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maskenfreiheit posted:Actively hiding your feelings would be saying you're open to 1:1 dating to keep getting laid. Where does OP say they did that? I probably worded that poorly, but I think you're right in that it's passive more than active. He's seemingly the only one consciously withholding information in this scenario for his own benefit, despite acknowledging that there's inequity in their relationship and that it's likely the only thing keeping the fling going. I think that's leading someone on. Whether or not he's using his words to do so, he's communicating something by continuing to have sex with her after she's put her feelings out there.
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corn on the cop posted:My[24m] friends with benefits[23f] and I had a threesome with one of her friends[23f], they are fighting about dating me, but I am not interested in either of them. It's pretty sad how this stupidly passive idiot has actual women fighting over his stubborn rear end. Either he's just that oblivious, sociopathic, or both.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 15:35 |
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Offering up your friends for a threesome isn't a very constructive step toward a committed monogamous relationship. That's a giant mixed signal on her part. Of course, the kind, empathetic thing for the guy to do would be to stop loving both of them, but he's not going to do that until the whole thing blows up in his face.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 15:38 |
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He's probably attractive as hell and smiles a lot, it's not that hard to understand. I've just witnessed something similar happen with a friend, the whole FWB thing with both parties not being on the same playing field, and I gotta say it's not for me. Good on this guy, but he really needs to man up and tell her he's not keen and let it all burn down, story as old as time. (The hotter FWB having to beat away clingy lays)
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 15:42 |
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I saw this one yesterday when it was hot off the presses.Some Guy on Reddit posted:
If this dude's not already posting in r/incel, he will be soon.
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Shoshie posted:I saw this one yesterday when it was hot off the presses. Nah, this guy is alright. He recognised HE has an issue and is asking how HE can deal with the emotions he's getting; if he was incel he'd be asking how he could persuade her to date him instead.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 17:06 |
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darkwasthenight posted:Nah, this guy is alright. He recognised HE has an issue and is asking how HE can deal with the emotions he's getting; if he was incel he'd be asking how he could persuade her to date him instead. Yeah, he's showing way more self-awareness than any of those incel goobers.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 17:09 |
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The la gauge he's using sounds like he's desperately trying to rationalize away the guilt of planning to steal his uncles girl.
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corn on the cop posted:My[24m] friends with benefits[23f] and I had a threesome with one of her friends[23f], they are fighting about dating me, but I am not interested in either of them. I'm still laughing about this guy having sex with a woman that he doesn't find at all attractive. Then he gets confused that she may have interpreted having sex to mean that there is something between them.
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Outrail posted:The la gauge he's using sounds like he's desperately trying to rationalize away the guilt of planning to steal his uncles girl. yyyup
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What's the Guardian of the Galaxy Quote? "What if someone has something that I want and I take it?" "That's stealing, that's illegal" "Yes but what if I want it more" "It's still illegal" "But that doesn't make any sense!"
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areyoucontagious posted:Yeah, that's definitely not the sentiment of a guy who wants to keep loving that girl but not actually date her despite her wanting more Again, being silent is not deceptive. As long as he is always truthful, the onus is on them to ask for exclusivity.
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corn on the cop posted:My[24m] friends with benefits[23f] and I had a threesome with one of her friends[23f], they are fighting about dating me, but I am not interested in either of them. Just tell them that you want to date both.
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Outrail posted:What's the Guardian of the Galaxy Quote? To be fair, he is literally a raccoon.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 18:06 |
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Admiral Ray posted:Just tell them that you want to date both. But only simultaneously.
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maskenfreiheit posted:Again, being silent is not deceptive. As long as he is always truthful, the onus is on them to ask for exclusivity. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lie#Lying_by_omission
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maskenfreiheit posted:Again, being silent is not deceptive. As long as he is always truthful, the onus is on them to ask for exclusivity. I think if neither of them says anything that's fair, gotta have a convo about exclusivity if you want it. But if they're expressing interest and he's deflecting (because the answer is no and he knows they would revoke his fuckpass if directly said that) then yeah that is bad. Heck in some situations even if they're both being honest but it's clear the one who wants more is just sticking around out of hope things will change the right/empathetic thing to do break it off because you know your actions are ultimately hurting someone else. It's not about rules lawyering it's about being a good person.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 18:22 |
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Me 26m wears men's thong underwear and my wife 27f hates themquote:We've been together for about 5 years now. Recently I have been looking for more comfortable underwear and I have been open to trying every style. I bought a pair of thong underwear and they were amazingly comfortable. For the last 4 months I have been purchasing and wearing thongs. My wife hates them and wants me to get rid of them. I am torn between being comfortable and making my wife happy. Any suggestions? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UblCzxcG3Cw&t=21s Rock on you budgie smuggler you.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 18:30 |
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dudeness posted:I'm still laughing about this guy having sex with a woman that he doesn't find at all attractive. Then he gets confused that she may have interpreted having sex to mean that there is something between them. http://www.theonion.com/blogpost/i-didnt-mean-to-lead-you-on-by-loving-you-10673
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 18:39 |
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[CA] Is it OK to write legal correspondence on the back of pictures of copulating donkeys? (self.legaladvice)quote:I occasionally have to write formal letters to people I don't like, for example, to my landlady who keeps "losing" my rent check. I'd like to be as passive-aggressive as possible without violating any laws. Can I write all of my letters to her on the back of pictures of farm animals who are getting it on, without being at risk for punishment?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:http://www.theonion.com/blogpost/i-didnt-mean-to-lead-you-on-by-loving-you-10673 To be fair, just because a girl (or guy or whatever) goes home with you after hooking up in a bar doesn't mean they're interested in anything beyond hooking up in a bar, even if it happens a few times. You get over it, don't take it personally and move in. If that's enough to get you upset then you probably shouldn't be having casual sex. In the same vein, you shouldn't be leading people on, but if you tell them 'This is just having fun. I am not interested in a relationship. This is only temporary. If you have a problem with that we should cut it out right now' and they later get upset that it's not leading into a relationship then that's on them. Source: That exact thing happening to me. Outrail fucked around with this message at 19:04 on Sep 7, 2017 |
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Just because you look good at the Combine doesnt mean youre getting drafted.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 19:01 |
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Co-worker's Fecal Matter in Officequote:I work in a small office with 5 other people (more employees elsewhere in the building), one of whom has Crohn's disease. Obviously, this disease causes a lot of odors around the office, which is to be expected. Unfortunately, however, when this coworker has accidents, they do not take appropriate measures to clean up themselves or the surrounding area. They also seem to refuse to wash their hands after using the restroom. Start hanging those "spray zone" signs from the zoo around your coworker's cube.
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Outrail posted:To be fair, just because a girl (or guy or whatever) goes home with you after hooking up in a bar doesn't mean they're interested in anything beyond hooking up in a bar, even if it happens a few times. You get over it, don't take it personally and move in. between twentysomethings being incredibly bad at communication and loads of people looking for hookups being perfectly willing to imply or straight-up lie that they're not just looking for hookups if it gets them laid more (it does) there isn't actually a humanly perceptible distinction between casual sex and starting-a-relationship sex unless somebody says something. I guess people just shouldn't be having sex period if the alternative is having to actually be upfront about your intentions with actual words A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 19:33 on Sep 7, 2017 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Co-worker's Fecal Matter in Office ADA just means reasonable accommodation. iirc the shitter can definitely be fired if they don't wash their hands or clean up after themselves, and boss can probably get sued for letting the office smell like a toilet instead of buying air fresheners and other deodorizing/scent masking stuff
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 19:41 |
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My lyft/uber expenses were nearly $750 every month so I instead bought a bike for $900 and now my travel expenses are <$140quote:
killalltechbros.txt
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 20:28 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:My lyft/uber expenses were nearly $750 every month so I instead bought a bike for $900 and now my travel expenses are <$140 Is this from /r/brogrammers or some equally impressive forum?
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Is this from /r/brogrammers or some equally impressive forum? r/personalfinance
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 20:58 |
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My 16f school ignored my anonymous tip about my gym teacher sexually harassing students and now I'm in his class again quote:Last year I had this gym teacher that would always touch and make inappropriate remarks to me. When I was doing the exercises he would " position" me correctly by touching areas like My butt and inner/outer thigh area in a weird creepy way. I've had personal trainers for my sports position me correctly and it was very professional, This was not.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 21:01 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:
This is loving depressing. outside all other options, where are her parents in this?
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:between twentysomethings being incredibly bad at communication and loads of people looking for hookups being perfectly willing to imply or straight-up lie that they're not just looking for hookups if it gets them laid more (it does) there isn't actually a humanly perceptible distinction between casual sex and starting-a-relationship sex unless somebody says something. I guess people just shouldn't be having sex period if the alternative is having to actually be upfront about your intentions with actual words Forced sterilization for anyone under thirty really would improve everything.
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maskenfreiheit posted:
gently caress. I really hope her parents are behind her on this sad story and sue the heck out of that terrible excuse for a school.
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maskenfreiheit posted:
Welcome to the rest of your life
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 21:21 |
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Barudak posted:This is loving depressing. Kinda depressing, but getting head start on college tuition is a plus. Was there any advice beyond 'lawyer up'? I bet it would be really easy to get a few friends together and put together a sting operation, followed by a visit to the principal's office or a major network.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 21:24 |
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Barudak posted:This is loving depressing. pointedly ignoring the problem until a major scandal forces them to acknowledge it
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 21:27 |
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A mutual friend raped somebody. My girlfriend and I have very different opinions about itquote:Background: Me (25) and my gf (22) have been dating for about six months now. We met through a mutual friend (who I'll refer to as A) who I had known since college and she had only met recently but is good friends with. the comments section has some gems: quote:It seems like you have already taken B's side and assumed A's guilt.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 21:30 |
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Rape victims not wanting to press charges UNHEARD OF she must have wanted it, jesus christ reddit there are literally hundreds of tv shows and movies based around how few actually get reported.
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 22:06 |
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I [20F] accidentally had a peek at a private chat about me between my boyfriend [25M] and one of his friends [20-something male]. It left Rome feeling humiliated and emotionally lost scarred.quote:So I've been with Andrew for six months. I met him very shortly after switching schools and he was the first real person I knew here. I fell for him very quickly. He is handsome, the sex is good, and he seemed to really have his life in-order, which I admire, because I kind of don't. Yuup
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# ? Sep 7, 2017 22:06 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:A mutual friend raped somebody. My girlfriend and I have very different opinions about it What. If A had forced this victim to drive a vehicle while she was drunk and repeatedly telling him she didn't want to he'd go to jail for... Uh let's see... Kidnapping, deprivation of liberty, assault, reckless endangerment.. Uh... Is being a loving moron a crime? Edit: IANAL, forcing someone to drink drive against their consent might actually be legal so please contact the police for advice before you do that.
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maskenfreiheit posted:A mutual friend raped somebody. My girlfriend and I have very different opinions about it it'd be one thing if it was a he said she said situation, you could forgive the gf for giving them the benefit of the doubt simply based on who she trusted more. The issue here is even in his own story he makes it pretty clear he pressured a drunk girl into sex she didn't want which is already bad enough on it's own. You don't need the even worse story to be true, he already admitted to doing something unforgivable.
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