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Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014
I hope he dumps her and starts dating the hulk hand.

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Oct 15, 2012

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Biscuit Hider
I hope he dumps her and starts dating the hulk.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

fruit on the bottom posted:

I hope he dumps her and starts dating the hulk.

He can practice with that giant dildo

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I mean I assumed they did go to dinner after that, maybe not. That was included in "spend the day together" to me I guess.
She says they mostly stayed in and cuddled which also means she didn't really plan anything. I dunno like it just seems like an exceptionally dumb idea for a prank or something and it seems so obvious to me that she should have gotten him a normal gift alongside the gag if she really wanted to do the gag.

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum
Prank gifts from people you care about are dumb and literally worse then receiving nothing because now you have to find a home for the useless gift or tip toe around throwing it away.

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Biscuit Hider
Rock bottom, population: you.

Me [31/F] with my Partner [32 M] 2.5 years, He wanted to end things, I don't, then I became violent.

quote:

I have been dating my SO for 2.5 years, we've been living together for that entire time. I've known him for about 6 or 7 years. When we started dating, I got a huge amethyst ring and asked him to marry me. We never got married but decided to do so when we had the funds... However, we never had the funds do to constant car breakage.

I live with PMDD and depression... He has bipolar disorder and he's in control of it. Neither one of us are on medications... (I just started quetiapine fumarate last night. We have 2 other roommates, and I dislike having roommates as a couple because it puts a lot of pressure on us. They are wonderful people I would just have preferred it to be the 2 of us.

I've been in therapy for 8 years now... and I feel like I probably will be for the rest of my life... and I'm okay with that as long as it helps. We have had 10 couples therapy and some months are better than others. These past 2 months were not good.

This Friday we were supposed to be going on a mini vacation down south. We got into an arguement and I thought his behavior was a bit extreme but he ended up going without me. He never called to tell me he arrived alright, and I called him and he did pick up we just fought more.

Sunday he came home after I had half a bottle of wine with my roommate, venting about him. He wanted to talk but I didn't want to. He wanted to break up, but I also didn't want to. I wrapped my arms and legs around him and I wouldn't let him leave the room. He asked if I wanted to hit him, I said yes, then he told me too. I was hysterical so I did, I proceeded to hit his arms and chest until I was crying uncontrollably. He then ran outside to call his sister and I chased him in the rain without shoes, crying asking him to stop and talk. I lost my temper... This is the first time this has ever happened to me.

He then got into his truck and started to drive off until I opened the door and hit my head, I remember falling to the ground and being dragged into the house. When I came to, he was gone and my roommate was comforting me.

He now says he is afraid of me and never wants to see me again. Yesterday I went to the doctor to start medication and have been playing with the idea of checking myself into a mental health facility.

I've slapped him across the face a couple times before (years apart), but it was in fun, and yes I was drunk. I had dated guys before that were into that sort of things and I think I must have crossed my wires. But what happened Sunday night was the first time ever and I feel awful.

He wants me to move out, everyone's name is on the lease... and I don't think I can move out. I think if I'm by myself I'll end up worse.

I feel like a lovely person, I've apologized over and over and I'm lost. I went to work today but I cannot focus. I'm afraid of taking medication because last time I ended up in a mental health care facility. But I'm doing it anyways.

gently caress.

tl;dr SO wanted to end things, I refused to let him leave... he asked If I wanted to hit him, I said yes, then he told me to hit him... so I did... now he is afraid of me and will not talk.

Trauma Dog 3000
Aug 30, 2017

by SA Support Robot

fruit on the bottom posted:

Rock bottom, population: you.

Me [31/F] with my Partner [32 M] 2.5 years, He wanted to end things, I don't, then I became violent.

Women are trash

HoAssHo
Mar 10, 2005

:love::love::love:
How can anyone read this thread and not realize that everyone - men and women both - are trash?

I Was The Fury
Oct 19, 2012

Always stop to smell the flowers, just in case they're weeds

HoAssHo posted:

How can anyone read this thread and not realize that everyone - men and women both - are trash?

I have read this thread and revised/edited my old dating advice down to "don't date" and if everyone in r/relationships followed my advice they wouldn't have their problems

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...

I Was The Fury posted:

I have read this thread and revised/edited my old dating advice down to "don't date" and if everyone in r/relationships followed my advice they wouldn't have their problems

tried this but my fleshlight keeps gaslighting me, is this abuse?

Lonely Virgil
Oct 9, 2012

fruit on the bottom posted:

Rock bottom, population: you.

Me [31/F] with my Partner [32 M] 2.5 years, He wanted to end things, I don't, then I became violent.

I'm a violent drunk, but it's all in good fun.

Jesus Christ lady.

Clark Nova
Jul 18, 2004

fruit on the bottom posted:

Rock bottom, population: you.

Me [31/F] with my Partner [32 M] 2.5 years, He wanted to end things, I don't, then I became violent.

It's kind of depressing when the issue is "My significant other did something smart, in the interest of self-preservation and their own well being. Help me make their life loving suck again."

Nah, it's not depressing, I enjoy the schadenfreude. :allears:

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

We stopped loving in public after my wife had a bad experience with a crank yanker.

Can never trust those goddamn puppets.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

La Brea Carpet
Nov 22, 2007

I have no mouth and I must post
Can my dad really hire a bounty hunter to kidnap me from college and take me home? (MS/TN)

quote:

I'm a freshman at a good school in Tennessee. My dad is a really difficult guy and has just gotten worse since I left for school. To make a long story short, when I stopped checking in every day he started calling the dean, and when the dean's office stopped taking his calls he started showing up here. The school really had my back and banned him from campus.

Now he's calling my friends and their parents and saying I have to come home (my mom won't take his calls anymore and the court won't make her). My dad says that I "lack the legal standing for self-determination" because I'm a minor, since in Mississippi you're a minor until you're 21. He says that he's hired a "youth transportation service" to "escort" me home. Like those people who kidnap gay kids in the middle of the night and take them to conversation camps. Bounty hunters for kids.

I told him that the fugitive slave act is a goner and that I only have to obey the laws of the state I'm in, which designates me an adult with the right to remain unkidnapped. He said that I'm bound by the "long arm statute" and that I haven't even established residency in Tennessee because I've only been here since mid-August and I'm still registered to vote in Mississippi.

So I guess my main question is my title: is he right, can he really send someone to kidnap me and take me back to Mississippi? My mom says this is just him being crazy and trying to intimidate me but obviously I want to cover all my bases.

If he's wrong, what can I do if that actually does happen? If some guy comes up to me and zipties my hands and says I have to go with him, do I? Can I fight back? If my friends are nearby and see me being kidnapped, can they help me? Since the episode that got my dad banned from campus, I've had a couple hefty guy friends offer to walk me back and forth from class. If one of them is with me and someone tries to take me, do they have to just let it happen, or do they have a right to help me not get kidnapped?

I think that's all my questions for now. Thanks!

Tl;dr: stopped talking to dad and he says he's going to have a bounty hunter bring me back to Mississippi because there I'm still technically a minor/child. Can he really do that?

Sorryformybadjokes
Apr 21, 2004

I identify as a simian who pronounces the 'silent' letters in words.
Fallen Rib
Emancipation

http://statelaws.findlaw.com/tennessee-law/tennessee-legal-ages-laws.html

Sorryformybadjokes fucked around with this message at 03:00 on Oct 4, 2017

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
Consensus is 'This is hella loving illegal and your dad can go straight to federal prison', also that they're legally justified in shooting a 'bounty hunter' dead.

Sentient Data
Aug 31, 2011

My molecule scrambler ray will disintegrate your armor with one blow!
Shoot to kill in self defense, literally, since anyone that hires loving kidnappers doesn't exactly have good intentions. Hell, it's easily crossed the line into assault already

Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



Bread Liar

Milotic posted:

Wow.

I [63] am suspicious of my son's mystery girlfriend!
When I asked about her family, she simply says she doesn’t talk to them anymore since her father was sexually abusive and the family took her father’s side. Again this is suspicious to me. Why not talk to her siblings or mother? How can they “take” sides?

How can any person be so loving oblivious?

Oh, he's an old white male? Say no more.



EDIT - wait, she's his mother? Lady you have no goddamn excuse.

Megillah Gorilla fucked around with this message at 03:37 on Oct 4, 2017

VictorianQueerLit
Aug 25, 2017

Gorilla Salad posted:

How can any person be so loving oblivious?

Oh, he's an old white male? Say no more.

your racism is showing

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

La Brea Carpet posted:

I told him that the fugitive slave act is a goner and that I only have to obey the laws of the state I'm in, which designates me an adult with the right to remain unkidnapped. He said that I'm bound by the "long arm statute" and that I haven't even established residency in Tennessee because I've only been here since mid-August and I'm still registered to vote in Mississippi.

for most purposes the kid is still a citizen of mississippi but they don't have to obey mississippi law if they're in a different state

if dad is already banned from campus (i want to read that story) then kid should notify campus police asap and file for both a restraining order and legal emancipation, neither should be tough to get

Sentient Data posted:

Shoot to kill in self defense, literally, since anyone that hires loving kidnappers doesn't exactly have good intentions. Hell, it's easily crossed the line into assault already

yeah i want to know what kind of cut rate bounty hunter would take this job. "you want me to go to a college campus in a different state and retrieve your adult child with no legal justification to do so?"

Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



Bread Liar

VictorianQueerLit posted:

your racism is showing

You can't be racist against white people.

Virigoth
Apr 28, 2009

Corona rules everything around me
C.R.E.A.M. get the virus
In the ICU y'all......



boner confessor posted:

yeah i want to know what kind of cut rate bounty hunter would take this job. "you want me to go to a college campus in a different state and retrieve your adult child with no legal justification to do so?"

It's bounty huntin' time! Live!

Doc Hawkins
Jun 15, 2010

Dashing? But I'm not even moving!


Gorilla Salad posted:

You can't be racist against white people.

Yeah it's just a bias, since it doesn't reinforce any societal/structural oppression.

...unlike the mother's towering internalized sexism.

VictorianQueerLit
Aug 25, 2017

Gorilla Salad posted:

You can't be racist against white people.

I think the very definition of racism is against you there but okay, carry on I guess.

The people are stupid in that r/relationship post because of their race. Got it.

VictorianQueerLit fucked around with this message at 03:57 on Oct 4, 2017

CharlestheHammer
Jun 26, 2011

YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

VictorianQueerLit posted:

I think the very definition of racism is against you there but okay, carry on I guess.

The people are stupid in that r/relationship post because of their race. Got it.

To be fair only one person in that story is stupid because of their race.

Also no you can't be racist against white people under most definitions.

VictorianQueerLit
Aug 25, 2017
Got it. this person was stupid because of their race, which is an okay thing to say because of which race they are. Which isn't racist because their race deserves it.

quote:

Can my dad really hire a bounty hunter to kidnap me from college and take me home? (MS/TN)

I didn't even know the "Age of Majority" was a thing until this post. I thought the stereotype was to trend younger for things like that in places like Mississippi but they have the oldest age of majority in the US

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

fruit on the bottom posted:

Rock bottom, population: you.

Me [31/F] with my Partner [32 M] 2.5 years, He wanted to end things, I don't, then I became violent.

He's making the biggest mistake of his life. You can't cut back on your relationship, you will regret this!

Gorilla Salad posted:

How can any person be so loving oblivious?

Oh, he's an old white male? Say no more.



EDIT - wait, she's his mother? Lady you have no goddamn excuse.

Eh. . . sexual abuse is often covered up to try to avoid shaming the family. It's weird, hosed up poo poo.

Doc Hawkins
Jun 15, 2010

Dashing? But I'm not even moving!


VictorianQueerLit posted:

Got it. this person was stupid because of their race, which is an okay thing to say because of which race they are. Which isn't racist because their race deserves it.

By Allah! White people are so stupid!

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos
I [F23] make people laugh even if I’m not trying, is this bad?

quote:

I’m a 23 yo female who was the ugly kid growing up but had the ability to make people laugh. I remember in high school how I could make my whole class laugh out loud by saying something witty or sarcastic. It felt great at the time, I thought to myself here I am having people’s attention in some way even if I’m unattractive, weird and unpopular.

I’ve maintained this sense of personality and people call me funny, even to this day. But I don’t even see myself as funny, just weird. And doemtimes when I say something that isn’t even intended to be funny people laugh. I’m not sure if this is good or bad. It’s fun making people laugh without trying but I would also like not to be in this constant funny mode as well.

I’m afraid I’m coming to this point in life where I have to be taken seriously and I’m still behaving like a high schooler. Should I change this and if so, should I tone down my humor/personality?

Tldr: I make people laugh even if I’m trying not to be funny and feel like people might look down on me

This is like a Bee Gees song come to life.

cyberia
Jun 24, 2011

Do not call me that!
Snuffles was my slave name.
You shall now call me Snowball; because my fur is pretty and white.

Milotic posted:

Long, have bolded bits. TLDR is at the top.

My (34M) wife of 12 years (36F) can't talk about sex and I'm feeling unsatisfied. We both think the other is being unreasonable and need some perspective.

This is sad more than anything, but I don’t understand how one can say “Yeah, we’re fairly vanilla”, and how your wife has Christian guilt and be talking about threesomes and whatever the hell a jerk boy is and whatever the LS scene is. I sometimes wonder if I’m just very sheltered.

I know the mantra in this thread is 'don't date sex weirds' but I think it's equally important not to date sex prudes. And maybe don't get married to someone until you've done a bunch of molly and psychedelics together and figured out if you're really on the same wavelength with this sort of stuff. I can't imagine how loving depressing and soul-destroying it would be for both people to fight this uphill battle for years where neither of them are going to win. It's always going to be a compromise that nobody is happy with. Just break up and move on.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

cyberia posted:

I know the mantra in this thread is 'don't date sex weirds' but I think it's equally important not to date sex prudes. And maybe don't get married to someone until you've done a bunch of molly and psychedelics together and figured out if you're really on the same wavelength with this sort of stuff. I can't imagine how loving depressing and soul-destroying it would be for both people to fight this uphill battle for years where neither of them are going to win. It's always going to be a compromise that nobody is happy with. Just break up and move on.

if they're the sex prude, you're the sex weird, and shouldn't be dating them

cyberia
Jun 24, 2011

Do not call me that!
Snuffles was my slave name.
You shall now call me Snowball; because my fur is pretty and white.

Pick posted:

if they're the sex prude, you're the sex weird, and shouldn't be dating them

Perhaps it's possible to exist in the middle of the spectrum as a sex moderate who wants something more than quarterly lights-out, missionary sex but less than adult diaper-wearing poly kink communes :thunk:

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Pick posted:

if they're the sex prude, you're the sex weird, and shouldn't be dating them

Sexual compatibility is an important aspect of a long-term relationship that people often neglect to even verbally talk through before marriage if they're both 'virgins until marriage' people.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

cyberia posted:

Perhaps it's possible to exist in the middle of the spectrum as a sex moderate who wants something more than quarterly lights-out, missionary sex but less than adult diaper-wearing poly kink communes :thunk:

Please, please, tell me where these people are. That's not a challenge, I'm not insinuating that you are wrong, I am saying please, please show me where they are

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Milotic posted:

Long, have bolded bits. TLDR is at the top.

My (34M) wife of 12 years (36F) can't talk about sex and I'm feeling unsatisfied. We both think the other is being unreasonable and need some perspective.


This is sad more than anything, but I don’t understand how one can say “Yeah, we’re fairly vanilla”, and how your wife has Christian guilt and be talking about threesomes and whatever the hell a jerk boy is and whatever the LS scene is. I sometimes wonder if I’m just very sheltered.

Open your relationship by getting a divorce.

cyberia
Jun 24, 2011

Do not call me that!
Snuffles was my slave name.
You shall now call me Snowball; because my fur is pretty and white.

Pick posted:

Please, please, tell me where these people are. That's not a challenge, I'm not insinuating that you are wrong, I am saying please, please show me where they are

If I ever meet one I'll let you know.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

cyberia posted:

Perhaps it's possible to exist in the middle of the spectrum as a sex moderate who wants something more than quarterly lights-out, missionary sex but less than adult diaper-wearing poly kink communes :thunk:

Compromise by only wearing half a diaper in a room that's lit by a blacklight.

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



ArbitraryC posted:

She says they mostly stayed in and cuddled which also means she didn't really plan anything. I dunno like it just seems like an exceptionally dumb idea for a prank or something and it seems so obvious to me that she should have gotten him a normal gift alongside the gag if she really wanted to do the gag.

I dunno man, if this thread has taught me anything it's that people are just terrible at gift-giving. Then again my first serious boyfriend didn't get me anything for our first anniversary because he 'didn't know it was that kinda holiday' and another one didn't buy me anything because 'he didn't know what I'd want'.

People are just real dumb, I guess is what I'm getting at. Or maybe people just don't want to give me gifts.

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Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy
Anniversary gifts are easy: you buy experiences. Go have a loving picnic in a park, or rent a car and crash it. Go wild!

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