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I was publicly shamed as a bigot once before for turning down a dude's advances. That's why I've been eggshelling here.
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Rhyno posted:IT'S BECAUSE I'M HANDSOME Maybe you shouldn't have lost all that weight. eh?
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Rhyno posted:I was publicly shamed as a bigot once before for turning down a dude's advances. That's why I've been eggshelling here. Lol who cares. Publicly shamed? like how, with a megaphone? I don't get how that could even happen.
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Applebees Appetizer posted:Lol who cares. Publicly shamed? like how, with a megaphone? I don't get how that could even happen. I'm not famous or anything but I'm well known in town. It doesn't take much to smear someone's repuatation here and I spent months doing damage control over that. And it hurts the store because they're seen as employing a gay-hating bigot. Edit: I called a cop friend, he said unless the dude is barred from the property they can't do anything. So it's on mall security to do that and that won't be easy to get them to do anything.
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Jul 19, 2017 03:35
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Jul 19, 2017 03:39
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Just a point, if they are transitioning than it'd be really good if you could not call them a dude. It wouldn't be anti-gay either, because that would be heterosexual. It's okay to not be interested in them, but it is genuinely problematic to frame the issue in those terms.
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redgubbinz posted:Speaking of cats, some low-energy troll is trying to get PI rattled up with a thread about keeping cats off his "expensive car." I've already engaged, maybe we could get some sort of game going in there. A game involving cats on cars, perhaps sharing one or two attributes with the previously posted image, if you see my meaning. FYI this is really great 
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Sinestro posted:Just a point, if they are transitioning than it'd be really good if you could not call them a dude. It wouldn't be anti-gay either, because that would be heterosexual. See I don't know if he is trans or not. I can't parse them as a woman because of the amount of stubble on their face. See why I'm on eggshells here? I have how to even talk about this!
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Rhyno posted:See I don't know if he is trans or not. I can't parse them as a woman because of the amount of stubble on their face. See why I'm on eggshells here? I have how to even talk about this! So then default to "they" "I'm not interested in them" "They make me uncomfortable"
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Jul 19, 2017 03:47
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You could use gender neutral terms if you're not sure.
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Yeah, it's best to be as generic as possible with that stuff. I'm a girl but at the same time I've been unable to shave for a couple days, since I've been too broke to get new razor blades, so it's best to not make assumptions. I can say from experience how much it can gently caress with someone.
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KakerMix posted:So then default to "they" When I first encountered and had an issue with this person they were very clearly a man. Now they have bright blue hair, pigtails, and wears skirts but has nothing female about them. I know, I work in a comic shop, weird should be common. But few of my customers say poo poo like "You could love me if you just gave me a chance."
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Jul 19, 2017 03:51
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Then still say them. It's not up to you.
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Jul 19, 2017 03:53
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Rhyno posted:When I first encountered and had an issue with this person they were very clearly a man. Now they have bright blue hair, pigtails, and wears skirts but has nothing female about them.  That's not a judgement for you to make. It's pretty drat clear that they are trans.
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Metal Geir Skogul posted:Then still say them. It's not up to you. I don't even know if they're trans as I said. I just sort of assumed because of their appearance but his chest could just have easily been fat as this person is kind of fat. Sinestro posted:
I know several guys who perform in drag shows and they dress like this person and they are not trans. I'm just saying, I am flipped out because I don't know how to process this because the last time a dude asked for my number I declined and he was like "cool." Rhyno fucked around with this message at 04:00 on Jul 19, 2017 |
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You do realize that it can take a long time to get any real amount of breast growth, right? Six months, at least, for it to be noticeable. Plus, depending on the width of her shoulders, some pretty unfortunate things can happen in terms of the shape. If you have any possible doubt in your mind (and ideally in any circumstances), do not gender people.
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Don't shame me! I'm the one being stalked! And also it dawns on me that since this person is loving stalking me, their gender identity is kind of unimportant.
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Rhyno posted:When I first encountered and had an issue with this person they were very clearly a man. Now they have bright blue hair, pigtails, and wears skirts but has nothing female about them. I know, I work in a comic shop, weird should be common. But few of my customers say poo poo like "You could love me if you just gave me a chance." You can still say 'them' even if they are clearly a man or clearly a woman. The issue though is that they might not consider themselves one or the other, or maybe neither of them. Everyone likes to mock the xi/xer/whatever the gently caress other identifiers people come up with but yeah like, it isn't for you to make that call so just be neutral about it. They probably will still get upset if they are mad at you but that's not what you want to avoid, you want to avoid becoming the bigot they are claiming you are, 'they' is for other people, not the person you'd like to avoid. I had a clingly girl in highschool once and that's as far as my 'stalker' experience goes, so I truly don't have an idea what something like this would be to deal with. However if they are doing the things you say they are but you don't want to be a bigot then I don't know what to tell you. Move? Get a different job? The end of this line is one of those things unless you do the police/security route. If you are afraid of them tar and feathering you then they've won and whatever mind games they are trying to play are working. So don't play those games, play it as straight (heh) as possible and by the books. Or you can keep going 'guys this sucks' and we can all go 'yeah'.
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Rhyno posted:When I first encountered and had an issue with this person they were very clearly a man. Now they have bright blue hair, pigtails, and wears skirts but has nothing female about them. I know, I work in a comic shop, weird should be common. But few of my customers say poo poo like "You could love me if you just gave me a chance." Annnnd this is suddenly one of the few times I'm glad I come off as a cold blunt rear end in a top hat on first meetings with strangers.
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It was really for the entire conversation. Rhyno: Call the cops more or something. Harrassment sucks and you should treat this person as a stalker if theyre stalking. Others: Please remember this is an automotive subforum of a comedy forum.
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CAT INTERCEPTOR posted:Annnnd this is suddenly one of the few times I'm glad I come off as a cold blunt rear end in a top hat on first meetings with strangers. He does work at a comic book shop so that sort of exposure jumps up prolly like 200% over the average. Adiabatic posted:
But conversations like this really get my motor runnin' Cars: This is from the craigslist thread, someone go buy it because I'm on the other side of the country.
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KakerMix posted:
Head out on the Highway! Looking for adventure And whatever comes our way https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMbATaj7Il8
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Sorry dudes, I am just flat out frustrated by this! I've never been stalked and/or followed home from work!
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CAT INTERCEPTOR posted:Head out on the Highway! This one is a bit more appropriate  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhY9GOhFwN4 (sorry Rhyno)
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KakerMix posted:This one is a bit more appropriate Rude!
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KakerMix posted:This one is a bit more appropriate I would have thought this one was more appropriate https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LemG0cvc4oU
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CAT INTERCEPTOR posted:I would have thought this one was more appropriate Rhyno posted:Rude!
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Dude posts about being loving stalked and you idiots are worried about his harassers loving pronouns?
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Jul 19, 2017 04:44
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In order to prevent his defense from being picked apart and labeled discrimination, yes.
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Gingerbread House Music posted:Dude posts about being loving stalked and you idiots are worried about his harassers loving pronouns? Let me help you out: Rhyno posted:I'm not famous or anything but I'm well known in town. It doesn't take much to smear someone's repuatation here and I spent months doing damage control over that. And it hurts the store because they're seen as employing a gay-hating bigot. I have a question  What makes a steering wheel do this?
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Gingerbread House Music posted:Dude posts about being loving stalked and you idiots are worried about his harassers loving pronouns? Yes, because educating people like that is how you help people learn and improve? It's not an attack on someone personally or an invalidation of their issues to tell them that they should probably talk about something differently. KakerMix posted:I have a question I can only assume cosmic ray exposure is at fault.
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Sinestro posted:Yes, because educating people like that is how you help people learn and improve? It's not an attack on someone personally or an invalidation of their issues to tell them that they should probably talk about something differently.  from me. KakerMix posted:What makes a steering wheel do this? In other news, I've become obsessed with MR2 AW11s because I 1.) already attempted to service a VW W8 so how hard could this be, and 2.) I like things that are angled, and 3.) I want my "race car" to not pull any punches and let me know just exactly how good/bad of a driver I am.
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Yeah I brought it up but I do appreciate you having my back. And all the feedback guys, I do. I will do my best to properly describe them. Hit the owner up on Messenger, he said he'll do whatever it takes to make this stop but he's also doubtful the property owners will care. So here's why I am stressed. Back in 2001 I worked for Borders. And I had a very pushy dude asking me out constantly until I had enough and told him to back off. He complained to a manager and there was a corporate inquisition into deciding if I was worth keeping on the payroll. I got painted as a gay-hating bigot and though I wasn't fired it destroyed my reputation. I ended up getting fired for unrelated reasons but the spectre of that followed me for quite a while.
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scuz posted:In other news, I've become obsessed with MR2 AW11s because I We went and looked at this one last week and it's worth maybe 3k with all the interior bits broken and missing, and the rough exterior paint. But it also does truly only have 52k miles on it so. You know what to do.
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scuz posted:
Oh hey me too. I really wanna go buy this one but it's not a smart decision at the moment. https://www.carsales.com.au/private/details/Toyota-MR2-1988/SSE-AD-4860448/?Cr=1
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Fiance got the local promotion. Position opens in 2-3 weeks. Guess we're staying in Indiana for now.
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