David Heinrich posted:

I'd agree with you if it were an equal roommate relationship, but it isn't. He's paying for the majority of stuff and essentially supporting her, something that's putting a pretty harsh strain on him financially. That's a nice thing to do for a friend, but expecting it from him, especially when it's also at the cost of his emotional well being, is silly. The main thing here is that she's not doing anything wrong by not loving the guy; not at all. If he wanted to gently caress her and she said no, but he could live with it and sort of just shrugged it off, they could totally still live together. It's the fact that it's ripping up his mental state having her there, loving other guys, while he supports her. While she's not doing anything wrong, he's bringing a massive amount of stress on supporting her, and he really shouldn't have to do that.

maskenfreiheit posted:

she doesn't have psychic powers, she took him at face value that he wanted to help out a friend. his mental state should not be a factor in whether she chooses to leave her legal domicile.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My [18 F] dad [55 M] only walks around in underwear, how do I ask him to stop?

maskenfreiheit posted:

she doesn't have psychic powers, she took him at face value that he wanted to help out a friend. his mental state should not be a factor in whether she chooses to leave her legal domicile.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

It's a very well documented thing. Though the expert's are torn on whether it's a good thing or bad. IME it's a good thing

Why science says you should have a work spouse

you'd be surprised at how many people have crossed the line with their work spouse

Ride The Gravitron posted:

It's a very well documented thing. Though the expert's are torn on whether it's a good thing or bad. IME it's a good thing

Why science says you should have a work spouse

you'd be surprised at how many people have crossed the line with their work spouse

HazCat posted:

Good for you as an employee, or good for you as a person with an actual romantic relationship, though?

If you want a work spouse, just date a coworker. Oh wait, that is universally accepted as a terrible idea, I wonder why.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I notice the experts reference a lot of gifs of their favorite TV shows

Ride The Gravitron posted:

It's a very well documented thing. Though the expert's are torn on whether it's a good thing or bad. IME it's a good thing

Why science says you should have a work spouse

you'd be surprised at how many people have crossed the line with their work spouse

quote:

My [18 F] dad [55 M] only walks around in underwear, how do I ask him to stop?

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Yeah she should continue to live there but he should move out

David Heinrich posted:

Nobody said she does. That's why he has to make it clear to her his situation; and no, his mental state should entirely be a factor in her leaving a place if he's supporting her there, and if she's actually his friend. He's not the only one with a duty to a friend, here. If she knows that she's putting a pretty harsh emotional and financial strain on someone and she cares about them as a friend and she has the entirely valid alternative of staying with her parents, she should probably leave.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

No one likes reading science journals

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My [18 F] dad [55 M] only walks around in underwear, how do I ask him to stop?

Ouhei posted:

Except she can't. If he's covering a majority of the expenses because she couldn't afford to be there otherwise he can't really be the one to just leave (unless he finds someone else that wants to take on that portion of the rent).

maskenfreiheit posted:

she doesn't have psychic powers, she took him at face value that he wanted to help out a friend. his mental state should not be a factor in whether she chooses to leave her legal domicile.

tactlessbastard posted:

I'm [30sM] pants off from approximately 15 seconds after I get home from work. How do I keep my kids [<5Fs] from one day being embarrassed by this?

zakharov posted:

I am all about opposite sex friendship being normalized. Most of my friends are female. That said if my wife started talking about a work husband I'd be doing IRL

Straight White Shark posted:

having a co-worker as a close friend and confidant:

sincerely treating a close friendship as a formal relationship on par with a spouse, while having an actual spouse:

zakharov posted:

I am all about opposite sex friendship being normalized. Most of my friends are female. That said if my wife started talking about a work husband I'd be doing IRL

quote:

My mom has been dating him for a while now and to be honest he's not a bad guy. But the problem is that he has four children [15F, 14F, 12M, 10M] who live with him, from four different mothers, and they'll all going to be moving in with my mom and my sister. This is a two bedroom apartment. 7 people in 2 bedrooms. He has three more children [7M, 7F, 6M] from two different women who live with their mothers but stay with him over the weekends. So there could be up to 10 people there at one time, 8 kids. 7 of them from the dad, plus my sister.

How can anyone think this is a good idea? I literally struggle to understand how this man has managed to have so many kids by this age. But that is irrelevant. My concern is that so many kids in such a small living situation, this is going to be extremely difficult. It also doesn't help that my sister is an introvert (like me) and this is going to drive her crazy. She needs a calm environment and she needs her space.

I tried talking to our mom and she seems to think that my sister "just needs to adapt" and that's that. I'm not saying that my mom shouldn't find love and shouldn't marry, but shouldn't my sister come first? This is obviously not a good decision for her and she can't just adapt to this new situation. It's also likely that they'll get kicked out of the apartment, once the neighbors start complaining and the landlord realizes that there's up to 10 people living there. This guy has a minimum wage job so it's not like they're going to afford a place that can reasonably house that many people.

I know I can't change my mom's mind about this so I'm not asking about that. To people who have lived in a similar situation, what can I do to help my sister? I'm looking for little things I can do to make her life easier, maybe things I can buy for her that can be useful in such an environment or anything really that will help. They're going to move in in 2 weeks, so there's not much time.

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It's hard to believe but [the moms] each have multiple babies themselves.

My mom said they will get two double bunkbeds. Each will sleep 4 kids, so eight overall. I'm 100% sure my sister will have trouble sleeping.

He is currently living with his own mother now, with the 4 children but the mother wants them out apparently.

I don't think my mom wants more kids but that guy might have other ideas.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My (26) Boyfriend (25) won't clean up after himself after playing his fiddle.

when I move the couch I see 50 paper towels crumpled up with cum.

It's funny cause I can't even have a box of lady products out like 'just an unopened box from the store as hes too grossed out by that

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I'd never have a work wife but I've got plenty of work-fuckbuddies

you can always tell the ones who loved Cheaper by the Dozen as kids:

My [21M] mom [41F] is going to marry her boyfriend [40M], who has 7 children. This is going to be horrible for my sister [11F]. How can I help?

WampaLord posted:

"To be honest, he's not a bad guy"

loving lmao

fruit on the bottom posted:

A known unknown


Going through something p. Similar in the sims rn

Barudak posted:

41 year old man about to have two more kids

quote:

My teenage daughter is in her first year of high school. We suspect she has fibroids because she has a heavy period. We don't have a formal medical diagnosis, but we never anticipated this situation. She has one teacher who has made her uncomfortable. She says he made a few off color jokes about women not understanding some of the content of the class- he teaches history and english.

Earlier today, she desperately had to use the bathroom because she could sense wetness and knew her period was too heavy to be contained with a liner. Sorry if this is graphic.

The school bathroom policy is allegedly asking permission and it's up to the instructor to let you go or not. To my knowledge, they don't have passes or hall monitors?

She raised her hand like halfway into the class to ask for permission to go to the bathroom. The instructor said no. He was giving a lecture and my daughter claims she asked politely. This instructor said she could wait another half hour or whatever it was. She said "I can't wait" and he said something along the lines of "your hair looks fine, you can wait until the end of the class to brush it." Some people in the class laughed. I interpret this to be mildly sexist, and I am willing to demand that my daughter is removed from the class. She ended up bleeding through her pants, tried to wash it in the bathroom, and was late to her next class. She called me sobbing during lunch time because she had to borrow someone else's jacket and sit in period stained underwear for the rest of the day.

My question is: what is my obligation here to notify the school or report this? I am livid and want this teacher, who is treading on the line of being inappropriate to begin with, to realize that sometimes a bathroom emergency is not a hair emergency. I bought a recorder for my daughter to put in her backpack and record his lessons because he is borderline sexist and if this happens again I want proof to show.

What can I do? I live in Orange County, California.

Thank you!

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I'd never have a work wife but I've got plenty of work-fuckbuddies

you can always tell the ones who loved Cheaper by the Dozen as kids:

My [21M] mom [41F] is going to marry her boyfriend [40M], who has 7 children. This is going to be horrible for my sister [11F]. How can I help?

HOT BREAD! posted:

lmao at this woman's loving standards

"help Reddit, my adult boyfriend hoards crusty jizz rags bc he's too lazy to walk to the trashcan but he's super grossed out by an unopened Tampax, WHAT DO??"

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

pro click Stories of Sexual Conquest via Magick

Slugworth posted:

I had a roommate that did this poo poo, it was unbelievably loving gross. And normally I'm fine with confrontation, but this was just so.... weird, that I couldn't bring myself to tell him to stop putting his cumrags under the couch. So I just played dumb as to the nature of the material, and just said "I keep finding these paper towels covered in like, food or something - You gotta stop doing that". I've always wondered if he knew that I knew what was really up. He stopped though.

quote:

So, I've done some mostly unsuccessful experiments with sigils using masturbation to charge them. I've noticed that when I orgasm, I don't get the "no-mind" or total absorption that I've read about. Has anyone had any similar issues with sigils or know how to deal with this?

quote:

I've had some success with a method a friend found. Stick the sigil to a wall and run at it as fast as you can, hands by your side, maintaining eye-contact. It does have it's dangers of course, but most people are able to get their hands up in time as a matter of reflex.

This works better the more distance and speed you have. A combination of the thrill of the run and the fear of impact seem to combine effectively. To me it feels like it fires off as my hands slam into the wall, usually adding some pain to he mix. The key is to leave your hands at your sides as long as possible.

quote:

Using orgasms has worked occasionally for me (in spectacular if unpredictable fashion), but I understand what you mean - my mind doesn't necessarily go blank when I come.

I think you should try not coming for a few days and wait until you feel you're really charged up sexually before attempting it. If you're a penis owner, try bringing yourself close to ejaculation a few times without ejaculating to maximize the strength of your orgasm (also helps build control on your ejaculation in your day-to-day sex life). If you have a clit instead, I'm less intimate with how you can intensify your orgasm, but I'm sure there are ways (EDIT: I wonder how multiple orgasms affect charging a sigil).

quote:

I agree with edging, and to add: I know it's all systems go when I find myself (strangely) aroused by the sigil itself. Ha, can't explain it but it's something that I've noted.

quote:

Last night I created a sigil with the intention of increasing the number of heads I flip on a US quarter. I decided that I would record my results for 30 flips before and after activating the sigil. I would only reject the null hypothesis (that these data are randomly occurring) with a probability of >5% chance occurrence.

After drawing the sigil, I flipped 18 heads in 30 trails (60%). A chi-square test this IS NOT statistically significant assuming there is an equal chance of flipping a heads or a tails.

I then activated the sigil by focusing on the physical image while reaching orgasm. For details of the exact method I used see the bottom of this post. Immediately after activation, I flipped 21 heads in 30 trails (70%). A chi-square test, assuming there is an equal chance of flipping a heads or a tails, shows that THIS IS statistically significant with a probability of %2.8 chance occurrence.

I have double checked my math; however if my statistics are in error, please let me know.

While conducting the trails, the quarter frequently landed vertically before falling to the heads side. This happened at least 6 times after activating the sigil. I had a strong sense that my will was actually influencing the outcome.
The following steps were used in creating my sigil. 1. I began by writing the statement, “I flip more heads than tails” in my journal.

I revised the statement to “Flip more heads than tails.”
I removed vowels and repeated consonants: “FLP MR HDS TL”
I created these letters into an image.
I redrew and simplified this image until it felt “magical” to me.

The following steps were used in activating my sigil. 1. I drew the sigil on a yellow post-it note with sharpie.

I attached the post-it note to my computer screen.
I watched a porn that I could only see faintly behind the post-it note.
I focused on trying to see the porn through the sigil while reaching orgasm.
I rubbed my cum into the post-it note.
I meditated on the notion that my DNA and sexual energy were being mixed into the sigil.
I tore the sigil into pieces and flushed it down the toilet.

My theory is that my sigil permeated my unconscious mind (or some structure beyond what is typically seen as reality) during the complex psychological processes involved in orgasm and meditation. Somehow my unconscious mind, or some other structure, influenced all of the muscles involved in flipping the coin to achieve more heads than tails.

Let me know what you all think and what your theories are.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Literally never heard of "work wives" offline but then I don't tend to roll with goobers who think they're Don Draper

My (26) Boyfriend (25) won't clean up after himself after playing his fiddle.

WampaLord posted:

What in the world...

Sigils?

WampaLord posted:

What in the world...

Sigils?

A Wizard of Goatse posted: