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Earnestly posted:Why does everyone itt have such a low opinion of poly? It rarely works out for people and tends to make the odd one out miserable. Still not as bad as an open relationship though.
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Earnestly posted:Why does everyone itt have such a low opinion of poly? *shrugs spreads hands to gesture towards the last 1500 pages.*
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Earnestly posted:Why does everyone itt have such a low opinion of poly? In my case, it's because I've seen it fail so hard so many times in the past 20+ years and usually for the same reasons (eg, a lot of people want to be "poly" just for the sexual aspect and assume that the nonsexual/romantic stuff will just somehow fall in line e: I'm referring to Polyamorous here, not just polygamy
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Aug 4, 2017 22:53
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Aug 4, 2017 22:54
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Honestly successfully making a poly relationship work seems like a lot of work. The kind of person who wants to be poly just so they can have more sex and less responsibility to any one person is probably not going to put that work in, because it's not less responsibility, it's more. And then they post on reddit about it!
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Aug 4, 2017 22:56
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Earnestly posted:Why does everyone itt have such a low opinion of poly? nerds with low empathy and social awareness think you can substitute quantity for quality in relationships it's like the 'we need to start practicing BDSM because I'm bored of our 15min missionary hump sessions' people except relationship-destroying and funny instead of just mildly awkward and funny A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 23:00 on Aug 4, 2017 |
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Aug 4, 2017 22:56
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It's crazy because the story just posted actually seems like it might work out? Like, they were already emotionally a threesome, and even if the odds are low, they sound a lot better than the terrible poo poo this thread has seen previously.
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Aug 4, 2017 22:59
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There's also a chunk of 'poly' that's really just you're-not-allowed-to-get-mad-at-me cheating. Some poly people get hilariously mad about the expectations normal people have in a relationship, too. There was a post a while back detailing a lot of 'common poly pitfalls' like husbands & wives coming before random fuckbuddies.
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Aug 4, 2017 23:00
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:It's crazy because the story just posted actually seems like it might work out? Like, they were already emotionally a threesome, and even if the odds are low, they sound a lot better than the terrible poo poo this thread has seen previously. Nah, they'll introduce the loving aspect and it will all go to jealous hell
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Aug 4, 2017 23:01
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Haifisch posted:There's also a chunk of 'poly' that's really just you're-not-allowed-to-get-mad-at-me cheating. I'm scared to commit so if I commit to like a dozen people instead of one maybe committing won't actually mean anything anymore
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Aug 4, 2017 23:02
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Haifisch posted:There's also a chunk of 'poly' that's really just you're-not-allowed-to-get-mad-at-me cheating. Yeah like while in theory I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with poly even tho it's not what I want I think in practice there can be a loooot of issues, especially when people try to make a relationship they entered into monogamously into a poly relationship, or when someone is using sex-positive framing to try to pressure someone into a poly relationship that really doesn't want to be.
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Aug 4, 2017 23:03
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Two's company, three's a crowd, and four is an angry mob.
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I Was The Fury posted:lol Report her for cyber bullying
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areyoucontagious posted:Nah, they'll introduce the loving aspect and it will all go to jealous hell Threesomes only Final Destination No Items
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Aug 4, 2017 23:08
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Improbable Lobster posted:Threesomes only does "a bunch of Ecstasy" count as an "item"
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Nah that's just Dr Marios neutral B
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Okay, I understand the general consensus now. I thought the sentiment came from more of a "it can never work out" standpoint rather than a "these loving nerds" one. My previous roommate and his wife have a great marriage that has always been open, and more recently shifted into poly. Tbh it's one of the strongest relationships I've witnessed in my life. But now that I've clarified that- haha, these loving nerds and their terrible relationship decisions.
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Aug 4, 2017 23:18
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The only reason more women aren't poly is because they're trying to be with dudes. My wife and the chittering amalgamation of beetles and vermin she's draped a cloak over are extremely happy, and full of glistening, twitching eggs.
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:The only reason more women aren't poly is because they're trying to be with dudes. My wife and the chittering amalgamation of beetles and vermin she's draped a cloak over are extremely happy, and full of glistening, twitching eggs. Don't tell Ted Cruz you're loving his girlfriend
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Aug 4, 2017 23:28
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i would not gently caress ted cruz with satan's dick. no one even three genitals adjacent to him. i would not gently caress a dog his sons killed because they probably hosed it first. if i am having sex in an area where ted cruz is laughing, my whole body dies. the only good use for ted cruz would be to hollow him out such that successful alpha-conservatives could use him as a holster for golf clubs. rock on nsa rock on fbi, read my fuckin psots lmao
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poly is basically because nobody's found a way to spin cat hoarding as somehow a progressive movement but insane people still want validation for running herd on a swarm of moody foul-smelling beasts
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Earnestly posted:Okay, I understand the general consensus now. I thought the sentiment came from more of a "it can never work out" standpoint rather than a "these loving nerds" one. My previous roommate and his wife have a great marriage that has always been open, and more recently shifted into poly. Tbh it's one of the strongest relationships I've witnessed in my life. It's not that it can never work out, it's that it rarely does. As a previous poster said, it requires a lot more work to maintain and adds more moving parts to a relationship than there otherwise would be through exponentially increasing the number of relationships inside the relationship. On the other hand it's also used by lovely people as an excuse to guilt trip and sleep around on their partners. Warbadger fucked around with this message at 23:50 on Aug 4, 2017 |
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Aug 4, 2017 23:42
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99% of poly relationships consist of one person who really wants to gently caress someone else, one person whose self-esteem is low enough that they're willing to put up with literally anything from their partner and (at least)one person who's just here to get laid.
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Aug 4, 2017 23:48
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Earnestly posted:Okay, I understand the general consensus now. I thought the sentiment came from more of a "it can never work out" standpoint rather than a "these loving nerds" one. My previous roommate and his wife have a great marriage that has always been open, and more recently shifted into poly. Tbh it's one of the strongest relationships I've witnessed in my life. poly can work, but it often doesn't. this isn't the sane advice for mature and open minded adults thread, this is the thread making fun of people who ask reddit for relationship advice
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Aug 4, 2017 23:50
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Earnestly posted:... does such a thread exist? Try here
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Barudak posted:This is the most complex way of going about a gay hook up I thought the both wanted to bang the girl, not each other.
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Errant Gin Monks posted:I thought the both wanted to bang the girl, not each other. they don't now, but one day they'll be DPing the girl and their tips will accidentally touch and they'll make eye contact...and they'll know. they'll know
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Errant Gin Monks posted:I thought the both wanted to bang the girl, not each other. I'm betting that friend wants wife and husband wants friend, personally
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Just leaned I have a son. Another man is paying for his child support. Can I establish myself as the father?quote:Texas (Austin) Update: Just leaned I have a son. Another man is paying for his child support. Can I establish myself as the father? quote:This is a pretty short update. I wasn't the biological father. The ex-husband helped me get a paternity test and it came back negative. Apparently she had cheated on him with more than one person. 
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Danaru posted:Just leaned I have a son. Another man is paying for his child support. Can I establish myself as the father? Oh, you also hosed my wife? Sure sure, fill out these forms and leave a cheek swab here. I'll send out a form email later to let you know which, if any, of my children are yours and I can refer you to a family attorney. Thank you very much for calling me, world's most understanding cuck.
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Danaru posted:[Update: Just leaned I have a son. Another man is paying for his child support. Can I establish myself as the father? That has to have been the weirdest loving conversation!!!!!!!!
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Lockback posted:Oh, you also hosed my wife? Sure sure, fill out these forms and leave a cheek swab here. I'll send out a form email later to let you know which, if any, of my children are yours and I can refer you to a family attorney. Thank you very much for calling me, world's most understanding cuck. Hey if it gets you out of child support you shouldnt be paying its probably worth it. Maybe even taking out a craigslist ad.
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Barudak posted:Hey if it gets you out of child support you shouldnt be paying its probably worth it. Maybe even taking out a craigslist ad. M4M: Did you gently caress my whore wife? Is this your spawn?
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I [m21] told my SO [f19] that I was polyamorous after taking her virginity. Mistake. How can we make it better?quote:Okay, for starters, don't rip me up too hard. I need advice, not admonition.
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Haifisch posted:I [m21] told my SO [f19] that I was polyamorous after taking her virginity. Mistake. How can we make it better? What kind of crazy lady actually wants to touch this dirtbag's dick, let alone multiple crazy ladies? I don't get it.
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Aug 5, 2017 01:48
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Captain Yossarian posted:I work right on the river here so if you were my friends IRL you would be getting Unsolicited duck picks on the reg A lot of my friends get unsolicited "hey look at this bug" texts
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Pick posted:A lot of my friends get unsolicited "hey look at this bug" texts 
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Pick posted:A lot of my friends get unsolicited "hey look at this bug" texts Bugs are pure and good.
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Earnestly posted:Why does everyone itt have such a low opinion of poly? Most people have the emotional intelligence of a turnip and can't even handle themselves, much less a conventional relationship, much less a poly one. People vastly overestimate their skills, and that includes genital management
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