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HerStuddMuffin posted:Serious question: is the term "compersion" something that has meaning for poly people, or are the worms in their brains interfering with their ability to spell "compassion" (or possibly "compression" but that seems less likely)? Compersion translates to "instead of being mad at me when I spend a week in Monaco loving someone else, maybe try being happy instead, just like give it a shot"
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Danaru posted:Heartbroken, feeling alone and confused. (self.polyamory) So if I'm reading this right she seems to pursue a chain of exclusive-ish relationships lasting as long as it takes for her to cheat her partner, at which point she leaves her previous partner for the new one. He instead would prefer to maintain a committed relationship for emotional support but also sleep around when convenient and apparently gets the sadbrains if/when his partner finds better people to sleep with. I mean, he seems to have figured this out by himself, I'm just not sure how he thinks this would have worked out in any other way. Warbadger fucked around with this message at 18:09 on Sep 23, 2017 |
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Thankyou. Honestly wasn't as crazy as I was expecting.
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Danaru posted:Heartbroken, feeling alone and confused. (self.polyamory) That didn't get me near so much as how they say earlier that monogamous relationships, one and all, are inherently codependent. How do you write off nearly all romantic relationships as literally mental illness and not immediately go holy poo poo what's wrong with me?
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 18:14 |
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There was another post/update to the "is my girlfriend loving my dad" thing but idk if this is a troll or not but what the hellquote:Somebody gave some awesome advice and said to get both their phones and call "sweetie" on my dad's phone. I did just that, I couldn't get into the phone as I don't know his code so I just used Siri voice control.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 18:23 |
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If your boyfriend turns out to be your half brother you should probably like, tell him ASAP But this far in this thread we should know that yes people can be that stupid
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Buzkashi posted:There was another post/update to the "is my girlfriend loving my dad" thing but idk if this is a troll or not but what the hell The aristocrats! My (24F) boyfriend (29) and I differ hugely in politics. We argue every time it comes up quote:It doesn't bother me enough to end it, so it's not a HUGE deal, but it's so bad that we can't even discuss politics without getting into an argument. Any advice on how to deal with it, other than just avoiding politics in general? Because that's where we are now. Tl;dr my boyfriend and I have crazy different political views and it cause arguments. Not sure how to avoid them without avoiding the topic entirely. I just want to be able to talk about something going on the country without him being devils's advocate to me because he doesn't see things the way I do. Wow, I bet one of them is left wing, the other right-wing. OP posted:We've been dating for two years, I forgot to mention that. We are compatible, but with all the crazy poo poo happening in America we just see things SO differently. Oh, drat, that must be it, is he "all lives matter"ing at her or wh- OP posted:For sure. It's nothing TOO crazy, honestly, I'm more conservative and he's Libertarian. It really just comes down to our individual interpretation of the constitution. I know this seems petty but I'm drunk and this is bothering me lol
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Inescapable Duck posted:If your boyfriend turns out to be your half brother you should probably like, tell him ASAP I mean, I could maybe buy that if there's an ongoing affair (20 loving years though???) and she finally has an opportunity to connect with her father maybe she would feel weird about blowing that particular case wide open immediately
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 18:35 |
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I don't know which of them needs to first
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Buzkashi posted:There was another post/update to the "is my girlfriend loving my dad" thing but idk if this is a troll or not but what the hell lol this is fake as hell. I'd go through and bold all all the parts where it's written like a mediocre novel but it's basically the whole drat thing
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my girlfriend [18F] is changing too fast for me [19M] to keep up. (Weed/alcohol)quote:we have been friends for about 4 years, but only started dating recently, when I came back to my hometown where she still lives for my summer break from university. we had an amazing summer, and eventually decided, against what we had previously agreed on, that we should do a long distance relationship when I go back to school across the country. when I left also happened to be her first year in university, and now she seems to be changing a lot. all the years I have known her she has never smoked weed or drank more than champagne that her parents gave her, basically. I am in the same boat, I've been in college for years but never smoke and very rarely drink. now she has gotten drunk and drank a few time, and smoked once and planning to smoke again. i've been a bit too honest with how incredibly (and probably irrationally) upset this makes me feel, and she hasn't been very understanding, or willing to slow down at all so I can understand a bit more of why and how she is changing. I really don't want to break up with her over this, but it is reaching that point. I love this girl a lot, and really want to make this work, but it makes me sick when she smokes. I know reddit loves weed so maybe someone can convince me weed isn't bad, I just have a lot of personal experience showing it is
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Haifisch posted:my girlfriend [18F] is changing too fast for me [19M] to keep up. (Weed/alcohol) Stop holding her back from enjoying college more you boring nerd.
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My boyfriend [22 M] of four years lied to me [22F] about his furry interestsquote:Furry has always weirded me out a bit. Anthropomorphic animals are often associated with movies/TV/etc for kids, so sexualizing these types of characters makes me feel very uncomfortable. you're 100% more upset about the fetish than the lie, which isn't really a big deal in of itself unless your man has a bunch of craigslist postings up
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corn on the cop posted:My boyfriend [22 M] of four years lied to me [22F] about his furry interests quote:he has always assured me that he is only in it for the SFW art
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corn on the cop posted:My boyfriend [22 M] of four years lied to me [22F] about his furry interests Ah yes the classic "I just read it for the articles" defense. Ain't nobody buying a $5000 fur suit unless they want to get yiffy with it.
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corn on the cop posted:My boyfriend [22 M] of four years lied to me [22F] about his furry interests tell me more about how wanting to be a cartoon fox that fucks other cartoon foxes "isn't really a big deal"
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 19:23 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:tell me more about how wanting to be a cartoon fox that fucks other cartoon foxes "isn't really a big deal" i was referring more to lying about how you don't possess a degenerate fetish isn't a big deal considering the stigma attached to it and if you don't actually act on it who cares
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 19:47 |
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GBS: That Pig Image > /r/relationships: pretty much whenever furry stuff comes up in conversation
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i was going to ask how often furry stuff comes up, but then i remembered that my trivia team name last week was "trivial fursuit"
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Koyaanisgoatse posted:i was going to ask how often furry stuff comes up, but then i remembered that my trivia team name last week was "trivial fursuit" Stealing that for my next pub trivia game.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 20:29 |
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How do I [57/M] help my adult son [28/M] who has Aspergers Syndrome with dating, he asked me for help? Confused.quote:Me and my adult son were watching The Undateables from Channel 4 the other day and he said to me "Mum. Dad. I want help with dating." :/
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 21:37 |
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It's hard, especially if you haven't had 20-ish years of group and individual therapy, constant introspection, and extremely patient friends to help you figure out how to fit in and do normal social things. This poor dude is my age. You can have the most supportive parents in the world but you need to take a good long look at yourself and understand that no, the entire world is not going to change for you, and you will have to learn things that seem to come easily to everyone else. You'll have habits and mannerisms that most people find strange and off-putting. Eye contact is uncomfortable and figuring out the balance between "too little" and "too much" is hard: too much eye contact and you'll freak people out, too little and they'll think you're dishonest or disrespectful. Being an adult is hard enough when you're not autistic. The good news is that if you're intelligent enough to learn social skills and critical thinking skills, you can learn just about any life skill. Financial skills? gently caress, you can learn that poo poo online. Basic car maintenance? Cooking? Home repairs? YouTube. The only thing you really can't learn online is how to have a mature, communicative, loving relationship. That's hard. That takes a lot of reflection and probably a fair few failed relationships. I'm moving out on my own for the first time in a couple of weeks. I'm ready. I pay my bills, I have a good job, people like me, and I'm actually pretty sociable. I went through emotional hell for years trying to get there, though. This poor guy sounds like his parents have pretty much coddled him his entire life. The real world is going to crush him. also lmao "it's not an ethnic fetish" venus de lmao fucked around with this message at 22:31 on Sep 23, 2017 |
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Man I know a guy with that fetish, we're British, and during our time at uni he had one night stands with over 40 women. I always wondered why he never pursued relationships with any of them; and I got the answer when he once told me that he would never marry a girl that wasn't American. That was his only criteria set in stone for marriage material. Had to be American. Fuckin' weird.
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Americans as a general ethnic group you want to date seems... risky.
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Asperger dude should totally immigrate to America. We love British accents and he will find his America bride/groom in no time. There are tens of 20 something year old American women who love tea, Sherlock, and Doctor Who.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 22:51 |
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Me [23F] with my pregnant sister [19F], I can't accept that she won't get an abortionquote:So my little sister Polly* is 19 and told me this weekend that she's 8 weeks pregnant and intends to keep it. Her boyfriend Juan* (who is 27) is currently in Mexico "visiting family" after she told him that she's pregnant, but we all get the vibe he's not coming back (at least not under his current identity). They met via Instagram; he literally slid in the DMs. I only met him once. He reposts a lot of MRA, Tasteless Gentlemen content on Facebook, including one article titled "You're not a Princess and You don't deserve better"....YIKES! All of his FB friends are exclusively 18-20 year old girls with sexualized profile pictures...I'm not exaggerating. He works at a flower shop and lives at home and is morbidly obese. My sister also lives with my parents, is currently training to be a pizza delivery driver, and tested into remedial reading & math classes at community college, so the odds of her finishing school even without a baby are low. She had a chance to go to a decent college out of high school but didn't so she could live and play house with Gene*, a 28 year old who started dating her when she was 16. 6 months ago, he evicted her from their apartment because she was cheating on him with Juan.
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Haifisch posted:Me [23F] with my pregnant sister [19F], I can't accept that she won't get an abortion I wonder if we made the right call illegalizing fratricide.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 23:17 |
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So ignoring the overall car crash, why did nobody call the cops on a 16 year old living woth a 28 year old.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 23:38 |
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So I guess the exact date of the birth means she got a planned caesarean? Which I don't know a lot about but I imagine it has lasting effects on your body and also means she has a ton of medical debt, which she'll totally be able to pay off as an apprentice delivery driver.
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cumshitter posted:So I guess the exact date of the birth means she got a planned caesarean? Which I don't know a lot about but I imagine it has lasting effects on your body and also means she has a ton of medical debt, which she'll totally be able to pay off as an apprentice delivery driver. She might have gotten an expected due date and thought those were set in stone, because of the, y'know, lack of education and all.
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I don't think they plan caesareans 7 months in advance, I think it's safe to assume that's just a rough idea of the due date sometime in July.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 23:49 |
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Oh OK, giving a specific date just seemed a bit odd.
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# ? Sep 23, 2017 23:52 |
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My [23m] fiancée [23f] pissed in my shampoo bottle as a "prank." Is it an overreaction to break up with her? My fiancée has never been a person to prank people. So that is why I was extremely surprised when she decided this would be a good idea. I was in the shower and put my shampoo in my hair, and I could just smell pee. I finished my shower and used different shampoo and came out. When I finished i came out the bathroom and the fiancée just started laughing. I asked her what was so funny, and she asked if I liked the shampoo. I asked her what did she do, and she said she peed in the bottle! ""Got yooo babe"" I demanded she apologised and told her that It was downright disgusting and a really horrible thing to do. She said that it was just a joke and that I'm being overly sensitive. I told her it was over and I went to my brothers for the night. I've been getting non stop messages from her. Saying sorry and that I'm just silly for reacting like this. My brother laughed when I told him but he said ending it is my choice and if I can't forgive her, then don't. I don't want to get back with my EX fiancée. I did not like her foolish prank. However, my mother said that I'm being to mean and that she wouldn't have meant any harm. My ex fiancée is in bits and I do feel bad. But I also feel betrayed. Tldr ; fiancée pulled a horrible prank. I don't want to forgive her. I broke up with her. Mother said I'm being to mean.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [23m] fiancée [23f] pissed in my shampoo bottle as a "prank." Is it an overreaction to break up with her? Is she suffering from early-onset dementia or a stroke or something?
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Prank culture needs to die
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Is she suffering from early-onset dementia or a stroke or something? Maybe has a pee fetish and was testing the waters. Reminds me of that one post about the dude who wouldn't stop peeing on his gf in the shower. Deffo something sexual.
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ArbitraryC posted:testing the waters ha-haaaa! It's either sexual or she's hosed in the head and has no sense of what is an appropriate prank. (hint: being an rear end in a top hat to somebody is not a prank, no matter how many times you say it is)
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I'm bringing up dementia and stroke because it's weird for someone to suddenly do this after years of relationship and after an engagement.
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# ? Sep 24, 2017 00:32 |
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Oh your clearly super upset and want a basic apology for me urinating on your head? gently caress you bitch baby, what are you going to do, leave me? gently caress.
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This one's for Pick. I want to cry quote:I don't even know where to start. My husband and I have been together for 4 years. I got pregnant about 4 months in to us talking, we had only been officially dating for a month. He's a good guy and a great father. Like, a really good dad. He helps out so much, he's a great provider. We rarely fight and get along well for the most part. BUT when we do fight, it's the same thing we've been fighting about the last 4 years. Divorce him and keep him as a roommate you're raising kids with?
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