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Barudak: May 7, 2007

Fight the new drug would have two posters, what mormon man wouldnt make his wife post there if he had to.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 21:55

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# ? May 30, 2024 01:56

Multilake: Dec 11, 2016; If you're in a jam, a crayon scrunched under your nose makes a good pretend moustache.

Clark Nova posted:

This isn't as safe of an assumption as she'd probably like to think.

Maybe it's a family thing. They like to get things done, so dad and son forged a bond to do the sheer impossible..

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:07

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Boy howdy.

"Husband [38 M posted:

has lost all attraction to me [28 F] after my parents died and says threesome is only way to fix it"]

u/howtodothis33

Long story short, been with my husband a decade. He's my only adult relationship. When we met and I was 18 I wasn't taking the relationship seriously at first and was still exploring what I liked sexually and said at one point I wanted to have a threesome before I got married. Well my husband took that extremely seriously it turns out.

As the relationship got serious and I got a bit older and knew better what I liked and didn't like to me risking my relationship by having a threesome wasn't worth it but was still open to discussing it. We briefly discussed it again years later before we got married and couldn't agree, he wanted it to be with a friend, I wanted it to be with a stranger we'd never see again to minimize risk to our relationship. Neither of us would compromise on the matter so it didn't happen. For me though since it wasn't something I was terribly interested in I felt I was compromising, he thought I was being a closed minded prude. It got dropped.

My parents died, then my grandparents passed within a short 2 year period we just at around the 24 month mark of finally things settling. Being the only capable adult left in my family my 15 year old brother came to live with us. We're both in high paying job and have a 4 bedroom house, so it wasn't a hamper to our lifestyle aside from having a teen in the house. My husband nearly walked out the day it happened and I told him I could not throw my brother into the system after we just lost 4 people in our family and I have the means to take him in. He said he'd try and stick it out. He's honestly not handling it well and I've been trying to make our relationship a priority too but nothing is working.

I know this was a huge, monumental thing beyond anything else I could have ever asked of my husband to do. We've got 3 years left before he is 18 and can live on his own.

My husband however has lost all ability to be attracted to me. To sum me up, I look nearly the same as I did a decade ago (obviously a bit older)when I used to model and had no shortage of suitors, I am fit, attractive, take good care of myself. I've never done anything unfaithful or been anything but completely devoted and loyal to him.

We also went through an emotional affair on his side where he fell in love briefly with the friend he originally pushed to have a threesome with.

Now he's just completely unable to even get hard around me because he says I poisoned his mind and ability to be attracted to me by taking in my brother and all the stuff that happened after my parents died that he stuck around for (I was executor of will, had to deal with horrible outer family causing a lot of legal issues over money they weren't getting) and the only thing possible is to fix this is to "be the open person he signed up to be with" and have a threesome. We've talked at great lengths over this, he is has so much anger towards me for my family passing and for my refusal to be more open.

On one hand he is right, I have closed off more ever since the emotional afraid with my friend happened. It made me afraid and messed up for a bit. I'm long over that since people dying put into perspective and gave me enough else to worry about but also he's pushing the threesome in counter productive ways.

We already spend most date nights at the strip club as is and I've never had an issue with him watching porn or masturbating, only have asked no interaction with cam girls and no saving a bunch of a particular person on his phone (he once saved and carried around hundreds of pictures of some random amateur girl that weirded me out). And frankly he is more vanilla in bed than I am when it involves two people. I like more kinky things and am submissive and he just isn't really into that so much. I've been open to absolutely everything else he's ever wanted to do aside from bringing in a third party.

I'll suggest something, like we were in Paris and he wanted to go to a sex club, I wasn't ready for that as he sprung it on me suddenly and told me I was boring and if I loved him I'd do this, and so it took me a day to warm up to the idea and suggested we go and watch, not touch, just watch and feel it out but have a safe word if anything went too far and could immediately leave. He said that was too restrictive and I was taking the fun out of it and we got into a fight because he was berating me for ruining everything for him while we were walking to the drat club so we didn't go.

I am trying here. And he truly does have something broken, he isn't making up these feelings. I'm trying to be open to the idea but the more he puts me down and says I "owe" him this or I'll have to divorce him I feel more terrified of it. I try to come up with ways to ease into it and set boundaries but every time I do he is against it because I'm too restrictive and taking the fun out of it.

I'm not an idiot and know that for this to work, both people have to be on board. I'm not on board with a threesome right now, especially because it's being forced and my parents dying is being used as a reason I have to do this. But I am trying to find ways to ease into it, get more comfortable with the idea and am looking for suggestions on what steps I can take. He is broken, I am not but I do want to grow and would like to be more open and less afraid. Monogamy might really be for me but I suppose I'll never know if I don't try something else.

I've already lost literally my entire family and I really want to make this work but I'm feeling really down on myself and not sure how to be this more open person.

Any suggestions how to make this work? Is there a better sub to post this?

tl;dr: My parents died, took in my 15yr old brother, went through a lot of drama and hardship following their deaths as executor of will, husband stuck it out with me but said everything he's put up for me, esp having my brother live with us after my parents died, he isn't attracted to me anymore because he resents me too much for all the hardships and only way to fix this is to have a threesome. Because he did stuff for me he didn't want to I have to do this that I don't want to to save the marriage and ignite the spark

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:22

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

"your parents dying and you becoming a de-facto parent yourself was so hard on meeeeeeee, you have to get a friend of yours to gently caress me so I feel better :qq:

"

kill him

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:26

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

"your parents dying and you becoming a de-facto parent yourself was so hard on meeeeeeee, you have to get a friend of yours to gently caress me so I feel better "

kill him

Yeah, might as well get rid of the husband, what's another body to the pile.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:27

Blade Runner: Aug 14, 2015

Guy is terrible for trying to spin this into a situation where he gets to gently caress more. I can see him being annoyed about having to take in a child, even if they pretty much had no other options, and I wouldn't begrudge the guy if that caused issues in their relationship, but he's very obviously just trying to use this to convince her to cater to his kink.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:35

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Beachcomber posted:

Boy howdy.

Divorce this piece of poo poo.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:35

HoAssHo: Mar 10, 2005

They spend every date night at the strip club...

I just

Oh my god

# ? Sep 17, 2017 22:56

Bamabalacha: Sep 18, 2006; Outta my way, ya dumb rah-rah!

HoAssHo posted:

They spend every date night at the strip club...

I just

Oh my god

Yeah that one made me snort laugh so loudly my boyfriend had to ask if I was OK.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 23:18

Blade Runner: Aug 14, 2015

Inconsiderate to take her on a date to her place of work

# ? Sep 17, 2017 23:29

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

"Oh yeah, most of our date nights are at the strip club" is the biggest buried lede this thread has seen in forever. :laugh:

# ? Sep 17, 2017 23:41

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

Isn't Paris romantic? Let's go see to a sex club. Also we're already walking there, and I can touch whatever.

# ? Sep 17, 2017 23:59

PostNouveau: Sep 3, 2011; VY till I die; Grimey Drawer

corn on the cop posted:

My [20F] boyfriend's [20M] brother [13M] masturbated into my laundry

I mean, the 13-year-old is certainly the prime suspect, but let's not dismiss the boyfriend or his dad completely.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:03

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

flash poll: if you were the girl and it was the boyfriend, do you feel better or worse

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:11

PostNouveau: Sep 3, 2011; VY till I die; Grimey Drawer

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

flash poll: if you were the girl and it was the boyfriend, do you feel better or worse

Much worse.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:13

venus de lmao: Apr 30, 2007; Call me "pixeltits"

Worse, because that's a breach of trust.

A 13-year-old doing that should know better, but he's also a dumb, hormonal teenager and probably figured it would get washed and nobody would be the wiser.

Worst case scenario, it was the kid brother, but he's acting like that because he was abused. Second worst, the dad.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:15

Blade Runner: Aug 14, 2015

Worse. The kid doing it is creepy and unacceptable, but he's both 13 and presumably an immensely hormonal idiot, alongside not being someone she trusts much. A fully grown man you're going out with jizzing into your dirty underwear means he has mental issues that she has to deal with.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:16

venus de lmao: Apr 30, 2007; Call me "pixeltits"

Re-reading the post, there's no mention of a mother. This is a hormonal idiot 13-year-old suddenly finding himself with access to a woman's dirty underwear, getting curious, and figuring he can crank one out and it'll get washed and nobody will notice. I'm guessing that the mother is not in the picture, or bare minimum nobody has ever given this kid the Talk, so he's horny and stupid and probably came back to polish his dick with the OP's dirty unmentionables multiple times because he's, again, horny and stupid and nobody has talked to him about sex or puberty so this is the closest he's ever gotten to touching a woman.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 00:22

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] of 5 months, she makes 10x more take-home income, but expects me to pay

quote:

I'm currently dating a girl who is working, but lives at home with her parents and has no loans to pay off. She makes about $3000 a month disposable income. Meanwhile, I'm currently a medical resident and don't have much of a disposable income at the moment. I live in an expensive region where a significant portion of my paycheck ($2500/month) goes to rent/utilities/phone bill/car payment/her parking spot at my apartment complex and I end up having about $300 a month to use on other things after budgeting it all out.

For the beginning of our relationship, I used to pay for all of our dates/trips/weekend getaways. However, I feel as though it's getting really difficult for me to maintain this.
We had a conversation regarding this where I was basically saying that it's difficult for me to continue doing what we are doing and would appreciate if she would help out financially. She talked to her sisters and friends and her/their mindset is that the boy should be paying for all the dates. I feel as though this is really old school thinking, especially if she is making 10x more take home income at this point. She claims that since I will be making significantly more money soon, it shouldn't be an issue. She also lives about 2 hours away, and says that because she drives over each weekend, that is her contribution. I understand that she drives far to come here, but because she lives at home with her parents, it's not an option for me to go drive there. I also recently ended up paying an extra $50/month to get her a parking spot at my apartment complex because of limited guest parking.

We have had about 3 extensive conversations about this issue, where she acknowledges that she makes significantly more take home income, but states she does not think she should have to pay for most of our dates, or even split 50/50. I then feel guilty about being a "cheap" boyfriend, and then agree to continue what I am doing. I feel because this is a temporary issue (I will be making >100,000 in 2 years and she will be making >100,000 in 9 months) that I shouldn't keep harping on it. However, it has gotten to the point where I have had to avoid going out with friends and skip a few meals in order to save up enough money for this relationship. I have no issues with her in any other part of our relationship so I don't want to end anything. Any thoughts of what I should do?

tl;dr: Girlfriend lives at home, no expenses, makes $3000 disposable income, I make $300 disposable income after expenses, girlfriend expects me to pay for everything, even after 3 extensive conversations. Will be an issue for about 2 more years. What should I do?

Update: Wow, I got way more responses than I thought I was going to get on here. Thanks for everyone's input. I don't want to paint a bad picture of her and I feel bad that I might have in the original post. In all other aspects of our relationship, everything has been working out great. She has a very kind heart, is very empathetic towards her family and my family, she does make the effort to drive out every weekend (2-3 hrs each way), she is very attractive to me, vegetarian like me, she is smart, finishing up her pharmacy residency, and going to be making a lot of money as well in a few months (so I don't think she's really in this relationship for my expected money). The one issue we've had, really has just been her belief that the "man" in the relationship should be taking care of wooing the woman, prior to engagement/marriage, which is probably a cultural thing for her, since her family and upbringing is very traditional. She states that because she drives out here, and does cook (really well), that if she started paying for all of our dates, then it would be that she is doing 100% of the work in the relationship, and feel like she is the one putting in all the effort. While I see her point, my issue was to convince her that that won't always be the case once my disposable income goes up. I used some of the helpful phrasing that a lot of people brought up on here to talk with her again as well as showed her the actual numbers on my google doc for my budget and I think she finally realized just how little I was actually making. We talked it over and had a really good conversation about it. Thanks for all the suggestions.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:04

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fianc� [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

quote:

We have been together 5 1/2 years, we were each others first love. For the most part, we have had a phenomenal relationship - no arguing or bickering or fighting.

And I'm really, really good to her - and she knows it.

For the past 2 years we've been doing long distance. I've been trying to build a career for myself so that I can land a good job in whatever city I want. Recently, I was able to move to her city, for her, and was about to propose.

She has been grinding a 9-5, cubicle, Excel-driven job for 3 years. Additionally, she is afraid her parents might get a divorce.

She left for a trip to Europe that was supposed to last 4 months - a trip that I fully supported and tried to help fund. A few weeks into travel, she says she doesn't know what she wants anymore, and doesn't want to be in a relationship because she doesn't want to put boundaries on how far she can take this travel thing. She is traveling with a single friend who is somewhat of a nomad, and who likes to party. They are both very pretty girls, and they feed off each other's wunderlust, perpetuating this trip.

As far as I can tell, she is running away from everything back home: the work grind, her parent's issues, the realization of a stable life together that I've created for us. She is lost in this other reality where she can do whatever she wants all the time. She has enough money such that she doesn't see an end to her travels in sight - she's lost, and loosing herself.

She says she still loves me, and that I'm her favorite person, and that she sees herself with me long term.

She says it's not me, it's that she just wants to get lost in this traveling and not be reminded of the issues of home. I believe it, because her Mother has been telling me the same thing (her Mom just wants her to come home).

I know it's not healthy to cling to hope, but in this case, do you think she will wake up when her bank account runs up, and she's forced to accept reality that she can't travel forever? A female's opinion would be nice.

Edit: All the comments imply this being sexually motivated. If that is the case, I certainly don't want her back. But, I honestly believe it's not.

tl;dr: Will my girlfriend come back to me when her wunderlust ends

quote:

[�][deleted] 16 points 2 years ago
The real question should be, "Why would I want to be with someone who dumped me to gently caress randoms in Europe and be free until she ran out of money and needed me."

[�]z1990 [S] 0 points 2 years ago
I don't think its sexually motivated

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:15

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Haifisch posted:

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fianc� [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

This guy is such a loser he couldnt even get a participation trophy.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:20

sincx: Jul 13, 2012; furiously masturbating to anime titties

Haifisch posted:

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fiancé [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

What an idiot.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:24

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Haifisch posted:

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fianc� [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

Cling to hope, buddy. Cling to hope. She won't come back, but cling to hope.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:30

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Haifisch posted:

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fiancé [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

Hostel hopping harlot.

Hope?

Hardly.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 01:40

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Haifisch posted:

Me [25 M] and soon-to-be-fianc� [25 F] splitting - but unsure if I should cling to hope

Does he have any more comment on the stark reality she wants to gently caress around on the trip or is it just this same canned denial?

# ? Sep 18, 2017 02:30

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Slightly later:

Me [25 M] and girlfriend [25 F] of 5 1/2 years broke up today - how to get her back?

Oh

# ? Sep 18, 2017 02:32

Barudak: May 7, 2007

ArbitraryC posted:

Slightly later:

Me [25 M] and girlfriend [25 F] of 5 1/2 years broke up today - how to get her back?

Oh

Within an idiot digging in a well theyre trapped in metaphor this is someone requesting bid proposals on well drilling.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 02:39

The Lone Badger: Sep 24, 2007

Barudak posted:

Within an idiot digging in a well theyre trapped in metaphor this is someone requesting bid proposals on well drilling.

Somebody is getting well drilled, but i don't think it's him.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 03:02

Barudak: May 7, 2007

The Lone Badger posted:

Somebody is getting well drilled, but i don't think it's him.

Hey she and her nomad friend might be capping their wells together sometimes too.

This guys story is like the activation code to make me go all machurian candidate except its to give him a life altering wedgie.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 03:10

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Me [25F] with my husband [29M] for five years, is it wrong that I asked him not to hang out with his (gang member) brother [30M]?

quote:

My husband and I are currently arguing over this and I would appreciate some advice. If I'm way out of line please tell me. If not, I would appreciate advice on how to talk to him or maybe links to information that might help prove my point.

My husband is currently on felony/formal probation with a "no-gang-contact" condition and I think he needs to be making more of an effort to change his lifestyle. He thinks I'm overreacting and he told me to shut up and mind my own business earlier tonight when I said I didn't think he should be hanging around his brother. We have a 6 month-old daughter and I think he needs to do what's best for her, not whatever he wants or feels like doing in the moment.

My BIL is a known gang member and has a long criminal record. I understand he's my husband's brother but he isn't a good person. He's never done anything to me personally but I'm realizing he's hurt other people indirectly through his crimes and gang affiliation as I get older and I don't want anything to do with him.

I'm not accusing my husband of doing anything wrong but if he's stopped with his brother he can be sent to prison or have his probation extended because BIL is in California's gang database. Our state also has something called the Step Act which can result in mandatory prison time if your crime is determined to be related to gang activity. So if BIL is caught with drugs or even something like bags or a scale my husband can be charged and have his sentence increased for engaging in criminal activity for the benefit of a gang. He doesn't take this seriously in my opinion and it really scares me.

I know I can't control a grown man but I want to help him understand how stupid he's being. I love him. He's my daughter's father and I don't want her growing up around criminals. How can I make him see he's hurting her (and me)? Am I totally out of line here?

tl;dr: My husband is on probation and still associates with his gang member brother. He won't listen to me when I say he needs to stop hanging out with him and I'm worried he's going to get arrested and/or sent to prison. We have a daughter and I want him to start acting like a grown man and father.

The good news that she should have an easy time divorcing him when he's in prison.

Edit:

Wife [30 F] expects me [30 M] to stick up for her but she's the problematic one

quote:

My wife has a very strong character. But I gotta admit she can be childish at times and likes to pick on people. I like to stay as far away from drama as I can. I really love her so I try my best to stick up for her. At first it wasn't apparent to me that she was the perpetrator. She came to me and told me about how so and so was bothering her and needed me to confront them. It happens so often. If I'm at work, she'll get someone else to fight her battles... her friends or my family members. Her family will never get involved because they already know how she is. Over the past 2 years it has built up and gotten out of control. My own friends feel some type of way about her. They don't even visit me anymore. To get to the point... my wife has been ganging up on and picking on this girl I used to be involved with. This girl is pretty respectful and doesn't mess with people unless she hits her boiling point. She only picks on her because of the fact that we were involved at some point. Well needless to say she has gotten fed up with my wifes behavior and gathered up her toughest friends to fight back. These women are not like my wife. They are very confrontational and vicious. They are making our lives a living hell right now. Now my wife is playing the victim when I'm fully aware that she started all this. It's like she gets a kick out of making people angry. And I'm expected to put out the fire. Every other day it's "So and so said this to me. So and so disrespected me. So and so looked at me the wrong way. I think so and so is trying to compete with me " But now she's finally come across someone who wants to strike back and she can't handle it. She avoids confrontation and plays the victim when people defend themselves against her. Any type of advice is appreciated.

tl;dr: Wife is a problematic person and has gotten quite a few people riled up and now she expects me to stand up for her since she can't fight her own battles.

quote:

It's really weird. I'd love some specific examples of exactly what his wife is doing that somehow involves all of these people.

OP posted:

Well for one she purposely dumped dirty diapers on a neighbors yard because she doesn't like them.

Classy.

Absurd Alhazred fucked around with this message at 04:32 on Sep 18, 2017

# ? Sep 18, 2017 03:53

andrew smash: Jun 26, 2006; smooth soul

My wife's [32F] best friend [32M] hates me. We're running into problems after the birth of our child. I [33M] don't know how I feel about him still being around.

"" posted:

My wife and I have been married for 3 years and three months ago she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Our personal relationship has never been better and I'm absolutely in love with my family.

The one small, nagging problem is her best friend. She's known this guy since they were in college, well over 10 years. He used to live very far away from us and she saw him maybe once a year. My wife says they never dated and I 100% believe them. I've been with them a lot and there is literally not an ounce of sexual tension/chemistry. They're like siblings.

I've known since the beginning that he doesn't like me. My wife and I are very different than him. He has a ton of friends but they are, again...different than us. We don't run in the same crowds so it's kind of natural that he doesn't like me. I think he just likes my wife because they have so much history. I really don't know why they're so close, but they are. It's inexplicable. She "keeps him in line", so to speak. She doesn't tolerate him bad-mouthing me and has never put his needs/feelings ahead of my own. I'm fine with him. He's harmless. Our arrangement has been that she can hang out/talk with him and I really don't have to be his friend. It's a good arrangement.

A year ago he moved to the same city and they started hanging out in increasing amounts. I was really happy for my wife. She doesn't have a ton of friends and I could tell she was really glad to have her best friend nearby. They hang out maybe once a week.

When my wife reached the 6 months pregnant mark I noticed things changing a bit. Her friend got super protective. He was stopping by the house frequently to drop off baby things, giving her articles he'd found about the best way to do whatever, and almost every Saturday he was wanting to take her out shopping or just hang out around the house.

When our daughter was born things didn't dial down. He was constantly over to see his "niece". He adores our daughter, and I have to admit he's really good with her. But he still hates me. Whenever he's over I'm ignored. I might as well not exist. When talking about the baby I'm never mentioned, it's her and my wife.

My wife does good, I can't fault her. She tells him to say to me, tells him to stop ignoring me, etc.

But I feel weird. I feel like it's weird to have a dude be such a big part of my baby's life when he won't even speak to me. I also have this weird irrational worry that when she gets older he's gonna, like, turn her against me or something. Irrational, I know.

I just don't know what to do. I'd never want to tell my wife to not see him. She needs friends and he is a great friend to her. She thinks I should try to get to know him better. I say that if it hasn't happened in the last 8 years it isn't happening now.

What do I do? Are there options to keep us both happy?

tl;dr: My wife's best friend hates me. He adores our daughter. I feel weird. How do I keep my wife happy while not feeling weird about his role in our lives?

I'd give 1 in 2 odds the friend is carrying a torch for the wife and 1 in ... 20 that the daughter is actually his

# ? Sep 18, 2017 04:43

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

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Absurd Alhazred fucked around with this message at 05:12 on Sep 18, 2017

# ? Sep 18, 2017 05:07

A big flaming stink: Apr 26, 2010

corn on the cop posted:

I [36F] have never had a relationship longer than 6 months. Most men break up with me within 3 months. What is wrong with me, honestly? Feeling desperate and broken.

you come off as desperate and don't sound like you're actually interested in these men's lives which you continually push yourself into

you sound annoying as hell

I refuse to believe a person like Ted Mosby actually exists. No. You can't make me

# ? Sep 18, 2017 06:48

Outrail: Jan 4, 2009; www.sapphicrobotica.com

andrew smash posted:

My wife's [32F] best friend [32M] hates me. We're running into problems after the birth of our child. I [33M] don't know how I feel about him still being around.

I'd give 1 in 2 odds the friend is carrying a torch for the wife and 1 in ... 20 that the daughter is actually his

This would be a great opportunity to get a DNA check done. Graphics some of his hair while you're at it buddy.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 09:06

Palpek: Dec 27, 2008; Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.

How about you tell your wife that you feel uncomfortable about the weird 'uncle' that pretends you don't exist when he comes to see your wife and daughter, holy poo poo it's your house and life. Also yeah, the friend is obviously in love with the wife, good job with your delusions.

# ? Sep 18, 2017 10:14

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

David Heinrich posted:

Biker gangs who do actual criminal acts are not full of middle class WASPs, and your implication only works if you somehow believe white people cannot have ever been poor. Generally speaking, just don't associate with criminals at all. It tends to not end well.

you're wrong, lol

There are certainly people who get into 3%er gangs who aren't doing great for themselves financially but they don't turn to 3%er gangs to make a living, they turn to 3%er gangs because crime is cool and so is being a biker (also, consider you have to spend an eternity pledging and aren't making big criminal proceeds during this time. you need an income stream that isn't bike crimes)

Just owning a harley is, itself, middle class. They're not cheap, dude. At all. And all of the big 3%er gangs require you to own one, and not one of the cheap ones, either.

Mirthless fucked around with this message at 13:21 on Sep 18, 2017

# ? Sep 18, 2017 13:18

andrew smash: Jun 26, 2006; smooth soul

That OP was all over the comments like "you don't know the details it's 100% impossible that he wants to bone my wife because he doesn't date white women"

# ? Sep 18, 2017 13:18

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

Outrail posted:

This would be a great opportunity to get a DNA check done. Graphics some of his hair while you're at it buddy.

This feels like one of the few situations that has ever come up in this thread where that would be appropriate

Another appropriate thing would be an ultimatum to choose your friend or your partner

I feel dirty even saying it but holy poo poo that is some awful behavior to have towards somebody's spouse. I wouldn't tolerate that from one of my friends for even a second. It's not about not trusting your spouse, it's about not trusting the dude who you know is constantly trying to undermine your relationship.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Did r/relationships just now become an 18+ restricted subreddit?

Edit: Seems like it's because someone tagged that post as NSFW. Also LOL their automod removed the post:

Great modding, Reddit.

The /r/relationships automod is really, really aggressively lovely. :\

Mirthless fucked around with this message at 13:31 on Sep 18, 2017

# ? Sep 18, 2017 13:28

Multilake: Dec 11, 2016; If you're in a jam, a crayon scrunched under your nose makes a good pretend moustache.

andrew smash posted:

That OP was all over the comments like "you don't know the details it's 100% impossible that he wants to bone my wife because he doesn't date white women"

Well, he doesnt have to date her, he just has to bang her :11tea:

# ? Sep 18, 2017 13:57

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# ? May 30, 2024 01:56

Porfiriato: Jan 4, 2016

My [26 F] Husband [26 M] got half a happy ending..is this cheating?

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First time poster please forgive me. I guess I'll just dive right in. My husband [26 M] and I [26 F]have been married for just about 4 months. We have been together for almost 6 years. About two weeks ago, I was about to meet my mom at a winery on my day off, even though my husband was off and our days never matched up. I told him he should go see a chiropractor or get a massage while we were out because he's been complaining about his neck hurting for weeks. He says yeah you're right, I'll go run my errands and go to [regular chiropractor] while you're with your mom. After our first tasting, I get a call from him. He is distraught and says he needs to see me now. I think he's just stressed out from his new job (requires a lot of travel) and tell him to come meet me at the winery. He sounds like he is on the verge of tears, but agrees. I then meet him in the parking lot and he confesses to me that he didn't feel like driving all the way to his regular chiro, (30 min away) so he went to the massage parlor 5 minutes from our house. Everything was fine but he got excited from the massage and she gave his Johnson a tug at the end. He shrugged his shoulders and she went after it. He didn't even finish, because he said all he could think about was how terrible he felt, so he eventually said it was enough. He said he came home and cried, and then immediately called me, and came and told me everything. I 100% believe him that it happened that way, and I don't want to be mad. But it's just bugging me so much, does this count as cheating? Should I let it go? He obviously feels terrible about it. If I should let it go does anyone have any tips?

Tl;dr husband got a half a happy ending, but then told me about it immediately. Does this count as cheating?

Reddit is split 50/50 whether it was borderline sexual assault or whether he knew exactly what he was getting into: "There's no way you could EVER confuse a legit massage place with a happy ending massage place, and I can tell you this because"

# ? Sep 18, 2017 14:09

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