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maskenfreiheit posted:[NJ] Biological daughter is harassing me constantly... (self.legaladvice) The post is locked now and most of the comments are deleted but people were tearing her apart for her decision. "Seems like if you show a little humanity it might go a long way." quote:(sigh) Look, forgive me if I sound like a bitch but I don't have any humanity to give. I've been through a lot in my life, the rape that conceived my daughter was just one of these horrible events. I'm depressed, unemployed with trouble being able to hold jobs down, suffering through PTSD, have no friends or family to turn to currently after being backstabbed repeatedly, and honestly? I just don't feel equipped to deal with this girl's problems which it seems she has. I'm not her therapist or her hugbox. All I did was give birth to her. I put her up for adoption so she could have a family that can love her in ways that I knew I could not. I have a lot to deal with and I can't just take this on as well. Life isn't a Hallmark movie, I doubt "showing a little humanity" to her would help either of us especially since I just don't feel I can. "Fortunately, OBC rights (as well as services like 23 and me) are eliminating the culture of people being led to believe they can just walk away and be done with their child." quote:She is not a child. She is an adult, a 21 year old, and (according to her) a college graduate. I don't see why I need to drop everything and force myself into a parental relationship with this girl just because I birthed her. I don't and can't deal with this right now. I just spend hours having a panic attack because some guy in this post basically implied I am subhuman for not wanting contact with her. I don't have the mental strength to continue this farce, and it seems that all I can do now is draft a letter to her, and hope she will go away. Because otherwise the law might not help me here. quote:I'm sorry to the mods because I'm sure this is against the rules but gently caress you.
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Mirthless posted:
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:42 |
pidan posted:Short and sweet from /r/legaladvice: On the other hand, what dumbass parent tries to charge their kid with a felony without actually meaning it?
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:43 |
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I was being charitable but yeah
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:45 |
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I think everyone should try and show kindness to other people, but I really don't fault this lady for being angry. She did what her circumstances permitted to give that kid the best life possible and accepted the consequences. Leave her the gently caress alone.
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MinionOfCthulhu posted:The post is locked now and most of the comments are deleted but people were tearing her apart for her decision. This is why we need to make it easier to get abortions and do more to reduce the stigma. gently caress these god drat kid-havers. It's only people who spawned who would do this to a victim of trauma. The only thing worse than people who judge those who abort their children are people who judge those who adopt them out. Pick one, assholes!
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MinionOfCthulhu posted:"Fortunately, OBC rights (as well as services like 23 and me) are eliminating the culture of people being led to believe they can just walk away and be done with their child." Hey, it’s a new and entirely credible argument in favor of abortion. *aborting the person who wrote this, not the adoptee, in case I wasn’t entirely clear.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:47 |
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ugh this just boils my loving blood "Well I love MY kids so I don't see why you don't love yours! You horrible person! Every day I'm alive my special little Aiden gives me so much joy! Every second of every day I THANK THE LORD JESUS that I have a little Taylor and our tiny baby Madison to give my otherwise completely useless life meaning! How DARE you not want your own little Kennedie?" edit: that is definitely not a real quote I just loving hate this kind of person
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:52 |
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If my kid showed up 21 years later against my wishes I'd abort them on the spot.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 16:55 |
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:Huh, missed the last 5000 or so posts, glad to see the thread's still going strong Not for long. I'm about to Powder Keg to the Balkans this poo poo. I [29/F] am afraid to have children with my White [32/M] partner quote:I am Black, Haitian specifically. My partner is French, White by race. We are both first generation immigrants in America.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:15 |
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That kid should probably lawyer up himself and prepare to testify that his parents made a false report. Encouraged him to leave in the car, threw the keys at him and told him to get out, only to call the police as "revenge", all because he threatened to tell them about how they molested him or whatever the gently caress he can come up with. Once they call the police on you, they are enemies.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Not for long. I'm about to Powder Keg to the Balkans this poo poo. Sorry your brain is broken, but 15-20% of their classmates will be mixed race in school so other prents might be poo poo but theyll have other kids to hang out with.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:18 |
Another father who went "haha just kidding" after calling the cops
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:20 |
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I don't see the issue. He called the cops because someone needed to be taught a lesson, and now a lesson has been learned.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:22 |
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That lesson is "don't call the cops"
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:23 |
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[MN] School is accusing me of cheating with no evidence. I'm now suspended and want access to my social media and email to prove my innocence. (self.legaladvice)quote:I'm being accused of cheating in a math exam. I am 16 years old. I got a perfect score in the exam and the teacher asked me to stay after the class and she told me that she knows I cheated. I didn't cheat. My math has always been good except last year when I was dealing with depression. She says she knows someone of my mental faculties will never be able to get a perfect score so I must have cheated.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Not for long. I'm about to Powder Keg to the Balkans this poo poo. Haitian French is an unlikely coupling.
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maskenfreiheit posted:[MN] School is accusing me of cheating with no evidence. I'm now suspended and want access to my social media and email to prove my innocence. (self.legaladvice) 10bux they're a minority in that shithole state.
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Mirthless posted:ugh this just boils my loving blood I am certain this exact quote has been said verbatim by at least one Mommy Soldier. I'm 100% with the mom here; she gave her medical history and asked to go no-contact. The daughter should've respected that. I can understand why people feel for the daughter, hoping for her own reunion story, but life isn't a daytime TV show and sometimes pregnancies are mistakes.
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Maggie Fletcher posted:I am certain this exact quote has been said verbatim by at least one Mommy Soldier. I'm 100% with the mom here; she gave her medical history and asked to go no-contact. The daughter should've respected that. I can understand why people feel for the daughter, hoping for her own reunion story, but life isn't a daytime TV show and sometimes pregnancies are mistakes. Mistake is putting it a little lightly for this one.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 17:42 |
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Yeah, and telling the daughter WHY she doesn't want anything to do with her might help... but it's not like the daughter has respected her boundaries so far, and I'd honestly be worried about providing emotional ammo. I don't think biomom handled the situation as gracefully as it could have been handled, but part of that is because she's dealing with her own mental health issues which is why she didn't want anything to do with her kid in the first place. There's not a happy reunion to be had here. Also it sounds like daughter has been hounded biomom over who her biodad is, which is, um, well.
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maskenfreiheit posted:[MN] School is accusing me of cheating with no evidence. I'm now suspended and want access to my social media and email to prove my innocence. (self.legaladvice) "School Principal" seems like one of that jobs that just makes you stupid if you do it for too long. The poo poo they do that just would not fly at all in any other setting...
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Maggie Fletcher posted:I am certain this exact quote has been said verbatim by at least one Mommy Soldier. I'm 100% with the mom here; she gave her medical history and asked to go no-contact. The daughter should've respected that. I can understand why people feel for the daughter, hoping for her own reunion story, but life isn't a daytime TV show and sometimes pregnancies are mistakes. I've considered trying to dig up my birth parents about once a year since I was 18 or so, mostly for medical/genetic reasons (closed adoption in Louisiana, you can't even find your birth parents unless they're also looking for you) but the paperwork is still sitting in my file cabinet at 37 because I always follow up with the thought that they gave me up for a reason. Yes, it kills me that my daughter is the only person I'll ever know that looks like me, and I want to know if I have brothers or sisters, but it's not my family; it never was. I have a mother, as many issues as I have with her (and there are many). I had a father. I want to know, but I also don't want to disrupt my birth parents' life or their family just because I'm curious whether autism and ADD/OCD run in my blood or if it's just coincidence. I get why this kid wants to find her but if the answer is no, sometimes you just gotta move on. It's more likely to be a "uh...we never thought you'd find us, sorry, we don't really want anything to do with you" than the plot of a Lifetime original movie.
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PetraCore posted:Yeah, and telling the daughter WHY she doesn't want anything to do with her might help... but it's not like the daughter has respected her boundaries so far, and I'd honestly be worried about providing emotional ammo. I don't think biomom handled the situation as gracefully as it could have been handled, but part of that is because she's dealing with her own mental health issues which is why she didn't want anything to do with her kid in the first place. There's not a happy reunion to be had here. The OP is a good person at heart, and the way Reddit treated her is loving abominable. You can tell they're a good person because they still haven't gone "you were a rape baby, and I never knew your father."
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TheScott2K posted:"School Principal" seems like one of that jobs that just makes you stupid if you do it for too long. The poo poo they do that just would not fly at all in any other setting... Not sure if it's "dumb" so much as "I think I'l get away with it because kids are dumb and afraid of authority".
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:00 |
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At least we know where that rape baby got her inability to take "no" for an answer from.
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mojo1701a posted:Not sure if it's "dumb" so much as "I think I'l get away with it because kids are dumb and afraid of authority". I don't think it's always malice, though. I think having a relatively free hand with this kind of thing, and being the person who has to make determinations without the benefit of legal due process - especially in high school, where Grades Count - ends up distorting the perspective of even well-intentioned people in that position.
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MachineryNoise posted:At least we know where that rape baby got her inability to take "no" for an answer from. This is such a wrong thing to say that it almost loops back around.
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MinionOfCthulhu posted:The post is locked now and most of the comments are deleted but people were tearing her apart for her decision.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:14 |
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I'd guess that most birth mothers would be somewhat interested in meeting their offspring, but if one is not that's perfectly legitimate. Even if there's no tragic backstory. Likewise the kid would also have the right to shut down contact with their birth family if they're not interested.
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lemon-lyme disease posted:This is such a wrong thing to say that it almost loops back around. That would also be an amazing way to drop that particular bomb on the daughter. Mom [57F] wants sister [26F] to room with me [19M] for college because my sister is jealous quote:EDIT: I've concluded that I'll discuss the situation with my mom, and, if things don't work out, look into internships to pay for my own place after a semester.
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MachineryNoise posted:At least we know where that rape baby got her inability to take "no" for an answer from. lol holy poo poo
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MachineryNoise posted:At least we know where that rape baby got her inability to take "no" for an answer from. fruit on the bottom posted:That would also be an amazing way to drop that particular bomb on the daughter. Your sister will purposely sabotage your academic career if you live with her. Agree to the condo then change the locks.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:32 |
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LethalGeek posted:You mean the hive mind at a site like reddit doesn't really take rape seriously???!? comedy option: tell the child in a letter that you understand for it's difficult to tolerate a "no", given that their father was a rapist
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:42 |
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"You know you're a lot like your father" "Really? What was he like?" "He couldn't take no for answer and didn't care about my consent."
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:44 |
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MachineryNoise posted:At least we know where that rape baby got her inability to take "no" for an answer from.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 18:44 |
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Probably shouldn't ram cops etc.
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# ? Oct 13, 2017 19:03 |
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LethalGeek posted:You mean the hive mind at a site like reddit doesn't really take rape seriously???!? Yeah but let's talk about False Rape Reporting and how it is the worst thing ever.
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>Iowa >Pickup Trucks >This Quote: quote:Comstock told the newspaper he's outraged police shot his son. Other family members told the newspaper police should have backed off the pursuit because they knew who they were chasing. lmao i wonder how these people feel about recent police brutality Mirthless fucked around with this message at 19:15 on Oct 13, 2017 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:"You know you're a lot like your father"
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