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Hopper posted:Non anonymous confession: I like animals and my sister's dog and cat are rad. However, I will never understand people who go through hoops to save their dog/cat or even worse, a stray. A friend of mine is doing this with a rodent that she's owned for a few months. She's broke to begin with, and I can't fathom how she's spending hundreds of dollars she doesn't have on the little guy. Even has a gofundme, I think. Helps she's a girl, I expect (edgy hot take ahoy).
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Marmaduke! posted:A friend of mine is doing this with a rodent that she's owned for a few months. She's broke to begin with, and I can't fathom how she's spending hundreds of dollars she doesn't have on the little guy. Even has a gofundme, I think. Helps she's a girl, I expect (edgy hot take ahoy). She should do Shadowrun Hong Kong references to boost donations
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Marmaduke! posted:A friend of mine is doing this with a rodent that she's owned for a few months. She's broke to begin with, and I can't fathom how she's spending hundreds of dollars she doesn't have on the little guy. Even has a gofundme, I think. Helps she's a girl, I expect (edgy hot take ahoy). You know Annie?
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Jul 28, 2017 11:17
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quote:I guess lately my mind has really been consumed with embracing my sexuality. I'm a pansexual guy with a strong interest in some BDSM. Also, I'm extremely submissive and I think I would really enjoy being a slave to someone or others. I'm using sites like Tumblr and Fetlife to help me. (I like posting pictures of myself 😉) I just hope I can find an outlet soon because it's starting to get unbearable. ok good luck I guess quote:My girlfriend is smarter than me, and constantly reminds me how forgetful and incompetent I am. She doesn't do it on purpose and loves to dote on me. She's going to med school, and will inheritantly make more money than I will. Her family has accepted me like a 2nd son. her father is someone I can go for life advice, her mother feeds and takes care of me. Her sister treats me like a brother. I've helped her sister through a bad break up. I am the "computer guy," in the house. I feel worthless and unloved. I mean, your relationship seems like a pretty straightforward example of emotional abuse, even if she's not doing it on purpose, but she has made herself essential in your life and devoted effort to tearing down your self-esteem etc The thing is, rebuilding your life will take a lot of time and effort, and in your current emotional state that seems unlikely. If I were you I'd take a healthy interest in the thread title (of course) and maybe start looking into men's shelters. You're resigned to your fate because you don't think you have any other options, and I think just knowing that those options exist would do you a world of good. How much is a degree really necessary in the restaurant world? You don't have to jump right into chef-ing, you could just get a job as a line cook somewhere and work from there, right? Or if you'd rather do tech poo poo you can take some university of phoenix courses or something, see how that feels. You have options. You don't have to put up with a situation that makes you miserable.
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Jul 28, 2017 15:05
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Depressed goon, work on getting good at something and be a little patient. See a therapist to talk it out, but your goal is to accomplish something worthwhile, if work-related starting entry level if you need to, meet and be friendly to people (and not in a creepy way). Non-work related, you can join a gym and work out on a regular basis, get buff. Gym memberships can be cheap. Plus that increases endorphins. Good luck I had a friend in a sorta similar situation as you, helped by a gfs family and formerly ripped off people to buy heroin (but less criticism from the family he lived with and he always worked, anything, anywhere). He eventually pulled out of it.
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Jul 28, 2017 15:22
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Depressed goon, I like you  Go start applying at restaurants. Any of them. All of them, no matter how lovely. Well, within reasonable shittiness. Don't bother listing your degree, but feel free to mention that you like to work hard and you really want to learn as much as possible. Everyone starts somewhere, and ffs you can't discount "bad" restaurant jobs just because they're not Gordon Ramsay's steakhouse. go work at a restaurant, get some hands-on experience in the industry, grill approximately eight million chicken breasts and mix a hundred gallons of refried beans, and you'll be able to take that and go somewhere else that pays better, has better management/employees, better work-life bal---hahahahaha who am I kidding, it's the restaurant industry, it will slowly break you and make you want to slit your throat with a paring knife while you smoke basically all the weed in the world and turn into a stumbling alcoholic. If you really love it, do the poo poo I said up there; if you have any doubt about your ability to deal with the poo poo a restaurant will put you through, though, you might want to look into Pell Grants or small loans to go take some community college courses in something you're interested in (a lot of CS or IT degrees come with built-in COMPTIA certs)
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Jul 28, 2017 15:31
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That story ends with him becoming a line cook and cheating on his gf with a waitress
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Jul 28, 2017 15:40
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Not a Children posted:That story ends with him becoming a line cook and cheating on his gf with a waitress Honestly in my mind that would be a step forward from being a miserable depressed unemployed househusband in a relationship he doesn't like with a girl who won't let him gently caress her and gets mad if he doesn't ask for sex with the exact correct hyper-low frequency and is always unconsciously reminding him he's stupid and can't do anything right
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Jul 28, 2017 15:43
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Dude the Comptia A+ is like 200$ Also if you are over 24 and have basically no income you can be going to community college for free on Pell Grants right now until you get married.
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quote:My girlfriend is smarter than me, and constantly reminds me how forgetful and incompetent I am. She doesn't do it on purpose and loves to dote on me. She's going to med school, and will inheritantly make more money than I will. Her family has accepted me like a 2nd son. her father is someone I can go for life advice, her mother feeds and takes care of me. Her sister treats me like a brother. I've helped her sister through a bad break up. I am the "computer guy," in the house. I feel worthless and unloved. It's spelled "inherently".
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Jul 28, 2017 16:01
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Arven posted:Also if you are over 24 and have basically no income you can be going to community college for free on Pell Grants right now until you get married. The amount of money the government was willing to loan me (at an interest rate so low it was nearly unbelievable) to pursue any degree was ridiculous. Obviously, grants are a better choice, but the option to borrow is always there in order to build a foundation for your future. After you graduate and your grace period expires, you can elect for an income-based repayment schedule so you're not drowning in payments every month if you do decide to take the loans. If you're moving to be near a university, there is probably at least once community college there, and hopefully a vocational training center, too. Take your pick. Get a certification to be a welder, work on cars, or grab a public admin degree and go work for municipal, county, or state government, or heck, if more school is not an option for you for whatever reason just take a bunch of part-time gigs at convenience stores to stay afloat until something better comes along. You need to give some honest consideration to ditching this girl, no matter how much it would hurt her 'rents and your cash flow. Ask yourself (and be honest) what you're getting out of the relationship. If you don't have an immediate answer, or if you can't even come up with an answer after spending some time thinking about it, I think that's an answer in itself. Yes, relationships are about give and take, but a big part of a healthy relationship is looking after your own well-being. Don't be one of those boyfriends who puts her up on a pedestal and "worships" her by bending over backwards and enduring immense psychic pain just to satisfy her--that poo poo is just not sustainable in the long run. Don't try to say "well that's not what I'm doing" because buddy, she's causing you grief mad style if you came to the GBS anonymous confessions thread just to find someone to "pretend to like [you]." You're probably a well-adjusted, likable person with lots of potential, skill, and talent. As someone who's been in a rut kind of like this before, I'm rooting for you. Keep your chin up--digging yourself out of this might be easier than you thought.
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Jul 28, 2017 16:16
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got any sevens posted:Humans are animals too, should we just put down kids born with Remarkably, you can have a pretty nice QoL with downs.
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GOTTA STAY FAI posted:The amount of money the government was willing to loan me (at an interest rate so low it was nearly unbelievable) to pursue any degree was ridiculous. Obviously, grants are a better choice, but the option to borrow is always there in order to build a foundation for your future. After you graduate and your grace period expires, you can elect for an income-based repayment schedule so you're not drowning in payments every month if you do decide to take the loans. Pell Grants are the jam, and if you're an independent student federal subsidized loans are pretty awesome if you need the money for expenses (just don't go overboard, and definitely work on finding a job so you can stop taking the loans). Go to the community college, friend
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Triangle Shirt Factotum posted:Remarkably, you can have a pretty nice QoL with downs. True, although it's a wide spectrum of possible outcomes, from 'dead before 1 year of age' (10%) to 'finishes high school and lives to 70' (10%). Depends on severity, income and education level of parents, availability of proper medical and educational facilities, and a host of other factors.
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Jul 28, 2017 17:24
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Do you need papers to be even let into a kitchen nowadays? I'd assume in an industry so cut-throat that you could still do what Marco Pierre-White did and knock on the back doors of hotels/restaurants, etc. Or are the places that still accept alleyway applications seedy as gently caress? Marco is a fairly good storyteller in that clip actually, it's just his restaurant life before becoming famous seems incredibly depressing.
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Jul 28, 2017 17:41
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Neutrino posted:It's spelled "inherently". Take it easy, he did go to an unaccredited school.
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Jul 28, 2017 17:47
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I have a friend who is a literal felon and he managed to get a job in a restaurant kitchen. He works on the line and has taken on more responsibility and learned different positions and he's doing pretty drat well now. You can do it depressed goon!
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TheKennedys posted:Pell Grants are the jam, and if you're an independent student federal subsidized loans are pretty awesome if you need the money for expenses (just don't go overboard, and definitely work on finding a job so you can stop taking the loans). Go to the community college, friend Definitely don't do what I did and take like 15k of unsubsidized loans and blow it all on online poker and alcohol, but otherwise yes go to college if you have a definite goal in mind with what you want to do with the degree. Don't go just to kill time/put off adulthood.
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quote:This is all over the place. Not smart, can't find job, used to steal, GF loves me but no sex, house husband, whaaa whaaaaa poor me. Fire up Craigslist and start applying for $15/hr kitchen jobs. Nobody gives the slightest poo poo that your school is 'unaccredited': either you can cook or you can't, and if it's the former you can get a job.
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Jul 28, 2017 18:44
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My guess is he's trying for more senior positions in kitchens that he thinks his diploma affords him. Every kitchen I've seen you have to work your way up, though. At the very most he's looking at eating poo poo for a couple years at $10/hour. His situation is not great and it doesn't sound like he has much in the way of support systems. I think I would just ghost on my whole life at that point. Maybe run around downtown naked gibbering incomprehensibly until you're locked up for a psyche eval. Maybe just drive to another town and live out of my car until I can beg a new job off the goons.
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Space Camp fuckup posted:I have a friend who is a literal felon and he managed to get a job in a restaurant kitchen. He works on the line and has taken on more responsibility and learned different positions and he's doing pretty drat well now. You can do it depressed goon! we've got a cook right now that's on felony probation and only avoids going to prison because now he's actually prescribed most of the drugs he shoves down his throat (just not in the quantity he takes them), and this is a semi-respectable company, shadier companies would probably give even less of a poo poo Unbelievably Fat Man posted:My guess is he's trying for more senior positions in kitchens that he thinks his diploma affords him. Every kitchen I've seen you have to work your way up, though. At the very most he's looking at eating poo poo for a couple years at $10/hour. this too
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Arven posted:Dude the Comptia A+ is like 200$ I've seen the entire CompTIA suite, complete with online classes and the tests, for 200 bux on Groupon. Get at it depressed goon. We are rooting for you because we know you can do it.
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Unbelievably Fat Man posted:My guess is he's trying for more senior positions in kitchens that he thinks his diploma affords him. Every kitchen I've seen you have to work your way up, though. At the very most he's looking at eating poo poo for a couple years at $10/hour. If you truly do have a degree in Real French Cooking, you can score a $15/hr job unless you live in a buttfuck rural area. Mostly because... A dude posted:we've got a cook right now that's on felony probation and only avoids going to prison because now he's actually prescribed most of the drugs he shoves down his throat (just not in the quantity he takes them), and this is a semi-respectable company, shadier companies would probably give even less of a poo poo ...if you have no criminal record, you have a big advantage over 75% of the other people in the kitchen. Unbelievably Fat Man posted:I think I would just ghost on my whole life at that point. Maybe run around downtown naked gibbering incomprehensibly until you're locked up for a psyche eval. Maybe just drive to another town and live out of my car until I can beg a new job off the goons. Don't do this.
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Jul 28, 2017 22:51
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Hot take: you are a dumb piece of poo poo who does indeed deserve whatever "pennance" you have to go through, but other than your gf being "asexual" (lol) your life isn't bad right now as a house husband who has a family that supports you and pays for everything despite you never doing a drat thing for them or anyone else in your life. You are in fact, as a current mooch and former violent felon and drug dealer, completely compatible with the restaurant industry, and the only reason you haven't found a job is because of your hubris in thinking that because you wasted money at a fly-by-night cooking school means you start at an advanced position. Suck it up, shitsack. You start at the bottom just like everyone else. If you can manage to be even somewhat reliable and are even half the chef you think you are, you'll manage to climb the ladder fairly quickly. Maybe you'll even manage to learn the responsibility to take care of yourself, because it's obvious that your relationship with your gf is going only on inertia at this point and you're living on borrowed time, before your gf hits 30 and realizes she's spent half her life with you and has a crisis, running to her nearest hot colleague who "understands" her better than you ever have and dumps you like yesterday's garbage. Good luck. Shiki Dan fucked around with this message at 16:24 on Jul 29, 2017 |
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Harsh, but probably the most honest response he can get. Suck it up and get a job. Show you can do the work and want to learn more. Learn more. Work harder. If you get to this point, you'll probably fix most of your problems. Except the asexuality. Get that poo poo straight or accept the life that comes with it. I guess you're technically getting laid 12 times a year more than any incel out there.
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I think by this point we need a thread success story:quote:Hello, I'm the strange depressed logical fallacy guy from earlier this month. The one who was wound too tightly and needed to chill out? Not many of those recently, so hopefully you remember which confessor I was, if only to give the following thoughts context. Usually just being told "you need to relax" doesn't help, but I guess sometimes a person just needs a reality check. Good on you. quote:I was walking once with my step-brother somewhere in the valley. I randomly looked over a wall and saw two Rottweilers eating a dead pit bull. When we got up to a chain link gate they ran over barking. I don't know why any one would let that happen. It's sad. rorschach's_journal.txt
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Jul 29, 2017 16:40
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I thought that second fesh was going to end with masturbation.
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Yet another wayward soul claimed by the devil's drink
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Jul 29, 2017 16:51
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Why did the second confession need to be anonymous?
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HerStuddMuffin posted:Why did the second confession need to be anonymous? Sometimes people use this thread for poo poo they're not actually ashamed of because they want a platform to say something that doesn't fit in any existing thread and couldn't support its own
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I could see wanting to post something like that anon. It doesn't make sense, but I've see stuff I'm hesitant to talk about. There's just weirdbad poo poo out there exactly like that confession. Like it'd be bad mojo to bring it up.
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Jul 30, 2017 05:26
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"Alcohol is a depressant" is one of those bullshit DARE things that's technically true but doesn't accurately reflect the actual effects. If it made everyone sad then it wouldn't be the go-to social lubricant and necessary tool to get through all the crushing disappointments of parenthood.
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Atlas Hugged posted:"Alcohol is a depressant" is one of those bullshit DARE things that's technically true but doesn't accurately reflect the actual effects. If it made everyone sad then it wouldn't be the go-to social lubricant and necessary tool to get through all the crushing disappointments of parenthood. To put this another way -- alcohol is a central nervous system depressant, not an emotional depressant.
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Atlas Hugged posted:"Alcohol is a depressant" is one of those bullshit DARE things that's technically true but doesn't accurately reflect the actual effects. If it made everyone sad then it wouldn't be the go-to social lubricant and necessary tool to get through all the crushing disappointments of parenthood. I mean alcohol is a depressant but that doesn't mean it makes you depressed. It's got a specific biochemical meaning that gets glossed over a lot. Although as long as people know what's a depressant and what's a stimulant and why you shouldn't mix them, esp in strong doses, I'm p happy.
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Yes that's what I meant by technically true but misrepresenting. If you're already depressed drinking alcohol won't somehow compound that.
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Jul 30, 2017 06:42
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spoken like a true alcoholic lol
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Ziv Zulander posted:To put this another way -- alcohol is a central nervous system depressant, not an emotional depressant. Exactly. I'm drunk AS gently caress right now, and I feel GREAT. Total different meaNing. SciFiDownBeat posted:spoken like a true alcoholic lol : hi five :
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Jul 30, 2017 07:33
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your redtext... uh... it goes with your post too well
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Jul 30, 2017 07:37
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I drink drive one time and people spool it out to say I did really repugnant stuff... disgusting. Smh. The shame from drink driving should be enough, the red texter thought it might not be far enough so made fake news Dilutes the actual badness of drunk driving imo. I'm against it, honestly.
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you could buy lowtax a san francisco beer to change that tho
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