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ThePeavstenator posted:If you're a 30 y/o living in someone else's house you don't really get to exert control in a 2 room radius in every direction. Yes, absolutely. Choosing to not bang a razor blade loudly is the smallest and easiest change to make to help your child. You wouldn't even consider it? You're acting like she's asking him to take a vow of silence.
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I'm def anti sleep baby, but seriously, banging your razor on the sink does literally nothing. just hold it under the water??
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Aug 3, 2017 17:10
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WampaLord posted:Some people are night owls, wtf is this "sleep hygiene" nonsense? She has the right to not be rudely loving awoken, messing with sleep is some Chinese torture poo poo. Sleep hygiene is a real medical concept whereby a person optimizes their bedroom, bed routine, and life style to enhance their ability to get enough rest. It includes things like going to bed and waking up at the same time every day, using the bed only for sleeping and sex. No screens in the room, etc. I know that people can have different schedules. I'd stay up until 12 or 1 most nights if I could, but the older I get the less and less I can do that and feel OK the next day. Even if I sleep in until 9.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:11
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WampaLord posted:Yes, absolutely. Choosing to not bang a razor blade loudly is the smallest and easiest change to make to help your child. You wouldn't even consider it? She could easily go to bed at midnight and wake up at 7-8 instead if she just tried to change her schedule to something more reasonable that she'd probably need to do anyways if she ever wanted to stop being an adult child sponging off her dad.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:11
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Irradiate his razor, then in a few months he wont have to shave. Problem solved.
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WampaLord posted:Yes, absolutely. Choosing to not bang a razor blade loudly is the smallest and easiest change to make to help your child. You wouldn't even consider it? Have you shaved with a good razor before? You'll make a small amount of noise rinsing it, or tapping it, or doing basically anything to get the hair out of it. What if the dad decided to switch to an electric shaver? Would he be an rear end in a top hat for having an appliance that makes buzzing sounds running at 7AM? Like maybe the dad is an rear end in a top hat in general but getting up at a reasonable time and making some morning noises is not a component of that. Also: quote:At 7:30-8am every morning my dad gets up and shaves before he showers and fixes breakfast for the grandparents. lol @ anything after 7 AM getting called the "rear end crack of dawn" e: blarzgh posted:I'm def anti sleep baby, but seriously, banging your razor on the sink does literally nothing. just hold it under the water?? If you've got a good safety razor you don't want to blast water on it too much or it'll dull the blade/rust faster. You fill the sink with water to swish it around and tap it. It's like the smallest amount of noise. ThePeavstenator fucked around with this message at 17:16 on Aug 3, 2017 |
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areyoucontagious posted:Nah. If she had a graveyard job or whatever I'd be on her side but Reddit doesn't loving count and if you're thirty goddamn years old you can loving quit it with the teenager "I'm a night owl" poo poo. Eh, adults can stay up late if they want to. However, as an adult you should be courteous to a host who is allowing you to live in their home. If your habit of staying up late to do dumb poo poo means you are imposing on your host's normal habits you shouldn't need the internet to tell you that you should be the one adjusting things to fix it.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:13
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ArbitraryC posted:She could easily go to bed at midnight and wake up at 7-8 instead if she just tried to change her schedule to something more reasonable that she'd probably need to do anyways if she ever wanted to stop being an adult child sponging off her dad. Which is an easier request to accommodate? Change your sleep schedule? OR Not bang a razor blade loudly? Think hard about this one, ArbC, I believe in you. ThePeavstenator posted:Have you shaved with a good razor before? You'll make a small amount of noise rinsing it, or tapping it, or doing basically anything to get the hair out of it. Nice goalpost moving. Now he's doing it quietly apparently! She specifically says he does it extra loud and that nothing else is waking her. Why can't he alter this one simple behavior as a courtesy? Does he also refuse to hold open doors for her?
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Aug 3, 2017 17:13
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The real answer is to hire an elderly Italian barber to come to the house at 7AM and give your dad a hot lather and straight razor shave. It's the least you could do for being an ungrateful sponge.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:14
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WampaLord posted:It's this. Believe women when they tell you this poo poo in a cold and logical manner like this. Sleep hygiene is a pretty well-established thing. Staying up late is a learned preference. Its not some inherent trait in folks, and it can be changed pretty readily with a modicum of effort. I'd be willing to bet that her sleep quality is poo poo even without her dad shaving.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:15
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Warbadger posted:Eh, adults can stay up late if they want to. However, as an adult you should be courteous to a host who is allowing you to live in their home. If your habit of staying up late to do dumb poo poo means you are imposing on your host's normal habits you shouldn't need the internet to tell you that you should be the one adjusting things to fix it. That's sort of what I meant. Yeah, stay up late, but if you're going to be self centered and whiney about it maybe you should grow up.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:19
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WampaLord posted:
Nahhhhhhhhh. IDK how you're shaving my dude, but tapping the razor in the sink is an insanely normal part of the shaving process to get hairs from between the blades for a smooth shave. I'd probably get 3 swipes in trimming my cheeks and unibrow before I had to throw the blade away if I didn't employ this method. Princess Nocturna, Mistress of the Night, can move out of daddy's place and set her own hours if the sounds of someone who has someplace to be in the morning getting ready for that interrupt her undead slumber the very normal hour of 7:30 AM.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:23
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WampaLord posted:Nice goalpost moving. Now he's doing it quietly apparently! I'm inclined to believe that someone who insists that they just can't fall asleep before 2AM, it's impossible, might be a huge baby that's exaggerating. Also if you're going to make any noise that would be considered loud by banging a razor, you're going to break or damage it. Unless your definition of loud includes: opening/closing doors, clattering sliver/cookware, frying sounds, etc.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:24
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areyoucontagious posted:That's sort of what I meant. Yeah, stay up late, but if you're going to be self centered and whiney about it maybe you should grow up.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:24
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I (m22) am not a good photographer. My girlfriend (f22) says that she wants a guy that is good in photography. So talks about it every now and then and it is making me very insecurequote:Hi everyone. So my girlfriend have been together 1 year. So far it's been great and we are so happy together. I don't think Mr. Magoo is going to turn into Ansel Adams anytime soon so they should just sever so she can be instafamous.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:26
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Or she could possibly just rearrange her room so that her head isn't right next to the bathroom sink, unless this is some kind of non-euclidian hell-room where the size and shape of the furniture are dependent on their exact location in the room. If she refuses to alter her sleep cycle and is planning to move out in a couple months, why not just move the furniture instead of forcing her father to change what is likely a compulsive habit at this point? The real solution is for grandma and grandpa to kick both of their freeloading asses out on the street.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:26
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La Brea Carpet posted:I (m22) am not a good photographer. My girlfriend (f22) says that she wants a guy that is good in photography. So talks about it every now and then and it is making me very insecure The best solution is to go to that little town where they will kidnap a young black photographer and transplant his brain into him.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:27
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ThePeavstenator posted:I'm inclined to believe that someone who insists that they just can't fall asleep before 2AM, it's impossible, might be a huge baby that's exaggerating. Also if you're going to make any noise that would be considered loud by banging a razor, you're going to break or damage it. Unless your definition of loud includes: opening/closing doors, clattering sliver/cookware, frying sounds, etc. I can't sleep until 2am because I get home from work at 1am most nights, but if she's going to work at 11am I'm inclined to agree that perhaps she is a huge pissbaby and needs to fix her sleep schedule, because I doubt she's working 14-hour shifts and therefore can't use the "gently caress you, I close" excuse
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Aug 3, 2017 17:28
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I shave in the shower like a normal person and lol at all you fuckin sleepologists acting like you know poo poo about how other people's bodies work
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Aug 3, 2017 17:28
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Holy gently caress, I can't believe the lot of you. Are you all the most impolite motherfuckers in the world? "Excuse me dad, would you mind not tapping your razor loudly, it wakes me up early?" "NO loving WHORE FAIL DAUGHTER OF MINE SHOULD SPEAK TO ME IN MY HOUSE, GET OUT ON THE STREET, YOU WORTHLESS WRETCH! I HOPE YOU DIE ALONE!"
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La Brea Carpet posted:I (m22) am not a good photographer. My girlfriend (f22) says that she wants a guy that is good in photography. So talks about it every now and then and it is making me very insecure Why can't the girlfriend just get into photography?
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I Was The Fury posted:Why can't the girlfriend just get into photography? She wants to be the subject of the photos: one of them "instagram models" that climbs up onto a bluff in the painted desert and sticks their rear end in the camera or w/e.
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Aug 3, 2017 17:29
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WampaLord posted:Holy gently caress, I can't believe the lot of you. Are you all the most impolite motherfuckers in the world? No hope necessary, she will die alone if this is all it take to drive her crazy
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I enjoyed the comments on the psych ex story I'll just point out the details that jumped out at mequote:I realize you may be thinking that I'm jealous and doing this out of spite. Right now, you simply cannot know whether I am telling you the truth or whether I am fabricating some out of this world lie in order to break you up. This seems weird to me, because if he's the abusive guy she should be able to describe his behavior in a bit more detail than "there's no way you'll know." That phrasing seems to be more about trying to make the person uncertain. quote:You have not known him long enough to trust him. All I can tell you is that I am extremely happy with my amazing boyfriend of 9 months and have cut my ex out of my life completely, I've made no efforts to "get him back". This section seems really, really, really weird. If it wasn't there, I would be on the "lady helpfully warning new partner" side, but this reads like poo poo stirring gloating from a narc 100% to me quote:I could sit here and tell you the worst of the worst of stories about what he has done to me and said to me, and that all of them could happen to you. "But I won't!" did she just play Destiny?? Why won't you describe it? quote:It is in your best interest not to show this message to him, whether you believe me or not. He will deny this, of course, as he used to deny it while it was happening. You will have achieved nothing. My suggestion is to read this, and if you don't believe it, forget about it and go spend time with your boyfriend. In general I would expect this person to encourage the gf to show the letter to the bf and to tell them what reaction to expect, if it was legitimate. Being like "DONT SHOW IT TO HIM" is really weird, like, the person that feels in the right is generally not concerned about their stuff being exposed. But when people are manipulating, they are. quote:But if you ever start to find that he is changing into what I described above, and that he isn't the man who you started dating, you will remember my message and please leave him before it gets worse. Because it will. This is like the 4th entry in the "Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt" section of the letter. My personal guess is 80% odds intentional fuckery to destroy the relationship, 20% odds legit warning that was phrased oddly. The only thing that's kinda interesting is that Reddit talked this lady into meeting this dude's ex soo... one way or another, things will probably escalate.
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WampaLord posted:Holy gently caress, I can't believe the lot of you. Are you all the most impolite motherfuckers in the world? This seems like the weirdest hill to die on, she's a guest in his house, he's up at the normal time to be getting ready for work, and she's only experiencing this problem because she stares at a screen until 2am every night instead of just going to bed at a reasonable hour and waking up with the family. Presumably he has to shave and simply can't help but make some noise.
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WampaLord posted:Holy gently caress, I can't believe the lot of you. Are you all the most impolite motherfuckers in the world? My adult daughter lives with me and my parents and goes to bed at a very late hour. When I wake up around the incredibly normal time of 7-8 AM, I shave and make breakfast for everyone, this makes some noise. Apparently now I'm the rear end in a top hat that needs to change his behavior because it interrupts her need for 8 hours of sleep which she can't simply deal with by going to bed at like 11 or midnight. Yawgmoth posted:I shave in the shower like a normal person and lol at all you fuckin sleepologists acting like you know poo poo about how other people's bodies work I mean it's pretty well-established that blue light coming off of screens (which she specifically mentions is a thing she's doing at night) fucks with your ability to sleep. Also shaving in the shower is not what most people do lol. I'm sure you're a master of the blade and never leave a patch you can't see or accidentally cut yourself.
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Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 6 years. I feel trapped with this question that I have no clue how to answerquote:The situation is like this. Whenever I comment on something I find hot/sexy/attractive about my girl she always asks me this one question that gets to me: "So you find other girls [insert the thing i find attractive here] hot/sexy/attractive as well?" This lady is going through incredible lengths to destroy her relationship
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WampaLord posted:Holy gently caress, I can't believe the lot of you. Are you all the most impolite motherfuckers in the world? Imagine being 55 years old and just puttering around your house in the morning, starting your day with a shave and a poo poo, taking care of your adult child that has not learned to succeed in the world and then having to listen to all their grievances about how the shaving noises and farting noises and snoring noises are all such a terrible imposition as they live there rent free and prospect free and then you drink I guess
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ArbitraryC posted:This seems like the weirdest hill to die on, she's a guest in his house, he's up at the normal time to be getting ready for work, and she's only experiencing this problem because she stares at a screen until 2am every night instead of just going to bed at a reasonable hour and waking up with the family. You're all acting like she's a Princess being awoken by any noise he makes, when she specifically says it is this ONE LOUD rear end THING he does that is the only issue and she tolerates literally everything else about him. The weirdest hill to die on is defending the right of some old man you don't know to literally never change his behavior out of courtesy to others. Maybe he should just run people down in the road who get in his way! Who gives a gently caress about politeness, particularly to your own child? Edit: I give up, y'all are loving dug in on defending rudeness.
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La Brea Carpet posted:I (m22) am not a good photographer. My girlfriend (f22) says that she wants a guy that is good in photography. So talks about it every now and then and it is making me very insecure Dump her and let her find a photographer boyfriend so that years from now you can catch up with her and find out exactly how much it sucks to live in a cardboard box.
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Danaru posted:Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 6 years. I feel trapped with this question that I have no clue how to answer 
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ThePeavstenator posted:My adult daughter lives with me and my parents and goes to bed at a very late hour. When I wake up around the incredibly normal time of 7-8 AM, I shave and make breakfast for everyone, this makes some noise. Apparently now I'm the rear end in a top hat that needs to change his behavior because it interrupts her need for 8 hours of sleep which she can't simply deal with by going to bed at like 11 or midnight. This is Mirthless-tier making poo poo up, for the record. Have none of you ever stopped doing a bad habit out of respect for a partner, family member, or friend? Is this a loving foreign concept? To be considerate?
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Danaru posted:Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 6 years. I feel trapped with this question that I have no clue how to answer I can not believe this guy hasnt sussed out the correct answer is "No, it only looks good on you" I can believe hes dumb enough to have lasted this long with his girlfriend.
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WampaLord posted:This is Mirthless-tier making poo poo up, for the record. I think you're viewing it a different way than other people are. When adults cohabit there's always some degree of annoyance, homes are not built for good sound insulation so you will be aware of the other person's walking or showering or shaving depending on what that particular house does. When you live WITH someone, there's sort of the "who is providing the place" question. In this case the house is the grandparents and dad has a routine there, the daughter is staying with them. That means that the way this works is that dad is going to probably impose on the daughter simply by running the household, which tends to be noisy, but in this case it's on the daughter to accommodate the shared living situation. It's where he lives and he's got stuff to do while she's staying as an extended guest, so that's the social etiquette. If they were roommates or partners then I think it would be reasonable to try to work things out. When you are staying with other people it's generally assumed that you will let them do their routines as they like (since it is their home) without resenting them (since they are helping you out) and that it is you, not them, that will bend to make it work.
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Barudak posted:I can not believe this guy hasnt sussed out the correct answer is "No, it only looks good on you" I CAN believe that he's a clueless cheetobaby who doesn't realize that his girlfriend is a broken, jealous, insecurity-ridden wreck of a human who's only barely holding on to her husk of a self image through the sheer strength of delusion that her boyfriend won't ever leave her if he never finds anyone else attractive ever.
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"Dad has a routine" isn't a good enough excuse. It is not necessary for him to tap the razor, I shave, I know how to get hairs out of razors, there are non-tapping ways. It's not unreasonable for her to ask her dad to change a minor behavior out of respect for his daughter's mental well being. Have you ever had your sleep schedule hosed with by noises you can't control? It really messes you up.
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WampaLord posted:This is Mirthless-tier making poo poo up, for the record. I think what people are saying is that "Getting Ready for Work" is so much more important than "Internet Baby Sleepi Till 11:00am" that even the most minor of infractions against the latter by the former are above consideration.
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"There's a household with 3 people that operates a certain way and has for years, but now that I've been staying there for 10 months and leaving in 2 more, they have to change what they're doing to accommodate me - I can't change to accommodate them" is an odd stance to take. It's just odd. Why does it have to be only that way? Why can't the daughter change her sleep schedule, or sleep with a fan, or wear earplugs, or do all of those things?
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blarzgh posted:I think what people are saying is that "Getting Ready for Work" is so much more important than "Internet Baby Sleepi Till 11:00am" that even the most minor of infractions against the latter by the former are above consideration. She works too. You know what sucks? Showing up to work tired cause someone's loving up your sleep schedule by being a loving prick. Ham Sandwiches posted:"There's a household with 3 people that operates a certain way and has for years, but now that I've been staying there for 10 months and leaving in 2 more, they have to change what they're doing to accommodate me - I can't change to accommodate them" is an odd stance to take. It's just odd. Why does it have to be only that way? Why can't the daughter change her sleep schedule, or sleep with a fan, or wear earplugs, or do all of those things? Is this guy your grandpa? Why is his right to tap a razor sacrosanct??? "I MUST BE ABLE TO TAP RAZORS IN MY HOUSEHOLD, THERE OUGHTA BE A LAW!"
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WampaLord posted:"Dad has a routine" isn't a good enough excuse. It is not necessary for him to tap the razor, I shave, I know how to get hairs out of razors, there are non-tapping ways. It's not unreasonable for her to ask her dad to change a minor behavior out of respect for his daughter's mental well being. It's not like the dad's hours are weird tho and her schedule is not so far off she couldn't just go to bed 2 hours earlier and wake up with the fam. This lady does not need to stay up browsing reddit until 2am everynight, it's a habit she can (and should) break.
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