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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My (26f) husband (27m) thinks it's unreasonable for me to expect him not to tickle me and continually touch me in ways that make me feel uncomfortable. So, officer, what I was doing was just holding her down and not allowing her any form of escape even as she begged for me to let her go, so you see how unreasonable it is that she would HIT me in that situation!
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Buzkashi posted:So, officer, what I was doing was just holding her down and not allowing her any form of escape even as she begged for me to let her go, so you see how unreasonable it is that she would HIT me in that situation! this would probably fly in a lot of the middle of the US, unironically
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Sep 13, 2017 17:01
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Mirthless stop loving posting. Nobody gives a poo poo about your personal life or your terrible viewpoints on everything. Start posting comics or something, goddamn.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:01
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Seven Hundred Bee posted:Mirthless stop loving posting. Nobody gives a poo poo about your personal life or your terrible viewpoints on everything. Start posting comics or something, goddamn. lol turn on your monitor
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Sep 13, 2017 17:07
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:this isn't that one, because it's one of the recurring r/relationships threads that's happening every day Stay with this guy, he's a keeper. He's respectful, kind, thoughtful, and always takes your needs and words into consideration. I'm sure he just started doing this, as well, because you'd definitely never marry him if this bizarre controlling and abusive behavior was a feature of your relationship prior to your marriage. If anything, it sounds like he's under a lot of stress right now so the best thing to do would be open the relationship and have a child.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:09
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Admiral Ray posted:Stay with this guy, he's a keeper. He's respectful, kind, thoughtful, and always takes your needs and words into consideration. I'm sure he just started doing this, as well, because you'd definitely never marry him if this bizarre controlling and abusive behavior was a feature of your relationship prior to your marriage. If anything, it sounds like he's under a lot of stress right now so the best thing to do would be open the relationship and have a child. great news: they already had a kid together! they're half-way there!
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Sep 13, 2017 17:12
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Mirthless posted:great news: they already had a kid together! they're half-way there! Excellent! I'm glad they are working through their issues in a healthy way, and the safe money is on them staying together forever because she's secure in her relationship and he respond well to her needs.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:14
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My love language is forcibly trapping people in D&D mazes.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:15
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my love language is posting on the forums
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Sep 13, 2017 17:20
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My love language is treating my dick like a flagpole and claiming ownership of whoever I plant it in.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:42
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cumshitter posted:My love language is treating my dick like a flagpole and claiming ownership of whoever I plant it in. Ah, the Mickey Avalon technique.
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Sep 13, 2017 17:44
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Mirthless posted:The difference between an rear end in a top hat and a racist is culture and history* Like, to suggest a woman would never do the same to a man is silly, so there's clearly a motivator to this gross behavior that isn't misogyny, even if misogyny is definitely a common motivation for it. Maybe I'm missing other indicators that misogyny is definitely the motivator in this case?
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Sep 13, 2017 18:06
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Admiral Ray posted:Ah, the Mickey Avalon technique. A beautiful symphony mixing the two well known songs "My dick" and "F***in Em All".
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Sep 13, 2017 18:10
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Slugworth posted:This discounts the fact that racists and assholes exist contemporarily, regardless of the time period in question. I don't think there really are any. I don't see anything to indicate misogyny; the guy can be an idiotic weenie without being a misogynist. For Drag's question on if it really matters if he's being misogynistic or just being an idiot and ending up at the same place being misogynist could lead, I dunno. It seems arbitrary to me, but branding the dude like this and then insisting it's true because "historical context" seems just as arbitrary.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:17
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"99% of people hung up on their ex are men" is also maybe the most fascinating made up statistic I've ever seen.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:25
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Slugworth posted:This discounts the fact that racists and assholes exist contemporarily, regardless of the time period in question. hahahahahahahahah what in the loving world are you even trying to say here??? quote:Like, to suggest a woman would never do the same to a man is silly, so there's clearly a motivator to this gross behavior that isn't misogyny, even if misogyny is definitely a common motivation for it. Maybe I'm missing other indicators that misogyny is definitely the motivator in this case? nobody suggested that so maybe you should slow down there my dude misogyny is definitely the motivator in this case because he is viewing his ex girlfriend as an object to please him rather than a human being with her own needs and desires. even after ten years of being apart he will not release this object he wishes to possess to another man. can women do things like this? yes. are they more likely than men to do this? well, the census doesn't track this data but one gender in our society has been traditionally treated like property and it's not men Mirthless fucked around with this message at 18:29 on Sep 13, 2017 |
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Sep 13, 2017 18:25
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[California] A friend [22 M] of mine might have had sex with a 17 year old but she's turning 18 in a few days. If her parents file charges AFTER she's 18, can he be convicted of anything?quote:He's trying to tell me that they can't do anything after she's 18 but I told him not to risk such a stupid thing. My parents are getting suspicious though because they have a relationship together and I think they might call the police on him. However, she's turning 18 in a few days so this should only be considered when she's 18 and if the law can do anything. Legal advice rightly assumed that OP was the "friend" and did some digging to find this from less than a year ago, bolding mine. Girlfriend wants to become a teacher. Does her undergrad school matter since you only need a license? Should she pick UCLA or UNLV? quote:If she picks UCLA, we can't be together for at least 4 straight years. If she picks UNLV, we can be together. And we've been together for 5 years now so it is pretty serious and thus does matter, but I wouldn't want to ruin her future if picking UNLV is what it meant. I would say you're a pedophile bro.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:29
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Mirthless posted:hahahahahahahahah what in the loving world Both?! Because to me it's clear that what I'm saying is racists have always existed alongside assholes, not that one species evolved into the other. Thus, we can talk all we want about culture and history, but this guy has an equal chance of being the world's worst misogynist or, you know, a person hung up on their ex.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:31
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17 and 12 is not a good look, no.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:32
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The motivation is obviously that he's jealous, which transcends gender and has nothing to do with him hating women. Where misogyny (possibly) enters into it is where he feels justified in his jealousy, because our culture encourages men to think of female friends as backup girlfriends and celebrates male possessiveness (c.f. like every romcom ever) so he's unable to acknowledge how lovely he's being to the women in his life because he assumes it's being cool and normal. Either way it's a pretty bad derail. We already know he's a bad friend and bad fiance, trying to pinpoint his exact thought process is way less important than appreciating the well-deserved self ownage.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:32
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Slugworth posted:Is there anyone in this thread other than Mirthless that somehow got that from what I wrote? Honestly can't decide if he can't read or I can't write. I.... don't understand what point you are trying to make here.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:32
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Slugworth posted:Is there anyone in this thread other than Mirthless that somehow got that from what I wrote? Honestly can't decide if he can't read or I can't write. hence why i edited it out well before you posted this
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Sep 13, 2017 18:33
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David Heinrich posted:I don't think there really are any. I don't see anything to indicate misogyny; the guy can be an idiotic weenie without being a misogynist. For Drag's question on if it really matters if he's being misogynistic or just being an idiot and ending up at the same place being misogynist could lead, I dunno. It seems arbitrary to me, but branding the dude like this and then insisting it's true because "historical context" seems just as arbitrary. I can see how that line of reasoning would really simplify your interpersonal relationships. Did a man do something? It's misogyny, because historically men have discriminated against women. Were they white? Racism, same. Asian, black, native american? Self-hating banana/oreo/apple. Historical contexts are a way easier read than a working theory of mind, and it feels good too, man
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Sep 13, 2017 18:35
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Theory of mind is really silly
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Mirthless posted:hahahahahahahahah what in the loving world are you even trying to say here??? Assigning the level of moral culpability that a person gets for an action based solely on their gender or sexual orientation is both entirely sexist and a little silly. You're not being progressive with your "men inherently bad and sexist, women doing same thing are fine" stance.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:38
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Who the gently caress said that Dude at this point stop digging and take the L.
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Sep 13, 2017 18:40
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what if a woman's getting jealous of her ex who's a wheelchair dude? Who gets privilege primacy and needs a good scolding
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Not even a pedophile could avert this derail smh
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fruit on the bottom posted:Not even a pedophile could avert this derail smh A man was accused of misogyny, that can not be allowed to go unpunished.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Not even a pedophile could avert this derail smh Derail is too old at this point.
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David Heinrich posted:Assigning the level of moral culpability that a person gets for an action based solely on their gender or sexual orientation is both entirely sexist and a little silly. You're not being progressive with your "men inherently bad and sexist, women doing same thing are fine" stance. WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE MEN???????
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will somebody please fix Mirthless, if it made my sister's little yipdog stop humping legs maybe it'll do him some good I [19F] deleted a customer [50sM] off Facebook, and he's taking it so bad I think it's going to cause problems for me at work. quote:This is as stupid as it sounds. Since I was 16 this man pestered me until I accepted his request on Facebook, coming in everyday telling me how sad and angry it made him that I hadn't confirmed the request so I did to shut him up. I didn't awknowledge any of the messages he sent me, and he would always get upset. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 18:48 on Sep 13, 2017 |
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i tell you what, White Men Are The Most Oppressed Race On Planet EarthA Wizard of Goatse posted:will somebody please fix Mirthless, if it made my sister's little yipdog stop humping legs maybe it'll do him some good  restraining order? jesus making GBS threads christ i wonder if she's even talked to her boss about this... i feel like her employer would take her side? if not, she would be better off getting out. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 18:53 on Sep 13, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:WON'T You're certainly free to assume that's the point of anyone disagreeing with you, but for the record, I just believe in dealing with things in this thread on a case by case basis. If we accept that, say, 80% of men are mysogynists, I'd still like evidence that this particular guy is one before I decide that's what's informing his thought process, considering how universal a concept like 'hung up on an ex' is across genders and sexual preferences.
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Straight White Shark posted:The motivation is obviously that he's jealous, which transcends gender and has nothing to do with him hating women. this is all good, thank you for writing it all out clearly bc im far too lazy also, it kinda really doesnt matter why hes behaving this way. like whether hes mega jealous, a misogynist, or even some weird semi-benign reason, it doesnt mean his exs reaction should be anything other than "this is hosed up and weird, get out of my life." hes being a lovely friend regardless of his intent
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:will somebody please fix Mirthless, if it made my sister's little yipdog stop humping legs maybe it'll do him some good Everyone is gonna say it was such a shame he murdered her, if only there were warning signs we had seen.
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Barudak posted:Everyone is gonna say it was such a shame he murdered her, if only there were warning signs we had seen. 
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:this is all good, thank you for writing it all out clearly bc im far too lazy Oh, agreed 100%. I think the entire thread agrees with that. It's not really a good derail if we're not at eachother's throats over minor details.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:this is all good, thank you for writing it all out clearly bc im far too lazy Um yeah it matters you can only call a man a misogynist if you have documented proof and I will not stand here and let someone do any less. #Notallmen
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Slugworth posted:Oh, agreed 100%. I think the entire thread agrees with that. It's not really a good derail if we're not at eachother's throats over minor details. ArbC dropped his keyboard in panic, the still shape of Ham Sandwiches laid out in front of him. "Oh poo poo oh poo poo what am I gonna do?" Mirthless gently grabbed him by the shoulder, "Take a breath; you're going to be fine." ArbC began to calm down as Mirthless continued. "You have nothing to worry about. He was arguing in bad faith, we all saw it. It was a good derail."
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