Mirthless posted:

be careful about who you admit to liking Zak Smith's work around, you're sure to get an earful about how terrible of a person he is, like that is a trait unique to him in the gaming industry rather than him just being the idiot dumb enough to express his stupid opinions

Haifisch posted:

See also: The dudes who still unironically believe the stupid poo poo about vaginas their buddies theorized in middle school.

Batterypowered7 posted:

S-so Asian women don't have horizontal vaginas?

fruit on the bottom posted:

Haha oh my god the comments are great. She went over and confronted them and they called the police and threw her out and the police didn't give a gently caress about her side of the story

Mirthless posted:

be careful about who you admit to liking Zak Smith's work around, you're sure to get an earful about how terrible of a person he is, like that is a trait unique to him in the gaming industry rather than him just being the idiot dumb enough to express his stupid opinions

Pvt.Scott posted:

Oh, I'm aware of Zak's reputation. He earned it in part by purposefully antagonizing the sizable Special Snowflake Twitter crowd that inhabits indie tabletop gaming circles(as I see the situation). He's not the only indie guy that has done so. I'm still going to recommend a book I bring to every session because it is small and yet jam packed with good material and evocative art and weird flavor. The dust cover even has charts on it! The pornstar uses every part of the book carcass.

Yawgmoth posted:

If it were just him expressing his lovely opinions then I might let this slide but he actively harasses and stalks people who disagree with him and runs them out of their livelihoods. You're actually defending someone who incites others to commit crimes against another simply because he doesn't like being told that he isn't the greatest person to ever exist.
Yeah, drat those "special snowflakes" who want to live without constant attacks from an abuser! They should just accept that Zak S is inviolate and such blase things as "finding graphic descriptions of rape disgusting" and "treating people who are trans as people" are of no concern to him!

poo poo like this is why we have Trump in office. Don't normalize racism/sexism/homophobia/etc. just because it doesn't directly harm you.

Haifisch posted:

Not reddit, but I feel like it belongs here:

Mirthless posted:

harassment campaigns and driving people out of the industry is pretty typical across the board, though. Gaming culture is, itself, relentlessly terrible.

Time posted:

Are these people you only know if you are a shut-in broke-brain?

blarzgh posted:

The angry girlfriend porn dude's problem wasn't whether watching porn is "ok/not ok" in general. It's that his (psycho) girlfriend made it clear bthat it was Not OK with her, and instead of him saying, "well, that's not something I can deal with" he lied and said, "ok, I won't watch it anymore."

Man up, and either commit to your promises, or admit that the relationship is going nowhere, but trying to walk a tightrope because you're afraid to be alone is a recipe for disaster.

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- He lied to me about watching porn: I got hurt
- I got hurt: So I hurt him and made him feel horrible about it
- He feels horrible about it all: He tries to bring up other stuff related to sex
- He tries to bring up other stuff related to sex: It triggers me and I flip out on him again
- I flip out on him so many times: He doesn't want to have conversations about sex at all
- He doesn't want to have conversations about sex at all: I try to initiate them
- I try to initiate them: He shuts it down now because he is so used to me flipping out at him
- He shuts it down: I feel rejected, so I stop trying
- Annnnnd we will be left with our sex life being poo poo because we both feel the entire thing is taboo.

VanSandman posted:

Hahaha I almost seriousposted at Mirthless because I didn't read the username. Way to go you shitlord! Get your 'Worst Poster in a Bad Thread' crown back.

WampaLord posted:

This kind of attitude just perpetuates things. We should demand better. "We" meaning people, not gamers, I'm speaking more generally here.

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I'm talking financially and emotionally. We live together, he has a job. I have a job. We've lived here since April and he has yet to give me any money for bills. Which is fine, I moved out on the terms that I'd be able to support myself. Key word; myself if anything were to happen to him. (he's an addict, unfortunately...)
But what's not fine is that, even with his own paychecks, (that he's telling me he's not getting it's been three months and they're "holding it" but obviously is getting paid because he's getting high everyday) he asks me for money for subs or for gas or food or whatever the excuse is that day. It's $20 here, $15 there, $5.. often. It's draining my bank account. I can't pay all the bills, buy all the food, take care of the upkeep and continue to work 40+ hours a week to have my bank account float in the same place Every. Single. Week. I make good money (for my living expenses. I should be extremely comfortable. I, myself am very good at saving money.)
For example in the next two weeks I'll bring home at least $1000, I'm a server, it varies. which SHOULD have me at $1800. However, with him needing money all the time I PROMISE after bills come out and everything, I'll still be at $800 in my bank account when I should be at $1250. And I'll more than likely dip below that because of him.
The main problem here is, and what you're probably thinking; "why can't you just say no to him?" Well I DO but he says "fine I'll just go get drugs for free hopefully I don't overdose" and well, I WATCHED him overdose on our anniversary last year he KNOWS what those words do to me as I struggled A LOT after that happened as I'm 100% straight edge I don't smoke or even drink. I'm just now beginning to be okay. He uses it against me every time I say no, therefore leading me to saying yes. Every. Single. Time.
Should I cut him off from money for EVERYTHING? He "should" be getting another paycheck on Saturday. Apparently his job is "holding it from him because his W2 form has to go through the accountants" I would've quit by now if that was true it's been three months and idek what all of his excuses are anymore but my idea is that instead of him giving me the $300 paycheck (as he owes me $1200 for bills ) is that he just "keeps" it and "buys himself everything he keeps asking me for" I can't afford to keep doing this I'm digging myself into a hole
TL;DR My addict boyfriend is draining my bank account and draining me emotionally with all of these lies, should I cut all ties of money with him?

Mirthless posted:

obviously but if I only consumed products not developed by people with bad opinions and terrible behaviors I wouldn't own any tabletop material and my steam library would be about two dozen titles, and half of those only because the developers were too reclusive and faceless to associate with viewpoints

WampaLord posted:

I'm not talking about consumption, I'm talking about defending them because "Well, the whole industry is bad."

I like media from terrible people too, but I don't defend those people.

Yawgmoth posted:

If it were just him expressing his lovely opinions then I might let this slide but he actively harasses and stalks people who disagree with him and runs them out of their livelihoods. You're actually defending someone who incites others to commit crimes against another simply because he doesn't like being told that he isn't the greatest person to ever exist.
Yeah, drat those "special snowflakes" who want to live without constant attacks from an abuser! They should just accept that Zak S is inviolate and such blase things as "finding graphic descriptions of rape disgusting" and "treating people who are trans as people" are of no concern to him!

poo poo like this is why we have Trump in office. Don't normalize racism/sexism/homophobia/etc. just because it doesn't directly harm you.

Ein cooler Typ posted:

I can't believe her boyfriend is so closed-minded!

ArbitraryC posted:

Aside from this being generally awesome and absolutely the correct response to someone trying to ask you to open your relationship. I googled it to find the comments and it turns out not only was the OP deleted (which I had assumed from the screenshot) but someone actually went through and deleted all the comments in what had been a pretty popular thread.

I wonder what happened.

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Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high. Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom? And your mother chooses the one man in the universe who is married to her daughter? That is some unfathomable shitheadery right there, from both of them. For the record, I don’t believe in soulmates. I don’t believe that there is romantic love that is somehow divorced from the choices you make about what to do about your feelings. I don’t believe there are feelings of love and attraction that “have to” be acted upon. I don’t believe in “it just happened.” “It” happens because people make it happen. These two assholes chose this.
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It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships. He’s always going to be the guy who dated your mom. Your mom is always going to be the mom who dated your husband. You’re framing it as “My mom stole my husband” but your husband did just as much stealing and breaking of trust.

Also, forgiveness is for when someone has a) stopped doing the harmful thing and b) apologized. These people haven’t even done you the courtesy of an honest conversation about what’s happening. I give you permission to ignore the entire concept of forgiveness for now.

Even if they agreed to end things, is there any going back to the life you (thought you) had, where your husband is a safe haven who will always leave the light on for you while you explore your addictions totally unproblematic day-drinking hobby?

Tanith posted:

Didn't see this one yet:

F/21 my boyfriend is draining my financially and emotionally. What is your advice here

Mameluke posted:

As far as The Greatest Poly Post goes, Captain Awkward's response has a weird mix of forgiveness and condemnation; https://captainawkward.com/2017/07/13/992-my-husband-is-dating-my-mom/

Mameluke posted:

As far as The Greatest Poly Post goes, Captain Awkward's response has a weird mix of forgiveness and condemnation; https://captainawkward.com/2017/07/13/992-my-husband-is-dating-my-mom/

Mirthless posted:

You can tell this guy is an open relationship advocate because the only touching he does o her completly outrageously self serving behavior is point out that day drinking is bad

Mameluke posted:

As far as The Greatest Poly Post goes, Captain Awkward's response has a weird mix of forgiveness and condemnation; https://captainawkward.com/2017/07/13/992-my-husband-is-dating-my-mom/

MF_James posted:

I don't think he railed on her hard enough for straight up moving out of her house and in with her non-husband lover. I mean, I don't poly and maybe I've read the wrong things about it, but generally isn't your husband/wife supposed to be your primary lover, so wouldn't you actually live with them and dump/get rid of other bfs/gfs if it was affecting your marriage?

MF_James posted:

I don't think he railed on her hard enough for straight up moving out of her house and in with her non-husband lover. I mean, I don't poly and maybe I've read the wrong things about it, but generally isn't your husband/wife supposed to be your primary lover, so wouldn't you actually live with them and dump/get rid of other bfs/gfs if it was affecting your marriage?

MF_James posted:

I don't think he railed on her hard enough for straight up moving out of her house and in with her non-husband lover. I mean, I don't poly and maybe I've read the wrong things about it, but generally isn't your husband/wife supposed to be your primary lover, so wouldn't you actually live with them and dump/get rid of other bfs/gfs if it was affecting your marriage?

Mirthless posted:

/r/relationships: If there's one thing I've learned from this thread, it's that the definition of what is and isn't acceptable in a poly relationship is set by the person who pressured their partner into the poly relationship

Errant Gin Monks posted:

I got you fam.

Disclaimer: this is all bullshit that no one but incels believe.

Young virgin women only have pretty innie vaginas with no protruding labia. But starting at 13 they start getting that pussy beaten up by massive Chad cock. This causes their vaginas to extend out big floppy brown labia aka a roastie because it looks like roast beef by the age of 16. 16 being the time they cement the fact they are all whores.

Incels are horrid loving people

Pvt.Scott posted:

sandoz posted:

oh ok