Smirking_Serpent posted:

It's the regular brogrammer stuff: dude is totally socially-awkward, never talks to anyone, never smiles, when you tell him to cheer up he gets angry and gives you these silly "death stares".

Pvt.Scott posted:

Why don't you try smiling more, hun?

CharlestheHammer posted:

.....what

Pvt.Scott posted:

I don't even know what's up with that response to OP mentioning Texas. Having a sword concealed in in a cane is the exact opposite of open carry.

Barudak posted:

Because the National Knife Association is a way shittier lobby group than its guntoting brethren, most states have massively more restrictive laws for knives and swords than firearms. You end up with things where a state will let you open carry as many guns as you can physically lift but any knife with a spring-release of any kind is an immediate ride to the pokey after the cops get done savaging you.

Pvt.Scott posted:

Texas is neither North nor South Carolina, which is what OP was asking about. It's great to know that I can strap my faussart to my back the next time I go to San Antonio, though. I was just saying that a cane sword might violate, at the least, the spirit of the Texas open carry law, should he wander that way. It is a sword disguised as not a sword.

quote:

Mother-in-law basically evicted me. What now?

I've been married for almost five years to my husband. For the time that I've been with him, his parents have loathed me for reasons I'd rather not discuss. Despite this, my MiL offered to rent out a townhouse she owns for us as a late "wedding present". So she's been our landlord for about a year and a half.

Well, MiL comes over unannounced whether I'm home or not. She has done things like go through our things and "re-organizing" the rooms. One time I came in and she was painting a wall without permission. I'm aware this is against the law in New Jersey which I told her so. She just laughed and dared me to report it. I did, but the cops did NOTHING except ask MiL not to do it again and also condescendingly told me not to call them for landlord-tenant disputes.

Because of this, my MiL decided to evict me for no good reason. She left me a handwritten note stating that I had 30 days to vacate the property. Only me. Not my husband or our infant, even though we both signed the lease. I was outraged by this. First, I called the police, and the officer told me, "She's the property owner and she's entitled to evict whoever she wants, whenever she wants. I suggest you look for a new home."

Then I spoke to my husband, and he assured me he would talk to her about it. Days go by, and he tells me that she will not evict me. On the day I was supposed to vacate, I return home from work to find several of my belongings like clothes, bags, shoes, whatever on the curb where the trash is picked up. I try the keys but I am locked out.

Husband tells me that he is trying to work out a deal with his mother so I can get a key to the home (he got a new one). He suggested I go stay at a hotel until it's sorted out. It's been a week, and no such luck. I have barely seen my child either. MiL will not pick up for me when I try to call her.

At this point, I'd like to go to court. Do I need a lawyer or is this like small claims court? Do I have a case here? Can I at least be able to return to the townhouse and get out of the lease along with my husband? Or must I finish out the rest of it if allowed back?

Breetai posted:

Smirking_Serpent posted:

After about a month of complaining to HR with other female coworkers, we finally got this creepy coworker of ours unceremoniously fired! I feel like we scored one for all STEM girls in the house!

It's the regular brogrammer stuff: dude is totally socially-awkward, never talks to anyone, never smiles, when you tell him to cheer up he gets angry and gives you these silly "death stares"... This is more job-related, but he seems to be extra mean in code reviews (for those who don't know about programming, it's when a programmer "reviews" the code another programmer wrote) when the reviewee is a woman. He only talks to male coworkers, although not much, but female coworkers, he shuns. Answers in monosylabes, cuts the conversation short and in a couple of times he's been very rude when doing that.

But what really tilted the field for us was, who are acustomed to these "low-key woman-haters", was when one of my coworkers caught him reading an MRA site and making comments about how women get hired in our field only because the companies need a diversity quota. We brought this concern to HR (which has been amazing in my time here, really trying to make the whole place a welcoming one for all people and not just virgin white men) and they had a talk to him. I don't know what he said, but he ended up being fired.


(this caused an enormous shitstorm where people thought she was bullying an autistic guy out of a job. Thread got really spicy when she accused him of being a virgin. Eventually the whole thing got locked.)

quote:

Husband tells me that he is trying to work out a deal with his mother so I can get a key to the home (he got a new one). He suggested I go stay at a hotel until it's sorted out. It's been a week, and no such luck. I have barely seen my child either.

Trauma Dog 3000 posted:

feminism.txt

Palpek posted:

The mother in-law is crazy but this from the husband:

quote:

Husband tells me that he is trying to work out a deal with his mother so I can get a key to the home (he got a new one). He suggested I go stay at a hotel until it's sorted out. It's been a week, and no such luck. I have barely seen my child either.

What the gently caress. Meet a lawyer asap and plan on how to secure the kid in the upcoming divorce.

CharlestheHammer posted:

Lol if you think this success story is the norm.

slouch posted:

I wonder if he has considered just unlocking the door himself yet.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I don't even know what's up with that response to OP mentioning Texas. Having a sword concealed in in a cane is the exact opposite of open carry.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

After about a month of complaining to HR with other female coworkers, we finally got this creepy coworker of ours unceremoniously fired! I feel like we scored one for all STEM girls in the house!

It's the regular brogrammer stuff: dude is totally socially-awkward, never talks to anyone, never smiles, when you tell him to cheer up he gets angry and gives you these silly "death stares"... This is more job-related, but he seems to be extra mean in code reviews (for those who don't know about programming, it's when a programmer "reviews" the code another programmer wrote) when the reviewee is a woman. He only talks to male coworkers, although not much, but female coworkers, he shuns. Answers in monosylabes, cuts the conversation short and in a couple of times he's been very rude when doing that.

But what really tilted the field for us was, who are acustomed to these "low-key woman-haters", was when one of my coworkers caught him reading an MRA site and making comments about how women get hired in our field only because the companies need a diversity quota. We brought this concern to HR (which has been amazing in my time here, really trying to make the whole place a welcoming one for all people and not just virgin white men) and they had a talk to him. I don't know what he said, but he ended up being fired.


(this caused an enormous shitstorm where people thought she was bullying an autistic guy out of a job. Thread got really spicy when she accused him of being a virgin. Eventually the whole thing got locked.)

Anne Whateley posted:

First, he didn't just look at a website, he also said his coworkers were incompetent and handicapped them every day.

Second, yeah being a fan of a website is plenty bad enough when the website is as noxious as Stormfront.

Third, this whole thing is totally fake, it was designed to make you angry at women and feminism. "Code review is when code is reviewed, tee-hee"

Anne Whateley posted:

First, he didn't just look at a website, he also said his coworkers were incompetent and handicapped them every day.

Second, yeah being a fan of a website is plenty bad enough when the website is as noxious as Stormfront.

Third, this whole thing is totally fake, it was designed to make you angry at women and feminism. "Code review is when code is reviewed, tee-hee"

half coke half diet posted:

I think some of my co-workers are incompetent and handicapped and that has nothing to do with their sex.

Anne Whateley posted:

Okay, do you let them and everyone around you know that, and do you make it even harder for them to do their jobs? Because at my work that would be a firing even if you were mad at, I don't know, the distro team instead of being mad based on a protected class.

Ugly In The Morning posted:

There is a specific type of artsy hippy I have met in my life that would do that. My Smith College alarm is tripping hard.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

The medium is the menses, right?

quote:

So I'm pretty fresh out of a relationship so I've been hitting the tinder game.

And last weekend I went out with a guy I was talking to and we hooked up.

The sex was just ok. He was the kind of guy you could tell watches too much porn from what he was in to.

But anyway, after he finished he asked if I came and I said not, but I enjoyed it.

Then he's said "well do you think I have a big cock?"

And without even thinking... I say "I think it's closer to average"

Then he pretty much flipped on me.

He told me I was a bi*ch and made me leave his house.

I feel pretty terrible about this and since he was a dude from tinder I don't know if I should just let it go or send him a message and apologize.

What do you think?

I mean, he asked and I was honest. Should I feel bad and should I apologize?

Or should I just drop it and move on.

And is telling a guy he has an average penis really that big of deal?

TL:DR Hooked up with a new guy who asked if he was big. I said average. He got pissed. Should I apologize or move on?

La Brea Carpet posted:

I (28/f) hooked up with a guy (30/m) who asked me if he was "big" and I said "closer to average" and he got pissed. What should I do to make it better?


Dude is a jerk, but who makes it to 28 without knowing the answer to that question?

La Brea Carpet posted:

Dude is a jerk, but who makes it to 28 without knowing the answer to that question?

half coke half diet posted:

Should have answered that his dick was tiny AF, and walked out

half coke half diet posted:

You just were given the Male version of "Do these jeans make me look fat" and you failed miserably.

Should have answered that his dick was tiny AF, and walked out

LimburgLimbo posted:

Texas just passed a law specifically allowing people to carry swords or whatever. Was in the news because it's kinda weird.

tactlessbastard posted:

No, it's your rear end that makes you look fat? Is that the answer?

quote:

My wife and I have been together since high school. Both of us went to college. Got married shortly after. 3 year marriage. Life was good, or so we thought. I did everything I could for her, I made her the center of my life. I love her. I didn't want to be that husband that didn't let her do anything, or hold her back on what she wanted to do. We traveled the world. I let her hang out with her girlfriends when she wanted to. We had date night once a week. What more could you ask for?
This past spring she went to her cousin's bachelorette party. After that weekend it all goes downhill from there. We both work the graveyard shift and some nights she would be off from work and would tell me she was going to hang out with her friends. Sure, no problem. Hasn't been a big deal. But over the course of a few months, it was definitely getting suspicious.

Few months later we go to that cousin's wedding. We took off a week to spend with family. Some of her siblings and family asked me if my wife was doing ok, if we were ok. They said she was very distance, always on the phone, always missing but always "on the go". She was very short with a lot of them they said.

Got back from the wedding trip. We were both supposed to work that weekend. She awkwardly was "called off" from work one night. She said as she usually said she was going to hang out with some friends that night. I texted her later in the evening, asked what she was doing. She said she was going out. I texted her again past midnight, asked if she was heading home soon and to be careful. We track each other on Find My Friends. Noticed she was still at her "girlfriends" place. This isn't the first time.

Morning comes and she's not at home, I call her up-- tell her to come home immediately. I just go straight for it and ask her if there's another guy and she drops the bomb. Daggers. So many daggers. I can still imagine that moment like a movie in my head.

She tells me she met this guy during the bachelorette trip that turned out to also live by us. All those times she was with her "girlfriends" she was actually with this guy. And I can recollect how many times I've checked Find My Friends and she would be at that location.
I love her deeply and value our relationship-- I put aside my pride and humility and tell her I am willing to work out our marriage even with what she's done. (A lot of you probably think I'm an idiot.) I ask her what she wanted. She says she doesn't know. She at first says she wants to be with me but still wants to see the other guy. I'm angry, upset, sad, mad, whatever else feelings there are.

Few days pass, we become more estranged to each other. She distances her self then drops the next bomb. She packs up and moves out. I meet up with her a week later and we talk. From the research I've done she definitely in this "affair fog". She doesn't seem to take responsibility for the affair or what she's done. She just continued to point blame back to me, on what was wrong with our relationship which was the first time I heard of it. And also the first time she tells me shes been unhappy. I'm blindsided. She asks me to give her some space and time. She also tells me she wants to "find herself" experience the "single life" and that she's not "leaving me for another guy".

A couple weeks later after we talk, my curiosity gets the best of me and I take a drive by this guys place. As you would expect I find her car parked there. I'm crushed.

Now about 2 months later, I still haven't heard from her. I don't know if I should reach out to her or just keep waiting... I guess my question is-- where should I go from here? Is this relationship worth saving? The car I drive is under her, should I just give it back? What about our shared cellphone bill? So many unknowns...

It doesn't seem like she wants to work out anything at all. And I know if she continues this affair, any way our marriage would reconcile is pretty much out the door. Everyone has also been telling me to give it some time. It's still early to determine anything. And I told her I didn't want to
make any irrational decision that we might regret later.

I have been doing the best to take care of myself. To focus on me. I've gotten checked for STDs right away. I've been seeing a therapist quite frequently since all of this began. My family and close friends are all informed and in the loop. My support system is them and they have been there for me. I've continue working out, it's always been a thing for me. Prayer has been nice, seeking a greater being. I know I'm gonna have good days, and bad days. Sad days, and happy days. I know my emotions are going to be all over the place.
Should I be moving on? Is there something worth waiting for? Can we fix this if she opens her eyes? What's it going to be worth? Do I have to let her go for her to see what she's lost?

If you read it all and have come this far, thank you.

Thank you in advance, all comments are greatly appreciated.

tl;dr: Wife of 3 years, together for many more, cheats on me with another guy, blames me for our "failed" relationship, leaves me to continue the affair, and now I'm left in this weird limbo. Is it time to move on? Should I keep waiting since it's only been a few months? Will saving the relationship be worth it?

half coke half diet posted:

They make their own job harder, its not because of anyone else but themselves.

areyoucontagious posted:

That one makes me sad. Life could be so much better for you, dude! Dump that awful harpy!

Barudak posted:

In all honesty, if they have an explicit open carry sword law than there is a staggeringly high chance they had a concealed carry sword law because a) thats how things works, concealed carry is what most states have and no state has only open carry and b) its Texas and I choose to live in the stereotype for a moment and dream of a man rolling coal in his F350 getting mad at traffic and exiting the vehicle pointing at a massive, 2 foot long katana sheath barely sticking out from his pants asking the guy if he wants to go right now and taste steel.

LimburgLimbo posted:

Texas just passed a law specifically allowing people to carry swords or whatever. Was in the news because it's kinda weird.

Charles Get-Out posted:

All HB 1935 did was soften the previous blanket ban on long knives and remove now-redundant references to specific knives, swords, and spears as those can fall under the definition of "knife" in Texas code.

You could previously carry "knives" with blades smaller than 5.5 inches wherever you wanted, open or not, the change now is that you can also carry "knives" with blades longer than 5.5. inches most places except for bars, schools, hospitals, prisons, etc.

La Brea Carpet posted:

This length limit was originally a result of a study that showed the average Texan had at least 5.5" of fat to cut through before getting to a vital organ. This made these blades "less than lethal."