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Mirthless posted:The show itself isn't really creepy and framing it that specific way is pretty weird I wasn't commenting on the show, mind you, just the obsessed dude.
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My [28 F] Boyfriend [28 M] of 5-6 years has changed his mind about marriage in our future and I don't know how to proceed.quote:About a year or two ago, He kept bringing up marriage and I thought it was a real possibility in our future. With that in mind, I saved up a bunch of money and we decided to buy a house. For various credit related reasons (My salary is lower than his, and I have 2 car notes on my credit right now) we decided to put the house in his name. It was mostly my sacrifices that got us into the house, and I'm still paying off debt from the initial move in, about 3 months ago. When asked if her sacrifices meant paying for half of the down payment, her response: quote:No, I used some of my savings to pay for the whole downpayment and closing costs, and I took out a line of credit for new furniture that's just about paid off now. I'll just have to rebuild my own savings and I've decided not to contribute to the joint account for bills any longer.  the
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Mirthless posted:The show itself isn't really creepy and framing it that specific way is pretty weird nah it's pretty weird
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Sep 19, 2017 19:43
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who the gently caress are all these people getting married at 19/20/21?
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Sep 19, 2017 19:45
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It's pretty common outside of large cities for people to get married and have kids right of high school. Probably because no one told them any better.
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Wow, he got her good to have the house be in his name. Kind of want to golf clap him into the evil ex's hall of fame.
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Seven Hundred Bee posted:who the gently caress are all these people getting married at 19/20/21? people who didn't go college and people who served in the military people settle into the life plan earlier when they're not pursuing higher education. and for people serving in the armed forces, getting married is a no-brainer, you get an instant pay bump and better benefits when you're married, the longer you wait the more money you leave on the table.
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it's not that you can't train cats really, it's just that there is often very little point to training a cat because the things that humans typically expect cats to do (chase and kill vermin, be companionable) are things they do naturally. you can train dogs to do a lot more useful workSeven Hundred Bee posted:who the gently caress are all these people getting married at 19/20/21? people who want to gently caress but are told they have to be married first also people with no real concept of life's possibilities who think that immediately starting a family is what they are supposed to do rather than waste their twenties doing something far more entertaining than having children
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HoAssHo posted:God drat, how do you get a job where you can just takes months off at a time because you're depressed and they bend over backwards to work with you on it? Be hired in the U.K. Before Brexit 🇬🇧
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Barudak posted:Wow, he got her good to have the house be in his name. Kind of want to golf clap him into the evil ex's hall of fame. Yeah that poo poo is amazingly cold. Especially since she would have had to give him the money with a signed gift letter in order for the mortgage to go through. Like, she literally signed a thing that said she gave that guy money to buy the house...
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:this ones a doozy The best part was that fatty sadsack put so much thought, time and effort into his spreadsheet presentation to beg for a free cat, and if he were willing to apply that to his actual job (and not gone full sov-cit lawsuit word salad) they probably would’ve kept him. 
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Danaru posted:My [24F] BF [31M] of 4 months keeps (accidentally?) invading my privacy The reason the boyfriend didn't think she was at dinner like she said she was? reddit posted:I've already locked my phone and turned off my "public" Spotify activity (he was also timing my music so that he could try and predict when I was at work/driving/etc.). He also "helped" her set up her new laptop, surely he didn't put a keylogger on there or anything.
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HoAssHo posted:God drat, how do you get a job where you can just takes months off at a time because you're depressed and they bend over backwards to work with you on it? Be hired in a country with good employment law, aka not the US
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HoAssHo posted:God drat, how do you get a job where you can just takes months off at a time because you're depressed and they bend over backwards to work with you on it? If you work for a very large company (>50,000 employees) a lot of the time they will have extremely forgiving policies when it comes to mental health. At that scale, it's easier to keep a few dozen nonproductive employees around than it is to deal with the potential lawsuit and fine they'll get slapped with if they gently caress up with the wrong person. Large employers are also under EEOC scrutiny pretty much all the time so they want to have as many disabled employees on the books as they can get. When I was at my absolute worst as a person (fully unmedicated) I worked for Hewlett-Packard and the stuff they let me get away with... Hooooo, boy. I'd come in 2-3 hours late twice a week on average, missed two days of work a month for as long as i worked there, and had a number of on-the-floor meltdowns that would have gotten me fired in a second with a less forgiving employer. At a couple of points when I was at my lowest I was offered sabbaticals - i passed on the opportunity, but it would have been acceptable and consequence free.  It took me 3 years to lose that job - i'd have been out on my rear end in three weeks if I'd kept up that behavior at the place I work now. It was nice to not have to worry about depression getting me fired, but it really really held me back when it came to personal growth.
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A few pages back.Mirthless posted:Ceramics glazed with radioactive material and glass made with uranium sand are both completely safe to use for eating and drinking. There's not enough radioactivity present to be harmful. You probably wouldn't want to give a baby a uranium glass baby bottle all the time but the amount of exposure you get from radioactive ceramics/glass is very low. The only reason these things don't get made anymore is because Uranium is a lot harder to buy than it was pre-WW2. I own a bunch of both the radioactive stoneware and glassware. The glassware is pretty much non detectable over normal background radiation. The red stoneware is pretty drat hot though, I get around 20,000 cpm off of just a coffee cup, some of the plates have around 3 to 4 grams of uranium used in the glaze. While that falls in a safeish range, I would not put it under my pillow or eat out of it. Uranium ore is easier to get than ever. https://unitednuclear.com/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=2_4
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Dienes posted:Cats aren't untrainable (I train cats as a side job) 
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Adam Vegas posted:Be hired in a country with good employment law, aka not the US We actually have a lot of good laws on the books regarding people with mental health disabilities, it's just, most employers here ignore those laws completely between the concept of "employment at will" and the understanding that lawsuits are too expensive for unemployed disabled people to pursue Applesnots posted:A few pages back.  holy poo poo!I think I'd still love to have some radioactive stoneware but I didn't realize they used that much. Wow! Mirthless fucked around with this message at 20:26 on Sep 19, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:We actually have a lot of good laws on the books regarding people with mental health disabilities, it's just, most employers here ignore those laws completely between the concept of "employment at will" and the understanding that lawsuits are too expensive for unemployed disabled people to pursue Yeah that's fair - my mum works as a mental health advocate here in the UK and while our current government treats the mentally ill and disabled like utter poo poo (it's disgusting), the saving grace is that employers here are usually very good about mental health
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Mirthless posted:We actually have a lot of good laws on the books regarding people with mental health disabilities, it's just, most employers here ignore those laws completely between the concept of "employment at will" and the understanding that lawsuits are too expensive for unemployed disabled people to pursue Here ya go. http://unitednuclear.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=2_8&products_id=1088
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My (51/M) husband has been lying to me (50/F) for decades. He cheated on me when we were younger.quote:I feel as though my world has shattered. Over 30 years of marriage over. When were in HS and dating my Husband was out sick with the Flu. We had a big dinner date planned. We tell the story to our kids about how I was having a breakdown because of my terrible cooking and he calls and says he's out sick. This was important because, it was our first date. Ahahahahahaha.
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There is a King of the Hill episode that is almost that exact story.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My (51/M) husband has been lying to me (50/F) for decades. He cheated on me when we were younger. Im totally confused, if you haven't had a first date yet how can he have cheated?
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Man I'm generally all for putting cheaters against the wall, but 30+ years? Unless you killed someone most crimes don't have that kind of statute of limitations. Also half coke half diet posted:Im totally confused, if you haven't had a first date yet how can he have cheated?
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bamhand posted:There is a King of the Hill episode that is almost that exact story. Finally we have found a woman crazier than peggy.
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Hahahaha, I'm gonna have to look up the comments on that one because holy poo poo how do you blow up a marriage of 30+ because your hubby had sex with someone before your first date?
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Ouhei posted:Hahahaha, I'm gonna have to look up the comments on that one because holy poo poo how do you blow up a marriage of 30+ because your hubby had sex with someone before your first date? I was struggling to find it, if you find it post it por favor?
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half coke half diet posted:I was struggling to find it, if you find it post it por favor? I am too, I'll post it if I manage to find it though.
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Ouhei posted:Hahahaha, I'm gonna have to look up the comments on that one because holy poo poo how do you blow up a marriage of 30+ because your hubby had sex with someone before your first date? It's in the 'controversial' section, if that helps. I don't know if those get cordoned off from the rest of the r/relationships tales of woe.
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LadyPictureShow posted:It's in the 'controversial' section, if that helps. I don't know if those get cordoned off from the rest of the r/relationships tales of woe. It does! https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/712ngd/my_51m_husband_has_been_lying_to_me_50f_for/
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Ouhei posted:It does! https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/712ngd/my_51m_husband_has_been_lying_to_me_50f_for/ You are a saint! Now if you would excuse me please, i've got reading to do.
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Items in "controversial" have been downvoted a lot - these are generally posts with a high rate of traffic but the post score keeps it from front paging.
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half coke half diet posted:Im totally confused, if you haven't had a first date yet how can he have cheated? The reddit comments are full of people asking this same question, op never came back to clarify so I'm guessing it's just bait.
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Ouhei posted:It does! https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/712ngd/my_51m_husband_has_been_lying_to_me_50f_for/ I thought if you linked the thread, the OP got wiped. Have I misunderstood reddit in this thread? I only browse it to try and find some juicy horror stories to add to this thread.
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Also pitching this in front of a younger audience is super funny, it's 2k17 it's still not even cheating if you've been dating for sometime because it's p common to date multiple people until things get serious. It becomes infidelity when you've agreed to not gently caress other people.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I thought if you linked the thread, the OP got wiped. Have I misunderstood reddit in this thread? I only browse it to try and find some juicy horror stories to add to this thread. I think we generally don't link the reddit threads out of a hope to keep things from getting out of hand. I figured this case was worth looking up, didn't see anything in the OP about not doing it but if any mod wants it removed I can do so.
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half coke half diet posted:Im totally confused, if you haven't had a first date yet how can he have cheated? High schoolers are incredibly stupid
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Ehhhh, there was another one in the controversial section where a guy broke up with his GF because she slept with a FWB before he 'put a stamp on it' to see each other exclusively. Some people are weird like that.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Ehhhh, there was another one in the controversial section where a guy broke up with his GF because she slept with a FWB before he 'put a stamp on it' to see each other exclusively. Some people are weird like that. I think the general rule of thumb is to not expect exclusivity unless you've had a convo about it but at the same time if you as an empathetic person can pick up on the idea that the person you're dating wants to move in that direction and would be hurt if you slept around it's still probably not in the best taste to keep loving around because it's "technically" okay. It can be kind of a gray area. In that OP's case where it was literally before their first date tho, it's not.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I thought if you linked the thread, the OP got wiped. Have I misunderstood reddit in this thread? I only browse it to try and find some juicy horror stories to add to this thread. Linking the OP is the entire point of Reddit. It's just we don't usually link OPs so fewer people touch the poop.
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Seven Hundred Bee posted:who the gently caress are all these people getting married at 19/20/21? I had a kid in high school and got married at 19. Went on to get my PhD and we're still happily married 14 years later, so it doesn't always turn into a disaster! it usually does, though
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