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My friend's (M/29) wife (F/28) who I thought was also my friend embarrassed me (F/25) in front of all of our mutual friends (F/M 20s/30s).quote:Posting this again since I'm new to Reddit and have no idea how to use it Is Diana overreacting or did OP leave something out?
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 19:54 |
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TheScott2K posted:No, that's not normal. Most guys who have told an ex he deleted her nudes are lying, but this spreadsheeting poo poo is never not weird. I think it's still weird to hold onto nudes of exes and it'd be a good reason to end a relationship if you found your partner collecting them. odds are very likely none of them were given with the intent of lasting past the relationship so it's p gross to not delete them when things end.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 19:58 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I think it's still weird to hold onto nudes of exes and it'd be a good reason to end a relationship if you found your partner collecting them. odds are very likely none of them were given with the intent of lasting past the relationship so it's p gross to not delete them when things end. Agree with all of this, as will most people. Those same people also think everyone should stop texting and driving.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 20:00 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:My friend's (M/29) wife (F/28) who I thought was also my friend embarrassed me (F/25) in front of all of our mutual friends (F/M 20s/30s). If you don't have the personal composure and maturity to pull someone aside and have a frank, if harsh, discussion with them about their behavior, I assume you're the tantrum-throwing child you appear to be and further I assume that you're the crazy one in the story.
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fruit on the bottom posted:My friend's (M/29) wife (F/28) who I thought was also my friend embarrassed me (F/25) in front of all of our mutual friends (F/M 20s/30s). I think OP left something out This has probably been a constant source of friction in 29/28's relationship. Joe clearly didn't defend her and based on what the OP says Jenna (Joe's sister) said, it leads me to believe both parties are mad at her. If anyone besides Joe and Diana would have access to that information, it would be Jenna. I kind of get the feeling from what has been posted (what little there is) that Jenna is on Joe/Diana's side here. I would almost certainly bet that OP has slept with Joe, if not had a relationship with him at some point. I would also bet that OP knew this was getting under Diana's skin. I generally operate under the assumption that the OP is posting their story in a way that paints themselves in the least negative light possible, so they will downplay everything they do and leave information they deem unnecessary out of the equation. It's really impossible to draw a conclusion from this from the OP's post alone but it's not like shouting at one of your friends at a crowded party isn't a super embarrassing thing to do, it seems like there'd have to be a catalyst for it Mirthless fucked around with this message at 20:20 on Oct 11, 2017 |
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Doggles posted:Me [37 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 1 months, I think she might be special needs or learning disabled in some way lol
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Fiancé [43M] asked me [22F] for my phone passcode. I gave it to him, but now I think maybe it was a bad idea.quote:Hey everyone. Really could use some help here.
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Doggles posted:Me [37 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 1 months, I think she might be special needs or learning disabled in some way oh jesus loving christ i missed this post on one hand she sook out the relationship and seems to be happy with it, and people with learning disabilities deserve to be loved, have companionship, families, etc on the other hand this dude who is old enough to be her father can't even pretend his main motivation in this relationship is anything but sex. you're loving gross, dude. you're gross.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 20:25 |
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subpar anachronism posted:The post itself got deleted and OP flounced (originally had just replaced the post with whining about how reddit was unsympathetic) but this must have been juicy.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 20:35 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:My friend's (M/29) wife (F/28) who I thought was also my friend embarrassed me (F/25) in front of all of our mutual friends (F/M 20s/30s). OP 100% left poo poo out, Choice quotes from the OP: quote:>>Do you value salvaging your relationship with this woman? quote:Joe hasn't talked to me since and didn't respond to my texts. No one is going to apologize to me and I didn't do anything wrong. I feel like I'm in alternate universe right now. No one has ever complained about how I act. she deleted the comment this tree'd off of, but apparently there's another party soon quote:Jenna all but told me not to attend the party. I really want to go as I do not have family near me and her parents have treated me well. I don't know if I should push that or not? quote:I responded to someone who was asking about their parent's anniversary party. I said that she didn't out-right say not to attend or ban me from going, but you could say that she didn't think it was a good idea and was trying to be nice. I want to go to support her parents. Here's Diana's side apparently. lol. She literally woke up their new baby to take a picture for instagram, and then left the crying infant with Diana (no doubt to go spend more time with Joe, away from Diana) quote:Jenna and I just FaceTime for the past like 40ish minutes. She said that she talked to her SIL (Diana) and her brother over the weekend. This is what her SIL said (she sent me a screenshot): I wouldn't want her in my house either. Holy. loving. poo poo. This lady is horrible. edit: Drunk texting a married man with a new baby in the middle of the night, quote:Thanks, I don’t have too many friends who are married and parents, so it is different then when I hang out with other people who are in our friend group. she has been downvoted into oblivion, /r/relationships is reaming her over this Mirthless fucked around with this message at 20:47 on Oct 11, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:3. This is the third time somebody's girlfriend has found their word doc/excel file of all the female friends they want to gently caress, is this all the same guy or is this way more common than anybody could have ever believed was possible? In my early 20s I had a boyfriend that wanted to break up because he was convinced a girl in his class was in love with him (Spoiler: she didn't even know his name). However, he avoided conflict and couldn't muster the courage to say anything. I knew something was amiss and tried to talk to him about it, but he would just clam up. He then asked me one day to review his psych paper for feedback - this wasn't unusual, we swapped papers with our friends and each other for edits all the time. I hopped on his computer and :bigtran: :Which file is your paper? :Its one of the ones on the desktop. :bigtran: :There's like 8 here, which one? :Um, uh, just, um, just um open them all until you find one that looks like a psychology paper, I guess. I'm gonna go get a drink. I open the first file, "Untitled.doc". I start reading and its a love letter he's written to that girl. I open the next 3 files on the desktop...and they are all the exact same thing, just with different titles. So I do a search for the first line of the letter, out of curiosity. He had been putting copies of it in various places with different names in a different folders. You could actually see a progression where he was trying to make them more and more suspicious: "Porn" --> "Secret Porn" --> "Don't Look!" --> "Bad Stuff" --> "I Hate Myself" --> "<Dienes>" culminating in putting 8 copies on his desktop and telling me to open one. :bigtran: :So what is this....love letter I'm reading? :Oh no, you've found me out. You must be so mad. :bigtran: :Why all....this? Why not just talk to me? :I CAN'T HELP MY FEELINGS! You must be so angry. If you want to break up I understand. :bigtran: :Just say "I want to break up." This was stupid. :I totally understand if you want to break up. You must be so hurt. I betrayed you. I understand. So whenever I see a story pop up on here where an incriminating file is stored with a weird, dramatic title rather than "2014 Tax Return," I assume that was because it was intended to be found, meant for it to be read, deliberately trying to be caught. In short,
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Mirthless posted:edit: Drunk texting a married man with a new baby in the middle of the night,
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Me [39 M] with my brother [43 M]. He missed my wedding and I am very hurt. Don't know whether to cut things off completely or not.quote:
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Dienes posted:In my early 20s I had a boyfriend that wanted to break up because he was convinced a girl in his class was in love with him (Spoiler: she didn't even know his name). However, he avoided conflict and couldn't muster the courage to say anything. I knew something was amiss and tried to talk to him about it, but he would just clam up. He then asked me one day to review his psych paper for feedback - this wasn't unusual, we swapped papers with our friends and each other for edits all the time. I hopped on his computer and Your use of is appropriate in this case. What drives a person to that level of conflict avoidance?
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fruit on the bottom posted:Me [39 M] with my brother [43 M]. He missed my wedding and I am very hurt. Don't know whether to cut things off completely or not. The worst thing about dealing with social phobia is knowing you're making people feel this way. I was in a place like this guy - though not as bad - and I imagine the way the OP is taking his behavior is exactly how my friends and family probably felt. I hope OP can help him help himself.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 20:58 |
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i think thats a hotdog not a burger
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Jason Sextro posted:Your use of is appropriate in this case. What drives a person to that level of conflict avoidance? In that instance, an incredibly overbearing, overprotective mother. She would take a permanent marker and draw shirts on the women on board games and book covers if she thought they were too immodest. I'm p sure either Settlers of Catan or Carcassonne got that treatment, to give you an indication of how bad it was.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Me [39 M] with my brother [43 M]. He missed my wedding and I am very hurt. Don't know whether to cut things off completely or not. Seems like a pretty extreme way to get in touch with your brother But seriously, he says it's been two years since he's seen his brother. How would going no-contact create drama, since they basically seem to be no-contact already?
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Mirthless posted:OP 100% left poo poo out, Look, I fuckin hate this lady, and even if I presume every known fact against her I still think the Real Housewife of /r/Relationships is in the wrong here. If some girl is being inappropriate with your husband, you tell your husband, and maybe you tell her off as well. But not in a screaming fit in front of everyone. Thats just another way of saying, "I'm the crazy one."
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Jason Sextro posted:Your use of is appropriate in this case. What drives a person to that level of conflict avoidance? Terminal wiener
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TheScott2K posted:The worst thing about dealing with social phobia is knowing you're making people feel this way. I was in a place like this guy - though not as bad - and I imagine the way the OP is taking his behavior is exactly how my friends and family probably felt. I hope OP can help him help himself. It destroys the people you love and reduces their ability to feel safe, connected, and intimate with others. A real bummer
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:21 |
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subpar anachronism posted:The post itself got deleted and OP flounced (originally had just replaced the post with whining about how reddit was unsympathetic) but this must have been juicy. I found the original post, without the twist it's just common or garden cheater's insecurity but when you know the backstory whooo boy quote:Let's get to the point.
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creeping up to baby's room to snap a pic for #tantrumtuesday
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Werong Bustope posted:I found the original post, without the twist it's just common or garden cheater's insecurity but when you know the backstory whooo boy Wow, dude killed his wife for -this-
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blarzgh posted:Look, I fuckin hate this lady, and even if I presume every known fact against her I still think the Real Housewife of /r/Relationships is in the wrong here. You've got a point, but evidently it the OP really was loving it up that badly considering that literally everybody sided with Mrs. Meltdown against her.
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Mirthless posted:OP 100% left poo poo out, I dunno it doesn't really sound like she's leaving anything out other than the wife has consistently had issues with jealousy. The wife being unreasonable for a longer period of time doesn't suddenly make her unreasonableness reasonable, and the outburst was still incredibly poorly handled. I'm kinda on the side of "jealous lady willing to make a big stink at her husbands birthday instead of discussing the matter in private is probably the problem here" The baby thing was rude tho.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:27 |
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And obviously "everyone" sided against the OP, it's joe's family and they have to deal with the wife more. They're stuck siding with her by default unless they want to create an even bigger issue.
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blarzgh posted:Look, I fuckin hate this lady, and even if I presume every known fact against her I still think the Real Housewife of /r/Relationships is in the wrong here. Yeah, that wasn't the smoothest move but in crazy lady's defense, OP had pushed just about every single last button there was to push. Also, lmao at OP trying to bulldog her way into the next party because the parents were kind to her before all this . And yes, getting drunk and texting young parents late at night is real a real dick move. It's not like it couldn't have waited and you won't be there to take care of the baby you just woke up for the TWO loving HOURS IT TAKES TO GET IT BACK TO SLEEP I'LL FUCKIN CUT YOU DAD QUIT CALLING LATE WHEN YOU'RE BORED
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Pick posted:It destroys the people you love and reduces their ability to feel safe, connected, and intimate with others. A real bummer Working a stressful job with odd hours makes it 1000x worse. When I was on rotating, long shifts adding the element of coveting what time off I had just made the thought of going to "things" abhorrent.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:32 |
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tactlessbastard posted:Yeah, that wasn't the smoothest move but in crazy lady's defense, OP had pushed just about every single last button there was to push. like I do not have kids, I do not want kids, I will never have kids but even i know that waking up somebody's baby to take a selfie with it, handing it off to the mother, and then getting handsy with her husband while mom is trying to get the baby back to sleep is about as lovely as it gets after all the poo poo she's put up with i'm surprised screaming was the extent of where she took it
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:35 |
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Pick posted:Wow, dude killed his wife for -this- I wonder if he's really that empathetic or whether this lady is such a black hole of human feeling that she perceives the ability to experience normal emotions as some astonishing superpower.
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Mirthless posted:like I do not have kids, I do not want kids, I will never have kids Your best post yet!
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fruit on the bottom posted:Me [39 M] with my brother [43 M]. He missed my wedding and I am very hurt. Don't know whether to cut things off completely or not. I don't really understand his problem here. His brother is an introvert who's socially anxious and doesn't really want to change that. It's not like the op needs to sever cause his brother is being a dick all the time, just leave him alone and let him reconnect on his own time if he decides to change.
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Mirthless posted:like I do not have kids, I do not want kids, I will never have kids I think you're kinda making up the "handsy" part of the story. Like it's a birthday party, people hug and may bump into each other on a cramped couch that's not the same as rubbing his thigh.
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:39 |
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Pick posted:Your best post yet! i know the world doesn't need more Mirthlesses ArbitraryC posted:I think you're kinda making up the "handsy" part of the story. Like it's a birthday party, people hug and may bump into each other on a cramped couch that's not the same as rubbing his thigh. I think you're giving this lady who left a bunch of poo poo out of her original story way too much credit
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# ? Oct 11, 2017 21:40 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I don't really understand his problem here. His brother is an introvert who's socially anxious and doesn't really want to change that. It's not like the op needs to sever cause his brother is being a dick all the time, just leave him alone and let him reconnect on his own time if he decides to change. I agree. OP sounds pretty pushy, too, still holding a grudge over someone missing a 1 yo' s birthday party, the most useless birthday party in the world.
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Werong Bustope posted:I wonder if he's really that empathetic or whether this lady is such a black hole of human feeling that she perceives the ability to experience normal emotions as some astonishing superpower. She's loving messed up
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ArbitraryC posted:I don't really understand his problem here. His brother is an introvert who's socially anxious and doesn't really want to change that. It's not like the op needs to sever cause his brother is being a dick all the time, just leave him alone and let him reconnect on his own time if he decides to change. Social anxiety is a disease and it DOES affect others negatively, they're allowed to feel put out by rudeness and dismissal
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Empathy is for the weak of heart. Did you know the human eye can see more shades of green than any other color?
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Pick posted:Social anxiety is a disease and it DOES affect others negatively, they're allowed to feel put out by rudeness and dismissal It's a wedding and they were told immediately he wouldn't be attending. It's not like he said yes then canceled last minute, he said no from the start. he's not obligated to go if he doesn't want to and a good brother should be able to empathize with him that it's not really his scene. I wouldn't be surprised if my brother wouldn't want to come to my wedding, he still loves me and we play games and such online but he's just not a social event person. As I've known him for nearly 3 decades now, I understand that and wouldn't hold it against him.
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