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Yay, I got excited about 8 new posts because it seems this thread isn't usually all that active and it turns out that I get a whole new group to join!
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By some miracle I became pregnant unexpectedly. I have a hormone disorder that should have made it impossible to get pregnant without medical intervention so I'm completely unprepared for this. I'm very happy, but also a little scared since I wasn't expecting this. I feel like I have a million questions and don't even know where to begin. The one thing that's bothering me a lot is the lightheadedness. Is it normal to be super super lightheaded all day at about 6/7 weeks? It's making it really tough for me to work...
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Aug 23, 2017 12:39
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Re lying on your back nursing- I guess it's individual mechanics plus the fact that my kid is technically a toddler that is capable of helping herself (though she was able to latch herself in side lying position from like 3-4 months on I think, I'd just lie very still in one position all night and kept her head at boob level and she'd wriggle on when necessary). Right now I lie flat on my back, arms by my sides, chest bare to the elements and she just climbs on and switches boobs whenever she wants. I'm fairly small in the chest department so everything stays upright I guess. If she's deep enough asleep on top of me I can then usually slide her off to her side of the bed so that I can actually get under my covers and not freeze to death, but it's back to corpse pose breastfeeding if she wakes up at all during the night. I'm essentially a human body pillow with snacks attached. This is not as restful as it sounds- my preferred sleeping position is curled up on my side in the fetal position. You can guess how often I get to sleep that way (0.01% of the time). Edit: congratulations Bloody Cat Farm!! It's normal to feel discombobulated, it's a huge change and things keep changing up just when you think you've got the hang of it but I am finding it the best thing ever. Even when it's been bloody hard it's been the best thing ever. Lightheadedness could be a few things- low blood pressure, low blood sugar, dilutional anaemia-- the general first port of call advice would be keep light snacks on hand (including something with protein if you can), and drink a poo poo ton of water (enough to make your pee dilute). Dilutional anaemia you can't do much about, is what happens when your body is expanding your blood volume for the baby and placenta but your blood cells haven't caught up in number yet so you end up with thinned down blood basically. It's not forever, usually by the second trimester you get your energy back. Took me about 23-24 weeks before I stopped getting so out of breath from normal exertion, but ymmv obviously. nyerf fucked around with this message at 12:53 on Aug 23, 2017 |
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Aug 23, 2017 12:41
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:By some miracle I became pregnant unexpectedly. I have a hormone disorder that should have made it impossible to get pregnant without medical intervention so I'm completely unprepared for this. I'm very happy, but also a little scared since I wasn't expecting this.
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Aug 23, 2017 17:03
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nyerf posted:Re lying on your back nursing- I guess it's individual mechanics plus the fact that my kid is technically a toddler that is capable of helping herself (though she was able to latch herself in side lying position from like 3-4 months on I think, I'd just lie very still in one position all night and kept her head at boob level and she'd wriggle on when necessary). Right now I lie flat on my back, arms by my sides, chest bare to the elements and she just climbs on and switches boobs whenever she wants. I'm fairly small in the chest department so everything stays upright I guess. If she's deep enough asleep on top of me I can then usually slide her off to her side of the bed so that I can actually get under my covers and not freeze to death, but it's back to corpse pose breastfeeding if she wakes up at all during the night. I'm essentially a human body pillow with snacks attached. This is a very apt description of how I feel too especially since Harriet has decided that she likes sleeping on her tummy so the most comfy way to nurse at night is to lay completely on top of me.... I was a stomach sleeper before this whole baby thing and I remember thinking when I was close to delivery that it would be so nice to finally sleep like that again.....AhahahahahaHAHAHAHAH!!!!  Maybe someday....
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Aug 23, 2017 19:10
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:By some miracle I became pregnant unexpectedly. I have a hormone disorder that should have made it impossible to get pregnant without medical intervention so I'm completely unprepared for this. I'm very happy, but also a little scared since I wasn't expecting this. I feel like I have a million questions and don't even know where to begin. The one thing that's bothering me a lot is the lightheadedness. Is it normal to be super super lightheaded all day at about 6/7 weeks? It's making it really tough for me to work... Congrats! This is similar to my situation. I didn't think there was any way I could get pregnant (had multiple surgeries, was seeing a fertility specialist) and I was considering adoption over IVF and lo and behold I felt weird and realized I hadn't been spotting leading up to my period like usual and welp, super faint second line and cue me freaking out. That was back in March and I was a nervous wreck the entire first trimester. I was convinced it was a fluke and something bad would happen but I'm here at 26 weeks getting kicked in the cervix on a regular basis and trying to pick a middle name for my little dude. And I did have some lightheadedness as my body adjusted to things and I still get it if I get up too fast from sitting leaning back or laying down. Just be easy with yourself, track your symptoms, and feel free to ask your OB every little question. That's mostly what they're there for anyway. That and I guess catching the baby when it comes out? Honestly mine has been pretty useless and I prefer my MFM (maternal fetal medicine, a specialist for high risk pregnancies) and wish he could be the one in the delivery room.
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Aug 23, 2017 20:13
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KasioDiscoRock posted:Congrats! I don't know about last lightheadedness specifically, but I pretty much came to the conclusion during my pregnancy that everything weird going on with your body is "normal". The only things that aren't explained away by "well, it's just a pregnancy thing" are the very specific things that your doctor will tell you to watch out for (*IANAD, please do not take this as actual medical advice. If something really truly feels wrong to you at a gut level, ask an actual professional about it) Thank you! I tried calling the nurses number today about 10 times and I was not able to get through. My hormones have left me pretty impatient and crying at the drop of a hat, so I gave up on calling for advice. From what I'm reading it's normal? Roulette posted:Congrats! This is similar to my situation. I didn't think there was any way I could get pregnant (had multiple surgeries, was seeing a fertility specialist) and I was considering adoption over IVF and lo and behold I felt weird and realized I hadn't been spotting leading up to my period like usual and welp, super faint second line and cue me freaking out. That was back in March and I was a nervous wreck the entire first trimester. I was convinced it was a fluke and something bad would happen but I'm here at 26 weeks getting kicked in the cervix on a regular basis and trying to pick a middle name for my little dude. Thank you! I'm also feeling like something must be wrong. I'm worried because I feel like it's too good to be true almost.
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Aug 23, 2017 20:35
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I've had another bleed, but not as horror-movie esque this time. I was feeling pretty optimistic because my spotting had been decreasing steadily every day, and then I get this. 14 weeks tomorrow. I'd say this is something I'm going to have to prepare for with the haematomas. It sucks. The bleeding isn't so heavy that it indicates anything more sinister. Going to go to the doctor after work to see if she can put the Doppler on me just to be sure all is well.
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Aug 24, 2017 21:03
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elise the great posted:I'm always shocked when I read some mommy group member post that she's a FTM. Every goddamn time I'm like "wow, I thought trans men who chose to give birth were really rare and it's really weird to see a guy like that describe himself as FTM instead of trans or just a guy" and then I'm like FIRST TIME MOM UUUGGGGHHH YES. I was on BabyCenter? or one of those, very briefly, and was floored at how open minded these very stereotypical ~baby dust~ types who won't type "had sex" (it was "we DTD" ... "did the deed/dirty") were about transgender parents. My kid is 4 so it's been forever but I vaguely remember that sudden lightbulb going off over my head.
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Aug 25, 2017 03:47
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In one group I abandoned like a box full of ants, the pinned post explained that DTD did not in fact mean "did the deed" but rather "did the do," as "the deed" was too crude. Meanwhile I'm over here like "my husband and I went to Barcelona and got drunk as gently caress every day and night and screwed like an entire orgy compressed into two sweaty white people and now I'm knocked up lol"
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Aug 25, 2017 04:59
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nyerf posted:I'm essentially a human body pillow with snacks attached. SquirrelFace posted:I was a stomach sleeper before this whole baby thing and I remember thinking when I was close to delivery that it would be so nice to finally sleep like that again.....AhahahahahaHAHAHAHAH!!!! Days like this I feel like I need a :moo: smiley  In other news, I last posted that her hunger cues are now unreliable. In case anybody else is in the same situation, I figured: i) since she feeds just fine at night and has no problem latching herself on in side lying, she's got the feeding skills ii) therefore if she's not latching, she's probably not hungry - what was really amazing is that she somehow knew/recognized all our feeding spots. If I kept trying to feed her, the second we got to a feeding spot she would start wailing then immediately stop as soon as we leave it. iii) so as of yesterday I tried offering when I think she's hungry and if she doesn't latch after a couple of seconds, we move on Peace has now reigned for 24 hours and counting but my Wonder Weeks app just notified me that we are officially starting another leap today so... Also congrats to all the new mothers to be! I didn't get lightheaded but I did abruptly lose upper body strength at around 14 weeks. Pregnancy does weird things to your body. femcastra posted:Going to go to the doctor after work to see if she can put the Doppler on me just to be sure all is well.  Hope things did go well for you...
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Aug 25, 2017 07:12
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We had our son two weeks ago, at 35+5, so everything happened a lot faster than we expected. But he's great and healthy, only a bit small, especially the mouth which doesn't quite fit the nipple. Luckily, through a combination of bottles and boob adapters he is now nursing pretty well and also making GBS threads and hiccuping. Protip: get all the stuff well in advance, you never know... Also, that parenting group on Facebook, I'm waiting to get accepted into the limbo group, would someone mind? I'm Albert.
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Aug 25, 2017 10:45
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Leng posted:
Yep, all good. Ended up getting an ultrasound and bub was fine. Will get the radiographer's report at the dr's next week to see what's happening with the haematomas.
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Aug 25, 2017 11:49
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How accurate are pee tests? Not all woman produce HCG right away right?
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Aug 25, 2017 17:22
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Nierbo posted:How accurate are pee tests? Not all woman produce HCG right away right? From what I understand false positives are NOT a thing but false negatives are. If it's too close to a missed period it can still show as negative.
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Aug 25, 2017 20:03
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Nierbo posted:How accurate are pee tests? Not all woman produce HCG right away right? Some of the Internet cheapies are more sensitive than what is in most doctors offices (sensitive to 25 whatevers of hCG versus 100). Blue tests are lame and pink tests are great. Not all pregnancies produce hCG at the same rate, and not all women excrete it in pee the same rate. Still, nearly all will be positive by a few days after a missed period. I like pee sticks. They are my entertainment. 
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Aug 26, 2017 15:38
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I'm having really bad neck stiffness and pain. No other symptoms so I don't think it's meningitis. I usually use tiger balm patches, but I was reading the camphor in tiger balm is bad for the baby. Can anyone recommend anything for the pain?
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Aug 27, 2017 12:33
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:I'm having really bad neck stiffness and pain. No other symptoms so I don't think it's meningitis. I usually use tiger balm patches, but I was reading the camphor in tiger balm is bad for the baby. Can anyone recommend anything for the pain? To get enough camphor for it to be harmful for the baby you'd probably have to orally ingest a poisonous amount. If it is musculoskeletal discomfort, heat and Tylenol can be helpful. In patients with bad spasms I will sometimes prescribe a short course of muscle relaxers.
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Aug 27, 2017 13:24
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I would ignore any advice about substances that are only used externally and won't enter the bloodstream. Tiger Balm yr neck and go see a (non-evil) bone wizard on Monday.
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Aug 27, 2017 13:53
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Good to know. Thank you both!
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Aug 27, 2017 13:57
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Does anyone have contact with Dogfish?
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Aug 28, 2017 02:43
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Does anyone have contact with Dogfish? No! But I was just wondering about her too. I hope she's alright!
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Aug 28, 2017 05:48
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We had good experience with a heating pillow for the neck stiffness as well.
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Aug 28, 2017 12:02
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BonHair posted:We had good experience with a heating pillow for the neck stiffness as well. I may need to try that. It doesn't seem to be going away. Neck stiffness and pain is common in pregnancy?
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Aug 28, 2017 12:06
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This was for nursing, but being fat fucks up your sleeping position which easily leads to back and neck pain. I'm the father, so all information is second hand.
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Aug 28, 2017 12:39
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I hosed my neck/wrists/hips in my sleep more than usual. Maybe it's the stretchiness hormones.
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Aug 28, 2017 15:58
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Sleeping protip: get a nursing pillow and stick it between your legs and under your stomach. Actually, just loving buy every type of special pillow is my general advice it seems. Just no anime, that hurts the baby.
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Aug 28, 2017 16:45
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BonHair posted:Sleeping protip: get a nursing pillow and stick it between your legs and under your stomach. +1 on pillows! I borrowed a Snoogle from a friend and I loved it so much I considered buying my own to keep even after being pregnant. Really glad I didn't because I can't stand using it now that baby is here, but it was seriously heaven especially in the third trimester.
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Aug 28, 2017 17:58
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I had this U-shaped one that I loved, because it surrounded me on back and front and kept me from rolling over onto my back. After little man was born, I 'gave' it to my three year old to put in her big girl bed as a way of coaxing her out of mine. She loves to curl up in it and calls it 'the house'. A+++++ worth every penny for facilitating that transition.
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Aug 28, 2017 18:07
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Regarding heat packs: fill a sock with rice and sew or tie it closed. Microwave for a minute, the heat lasts for a long time, and it's super cheap and effective.
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Aug 28, 2017 22:59
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Just curious... are there any maternity work type dress pants that aren't hideous that you've found? I'm not having much luck.
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Sep 3, 2017 13:16
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:Just curious... are there any maternity work type dress pants that aren't hideous that you've found? I'm not having much luck. I got mine from Motherhood Maternity and they were fine.
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Sep 3, 2017 22:29
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:Just curious... are there any maternity work type dress pants that aren't hideous that you've found? I'm not having much luck. That was exactly my reaction. I tried them and really didn't like how they looked and felt so I gave up wearing anything other than maternity jeans. I ended up ordering 2 dresses from ASOS and wore them my entire pregnancy, along with this dress that I already had (which is not a maternity dress but which I managed to keep wearing anyway). Between maternity bras ($$$), baby gear ($$$$$) and all the other sundry costs of having a baby, I decided 3 dresses was all I needed for work and if people wanted to judge me for wearing the same thing over and over again, well, they're not the ones stuck with the bill so who cares. Leng fucked around with this message at 00:32 on Sep 4, 2017 |
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Sep 4, 2017 00:28
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I haven't posted in this thread at all, but have been lurking and reading since we found out my wife was pregnant (with twins!) in January. They were born two days ago now with an emergency C section, which was a very scary and stressful experience, but everything seemed to work out fine in the end and everyone is happy and healthy. I mainly wanted to post to thank everyone else who has been sharing their experiences; I know that for sure it helped me prepare for and get through a pretty rough couple of hours.
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Sep 9, 2017 18:31
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My emergency c-section baby just turned a month, and he is great. It's scary, but it passes. Be sure to talk about the experience, preferably with a professional, that has really helped my girlfriend dealing with what felt like a major violation of her body.
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Sep 9, 2017 19:04
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Thanks, that's reassuring. I think my wife is doing fine with it now, and is recovering well and very cheerful, but I'll be sure to keep an eye on whether that continues. It was mostly very scary during the brief lead up to surgery, and to be honest she seemed to handle it better than I did, which I give her huge credit for. It has also given me an unbelievable amount of appreciation for nurses and doctors beyond anything I've had before.
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Sep 9, 2017 19:15
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Aw, congrats! Are they just little tiny babies? Make sure your wife takes it really easy for the next eight weeks, having c-section is major surgery! There were many times when I pushed a little too hard or was hard on myself for not doing "enough".
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Sep 9, 2017 19:28
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Aw, congrats! Are they just little tiny babies? Make sure your wife takes it really easy for the next eight weeks, having c-section is major surgery! There were many times when I pushed a little too hard or was hard on myself for not doing "enough". Yep! Both born at just about 5 and a half pounds. I will be doing my best to help my wife out; I have a fairly generous (for the US, anyway) leave policy and will be taking full advantage. Thanks for the advice
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Sep 9, 2017 21:15
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Pregnancy travel question! Sorry if this is a well trodden topic, I've only made it through 8 pages of the thread so far and if you know which pages, send me there and I'll read. I'll definitely be going through the thread since I just found out about 4 days ago (and my husband has already blabbed  )As I said, just found out I'm pregnant and in a month and a half I'm scheduled to take a trip to Dehradun, India and I'll be there for two weeks. I hadn't yet gotten my vaccinations, so other than the usual ones, I don't have the shots for malaria, typhoid, hep c, etc. Add to that my GP telling me that no, don't go to India because Zika exists there. (She didn't actually say it to me, a nurse did supposedly after talking to her, over the phone, with no context what so ever, hadn't even had my blood test.) Anyone have experience traveling while pregnant? I'll be around 10/11 weeks by then, in a part of the country that doesn't have malaria or the total of 3 cases of zika reported in the country. My husband (who is already there) doesn't seem too worried about it. He's an EMT and a pharm tech so does know a bit about medical related things. Should I just cancel the trip or wait until I can actually have a conversation with an ob?
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Sep 15, 2017 22:51
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Well we're back! We were going to start trying when we got back from England in October, and since it took almost a year of NTNP to get pregnant with Harriet, we assumed we'd have a little over a two year gap. I kept telling people I wanted to drink all the delicious cider in England so couldn't get pregnant. When the test turned positive this evening I said, "you've got to be making GBS threads me." I stopped taking My BC at the beginning of the month since we were planning to try soon anyway, but for the life of me, I cannot remember when my last period was so no idea how far along I am. I suspect I got pregnant before I stopped taking the BC....so I was nursing and on BC. My husband is walking around all proud of his super British sperm. They will be 19 months apart 
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