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Pac-Manioc Root posted:I have a "work wife" and we'll chat and occasionally grab lunch or whatever but blowing kisses and spending every working moment and every lunch together is weird and I doubt she'd break down crying if her hubby said "hey I'm not comfortable with how you are around Pac-Manioc Root maybe dial that poo poo back."
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ArbitraryC posted:I've had coworkers that had an office marriage dynamic before but they were clearly just good friends rather than actively flirting. Blowing kisses and spending an inordinate amount of time in each others offices is obviously crossing a line, particularly if Jim is already unhappy in his marriage. It's an easily soluble problem, she just needs to dial it back from like an "11" to a more obviously harmless "5." She won't though because r/relationships.
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I had a 'lab wife' in grad school, except we were like an old married couple who constantly argued, competed for time on equipment, and loudly griped about each other from across the office. Good times; I miss her.
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You left out that the lady married to the child used a throwaway called "angryoverbacon." Some comments from the wife: quote:He can't cope with the modern world, I agree. He keeps telling me that he'd have been a great husband 50 years ago, but that life's too hard on men now. quote:His mum did do everything for him, yeah. His father doesn't really have anything nice to say about him and jokingly asks me why I'm with his son. quote:By good dad, I meant that he wouldn't hit our child. I suppose that's a pretty low expectation. quote:In a lot of ways I'd be better off, mainly I'd just be able to see my family more often but I do feel responsible for him in a lot of ways. He has no job experience for a CV, no true life skills. I'd basically just be leaving him to live an awful life and he's told me he'd kill himself so many times that I couldn't cope with that. quote:I don't want to hurt him and I really don't know what he'd do if I left. A part of me is also afraid that I'm as damaged as him now and I wouldn't find anyone else. quote:He did go to CBT therapy a few years ago after I'd begged him to go but he said it was stupid and that he knew more than the therapist so he didn't need to go anymore.
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Jul 5, 2017 19:13
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jim wants to gently caress the guy's wifecumshitter posted:You left out that the lady married to the child used a throwaway called "angryoverbacon." and this is just sad
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cumshitter posted:You left out that the lady married to the child used a throwaway called "angryoverbacon."  especially the "i'm worried I'm as damaged as him and would never find nobody else."  before there's kids involved
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cumshitter posted:By good dad, I meant that he wouldn't hit our child. I suppose that's a pretty low expectation. oof
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Jul 5, 2017 19:24
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Well I'm depressed now Just go get a sperm donor or adopt, lady, you're used to having a baby at home you have to watch around the stove
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Jul 5, 2017 19:26
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In the comments she does at least take the advice of getting therapy for both of them. Which they both pretty clearly need.
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Jul 5, 2017 19:26
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:
Jesus, at least this one isn't going to get stuck having his kid.
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/r/relationships: By good dad, I meant that he wouldn't hit our child. I suppose that's a pretty low expectation.
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Jul 5, 2017 19:39
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What is this "work spouse" stuff? I only know of thinly-veiled contempt between my coworkers.
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cumshitter posted:In the comments she does at least take the advice of getting therapy for both of them. Which they both pretty clearly need. her baby already flaked out of therapy once. he isn't giving it another go.
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Jul 5, 2017 19:48
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:What is this "work spouse" stuff? I only know of thinly-veiled contempt between my coworkers. sounds like you're work polygamous
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:What is this "work spouse" stuff? I only know of thinly-veiled contempt between my coworkers. I think it's people you say "thank god it's Friday" to
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:What is this "work spouse" stuff? I only know of thinly-veiled contempt between my coworkers. What's your question?
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No, really, what's the definition of a work spouse? Because if it's a person of the other gender that you get along with, but would never gently caress, isn't that, like, a friend at work? And if it's a person of another gender that you would gently caress, then why are we acting like it's cute?
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:What is this "work spouse" stuff? I only know of thinly-veiled contempt between my coworkers. Slugworth posted:No, really, what's the definition of a work spouse? Because if it's a person of the other gender that you get along with, but would never gently caress, isn't that, like, a friend at work? Sometimes you gel really well with someone at work. Sometimes you spend more time at work than with your spouse/family and that work relationship becomes a surrogate for the the other relationships you are letting wither and fester. Often both parties are married or are at least in committed relationships and are not interested in infidelity, but they pretty much become a couple during work hours as a coping mechanism. Sometimes the term is jokingly applied to people who just rock at work together.  I never had contempt for anything but management, same for fellow employees. It was pretty much entrenched class warfare breeding camaraderie within the proletariat. Kinda weird in America.
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Slugworth posted:No, really, what's the definition of a work spouse? Because if it's a person of the other gender that you get along with, but would never gently caress, isn't that, like, a friend at work? An emotional concubine.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:
In the context of everything in this thread, this just sounds like a normal dude reaching his burnout point and acting poorly.
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CharlestheHammer posted:An emotional concubine. It's this
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new phone who dis posted:In the context of everything in this thread, this just sounds like a normal dude reaching his burnout point and acting poorly. it was poorly timed after the actual manbaby but drat that girl got hollowed out like a fucken canoe and dude still expects her to do his homework for him
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Jul 5, 2017 20:29
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She doesn't even know anything about his job, how would she even be able to do it? She could help him with parts of it but expecting her to do the whole thing is weird.
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Jul 5, 2017 20:32
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it was poorly timed after the actual manbaby but drat that girl got hollowed out like a fucken canoe and dude still expects her to do his homework for him I expect he's just doing literally everything without enough time to get it all done and is desperately trying to figure out something she can do to alleviate the pressure. Also, her hang-up on "cheating" is pretty childish considering that job is how both of them are currently surviving. It's not grade school, lady.
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It sounds like he's just melting the gently caress down on the nearest available target who isn't in a position to get him fired or anything over it, and had to go all the way to 'my spouse won't magically make my work go away' to find an actual grievance to start a fight with her over, without it ever dawning on him that maybe the problem is him and he shouldn't be picking on his incredibly unwell and extremely accomodating wife. He's def not the biggest freak in the thread but gently caress that's a bar to clear
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Jul 5, 2017 20:51
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People on the internet are broken af.
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Viva Miriya posted:People on the internet are broken af. I know that's why I'm here.
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new phone who dis posted:I expect he's just doing literally everything without enough time to get it all done and is desperately trying to figure out something she can do to alleviate the pressure. Also, her hang-up on "cheating" is pretty childish considering that job is how both of them are currently surviving. It's not grade school, lady. he's still a loving rear end in a top hat because if you reach a burnout point you need to find someone and some way to vent that isn't taking it out on the person who is even worse off than you (ie the person who just had a major surgery to have all her loving guts loving removed)
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Jul 5, 2017 21:14
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How do these idiots just stumble right into a relationship with a woman who will take care of them financially AND do all the housework? Wait... maybe it's because they're incompetent that they find these girls? Maybe she sought out a gormless idiot she'd have to take care of, for reasons incomprehensible to me?
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cumshitter posted:You left out that the lady married to the child used a throwaway called "angryoverbacon." translation: He would have been able to be a lazy poo poo who shoved all the work off on his wife, and nobody would have batted an eye at it. Viva Miriya posted:People are broken af.
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Jul 5, 2017 21:32
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Haifisch posted:"he'd have been a great husband 50 years ago, but that life's too hard on men " Actually, he would have been a bad husband because he doesn't want to work because he's a lazy piece of poo poo and he wouldn't have a wife because he wouldn't be able to provide.
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Haifisch posted:"he'd have been a great husband 50 years ago, but that life's too hard on men " Hell even in idealized Leave It To Beaver times there would at least be the expectation he'd put on his pinstripe suit, go put in a solid 50 hour week at the racism factory, and spend his weekends fussing over the lawn.
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MF_James posted:Actually, he would have been a bad husband because he doesn't want to work because he's a lazy piece of poo poo and he wouldn't have a wife because he wouldn't be able to provide. Mine [25F] and my family's religious differences are causing problems in my wedding. quote:So I want to start off by saying that I truthfully don't see this as being a HUGE deal which is why I'm trying to figure out why I feel so upset over it.
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Jul 5, 2017 21:40
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no but seriously where can I find a mom-wife so i dont have to go to work anymore. Do I need to start using reddit?
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Jul 5, 2017 21:41
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Haifisch posted:Point. Maybe I'm becoming an out-of-touch Old, but this honestly seems like a really minuscule concession for a free ride on the wedding bill as long as that's all they're asking. Means more to the Christ-Lovers not to have it than it would mean to include it for the "circus theme" so I say give it to 'em.
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Jim Barris posted:no but seriously where can I find a mom-wife so i dont have to go to work anymore. Do I need to start using reddit? if you missed Pick's extended saga of being conditioned from infancy to care for her manchild dad and sociopath mom, going out in the big wide world and immediately latching onto the most helpless and unrewarding recipient of care she could find, I kind of envy you
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^^^ guess I was kind of rightJim Barris posted:How do these idiots just stumble right into a relationship with a woman who will take care of them financially AND do all the housework? Wait... maybe it's because they're incompetent that they find these girls? Maybe she sought out a gormless idiot she'd have to take care of, for reasons incomprehensible to me? Armchair psychology warning: they have emotional issues as well, likely in the form of extraordinarily lovely self esteem / confidence, which is why they don’t just dump their horrible partner and get someone better. Probably due to some amount of abuse during childhood. Maybe one of their parents was abusive or emotionally distant, so they subconsciously want to help fix that relationship by seeking out a partner that’s similar in an attempt to fix him/her.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I kind of envy you I do. It was the most boring banal poo poo over and over for months. Weirdly obsessive and repetitive, and just kept being fired back up with the same stories and answers over and over. It's the worst (as in boring) I remember GBS being, like, ever. GRINDCORE MEGGIDO fucked around with this message at 21:58 on Jul 5, 2017 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:if you missed Pick's extended saga of being conditioned from infancy to care for her manchild parents, going out in the big wide world and immediately latching onto the most childish and helpless recipient of care she could find, I kind of envy you Viva Miriya posted:People on the internet are broken af.
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Loads of people unconsciously seek to replicate their parents' relationships, Redditors breed Redditors
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