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Look, it's like a job interview. Every job you interview for, you act like it's going to be the last job you ever take and that you'll work there forever. Even though most people job hop every 2 years and everyone knows this, it's all the polite lie, the kayfabe if you will, that we do as society. Relationships are the same thing. If you're getting into a long term relationship, you have to act like it's going to be the last one you'll ever have, even though everyone knows it most likely won't be. Also Pac-Manioc Root posted:Don't get into indefinite long-distance relationships.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Me [25 m] with my SO [24 M/F] Girlfriend has a very different "romantic" and Disney view of love that I don't. How do I explain to her that it's not that I don't love her, it's that we aren't living a fairy tale.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:43
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quote:She flat out said she will never learn to drive, so "don't even expect that from me. And I don't care if you judge me." Well, gently caress you then. I can see there's no reason to continue this discussion. Get a bike, bitch.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:45
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WampaLord posted:Look, it's like a job interview. Every job you interview for, you act like it's going to be the last job you ever take and that you'll work there forever. Even though most people job hop every 2 years and everyone knows this, it's all the polite lie, the kayfabe if you will, that we do as society. I once put up a homeless Republican at the behest of my brother. Dude was in his 50s and his story was that the collapse of print publishing and a divorce hit him hard and he was barely making anything basically doing blog busking for donations. In spite of literally having shelter due to my effete liberal kindness he remained (1) a Republican and (2) too good for any job that would take him. I remember he came back from an interview at a pizzeria and knew it went bad because when the manager asked if he was there long term and had a passion for pizza he "couldn't lie." He had decades on me and hadn't figured out that if you were interviewing at the button factory to put a roof over your head then holy heck you showed up and were playing the role of someone with an all-consuming passion for buttons. Needless to say he was an albacore around our necks and I was glad when he was someone else's basement dweller.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:47
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Yawgmoth posted:I had a girlfriend like this for a few months and she was a /r/relationships bingo. Loved to buy me gifts that I would never want (like stuffed animals and jewelry), thought every cashier/server girl was flirting with me and that I was flirting back, and got mad at me if I so much as noticed that there are other girls in the world. There are men somewhere on this planet that are acting happy about getting stuffed animals as gifts and reinforcing this behavior and they need to knock it the gently caress off.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:47
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:an albacore around our necks I hope this was intentional, because it's great.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:49
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tactlessbastard posted:There are men somewhere on this planet that are acting happy about getting stuffed animals as gifts and reinforcing this behavior and they need to knock it the gently caress off. ~my girlfriend~ noticed that I have an affinity for possums and got me a little stuffed possum that I adore and lives in my car as Erasmus the Dashboard Trash Cat. If she got me more stuffed animals it would admittedly start to get weird but the one was a sweet and thoughtful gift. Dead Reckoning posted:I hope this was intentional, because it's great. Yeah I know it's supposed to be the other thing, the bird, but I prefer it my way.
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Aug 14, 2017 19:49
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:~my girlfriend~ noticed that I have an affinity for possums and got me a little stuffed possum that I adore and lives in my car as Erasmus the Dashboard Trash Cat. Dammit man you're part of the problem!
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Aug 14, 2017 19:50
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Dead Reckoning posted:I feel like either one of them could be the rear end in a top hat in that situation. Yeah, long term relationships require work, and if you hadn't met your current partner, you would have probably invested that work in a different relationship with someone else, that might have been equally fulfilling... but you don't tell your current partner that. she's insanely jealous and he chose the most reddity possible way to manage that situation
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Aug 14, 2017 20:04
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tactlessbastard posted:Well, gently caress you then. I can see there's no reason to continue this discussion. Get a bike, bitch. /r/relationships: Get a bike, bitch.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:07
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Yawgmoth posted:I had a girlfriend like this for a few months and she was a /r/relationships bingo. Loved to buy me gifts that I would never want (like stuffed animals and jewelry), thought every cashier/server girl was flirting with me and that I was flirting back, and got mad at me if I so much as noticed that there are other girls in the world. Same.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:12
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Yawgmoth posted:thought every cashier/server girl was flirting with me and that I was flirting back, Same. One time we were at a store and I thought the cashier looked familiar, so I said "do I know you?" She replied " I don't know, do you" and my gf is like "YOU hosed HER DIDN'T YOU" and I just said nah and shook my head. Then the cashier pipes up saying "TRAIN!", turns out I had and just forgotten. Oops
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Aug 14, 2017 20:16
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Blue Train posted:Same. One time we were at a store and I thought the cashier looked familiar, so I said "do I know you?" She replied " I don't know, do you" and my gf is like "YOU hosed HER DIDN'T YOU" and I just said nah and shook my head. Then the cashier pipes up saying "TRAIN!", turns out I had and just forgotten. Oops You know if you were part of a train that ran on her it would make more sense for you to be less memorable to her than the other way around.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:18
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Aug 14, 2017 20:24
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It's accurate but weird to say "hey I think we'd both probably find love again even if we broke up tomorrow" but I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about people you find attractive in a general sense and it's kinda weird to be so insecure you couldn't handle a convo over which bartender was cuter or something.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:26
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:I once put up a homeless Republican at the behest of my brother. I've had a job, sometimes two or three, all throughout high school and college. I don't know exactly when, but it eventually sort of dawned on me that, "If this dude is stacking boxes at 55 years old in the back of a department store truck, making the same money as a 19 year old college student, maybe he doesn't have everything figured out??"
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Aug 14, 2017 20:28
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ArbitraryC posted:It's accurate but weird to say "hey I think we'd both probably find love again even if we broke up tomorrow" but I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about people you find attractive in a general sense and it's kinda weird to be so insecure you couldn't handle a convo over which bartender was cuter or something. Your younger sister is hotter but I think your older sister would be better in bed. What?
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Aug 14, 2017 20:29
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ArbitraryC posted:It's accurate but weird to say "hey I think we'd both probably find love again even if we broke up tomorrow" but I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about people you find attractive in a general sense and it's kinda weird to be so insecure you couldn't handle a convo over which bartender was cuter or something. People who fantasize about the idea of magical fairy tale love are really just projecting their need for the universe to give them a companionship which insulates their crippling security from any potential threat, and justifies their desire to be 100% selfish and never have to compromise.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:31
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[New Mexico tribal lands] Local police took my phone and said I would never get it back; what are my rights?quote:I'm a U.S. citizen. I went to Santa Clara Pueblo, NM to see the feast day dancing. There was a sign in the parking lot saying "handheld electronic devices will be confiscated and not returned". I nevertheless attended the festival with my cell phone in my pocket (never taking it out). As I was walking back to my car, I took it out of my pocket and unlocked it. A man ran up to me and told me that cell phone use was prohibited and I would have to give him the phone. I refused. He said "will I have to get the police?" I said yes. He returned with a police officer who repeated the demand. I argued that I was out of sight of all the dancers and spectators and was in the process of returning to my car. I asked if I could simply leave the town and never return. He told me that I could give him the phone or go to jail. I gave him the phone.
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Aug 14, 2017 20:37
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blarzgh posted:People who fantasize about the idea of magical fairy tale love are really just projecting their need for the universe to give them a companionship which insulates their crippling security from any potential threat, and justifies their desire to be 100% selfish and never have to compromise. I had a girl break up with me after a month because she had just rewatched the notebook for the umpteenth time and we weren't like that. She didn't like the response of "because we actually exist?"
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Aug 14, 2017 20:39
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quote:The phone is old and probably worth less than $100, and I'm not really interested in spending more than that to get it back. Also, I live 1000 miles away. I don't know the legal answer but the poster makes the practical answer pretty obvious. Heed Awesome Humungus and just walk away. All things considered a cheap lesson in the pettiness of local shitkicker sheriffs be they in some podunk town or on the res. Ugly In The Morning posted:I had a girl break up with me after a month because she had just rewatched the notebook for the umpteenth time and we weren't like that. She didn't like the response of "because we actually exist?" Wait, if I'm remembering the plot right that's extra dumb. Did she want you to be the side guy, or the cucked fiance?
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Aug 14, 2017 20:42
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:I once was conversing with a black co-worker about representation in The Star Wars (we were agreeing it was Good, and also Cool), and another black co-worker overheard and spun it off into a discussion over whether the preferred nomenclature was "black" or "african american" and instead of piping up and contributing with "well ~actually~ John Boyega is a British Subject," I did the Homer fading into the bushes move but with cubicles. Considering British subjects (at least when we're talking about a dude born in Peckham) aren't a thing since https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/British_Nationality_Act_1948 you'd be right!  Edit: cripes good thing we don't have any colonies per se these days I guess feedmegin fucked around with this message at 21:05 on Aug 14, 2017 |
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Aug 14, 2017 21:02
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feedmegin posted:Considering British subjects aren't a thing since quote:"Citizen of the United Kingdom and Colonies" (CUKC) 
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Aug 14, 2017 21:03
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Get cukced, natives
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fruit on the bottom posted:[New Mexico tribal lands] Local police took my phone and said I would never get it back; what are my rights? lmao you have the right to pound sand, any sand you pound on reservation land is subject to tribal jurisdiction. you have the right to an attorney, who will tell you to pound sand
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fruit on the bottom posted:[New Mexico tribal lands] Local police took my phone and said I would never get it back; what are my rights? el oh loving el 
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fruit on the bottom posted:[New Mexico tribal lands] Local police took my phone and said I would never get it back; what are my rights? You need to hire an expert. 
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Aug 14, 2017 21:47
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:I remember he came back from an interview at a pizzeria and knew it went bad because when the manager asked if he was there long term and had a passion for pizza he "couldn't lie." He had decades on me and hadn't figured out that if you were interviewing at the button factory to put a roof over your head then holy heck you showed up and were playing the role of someone with an all-consuming passion for buttons. True, but at the same time, I can sympathize with him on that. It's kind of lovely that every employer needs someone with a "passion" for whatever job he's hiring for i mean who the gently caress has a passion for pizzas other than barb the pizza eater
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Aug 14, 2017 21:54
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My Linux Rig posted:True, but at the same time, I can sympathize with him on that. It's kind of lovely that every employer needs someone with a "passion" for whatever job he's hiring for Oh, sure, it's a lovely tune, but if you're going to get by you have to at least know the steps to the dance. 
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Aug 14, 2017 21:59
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Yea, when I was interviewing for Jimmy Johns in 2009, I was telling them exactly what they wanted to hear. "Yes sir, how high sir, etc." Gotta bootlick to get by.
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Aug 14, 2017 22:03
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WampaLord posted:Yea, when I was interviewing for Jimmy Johns in 2009, I was telling them exactly what they wanted to hear. "Yes sir, how high sir, etc."
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Aug 14, 2017 22:04
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:I once put up a homeless Republican at the behest of my brother. "Fish, visitors, and cursed mariners smell after three days."
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Aug 14, 2017 22:30
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My Linux Rig posted:True, but at the same time, I can sympathize with him on that. It's kind of lovely that every employer needs someone with a "passion" for whatever job he's hiring for It's a service industry job, nobody wants to be there but if you can't fake enthusiasm anyway what the hell use are you. it's an extremely easy test of your ability to perform a job a chimp could do and dude bombed it on purpose, cause he's not a chimp he's a fulltime leech A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 22:38 on Aug 14, 2017 |
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WampaLord posted:Yea, when I was interviewing for Jimmy Johns in 2009, I was telling them exactly what they wanted to hear. "Yes sir, how high sir, etc." Did you talk super fast so they knew you were Jimmy Johns fast?
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Aug 14, 2017 22:38
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ArbitraryC posted:Dog bit home intruder, intruder's mother threatening to sue for medical costs This is why homeowner's or renter's insurance has liability coverage.
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Aug 14, 2017 23:01
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:It's a service industry job, nobody wants to be there but if you can't fake enthusiasm anyway what the hell use are you. it's an extremely easy test of your ability to perform a job a chimp could do and dude bombed it on purpose, cause he's not a chimp he's a fulltime leech
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How should I (19m) confront my gf (19f) about working out/diet changes?quote:My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, she has always been a little over what most would consider the "average weight" for her age, and It's never really bothered me, but she's started to gain quite a bit of weight lately, and I want her to be healthy. She complains about being overweight, not all the time, just sometimes, and she didn't go to any pool parties with me all summer because she's self conscious. We've tried working out together before but I can tell she doesn't push her self very hard. She also doesn't have a healthy diet, she eats chips and drinks Dr Pepper a lot. I've brought this to her attention that Dr Peppers, and diet could be part of her weight loss problems. She says she needs Dr Pepper for her migraines, although she has cut back some and I'm sure soda helps her headaches but I feel like it's also what causes them. I had a huge caffeine and pornography addiction in my past, but I overcame those addictions. I know what addiction is, and how hard it is to overcome them. And I want to help, her, I just don't know how. I keep my body healthy and fit, I just wish she would do the same. I want her to be healthy, and I think she is beautiful but I'm starting to lose some physical attraction to her, and I feel AWFUL for saying that. But she's not taking care of her body and it's a turn off, I've found myself looking at other women and i feel terrible for it. I could use any suggestions really. I feel that her health and weight would be a ridiculous reason for me to break up with her. I have a prescription from Dr. Pepper.
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quote:She says she needs Dr Pepper for her migraines Lol
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fruit on the bottom posted:How should I (19m) confront my gf (19f) about working out/diet changes?  and embrace being shallow. Don't even tell her, you spineless weenie, just ghost her and never look back.
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fruit on the bottom posted:How should I (19m) confront my gf (19f) about working out/diet changes? Dr. Pepper, MD, PhD, chair of neurology, Landwhale University
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