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Jeff Sichoe posted:do you even read these things bro? We read it, we just don't believe it.
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Doc Hawkins posted:What a weird non-sequitur.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 03:42 |
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My (30F) formerly estranged younger sister (27F) and her husband (40M) are expecting their first child, are desolately poor. My husband (28M) doesn't think we should help them.quote:Ok, before everyone goes thinking my husband is a callous fuckface, here's the back story.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 04:36 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My (30F) formerly estranged younger sister (27F) and her husband (40M) are expecting their first child, are desolately poor. My husband (28M) doesn't think we should help them. Sasha doesn't have to send anything, and if you want to, go for it. Just don't sabotage your own future here unless it somehow involves stealing their child.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 04:47 |
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quote:really successful VIP hostess in upscale gentlemen's clubs quote:Sasha flatly refuses to send a dollar. He says they are adults, they planned this baby (they actually did, they were trying) and have to accept the consequences of their poor decisions. While I agree, I don't think the baby needs to suffer because if its parents bad planning. quote:Her husband, Philip, hasn't had a job as long as I've known him (maybe 5 years?). His family supported him being a "professional student" as I guess you could call it, yet he never finished any degree. His family went broke 2 years ago so Andrea has been supporting them (service industry) ever since. She tells me his age plus lack of work experience are causing him to not be able to find a job.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 04:47 |
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mind the walrus posted:Genuinely curious what this means. Literally it means she just caters to rich folk, makes sure their bottles are never empty, guides them to fun poo poo and keeps their discretions on the down-low. Euphemistically it means she's a fancy prostitute. It doesn't change anything about the situation, I'm just curious about what I'm missing here. Waitress in the VIP section of a strip club.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 05:19 |
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mind the walrus posted:Yes, that's what I said. There is no disagreement here. Oh, sorry! I misread you as saying separation wasn't the right answer.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 05:29 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I've started putting a few of my tips away every night to stockpile to send them. Sasha doesn't know. I've never lied to him before. It feels like poo poo. quote:My husband, Sasha, was VERY upset about the way she treated me, and what she called me. He has no interest in seeing her or interacting with her, but understands why I want to repair the relationship and forge a relationship with my sister's child
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 06:24 |
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The Letter A posted:I mean, if this isn't a lie: because if they start supporting them they're never going to stop being mooched off by the 40 year old deadbeat dating someone 13 years younger than him
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 06:36 |
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The sister and her husband are an isolated, increasingly deprived group dependent nearly entirely on outside aid with bizzare cultural and ideological values that have finally, after years of secret work which many other people tried to stop, delivered a dangerous and ever growing problem that threatens the entire extended family.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 06:50 |
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ArbitraryC posted:because if they start supporting them they're never going to stop being mooched off by the 40 year old deadbeat dating someone 13 years younger than him
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 06:51 |
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The Letter A posted:Yeah, it does seem like at least the OP would be completely incapable of saying 'enough is enough' at any point, but I mean she's already putting her money away to start the ball rolling, so at least if she talks to her husband about it, perhaps he can be a good influence on her or something. He seems to have his head on fairly straight. yeah I think she should talk to him about it but I also think she should stick with him when he says "no". That's gonna be a clear blackhole of time, emotions, and money if she starts chipping in and is not worth destroying he current marriage over. They're married, it's not just her money anymore.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 06:53 |
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Like the choice is never gonna change, we can pull out the r/relationship crystal ball and see that years down the line the OP is gonna make another post about how her marriage is falling apart because she's constantly arguing with her husband over spending half their discretionary budget on the sister but can't stop because she doesn't want her niece to suffer. It's always gonna boil down to whether or not OP is willing to let the sister hit rock bottom vs straining her marriage to help out. Her sister previously being a shitbag before she needed help doesn't really help the outlook of this dilemma.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 07:00 |
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There's a point where you just have to let a situation inevitably blow up on its own and pick up the pieces afterwards rather than desperately try to delay it Also I've said it before but what is it with these young women who end up with 40+ mooching manchildren to the point of supporting their entire useless insane families
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 07:27 |
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Barudak posted:The sister and her husband are an isolated, increasingly deprived group dependent nearly entirely on outside aid with bizzare cultural and ideological values that have finally, after years of secret work which many other people tried to stop, delivered a dangerous and ever growing problem that threatens the entire extended family. Inescapable Duck posted:Also I've said it before but what is it with these young women who end up with 40+ mooching manchildren to the point of supporting their entire useless insane families
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 07:35 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My (30F) formerly estranged younger sister (27F) and her husband (40M) are expecting their first child, are desolately poor. My husband (28M) doesn't think we should help them. The way the OP handles this poo poo will ensure that this will blow up, harm her marriage, teach her sister to ask for money if she ever needs it (and the OP will give it away secretly) and who knows if it will even be spent as intended. Also what OP's sister said about her had to be pretty vile to make them stop contact for 4 years and that should be addressed instead of pretending that nothing happened. Learn to set boundaries or people will walk all over you even when you start financially supporting their kid. Palpek fucked around with this message at 15:33 on Oct 2, 2017 |
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mind the walrus posted:I'd watch this movie. It's called "Alien" - 1979
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 15:28 |
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Remember once upon a time the brother and sister who continued living in the family home after the death of their parent, and the HOA who wanted to kick them out because it meant they were no longer a single family dwelling?quote:Original post
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:19 |
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An HOA acting like a sack full of cunts? Well, colour me surprised!
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:41 |
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Direct democracy works. Sometimes. My [36M] brother [30M] won't let me bring both my partners [36M & 35M] to his wedding but is upset if I don't come either quote:u/threegaymenOct 2, 2017, 4:13 AM So his brother’s in laws to be are assholes, but a venue can typically only fit X number of people and caterers can only cater for Y. And if it’s a religious ceremony, the church can only fit Z, and you want certain people in the front few pews. Every person that comes is another person that can’t. So it’s not just a case of budget - it’s a case of deciding who can come share your special day with you and who can’t. His offers to pay in the past are fairly rude and show a lack of understanding. That said, it is his brother, so the groom should just suck it up and invite all three. But not have them on the top table unless he wants drama.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:42 |
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This is a DINK, and this is to go even further beyond. I call it Three Incomes No Kids
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:47 |
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Invite the brother and husbands, but make it known that the Brother will be flying solo up-front and his husbands taking a table off to the side. It's a compromise no one is going to like but meets all the key requirements, e.g: a good compromise.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:52 |
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Holy poo poo that guy needs to tell his brother to get hosed. And talking about cost per guest or seating arrangements or whatever the gently caress else is absolutely dog whistle homophobia. And the whole "pass for straight" thing? Yeah, time to re-think your relationship with your brother.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 17:54 |
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Barudak posted:This is a DINK, and this is to go even further beyond. I call it Three Incomes No Kids Triple White Income No Kids.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:05 |
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VanSandman posted:Triple White Income No Kids.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:08 |
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Milotic posted:Direct democracy works. Sometimes. Nah, the brother getting married is being a huge fuckhead about this. When you plan a wedding, and want your immediate family to come, you make arrangements for their SO's. Yeah there's one extra, but big deal, they can fit, don't invite someone else. Put them on the top table because there'll be drama at some point and might as well get it over with right now, plus it'd be a great story.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:24 |
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Admiral Ray posted:Nah, the brother getting married is being a huge fuckhead about this. When you plan a wedding, and want your immediate family to come, you make arrangements for their SO's. Yeah there's one extra, but big deal, they can fit, don't invite someone else. Put them on the top table because there'll be drama at some point and might as well get it over with right now, plus it'd be a great story. But but but they're gayyyyyyyyy and his brides parents might get pearl clutchy at that!
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:31 |
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I don't know how many partners my sibling would have to have before I said "enough". Like 6 would be too many and 2 seems okay.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:33 |
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Why ask the internet for advice on this issue when The Birdcage outlines what to do perfectly?
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:38 |
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Barudak posted:This is a DINK, and this is to go even further beyond. I call it Three Incomes No Kids
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:43 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I don't know how many partners my sibling would have to have before I said "enough". Like 6 would be too many and 2 seems okay. Look if your sibling has a harem they can leave them at home, bring only their consort or dowager with them, or dip into the royal treasury to help you if all of them have to come.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 18:55 |
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quote:I told him that if he's marrying into a conservative family, it's probably better I don't turn up anyway since his family don't like me. They've been pretty cold but civil in the past, even the one time I picked them up from the airport - they always refer to me as the gay brother, even at the airport I introduced myself it was "Are you the gay one?" and they've barely spoke a word to me on the trip since but are fine with my other siblings. "I'm the one giving you a free ride, assholes." Man that family sucks.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:01 |
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My [22F] boyfriend [25M] of 1.5 years didn't put any effort into my birthday but still asked for a "thank you blowjob".quote:To start, my boyfriend and I have been together almost 1.5 years and have an apartment together.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:03 |
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It's weird how different couples see blowjobs as very different things on the magnitude scale
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:10 |
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Well one perspective involves having a dick in your mouth and the other involves having your dick in someone else's mouth. Imbalance is probable, especially if the guy is on the bigger end of things. The guy is a weird, dumb rear end in a top hat though. He's the inverse of that guy a few pages back whose wife said "we're never having sex again, deal with it"
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:19 |
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"Picky eater" flag strikes again!
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:19 |
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Did anyone maybe ask what he meant by quote:'my boyfriend started the day by posting to my facebook that it was going to be a fun day full of presents and surprises.', if he wasn't going to do poo poo?
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:19 |
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mind the walrus posted:Well one perspective involves having a dick in your mouth and the other involves having your dick in someone else's mouth. Imbalance is probable, especially if the guy is on the bigger end of things. No I mean some couples mutually treat blowjobs as common and others as very rare things that are for special occasions / have to be earned, and I find it fascinating how different it is in the various cases
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:28 |
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Outrail posted:Did anyone maybe ask what he meant by He assumed at least one of her friends was going to buy her something.
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# ? Oct 2, 2017 19:36 |
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There's a difference between just-for-fun blowjobs and "blowjobs because you're not in the mood for sex I mean come onnnn it's the least you can do"Outrail posted:Did anyone maybe ask what he meant by
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