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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's a little more likely that he committed suicide while she was pregnant or whatever and mom tells the kid it's because he didn't want to be a father, etc. stories like this have been posted in this very thread some people are terrible and are all too willing to use a terrible lie to rationalize terrible behavior right up until the moment they're caught in it (and sometimes well beyond)
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Mirthless posted:stories like this have been posted in this very thread The details in this one lead me to believe there was a real person that died in some sudden way and that this mom uses that fact to abuse her daughter. I find it contrived that she would invent a story about how the dude died to cover that he left AND torment her daughter with it. That just seems odd and out of place when looking at the abuser's perspective. They seem to enjoy feeling in the right as they hurt others, distorting what happened and assigning blame on the child seems to fit the MO much better than inventing layers upon layers of deception and then trying to convince the person of it. Just my reading. [edit]if I was to get into really dicey speculation, I wonder if the mom was involved / felt slightly responsible for the father's demise and shifts that guilt onto the daughter
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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's a little more likely that he committed suicide while she was pregnant or whatever and mom tells the kid it's because he didn't want to be a father, etc. I'm leaning that way too, I just wouldn't be terribly shocked if we found out otherwise. quote:My [22 F] boyfriend [23 M] keeps having seizures and my mother [39 F] wants me to dump him. If he was really dead it would seem weird that she was told nothing about him at all, but then again I think holding his death over her head is pretty weird too so who even knows
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Youu would think that if you were resentful of your daughter for ruining your life you would be excited at the prospect of her having to deal with a potentially difficult child of her own. Fuckin' people can't even stay consistent in their hatred.
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fruit on the bottom posted:I'm leaning that way too, I just wouldn't be terribly shocked if we found out otherwise.  It's probably how it looks, just, with crazy like that who knows? new phone who dis posted:Youu would think that if you were resentful of your daughter for ruining your life you would be excited at the prospect of her having to deal with a potentially difficult child of her own. Fuckin' people can't even stay consistent in their hatred. a crazy amount of parents expect their kids to have grandchildren "for them" she probably wants a "perfect grandbaby" and an epileptic doesn't match her definition of perfect 100% this lady would blame her daughter if her grandkid came out with a birth defect of any kind, and probably bring it up for years afterwards like some sort of personal sleight edit: vvv yeah that's probably accurate Mirthless fucked around with this message at 23:54 on Jul 26, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:
100% the lady would find literally anything wrong to complain about the baby and claim it as a birth defect and spend the rest of her life berating her daughter and grandchild about how they ruined everything and she would have made state if coach had just put her in
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What a nightmare Me [40F] with my friend [35F] of many years, she is (genuinely) mentally 6 years old, and she has become really obsessed with me and I'm unable to live a normal life anymore. quote:I have been working in a shop for the past 10 years, and the owners have a disabled daughter that a psychiatrist has stated she is mentally 6 years old. She knows very basic spellings, and can only count to 100.
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quote:Edit: someone has mindfully said I should mention we are in the UK! More like Wee Britain
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I choose to believe that Downs lady is fully aware that she is sexually harassing everyone and getting away with it.
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fruit on the bottom posted:I choose to believe that Downs lady is fully aware that she is sexually harassing everyone and getting away with it. quote:I have spoken with her parents and they have tried to tell her she shouldn't do what she does, tried explaining boundaries to her- but she just doesn't get it.
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fruit on the bottom posted:I choose to believe that Downs lady is fully aware that she is sexually harassing everyone and getting away with it. Same, imagine how loving owned that guy felt after the condom comment, lmao
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MF_James posted:I doubt she was immaculately conceived, so yeah, the dad was A Real Person at one point. The real reason the Virgin Mary is revered is so this common happenstance is unbelievable.
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can you even complain about sexual harassment when it's a mentaler? This mother thinks not; Alec approached (the school bus aide) on the bus for a hug and she told him no and tried to push him off her. He proceeded to lay on her and (mimic a sex act, while clothed). She tried to push him off her and hollered for help. When she finally was able to get him off of her, he ran to the back of the bus. After a lot of coaxing, Alec finally got up and got off the bus. Aleczander's mom Tonia Fujimoto says she's confident no harassment occurred: There was no such thing. He was excited. And I feel like when he gets excited and he hugs me, it's like Christmas morning. He'll come up and give me a hug you know. And he'll be jumping up and down. And I feel like that may be what she experienced. I don't think his act was sexual in nature. He gives people hugs all the time. you stupid bint
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Jeff Sichoe posted:can you even complain about sexual harassment when it's a mentaler? dem's sum wurds u gat der
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Hey look I found a buried lede:OP posted:It's not that I cave- sometimes it's the only way I can get her to stop hitting me unless I find something REALLY good to distract her.
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Bamabalacha posted:Mirthless, show me on an MRI of your cerebral cortex where alcohol and/or the Serenity Prayer brain-touched you. OK, I hate that I'm doing this, but I'm with mirthless on this one. I lived with this for some time. I got the promises and I got the sneaking and the remorse and contrition. Dude needs to sever before he gets in too deep like I did. She'll just get better at hiding it and vary the times she drinks so it's no longer apparent and the behavior becomes the new normal. And then she'll start complaining about headaches and stomach ache but refuse to go the doctor. But at that point it's too late for anything. The point of no return has been passed.
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My [21M] friend [19F] essentially called me a pedophile. Not sure if I should cut ties with herquote:
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My [21M] friend [19F] essentially called me a pedophile. Not sure if I should cut ties with her dude gives off major pedo vibes and doesn't realize it, apparently
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Jul 27, 2017 01:11
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TheKennedys posted:Was it this one? https://www.canlii.org/en/ab/abqb/doc/2012/2012abqb571/2012abqb571.html nailed it
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My [21M] friend [19F] essentially called me a pedophile. Not sure if I should cut ties with her i dunno... he doesn't actually deny being a pedophile in all seriousness friend's probably just an rear end in a top hat who likes to stir the pot but i'd love to hear her perspective on this
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If she didn't want to elaborate when pressed then no that seems like assholery If she had any legitimate grievance or concern he asked her as straight up as he could and she declined and wouldn't either explain or walk the claim back
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Ham Sandwiches posted:If she didn't want to elaborate when pressed then no that seems like assholery there's so little detail about the actual conversation and i find it hard to believe it was just like four lines of dialog, the post is kind of infuriating and childish i don't even know why he's asking reddit, if you hadn't talked to her in a month before this who loving cares? edit: vv Well, yeah, obviously he's right to be mad but I don't know why he needs an internet forum to weigh in on this decision, just  from your stupid not-friend that you don't ever talk to anyway
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Mirthless posted:there's so little detail about the actual conversation and i find it hard to believe it was just like four lines of dialog, the post is kind of infuriating and childish There's quite a bit of detail in the snapchat part in terms of what he asked and how she responded. Some people get pretty upset when they get called a pedophile, given that mods like ban and probate people for jokingly doing it on something awful, I wonder why this person might be genuinely upset that someone who seemed to have no ulterior motive gave him a horrible label and neither explained nor wrote it off...
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Proteus Jones posted:OK, I hate that I'm doing this, but I'm with mirthless on this one.
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I'm torn on the drinking problem thing - on one hand my dad was one of those totally functional alcoholics that was never truly drunk but was never without a beer until he (completely unsurprisingly) died of cirrhosis, and my brother has a rapidly-growing drinking-alone-to-excess problem, but on the other hand I don't really see how 5-6 beers once a week ish is alcoholism, cause I've never in my life thought "drinking a six-pack on a Saturday" equates to "needs to go to AA". The fact she won't or can't stop drinking (or maybe drink less) around her goober boyfriend to show she has the slightest bit of respect for him is more of a red flag to me than the amount. Hell, my husband doesn't really like that I smoke weed, and I don't like that he smokes cigs inside, but since we actually like...had a conversation about it, we came to the grownup conclusion that he really only minds if I'm smoking at home (not a legal state), but is perfectly okay with me hitting a joint after work with friends or whatever. In return I don't bitch about him smoking cigs in the house as long as he's got the window open and it doesn't smell like an ashtray in the living room. COMMUNICATION GODDAMN
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TheKennedys posted:I'm torn on the drinking problem thing - on one hand my dad was one of those totally functional alcoholics that was never truly drunk but was never without a beer until he (completely unsurprisingly) died of cirrhosis, and my brother has a rapidly-growing drinking-alone-to-excess problem, but on the other hand I don't really see how 5-6 beers once a week ish is alcoholism, cause I've never in my life thought "drinking a six-pack on a Saturday" equates to "needs to go to AA". the biggest red flags to me in the post were her repeatedly lying about it to him, and her saying he couldn't judge when she was drunk because he wasn't "a drinker" and his tolerance was much lower than hers I saw my dad do all of this stuff before my parents got divorced and I saw my dad do all of this stuff again when he fell off the wagon when I was an adult. Lots of lying, lots of rationalizing the amount he consumed (lots of underestimating that number, too), talking up how he'd only drink a few times a week or on weekends or whatever (not counting the beer he'd have in the morning and at lunch and before bed, of course), talking about how he's not an alcoholic because he's not drunk all the time and about how he can have a few beers without even getting buzzed. It was all bullshit, it was always bullshit. It's a very visible and predictable pattern of behavior if you've had direct experience with it before There's nothing necessarily wrong with drinking. There's not even necessarily anything wrong with alcoholism - plenty of people with a decent handle on their habits will build physical dependence regardless, if you can function, fine, it's not a problem. But when the train starts to run away from you (as it clearly is in this lady's case) it's time to put down the bottle and consider the impact you're having on the people around you. This lady glosses over what her boyfriend goes through with her a lot but what she does post isn't really flattering for her. I'm sure this dude has had to clean vomit off her, break up fights, and/or deal with huge emotional tirades when she had too much to drink - that's loving exhausting. Living with a drunk who is not in control of their addiction is exhausting. Anyone's patience for it will run out eventually. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 02:11 on Jul 27, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:I'm sure this dude has had to clean vomit off her, break up fights, or deal with huge emotional tirades when she had too much to drink - that's loving exhausting. This is more poo poo you're making up to push your projection narrative. I get that your dad was an alcoholic and that sucks. This girl can go a month without a drink.
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WampaLord posted:This is more poo poo you're making up to push your projection narrative. At no point in her post does she say she can go a month without a drink, you have pulled a "fact" about this story from thin air I'm at least inferring! She does say gets emotional and "cynical" when she drinks, and she does say she gets sloppy drunk 1 out of 6 times she drinks. What do you think sloppy drunk looks like? Have you ever had to directly deal with an alcoholic? Like, as a major, major part of your life? Can you just trust the people who have, when we say "this is exactly what an alcoholic looks like"? Mirthless fucked around with this message at 02:17 on Jul 27, 2017 |
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WampaLord posted:This is more poo poo you're making up to push your projection narrative. Her story doesn't even make sense, though. If she's going weeks or a month without drinking, how is her tolerance so high? 5 beers at home alone is either not a lot for a regular drinker or a lot for someone who goes weeks at a time without doing it. She's doing her best to stretch it both ways.
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Mirthless posted:At no point in her post does she say she can go a month without a drink, you have pulled a "fact" about this story from thin air quote:my drinking is hard to quantify, it can either be once a week or not for several weeks, depending on my exhaustion level, how deep I am in a TV show, book, game or other hobby. Sometimes I'll have 5-6, sometimes I'll have 1. Last Thursday I had two beers and 2 or 3 mixed drinks over 5 hours and before that I had wine on Christmas day. She also literally never mentioned puking or fighting, so you're making that part up. new phone who dis posted:Her story doesn't even make sense, though. If she's going weeks or a month without drinking, how is her tolerance so high? 5 beers at home alone is either not a lot for a regular drinker or a lot for someone who goes weeks at a time without doing it. She's doing her best to stretch it both ways. She says her tolerance is higher than her boyfriend, who never drinks. She is correct in this.
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Just lol if you don't call your friends pedophiles loudly in public
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Another thing worth remembering: nobody is making mixed drinks at home in bar portions, especially drunks. A fun drunk tactic is to switch to mixed drinks when they are being monitored so they can make them witheringly strong and then claim "I only had 3!"
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SHUT THE gently caress UP ABOUT DRINKING YOU ASSHOLES
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edit: yeah this has completely run it's course and I'm not gonna argue with antonin scalia all night about /r/relationships literalism
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I'm starting to wish I had a time machine so I could warn past me not to post that story. Me [23F] with my girlfriend [27F] of 2 months, she thinks I'm weird and childish for sleeping with a teddybear. quote:So I met "Jen" 3 months ago at a friend's birthday party. We talked for a month and then she asked me out. After the first date she asked if I would be her girlfriend and I said yes. She's really smart, super pretty, hilarious and is a really nice person, or so I thought. Last week was the first time she actually spent the night at my house since I've been trying to kind of do things slow. We had a nice date with pizza and some of our mutual favorite movies, and at around one in the morning went to bed. I proceeded to do what I always do: I switched on a tiny lamp with a red shade (the red shade makes the light dimmer so it's more like a glow.) and picked up my stuffed monkey that I've had for, god, about 15 or 20 years now. His name is Coconut. Jen was fine with the lamp since she saw it wasn't too bright, but she freaked out over Coconut. She was like "is this a joke? What the hell are you doing? Are you a baby?" and was laughing and stuff. She was being pretty rude but I really liked her so I put Coconut on the chair I have in my room. I didn't sleep a second all night.
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Haifisch posted:I'm starting to wish I had a time machine so I could warn past me not to post that story.  but also edit: oh she's already in therapy  just that second thing thenedit2: on this subject, i actually have a real good treatment for night terrors   Mirthless fucked around with this message at 02:42 on Jul 27, 2017 |
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Listen lady, you just got a major upgrade. You don't have to squeeze a mangey monkey anymore. Now when you wake up from your sleep paralysis you can squeeze her breasts for comfort. Way better! And if she complains, you can tell her that those are therapy tits. And if I understand the ADA correctly, she can't throw you out either.
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It's a strange thing because I've known multiple women who sleep with a blanket from when they were younger up by their pillow but I also would consider a stuffed toy childish.
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"Guests" have just passed the two-month mark on what was originally supposed to be a week long visit. Help!quote:These guests just won't leave and are treating my house and belongings as their own! Lady you now have tenants. Enjoy the eviction process.
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La Brea Carpet posted:"Guests" have just passed the two-month mark on what was originally supposed to be a week long visit. Help! e: Other life lesson: Don't bury your ledes when asking for advice. quote:This is as much a boyfriend problem as a guest problem. Haifisch fucked around with this message at 03:18 on Jul 27, 2017 |
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