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Viva Miriya
Jan 9, 2007

KomodoWagon posted:

This is 100% the case, always. People don't improve.

speak for yourself cumdrop

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Fartbox
Apr 27, 2017
What's happening? Dri fu an only two? what is this?
Is this an avatar? I don't know rm dunk

I used to kick friend of the family children in the face and wanted nothing more than to hang them from a tree!!!!1

but then i read a blog on love and understanding and now i'm a good person



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8 Ball
Nov 27, 2010

My hands are all messed up so you better post, brother.

quote:

My main issue right now, though, is that I'm starting to feel a pang of guilt in the back of my head for my actions that resulted in my dad, a man who raised me from age 5, being in custody, and possibly having his life ruined because of a stupid thing that he did. And at his age, it's going to be a lot harder for him to recover because he's mostly relied on my mother or I to help him with stuff like job hunting, bills, and the like.

So you're feeling guilty because an abusive deadbeat rear end in a top hat is losing access to his victims? gently caress that

vortmax
Sep 24, 2008

In meteorology, vorticity often refers to a measurement of the spin of horizontally flowing air about a vertical axis.

therattle posted:

I do too! They sometimes track down people in famous pictures, like the black kids sitting at a segregated lunch counter. That's interesting, but I'd also like to hear about the racist whose face is contorted by hate, screaming at them. Did they ever change? Realise they were wrong? Carry on being awful people?

Kind of?

therattle
Jul 24, 2007
Soiled Meat

Cool, thanks.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

Long, rambling confession ahead. Sorry in advance, processing a lot.

I am a house flipper and mostly focus on buying run down homes in really bad neighborhoods. I recently purchased a home for $11,000 which had major issues. The inside appeared to have last been updated in 1970, the basement had flooding and mold issues, and the yard was basically a giant expanse of mud. But I saw dollar signs at that cheap cost.

The sale went through and I started work on fixing the place up. At this point, the original owner of the home returned. It turns out he never wanted to sell the place, but was forced to due to crushing debt. He found out the house had been sold and decided to pay me a visit. This guy was the epitome of white trash. He pulled up in a POS truck covered in bumper stickers, told me that I was going to give him his house back, and threatened to take legal action against me. I told him he had no leg to stand on, that I owned the house, and that he was trespassing on my property.

He threatened me but I didn't back down, even when he said that he'd run me off the property and get the house back any way he could. I just told him I'd dealt with people like him before and had no problem with getting the police involved if needed.

He left but kept staring at me as he walked away, and honestly gave me the creepiest feeling I've ever had in my life.

The next day I came back to the house and found the windows smashed and parts of the yard dug up. I called the police and told them about the incident, and they promised to keep a lookout for this guy. I caught him the next day trying to dig up the yard again and, at the time, I thought he was trying to steal the mud for some reason or trying to convince me to just move out rather than deal with the headache.

A few days later the police actually did catch him trespassing, I pressed charges, and I thought things were taken care of. But then things took a really dark turn.

I worked my butt off on the house and finally started work on that lovely mud yard. And that's when I found the skeletons.

They were buried about 2 feet under the mud. My shovel hit what I assumed was rock, I started clearing out mud and found a tiny skull poking out instead.

Nine skeletons (so far) all of them appear to be young kids, all with major genetic issues. The coroner told me he thinks they were the product of generations of incest, based on some of the deformities he found. Stuff like skulls missing most of the teeth, eye holes that aren't even close to the same size, weird shapes to the skull, hands and feet with extra or missing digits. The strangest one to me; an arm that just ends in a mass of weird bone fragments.

The house is now a crime scene as the authorities continue to tear up the yard and the house itself, looking to see what the hell was going on. I believe they've talked to the previous owner, since he was obviously somehow involved, but he refuses to speak. The skeletons date back to the 1920s in some cases, so it's not like he was directly involved in all of this. I wonder if he managed to dig up any bodies on his nighttime visits to the house. Or, considering he knew he was losing the house, why he didn't remove all the bodies way in advance. Unless there were even more skeletons and these were the ones he couldn't easily find. Jesus, that's a scary thought.

I've basically given up on that house for now and have taken a sabbatical from house flipping in general right now. It's too mentally taxing to deal with it, and I'm too intrigued in what the hell happened in that house for nearly 100 years.

It is also a bizarre feeling to know you were walking over a mass grave multiple times.

I enjoyed reading this, although this may be because I just watched the first Treehouse Of Horror (S02E03)

quote:

Ever since my therapist and I started working on tackling my horrible trauma history I have had the worst nightmares. I don't want to tell my therapist because I want to tackle everything and get better but I am starting to get maybe 4 hours of sleep a night. I have a reoccuring nightmare where the step-dad who cut my eyelashes off also cuts off my nose and gouges my eyes out before lice and bedbugs explode from skull. The same step dad also put a lit ciggarette out on my left hand and I have a pretty noticable scar, which I desperately wish could be be removed. I have few people I can talk to about this because I've spent so long avoiding talking about my past. My serious boyfrienss have never really met my bio-parents (I've been with my current one for almost 3 years and he still hasn't met my actual bio-dad), my long term friends barely know anything and while I'm ok keeping it that my therapist is saying it's not healthy. I don't know how to be comfortable with being vulnerable and being vulnerable terrifies me.

You should probably tell your therapist about the dreams; I I doubt their reaction will be to say you should stop working on the trauma history and it seems pretty relevant

Anagram of GINGER
Oct 3, 2014

by Smythe
Isn't there a sandblasting treatment for scars now?

Neutrino
Mar 8, 2006

Fallen Rib

quote:

First off, gently caress YOU DONALD TRUMP.

I voted for this fucker and he's lied about every single thing I voted him in for. I work at carrier and, go figure, just found out I'm being laid off while the jobs move to mexico. I loving THOUGHT TRUMP STOPPED THIS BUT I GUESS NOT AND IT TURNS OUT loving SEAN SPICER JUST SAID IT DOESN'T MATTER.

my life is over. gently caress you Trump, gently caress you Republicans, you ruined another life.

This avatar paid for by the silent majority.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

I'm known among my friends as the guy who loves music and always goes to shows.

I do this because I haven't had any purpose or motivation since I graduated college and feel like I'm spinning my wheels. I've shied away from a ton of risks because I'm terrified of failure, and now I'm terrified I became a failure because of it.

I'm 26, employed, own my own car, see friends every weekend and, other than some health issues, am doing decently, on an objective level. Thing is, I hate myself with a burning passion.

I've had serious depression since middle school (first suicide attempt, though half-assed, was at 13). My parents never got me help; my sister was such a mess that they focused all their attention on her and figured if I was doing OK in school they were doing a good job. So I'm basically stoic and unemotional until the dam breaks.

Never told me word one about sex either so I had to teach myself, and I went to about the wrongest places possible, so I'm a virgin and a coward despite everyone in my life telling me I'm a catch. (Could be the furry porn talking - remember, I said wrongest places possible.) I also have huge confidence issues to the point where my base reaction to any compliment or attention is self-deprecation or sarcastic rebuttal.

Ends up I've been going to so many shows so I'd have something to look forward to when I fell back into contemplating suicide. I have a few laid out through December, but the depression has been getting a lot worse. I'm trying to get therapy but despite the fact I joined the work health plan almost a month ago, they still won't give me my info.

So I wait. I'm trying to get better but the demons aren't that far away.

Man. Friggin' bureaucracy.

Could you at least see which therapists would or would not be covered under the plan? If you can do that much, it might be worth paying for a session or two out-of-pocket if you can afford it so you can stay ahead of this stuff until the insurance info comes through. Keep writing them emails about that, btw; don't let them forget it.

quote:

Hello confessions thread. I've been dying to tell someone this story for more than a decade.

So when I was about 11 years old I had a babysitter that molested me. She was 17, I think, so she definitely knew that what she was doing was wrong. The weird thing is that I don't feel at all bad about it. In fact I think it made me a better lover in the long run. I was 11 years old and got taught by a teenager how to french kiss. How to play with boobs. How to finger girls. I was too young to fully enjoy these things, obviously, but it wasn't a terrible life altering experience either.

I know it was very wrong of her, and she did take advantage of a little kid, and I was too young to fully understand all the things I was doing, but I don't regret that it happened at all. There's a part of me that wonders if she sits up at night losing sleep because she raped some poor kid, and I honestly don't know how to feel about that part of it. I'm fine with it and think it was a net good for me (I've never had problems talking to girls or being comfortable with them sexually), but a part of me thinks that she should at the very least be ashamed and horrified that she raped an 11 year old. And another part of me wonders if there were other little boys that didn't take it as well as I did that might never have happened if I had just told my parents like knew I should have.

There's a decent chance of that, yes, but you can't really blame an 11-year-old kid who thinks he's stumbled into a good thing for not wanting to dry up the gravy train. There's no use feeling guilty about anything. If you're really 100% completely fine with it, just be thankful for that and let that be the end of it.

Zzulu
May 15, 2009

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can't you just go to a few furrycons and mingle with the assorted sadbrains there? Maybe it'll make you happy

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
I also did sex poo poo around that age with a girl a few years older. It owned, no issue. Is this actually a taboo thing?

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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I think I was about 12 or 13 when heavy petting and mouth stuff started up, so it's not that far off normal sexual experimentation. 17 and 11 is a big difference in maturity and the fact that she was in a position of "authority" is what makes it a little creepy to me, but if you're fine with it then who cares?

Nice.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

soy posted:

I also did sex poo poo around that age with a girl a few years older. It owned, no issue. Is this actually a taboo thing?

I imagine that for some kids there'd be a difference between a 17-year-old letting him feel her up and a 40-year-old touching his no-no zone but considering what's at stake the only sane place to put a hard-and-fast line on what is ok here is "nothing at all"

soy
Jul 7, 2003

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

loquacius posted:

I imagine that for some kids there'd be a difference between a 17-year-old letting him feel her up and a 40-year-old touching his no-no zone but considering what's at stake the only sane place to put a hard-and-fast line on what is ok here is "nothing at all"

Ya hell I didn't want anything to do with a girl over 30 until my mid 20s

tesilential
Nov 22, 2004

by Fluffdaddy
Yeah, even as a straight A student, when I was 12 I literally thought about boobs 99% of the day. Lucky bastard.

tesilential
Nov 22, 2004

by Fluffdaddy

soy posted:

Ya hell I didn't want anything to do with a girl over 30 until my mid 20s

lawl, yeah. I remember a time when a chic pushing a baby stroller was instantly too old, haha.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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tesilential posted:

lawl, yeah. I remember a time when a chic pushing a baby stroller was instantly too old, haha.

To this day I still don't want anything to do with women with kids. Not because they're too old, but because baby baggage is just too much to deal with and I'm way too selfish to consider being inconvenienced by a kid that's not blood related to me.

Police Automaton
Mar 17, 2009
"You are standing in a thread. Someone has made an insightful post."
LOOK AT insightful post
"It's a pretty good post."
HATE post
"I don't understand"
SHIT ON post
"You shit on the post. Why."
don't you normally kill the offspring that's not yours, I'm not up on the newest dating trends

limp_cheese
Sep 10, 2007


Nothing to see here. Move along.

Police Automaton posted:

don't you normally kill the offspring that's not yours, I'm not up on the newest dating trends

We're getting primal up in this bitch. Law of the jungle son!

Applesnots
Oct 22, 2010

MERRY YOBMAS

Throw in a few beers and friends and it makes for a good barbecue.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Hmmm, not quite what I was expecting when doing a GIS for "American Dad Stan elephant seal gif" but I feel it's worth posting anyways:

Rupert Buttermilk
Apr 15, 2007

🚣RowboatMan: ❄️Freezing time🕰️ is an old P.I. 🥧trick...

I remember this joke from Will and Grace (yeah :rolleyes:) where Megan Mullaly's character has to hang out with some 13 year old kid. He keeps saying stuff like "I just wanna play Xbox" or asking her if she has one.

At the end of the episode, she becomes friends with the kid (or at least fond of him) and she says he finally got to play with her xbox. Someone gets the kid an xbox, and sge sees it in the packaging and says "oh, that's called an Xbox, too?"

As a horny teenager who found (and still finds) that woman intensely attractive, I liked that joke, but yeah, I can't say it wasn't joking about pedophilia and possibly rape. :negative:

School Nickname
Apr 23, 2010

*fffffff-fffaaaaaaarrrtt*
:ussr:
Babysitter goon your dad paid the sitter extra to "educate" you and also to blow him.

Crab Dad
Dec 28, 2002

behold i have tempered and refined thee, but not as silver; as CRAB


Police Automaton posted:

don't you normally kill the offspring that's not yours, I'm not up on the newest dating trends

Only if you can eat them too.

Doctor Malaver
May 23, 2007

Ce qui s'est passé t'a rendu plus fort

Rupert Buttermilk posted:

I remember this joke from Will and Grace (yeah :rolleyes:) where Megan Mullaly's character has to hang out with some 13 year old kid. He keeps saying stuff like "I just wanna play Xbox" or asking her if she has one.

At the end of the episode, she becomes friends with the kid (or at least fond of him) and she says he finally got to play with her xbox. Someone gets the kid an xbox, and sge sees it in the packaging and says "oh, that's called an Xbox, too?"

As a horny teenager who found (and still finds) that woman intensely attractive, I liked that joke, but yeah, I can't say it wasn't joking about pedophilia and possibly rape. :negative:

Oh no I laughed at a sitcom joke, I need counseling

Mad Hamish
Jun 15, 2008

WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.



Rupert Buttermilk posted:

I remember this joke from Will and Grace (yeah :rolleyes:) where Megan Mullaly's character has to hang out with some 13 year old kid. He keeps saying stuff like "I just wanna play Xbox" or asking her if she has one.

At the end of the episode, she becomes friends with the kid (or at least fond of him) and she says he finally got to play with her xbox. Someone gets the kid an xbox, and sge sees it in the packaging and says "oh, that's called an Xbox, too?"

As a horny teenager who found (and still finds) that woman intensely attractive, I liked that joke, but yeah, I can't say it wasn't joking about pedophilia and possibly rape. :negative:

Karen Walker was the only thing funny about that show.

Now Megan Mullaly does the voice of Aunt Gail on Bob's Burgers.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

"I don't understand having a crush on Megan Mullally," said a guy who had a huge crush on Helena Bonham-Carter as a teen

quote:

My girl friend gas lights me, or at least some form of it I believe.

For our entire relationship it has been a running joke that I have "Men's Selective Hearing" and a terrible memory, which I sort of just took as true because I could often not remember things like what we'd decided on for dinner or when we planned on going out of town.

The thing is, I have a good memory for details on other things in daily life, such as in literature/ films/ friends and coworkers.

It really started to bother me why I couldn't remember conversations with my girl friend and it would make me feel awful when she would often tell me how self centered and selfish I was for not being able to remember anything that had to do with her, only myself and things that don't matter.

We spend quite a bit of time with her sister and her family, and I started to pick up on similarities between our relationship and theirs. Over several visits and several bottles of wine I gathered that her sister has the exact same complaints about her partner as my girl friend, even sending him to a hearing specialist, and that's when I started to get suspicious.

Around this time I also had a conversation with my girl friend's mother, who complained to me that my girl friend's father (who is a infamous boaster about anything and everything, such as how directs the mechanic to do certain things differently for his car and why that's smarter than what other people do) told her she was lighting their oil stove incorrectly, so she started doing it the way he told her to. A few months later he watched her light the stove and told her she was lighting it wrong again, telling her to light it a different way this time.

Her father also brings up his wife's horrible memory often, mocking her as developing Alzheimer's like her own mother, as well as her lack of sense. She has very little confidence and lives to serve him meals and keep house, she is completely dependent on him.

With this in mind, I started to make an effort to take note of decisions, silly things like what we're having for dinner and what we decided to do on the weekend. What I noticed was that while making decisions, my girl friend would often come up with several alternatives for even the most simple things (which store we would go to for groceries, what order we would go to them in, what time we would leave) before deciding on one of the many options. I would not be able to keep track of which plan we decided on, which would upset her and lead to accusations that I wasn't listening or couldn't be bothered to remember.

At the same time, she would often fib about conversations. For example, I was mowing our grass one day and she stopped me to ask if I would go for a walk with her afterwards. I said "Yes", and repeated it in my head a few times as I got back to work. After I had finished and had showered I got ready for our walk, only to find that she wasn't ready to go, telling me that I had told her "No". I insisted I had said "Yes", she told me a version of our conversation that 100% did not match what had been said.

Since then I have become more firm in both my answers and denials of remembering conversations incorrectly, which has led to quite a bit of fighting. I'm not a specialist, but I suspect that her behavior has to do with her father.

Looking at her mother I have decided that I'll never live the way that she does.

Honestly if you've got the data, and it backs you up, use it bro. Take notes on this stuff.

She might not be doing this consciously; she might just retroactively be choosing whatever version of reality currently suits her and projecting any discrepancies onto you. But either way being able to prove that she's not right 100% of the time should cause her to back off a little bit. She's formed her internal narrative, and either you need to change it or break it off.

quote:

I'll preface this with the fact that I'm older than the average poster here by a decent margin, and live in a town that would probably be categorized as "somewhat rednecky" in West Texas. Hard to imagine, I know, but bear with me.

I have been going to a local bar now for several years, like twice a month or so on Fridays or Saturdays. It's not a great place, but its inexpensive and the people are generally good folks. I'm a semi-regular, and have been hanging out with the same group of guys for a couple years now. Mostly King of the Hill types.

Last weekend, one of the guys I know only kind of well was in the bathroom when I came in to piss. There's two doors to get into the restroom, so normally you'd hear someone coming in, but that night the outside door was propped open for whatever reason and Dan didn't know someone was coming until I stepped in.

Long story short, he was adjusting his panties. And by panties, I mean red thonged woman's panties. He just looked down, finished adjusting, and walked out without making eye contact. It was as unlikely a thing as I've ever seen - Dan is solidly working-class, and almost a caricature of a West-Texas guy. Always good-natured, and I've never heard him say anything offensive about anyone, but you'd assume pretty conservative values to look at him.

I got back to the bar and he was pretty quiet. After a while, the crowd thinned out a bit and he came over and sat next to me at the bar. Still without saying anything or even looking at me. I had no idea what to say, if anything. Had he not finally brought it up, I would've just gone on like nothing had happened. I kinda felt bad for his predicament.

It was getting late and were both a little tanked. Once the bartender was out of earshot, he leaned in and said "I've been doing that for a while now, for no other reason than I just like it. I like how it feels. You know though, that if the bar finds out, I can't come back here". He didn't sound troubled by it, but more like he was glad to get it off his chest. I imagine that would be something of a relief.

I told him that he didn't have to worry about me - that I didn't have any moral or ethical problem with the idea, and that it seemed pretty harmless in fact. I also told him that I understood the importance of keeping my mouth shut, and that I also had the ability to. Those can be two separate things. He seemed ok with that and that seemed to be the end of it. No harm no foul.

Later, after closing time, we were in the parking lot just shooting the poo poo like normal, and he says "Just so you know, I love sucking cock". Just like that, just puts it out there. gently caress. Imagine basically Hank Hill tossing that out. I said Something along the lines of "Uh...ok...see ya next weekend" and left.

That was his confession. Mine is that I'll be damned if I haven't been thinking about Dan sucking my dick all this week. If that's what he meant by telling me. I don't even know.

I literally cannot think of a reason he would bring this up apart from that he wanted to do it, yeah

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Fake memory girlfriend goon, both my mom and my sister do this all the time too. And they even play off each other where they have these totally different memories of events or conversations than what me, my dad, and my brother-in-law remember. You have to call her out on it. If you let it go the problem is only going to get worse. It's been a pain in the rear end for the three of us to start telling them they're wrong over and over again after years of letting it go because we didn't think there was any harm in it. It's all fun and games until the "fake" memory is about something important and it becomes a huge tear in the family with them having an "us or them" mentality over something that every other person that was there remembers the same way.

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

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Panty friend goon, that guy just wants to find out if you swing that way. If you take him up on the offer, he might set things up for you to get your rear end kicked instead of suck dicked.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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gently caress Dan.

armchairyoda
Sep 17, 2008
Melman

Solice Kirsk posted:

gently caress Dan.

All night if need be.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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And it need be.

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

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Remember, if you suck Dan's cock you probably won't get much of a load due to his narrow urethra

Anagram of GINGER
Oct 3, 2014

by Smythe

School Nickname posted:

Babysitter goon your dad paid the sitter extra to "educate" you and also to blow him.

whaaaaat come onnnnn

Gynovore
Jun 17, 2009

Forget your RoboCoX or your StickyCoX or your EvilCoX, MY CoX has Blinking Bewbs!

WHY IS THIS GAME DEAD?!
So why is Dan there? Even in Texas there are gay bars. He might have to drive a hundred miles to the nearest city, but still.

Doctor Malaver
May 23, 2007

Ce qui s'est passé t'a rendu plus fort

Gynovore posted:

So why is Dan there?

He's there to chew bubblegum and suck dicks. And he's all out of bubblegum.

Rockman Reserve
Oct 2, 2007

"Carbons? Purge? What are you talking about?!"

Solice Kirsk posted:

Fake memory girlfriend goon, both my mom and my sister do this all the time too. And they even play off each other where they have these totally different memories of events or conversations than what me, my dad, and my brother-in-law remember. You have to call her out on it. If you let it go the problem is only going to get worse. It's been a pain in the rear end for the three of us to start telling them they're wrong over and over again after years of letting it go because we didn't think there was any harm in it. It's all fun and games until the "fake" memory is about something important and it becomes a huge tear in the family with them having an "us or them" mentality over something that every other person that was there remembers the same way.

Yeah. You absolutely need to document her and call her out on this - and don't be a confrontational dick about it, however tempting it may be - because what's happening is her brain is getting used to rewiring past events. Every single person on Earth does this constantly as some kinda memory upkeep thing but if it becomes a habit your brain gets really lazy and your memory goes out the window (because why bother ACTUALLY remembering things, when you know they occurred how you decided they occurred hours later?)

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
some people do this outright deliberately as well.

Leave
Feb 7, 2012

Taking the term "Koopaling" to a whole new level since 2016.
Memory goon, at first I thought that was going in the direction of your girlfriend was saying you don't remember stuff and you only hear half of what she says; I get that with my wife, and I'll admit, sometimes, I do forget conversations we had or plain don't hear what she said.

Then I read a little more and she seems to be loving with you, hardcore, and I'm not sure why. It seems kind of malicious, but I can't imagine what her end goal is here. Maybe you could try recording a few conversations and see how they match up. If you get hard proof like that and confront her, then you know she is messing with your head.

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TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
or at least go look up gaslighting on the google and go have a good honest sit down with yourself

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