. Kid has one tantrum, parent caves "just this once." Kid has the tantrum again the next week, parent doesn't give in right away this time, so the kid escalates to the point where they cave. Rinse and repeat until you've created a monster that is gouging their eyes out or throwing up on people on purpose or breaking their mom's fingers when they don't get their way. I guarantee the sister pitches fits over anything that isn't her way, not just birthdays. At this point the parents are basically held hostage to her tantrums. The anxiety is just fear that "Oh gently caress I really don't want to deal with that today." In your professional opinion, not that I'm advocating violence, but technically, would bitch slapping work?
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HoAssHo posted:Still, as the sister, how do you not just snap and scream in her face about what an entitled maniac she is at some point?? I'm not a yeller and don't have a temper, but with some of these stories like this involving really over-the-top unreasonable behavior, I don't know how people keep it together for years without blowing up at some point. When dealing with someone like this, you just cut off all contact. It's just not worth the effort to blow up at them, it's just tiring and embarassing to deal with their poo poo and you don't want any of it any more
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Jun 24, 2017 22:58
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On her wedding that girl's sister is going to demand a husband too while pissing on the wedding cake. Piss on the band. Piss on the gifts. Hike up one leg and take a good piss on the wedding dress.
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I just don't get why she brought her bf to her birthday party at her parents' house with her lunatic sister. Why would she do that? She had to know what was gonna happen, right?
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Jun 24, 2017 23:49
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OctaMurk posted:When dealing with someone like this, you just cut off all contact. It's just not worth the effort to blow up at them, it's just tiring and embarassing to deal with their poo poo and you don't want any of it any more Oh definitely, that's the proper way to handle it - I'm not saying that screaming is a good way to handle it, but growing up together, the sister had no option to cut contact and it had to have been so infuriating.
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Esoteric Scientist posted:I just don't get why she brought her bf to her birthday party at her parents' house with her lunatic sister. Why would she do that? She had to know what was gonna happen, right? Maybe she was just thinking, "gently caress, I gotta get this over with at some point."
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GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:In your professional opinion, not that I'm advocating violence, but technically, would bitch slapping work? Not Dienes, but a child therapist - no. That just increases the negative behavior. Psychiatric care and very consistent, firm boundaries from a young age work best. The sister isn't likely to change now because it works so well.
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Jun 25, 2017 00:39
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Apparently the sister doesn't just demands gifts at her sister's birthday but at friends' birthdays too. Lost friends over it too. Mysteriously doesn't pull this poo poo when it's an older person's birthday.
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GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:In your professional opinion, not that I'm advocating violence, but technically, would bitch slapping work? Bonster posted:Not Dienes, but a child therapist - no. That just increases the negative behavior. Psychiatric care and very consistent, firm boundaries from a young age work best. The sister isn't likely to change now because it works so well. Bonster is right. Spanking and bitch slapping is typically ineffective and only escalates the situation. In the cases where it does get them to cut it out, it only works right there in the moment - its not going to cause a long-term change and now you're stuck hitting them constantly. I've seen cases where shock was used to effectively treat extreme violence, self-injury, pica, etc. when the person was near killing themselves or others, but that required 24/7 management from a large team of trained professionals to use correctly/ethically. For a likely BPD case like this, a bitch slap is more likely to just feed attention/reactions into it than actually curtail it. Little sister needs to be Baker Acted and put through a medication regimen and intensive therapy, while her parents get training on how to set up boundaries and expectations effectively. This will likely take a lot of time, money, and effort, so it will never happen. OP should just cut contact.
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My girlfriend [20/f] and I [23/m] have an amazing relationship except she might have cheated on me? What do I do?quote:So, we met each other in college and are still in college. Been together for over two years, she's awesome, we both love a lot of the same things (hiking, camping, adventures, video games, etc.). A few months back she suggested that we try having a threesome with some friends of ours that might be interested, which I agreed to! Fast forward a few weeks, we're in the middle of school and work, I'm stressed as gently caress, haven't been putting effort into flirting with people and my girlfriend out of the blue says she wouldn't mind if I slept with one of our friends alone, if I wanted to. I say great, thanks babe, and go back to work. The next week she informs me that she will be sleeping with a friend of mine that I knew she was attracted to while I was at work. I was basically not okay with this at all and told her so, but after days of cajoling and talking about it and reassurances that opening up our relationship would be good for us, I said okay. She sleeps with him and sets up a friends-with-benefits style thing, which I am also not comfortable with. I need to say at this point that I love this girl, and that I was going along with this because ideally I would also be free to pursue the same thing. A few weeks later we get drunk and she confesses that she'd been flirting with her guy for months, even before she talked to me about threesomes, and that she'd basically opened up our relationship to sleep with him. I was devastated then and still am. It's been months, we've struggled with it so much, but I still feel like I love her! I can barely bring myself to consider ending it but I can't escape the feeling that I allowed myself to be manipulated and used. All this hurt and anger has also hurt me in terms of actually flirting and getting out there, and as of yet I have not slept with anyone else. I feel like a fool, what do?
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maskenfreiheit posted:My girlfriend [20/f] and I [23/m] have an amazing relationship except she might have cheated on me? What do I do? "Reddit, I know exactly what I need to do. But I don't want to do it. I just want to hear all of you tell me what I know must be done, while I feebly justify not doing it."
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Chill Nazi Frog posted:That was a whole long thing that started with this trio of posts and like any tasty story it spirals way downward the deeper you look into it. Long story short, it turns out she went (or was) absolutely insane and is now single and likely homeless after driving away her fiance and his family, assaulting her nephew and sister and getting booted from home, tossing around the idea of suing her ex for the home she has zero claim on and getting laughed at, and generally being an insufferable fucker. This is a reply to the 2nd post from the same lady. quote:If we intend to transition from a society that oppresses women to a woman-centered society, we should start with education. From a young age, women need to be taught the dangers of associating with men. We'd also teach them about PIV and the dangers of Trauma-Bonding to a male that come with it. They should be taught about men's toxic sexuality, the dangers of hetero-captivity, and how they need woman only safe spaces. We would also tailor men's education to helping them resist their necrophilic sexual urges (in the off chance that their violence and sexuality stems from societal conditioning instead of their flawed biology), that they never should congregate in groups, and to never speak or talk over women or invalidate their experiences. Can't you just be lesbian and happy?
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blackmet posted:This is a reply to the 2nd post from the same lady. found a picture of her 
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Esoteric Scientist posted:I just don't get why she brought her bf to her birthday party at her parents' house with her lunatic sister. Why would she do that? She had to know what was gonna happen, right? First dinner with the family is always a lil awkward isn't it
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Girl at work teasing me? (self.dating_advice)quote:I have been at this office job for about 6 months. I am at most a 6. She is easily an 8. Because of this I never thought twice about her. Out of nowhere, she gives me a sort of long, provocative look. This turned my world upside down. From her desk she continues to give me these looks. Out in the hallways, she acts like I DON'T EXIST. And I am terrified to even talk to her.
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maskenfreiheit posted:Girl at work teasing me? (self.dating_advice) This guy sounds like a serial killer
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Danaru posted:To be fair, who would suspect the obviously-pretending-to-be-a-spy guy as actually being a spy? Yeah. Real spies are paper-pushers who occasionally swipe documents to pass along or tape conversations and shadow people. Ian Fleming was a paper-pushing spy. James Bond was a brilliant piece of wish fulfillment and misdirection rolled into one. Everyone knew spies were handsome, womanizing, alcoholic daredevils once Bond hit the scene. Must have bought a few moles some breathing room from nosy civilians during the Cold War.
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Haifisch posted:I [25/f] wasn't invited to my boyfriend's [29/m] close friend's wedding. The bride said the invitation wasn't a mistake but I can go if I want. I don't feel right going at this point but my boyfriend wants me to. maskenfreiheit posted:take yes for an answer you stupid loving redditor I'd agree if the bride/groom had apologized for the mistake, but it sounds like they weren't apologizing, just going "oh, you can bring your 'girlfriend' if you really must." I don't think the OP is crazy for feeling unwanted there!
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