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My friend recently moved into a room in a house in Minnesota. His landlord has been renting the house out on AirBnb since he moved in and kicks him out for a few days at a time while people from AirBnb are staying at the house. While my friend and his landlord have had conversations in which he said they might be able to find a way to get AirBnb to work while he is staying there (before he'd thought through how impractical this would be) this certainly isn't mentioned in his lease. I've been letting him stay with me when this happens but it's a ridiculous situation.

Any advice on how he should get out of this situation? Is it more practical to stay in the place and fight based on the lease or just move out and fight if she tries to claim he has to stay for the duration of the lease? Any advice on ways to handle this situation or resources my buddy could use to help address this situation with his landlord would be appreciated.

Danaru posted:

Landlord rents out my friends room on Airbnb

Zil posted:

Danaru posted:

Landlord rents out my friends room on Airbnb

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As the title says. We were all working for a digital marketing company, through the company the CEO introduced us to a bitcoin trader. He had been getting steady returns of 10% monthly. Well, he said it's something we should invest into. So, trusting our CEO because it's our CEO and he had 50k+ with him, we invested. Some $2500, some $10,000, one even $15,000 In the course of 3 months or so.

Well, I've met the trader several times, seemed like a great guy. We exchanged a lot of texts all clearly stating what the returns were, and that we could pull out our money WHENEVER and that it could take up to a week to receive the money.

So, I pulled out my money, I knew him personally, and he transferred $2,000 of the $2,500 original investment which had been in there 6 months. So, there was still another $1,500+ in my investment (10% return compounded monthly).

It took him several weeks to get me the money, and even when I got it, it wasn't the full amount I asked for. It's been 2 months, and he keeps saying next week next week. Well, I informed a few other investors which set off a chain reaction of everyone wanting to pull out, threatening law suits, and a lot of other threats to the trader. He will text us back usually once a week, or every 10 days something like "Hey man, sorry, I have a huge deal coming in this week, I'll be able to send you the money" which in return keeps up on the hook and believing we will get our money back.

Combined there is probably 40k+ gone, and we are from all around the United States between 15 of us.

What legal actions are there, if any? I have been informed texts are enforceable and we all have the texts of the clearly stated returns we would be seeing.

Along with all of this, the market for BTC has ONLY gone up. We all got in when btc was around $700, and it's now over $3k. No decrease in the coin. The way he was trading was supposably safe, by making safe, non risky trades. The concept of buying in bulk for cheap, selling in low quantity for higher prices.

PS: He has money, he didn't lose it ALL, he flexes his Presidential Rolex, weekly bottles of ace at the club, Versace jewelry, casino rounds, and penthouse suites. Just seems as if he's not paying out Extra: There was other people in the industry that had invested as well, with no connection to my CEO. My CEO burned a lot of bridges, and we don't know If he got his money back or not. We assume he probably did because he was the main investor from my specific group. None of us communicate with him any longer, and there will be another thread with that whole situation!

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Lmao. I get that finding the clit with a new woman can be tough, but it's brainlessly simple if your girlfriend literally tells you where it is. 😂🤣

monkeytennis posted:

It's in the same spot on every woman, how is it tough to find??

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Lmao. I get that finding the clit with a new woman can be tough, but it's brainlessly simple if your girlfriend literally tells you where it is. 😂🤣

monkeytennis posted:

It's in the same spot on every woman, how is it tough to find??

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My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for two years. We are inseparable and very much in love. I wouldn't cheat on her if the opportunity was handed to me on a silver platter. However, sometimes I'll see suggestive pictures of really attractive women, like the kind of models you see on Instagram, and I find myself fighting the urge to masturbate to these pictures. Sometimes I'll just have those urges naturally and seek out pictures that do it for me. I don't really watch porn anymore, as I find suggestive photos to do it for me even better. The thing is, these aren't pictures of my girlfriend. My girlfriend is objectively an attractive woman and I am attracted to her, but I think years of being single and watching porn has had an effect on me where I now get off on variety. Even when I was single, I rarely watched the same porn twice and sometimes I'd spend an hour or more looking for something new to get off to.

I haven't told my girlfriend about this because I'm sure she'd be upset about it, so it's causing me a lot of guilt. I don't know if what I'm doing is normal or not, or if I should seek some sort of treatment for it or it's something I should really try to work on myself. She's my world and I don't want to be unfaithful or unloyal to her, but my lustful urges really take over sometimes when she's not around and I end up jacking off to pictures of other girls.

Thoughts?

tl;dr - I masturbate to sexy pictures of instagram models but I'm in a devoted relationship to my girlfriend. I'm having guilt about this.

monkeytennis posted:

It's in the same spot on every woman, how is it tough to find??

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

False. The clit protrudes differently on every woman.

13Pandora13 posted:

Every lesbian and bi woman goon is laughing their rear end off at this post, myself included.

Tender Bender posted:

Lol "I gave a guy a bunch of money to invest for me, now he spends a ton of money on luxurious items but won't give me back my money, what's going on?"

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When we first moved into our apartment about a month ago (didn't know her until then), we noticed a weird onion smell when we walked into the apartment.

This smell is only sometimes there when you walk into the apartment. It's gone, otherwise. I think it's coming from someone cooking, I don't know. For me it's not really bothersome because it's gone as soon as you walk away from the door.

My roommate has mentioned it bothered her before. She has called maintenance to see if they can get rid of the smell, and they tried some things, but they didn't work.

The leasing office offered to transfer us, but she no longer wants to live at the apartment.

She said she feels no longer safe or comfortable living here and that the smell is nauseating, and that it is "unlivable." She also mentioned her work is moving (she doesn't have a car).

The apartment place has a 30-day move-in guarantee. If we don't like it, we can both break the lease and move somewhere else from 30 days of breaking the lease.

We have until tomorrow to exercise our 30-day move-in guarantee!!!!!!

I had no idea this smell is so disturbing to my roommate that she wants to move out, and she informed me via text last night that she wants to leave the place and have me co-sign and do the lease break. She said I can re-sign with them with a new roommate.

She told me I have until that day or today to sign, and that if I don't sign, she will exercise her legal options and get law enforcement involved and file a restraining order on me.

I was really shocked by her texts, so I immediately called the leasing office to ask what's up. They sent me an email informing us of 3 options we have:

Option 1: "Provide us with a written 30-day notice to vacate (signed by both of you) no later than Monday, December 21st if you would like to use your 30-day move in guarantee."

Option 2: "If only one person decides to vacate the apartment, both parties MUST agree to sign a roommate release form. The person who remains in the apartment must qualify either on their own or with a new roommate or a co-signer within 24 hours. If the person who remains in the apartment does not qualify, the vacating roommate will not be removed from the lease and is still considered a responsible lease holder."

Option 3: Transfer to a different apartment.

So we actually have until Monday to figure things out, and not the Saturday or Sunday that my roommate said that was so urgent.

My roommate proposed option 1, saying we can break the lease and have me re-sign.

The problem for me is that in order for me to re-sign with them, the apartment people would require me to physically move out of the apartment so they could put it on the market and then I would have to move into a place that's on the market.

Also, I would need to find someone to room with me for a Jan 21 move-in date or earlier, because I would not financially qualify for the lease on my own. I don't know if I could find a roommate by then, and I would have no place to go if it takes longer for a Jan 21 move in date.

I am currently on the lookout now for a roommate that can sign with me tomorrow to do the roommate release and have a new roommate move in (option 2).

My roommate is absolutely adamant that she wants me to sign or find a new roommate within 24 hours, or she will get law enforcement involved because she no longer feels safe or comfortable living there.

In a text she said, "would you like me to send this form to you by email for you to sign and submit, or would you like to meet? I'd hate to have to get law enforcement officials involved, and think we can resolve this amicably."

She said she will file a restraining order on me if I don't sign because the office informed her that they could get a restraining order on me if I don't.

I talked to the leasing office and they said:

"She asked how she can get out of her lease if you refuse to sign; she mentioned that she wants to get a letter from a doctor or lawyer stating that her apartment is "inhabitable". She asked how she can legally take action and I told her that I have only seen this play out in a legal way once in the past, which was after a roommate had a restraining order against another roommate. I would like to clarify that I did not encourage anyone to request a restraining order, nor can I compare the prior situation with yours. Again, this decision needs to be a mutual agreement between both parties. "

Now I actually found someone who is coming to look at the place. I explained to my roommate my side of the story of what would happen to me, and she just doesn't care. She replied and said:

"As I said I no longer feel safe or comfortable living in the apartment and have decided to move forward with exercising my legal options for obtaining permission to exit. I do hope for your sake the girl likes the room, but as I said I certainly will NOT be residing in the apartment a day later than 1/20, if even until then. You can contact me to schedule a time to sign the 30 day guarantee forms on Monday; otherwise I will be forced to proceed."

I just don't see how my roommate could successfully file a restraining order on me because of an onion smell in the doorway of the apartment (she does claim she can smell it in her room, though) and my refusing to release her as a roommate (until I find a roommate) or break the lease with her by tomorrow.

When she co-signed the lease with me, she pretty much accepted the risk that it must be a mutual agreement between us to use the 30-day move-in guarantee or sign whatever documents. It's supposed to be a unanimous decision, but it's not in our situation.

I don't want to move out and actually can't move out without risk of my going homeless. It's too much of an inconvenience.

I told her we can find a new roommate to take over her lease in the meantime, but she is not willing to wait and wants to be released from it on Monday and does not want to reside longer than 1/20. Or else she'll get law enforcement involved and file a restraining order on me.

I have no idea where she is getting her advice from or if she knows how restraining orders work. It would need to get a judge, and even then, who would take her case?

I am honestly dumbfounded and shocked by this. I thought we were friends. We had a great conversation when we first met and connected very well. She doesn't have a car, so I have done grocery shopping with her and have picked her up from work a few times and told her she can get a ride from me anytime.

I asked her if her wanting to move out has anything to do with me, such as leaving dishes in the sink overnight, and she said this has nothing to do with me. She just hates the smell and wants to be gone.

I have a feeling this has to do with her work moving too, and so she wants to be free of the lease and get her way and just doesn't really care about what happens to me.

Her treatment of me and disregard for my circumstances just seems entirely unfair given that this is about an onion smell in the doorway of the apartment. I told her it's not like there's a fire or that her health is in danger. She said it doesn't matter what the problem is and that everything is subjective...

She probably feels I am trying to hold her hostage at this point. But refusing to sign a 30-day move-in guarantee isn't a hostage situation, and the decision is supposed to be mutual.

I don't know why she doesn't want to wait for me to find a roommate at a reasonable time. Again, she wants to be free of this place by Monday to sign everything so she can move out 1/20.

I really panicked and started crying about all this when I got her texts last night. I wasn't in town so I wasn't at the apartment when this happened. Also, sorry if I've repeated too many things in this post.. I'm just still a bit shocked and feel pressured by everything.

Anyways, I am on the search for a roommate now. I really don't want to deal with my roommate having to get law enforcement involved. But she already said she's exercising her legal options...whatever that means.

Also, I'm going to talk to the leasing office tomorrow when they open about finding a roommate within 24 hours. 24 hours will have been gone by tonight, and the office is closed today, so I think they meant by Monday.

*TLDR:

Within 2 days of our 30-day move-in guarantee expiring, roommate is threatening to file a restraining order on me if I don't sign a lease break with her because of an onion smell in the apartment that makes it "unlivable." She no longer feels safe or comfortable living here.

I want to find a new roommate by tomorrow so my current roommate can be free of the lease, and if I don't, continue the roommate search so someone can take over her lease.

Roommate wants whatever it takes to have papers signed by tomorrow so she can be free of the apartment or else she's gonna get law enforcement involved.

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I found someone to take over her lease. I like this new roommate, and she seems better than the one I have now.

I texted my current roommate at 5pm yesterday but hadn't heard from her since 4am that day, asking me more info about this prospective roommate because she didn't feel safe having her in our apartment unless she knew more about her.

I gave her info, then a later texted her that the new roommate wanted to sign.

I FINALLY got a reply from her just now today, and she said she had just received all my texts!!! Wtf!

We are all meeting tomorrow to sign things.

LOL My current roommate wants the new roommate to pay the security deposit she is going to lose. I told my current roommate she can ask the new roommate about it tomorrow. It's not my problem, and I don't think the new roommate should pay it. Current roommate should lose the $250.

I feel bullied and taken advantage of after all this... She threatened me with legal action and pressured me to get what she wanted. The funny thing is that it should have been her responsibility to hustle for a new roommate!

I am definitely having words with her but only after she's out of our place. She's too crazy and unstable.

Also, I'm now stuck with her until 2/1, instead of 1/20. Loool She texted me and said "unfortunately because of the delay I have to move out 2/1 and not 1/20."

I feel like a total sucker about all this. I probably shouldn't have done anything and let her do all the work.

I am too tired to deal with anything more right now.. I've already had so much other stress happen this year.

Also, I am suspecting my roommate planned all this before she moved in with me. How could her work just inform they're going to move so soon? When we first met, she mentioned her company was IPO'ing.

She also recently changed jobs and previously lived in a town close to her old work and moved in a week after our official move-in date, probably to start her new job in this town.

I suspect she had planned to take advantage of the 30-day move-in guarantee and then decided to bail on me within it.

She probably used the onion smell as an excuse. If there wasn't an onion smell, she would have used another excuse or would have pushed on the no questions asked, 30-day move-in guarantee.

What a stupid plan that could have really backfired on her. She could have taken a taxi for a month. Geez. What a nut.

TLDR: Found new roommate. Current roommate didn't respond until way after the office closed and wants the $250 security deposit from new roommate that lease won't give back. OP feels bullied and taken advantage of. OP suspects current roommate may have planned all this chaos ahead of time.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Lmao. I get that finding the clit with a new woman can be tough, but it's brainlessly simple if your girlfriend literally tells you where it is. 😂🤣

Lonely Virgil posted:

Fantastic Clitorises and Where to Find Them.

Haifisch posted:

My roommate is absolutely adamant that she wants me to sign or find a new roommate within 24 hours, or she will get law enforcement involved because she no longer feels safe

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Was she molested by an onion
Does she get flashbacks in the grocery aisle?

Sialia posted:

DON'T TRIGGER ME! You're promoting vegetable culture! Onions are NOT OK!

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I met Jane online cause we both play the same videogame. We started talking and realised we lived in the same city. I knew Jane was a lesbian, so it was never a problem.
Jane and I were discussing some new burger place in town, on FB, I don't know why but I was feeling lonely and sad and I told her: 'Hey, I know you like girls but if you would ever feel the need to have sex with a guy, I'd be more than likely to help.'
She read the message and didn't reply. Yesterdayevening I send her 'I'm sorry for what I said.' she basically told me to f*** off.
I am not sure if this can be fixed?

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I[28M] said something sexual to my lesbian friend [21F], afraid I ruined the friendship


I am not sure if this can be fixed?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and very much love each other. He is extremely affectionate and always telling me he loves me and I never really doubt his feelings, unless we're arguing.

I will be very honest and say that I can be very nit picky with things. I always have been but I have gotten much better at dealing with it thanks to my mom (a counselor). He calls me out on it and I'm glad he does because it's something I need to fix no matter what.

During an argument, he told me that he doesn't think that i believe he can live up to what I want him to be. That really got me thinking and I told him that he's already beyond my expectations. He's a very selfless guy who cares so deeply about me and friends. He's genuine and respectful, and he makes me so happy.

I know what he's talking about, though. He does certain things that I constantly call him out on because I know they won't be good for him in the long run. Certain behaviors bother me, mostly because I find them kind of rude, but also because I know in the future, his behavior traits could get him in trouble.

Examples:

When something happens that he doesn't like, he SHUTS down. Like, he won't speak to you, just stare in a VERY brooding manner with a very deadpan/angry expression. He does it whenever I bring up something that bothers me or if i question something he did. Which I tend to do, a lot, because we are different people and sometimes, he'll do something really wacky that I take in a negative way because that's my perception. I ALWAYS ask for clarification because I don't want to jump to conclusions. But when i question him, he gets upset. He always says he does stuff but never knows why or has a reason for doing it. Which leads into my next point.

I am VERY big on how things are worded and having reasons for doing things. Granted, there have been times that I will do things without thinking, but i always have a reason. It's taken me a bit but I've gotten used to him not being able to give me a reason for his doing of things or how he says things. He's a big grammar person when it comes to texting. In our group chats with friends, the way he'll word things come off as angry or rude. Our friends have brought it up and he'll say that he doesn't mean it like that. But he doesn't get that he'll say stuff that doesn't translate in a joking way that he wants.

I have very dry humor, which is why I always make it a point to say that i'm joking. the only person who can tell that i'm joking without me saying it is my best friend of 2 years, but only because we are LITERALLY the same person. But i am very self aware of stuff like that because that's just how i am. But my bf is not.

SO that leads into a weird territory I have always been very wary of.

I take everything i tell him as a "this is something you should work on for the betterment of yourself". Granted, I NEED to work on how I word things because i can be very /dry tone/: "why would you do that instead of 'this'?" instead of /soft tone/: "babe, in the future, 'this' will probably be a better idea". This is something I have been getting better at but it's not an immediate thing.

He takes it in the "you aren't loving me for who i am, you're trying to change me and asking for too much and nothing is ever good enough".

He is a classic dependent person. He admits it. His parents are scary selfish and narcissistic. His mother made him very dependent so everyone he has ever dated had basic control over him. He won't decide things for himself and if i don't remind him of something, it won't get done.

I am very big on all the things he's isn't. Which is whatever, I have a very strong 'mom' presence so it's not that big a bother but certain things bother me.

His sister died of an Aneurysm four years ago. Did he or his parents get MRI's like they were strongly recommended to? No. Does he suffer from extremely painful headaches daily? Yes. Has he had a decent night sleep since middle school? No. Does he have an extremely hard one falling asleep? Yes. Does he oversleep or under sleep and wake up a terrible headache? Constantly. Did a doctor tell him that an MRI would give them a better idea at what the problem is so they can fix his constant headaches and horrible sleeping patterns? Yes.

What does his mother do? Go on constant trips and spend upwards of hundreds of dollars, get cosmetic surgery that is not cheap, and then get upset that he can't sleep and failed classes because she made him work while going to school when he would constantly tell her he couldn't do both because of his sleeping and headaches. She is very wacky and I've tried to make it a point that he needs to try and do something about it. WHICH HE HAS AND IT HAS WORKED. the only reason they went to a doctor to recommend an MRI was because i got upset that he slept until 6pm everyday that we're supposed to hang out and i wouldn't get to see him much. He cried because the lack of sleep and headaches was taking a toll on him.

So, my question is for advice. He is wonderful and I genuinely have strong feelings for him and would love a future with him. But is this doomed?

Am i being the girl that "nothing is ever good enough" for, and should I let it go? Or how do i approach this in a better way? or, to people who's significant others are polar opposites, how do you do it? Thank you in advance

tl;dr: My boyfriend takes things i tell him about his behaviors as him not "being good enough for me" and that we argue a lot and he just wants a "happy relationship". He has his faults and so do i but i genuinely want to help him fix the behaviors that won't benefit him in the future but is that me trying to change him in a bad way? like i'm not accepting who is he? i do accept him!! but certain things he does aren't good for him.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

these horrible fucks will probably be married for like 50 years lol

My BF (21M) and I (21F) argue a lot because we are Different People™ and I don't know if I'm being the "nothing is ever good enough" girlfriend with him.

Lonely Virgil posted:

Sometimes the man in the boat is north, sometimes in the south west, but great knowledge comes to those who find him.

ArbitraryC posted:

She literally gives zero examples of the behavior she is talking about so it's impossible to determine who is in the wrong. Like she admits to being overly nitpicky but then suggests he's being oversensitive when she picks a fight. Is what he's doing inappropriate and needs correcting or is she controlling? the world may never know.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I[28M] said something sexual to my lesbian friend [21F], afraid I ruined the friendship


I am not sure if this can be fixed?

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I[28M] said something sexual to my lesbian friend [21F], afraid I ruined the friendship


I am not sure if this can be fixed?

Khorne posted:

Talk about trying to play down a gently caress up. That's not "something sexual", which goes over fine with lesbian friends in my experience. That's "I propositioned my lesbian friend for sex" which is very, very different.