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My (23M) ex (20F) keeps calling me saying she wants to come back to me but is pregnant with one night standquote:So a bit of back ground. Reddit I found an open bear trap in the woods. I'd never actually body slam it but I feel guilty that it goes un-body slammed. What should I do?"
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Danaru posted:My (23M) ex (20F) keeps calling me saying she wants to come back to me but is pregnant with one night stand Duh, touch it but don't body slam it. Unstable bear traps know the difference and it definitely won't clamp onto you and never ever let you go.
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Oct 25, 2017 14:02
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Avenging_Mikon posted:You’re an idiot and an rear end in a top hat. CharlestheHammer posted:Lol gently caress off.  Now that we've got all that sass out of our systems, we can get back to posting some great sadbrains content: Caught husband jerking off in living room (self.relationship_advice) quote:My husband (34 yrs) and me are married for more than 3 years now.  the writing style of this reminds me of what Chuck Tingle would sound like if he was a married woman. Anyways, enjoy your weird whataboutist Reddit husband lady maskenfreiheit fucked around with this message at 14:36 on Oct 25, 2017 |
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Oct 25, 2017 14:30
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How does a 'creep' fake not being a 'creep' at clubs? (self.dating_advice)quote:Im 29 years old. Never had more than 3 dates straight let a lone a relationship. Countless times I've been told I'm a 'creep' when trying to hit on women. All I do is tell them my name and ask what they do and such. If anything, I don't even know how to flirt. It's probably code for being ugly (I'm tall but balding bad). It's got to the point where women scare me, so I've avoided clubs for about over a year now. Scarred from being hurt by them so many times and wasting so much time with people who can't stand me. Hahahaha. I'd bet  he's walking up to insanely attractive women and talking about himself.(What do you do ladies do? I'm very good at my job  )
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Oct 25, 2017 14:44
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maskenfreiheit posted:How does a 'creep' fake not being a 'creep' at clubs? (self.dating_advice) First and foremost, learn how to spell "epitome." Then stop using that word in normal conversation.
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Oct 25, 2017 14:49
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maskenfreiheit posted:How does a 'creep' fake not being a 'creep' at clubs? (self.dating_advice) Stop trying to meet people in clubs, weirdo. It's not the frickin' '70s, you have other options besides the Discoteque.
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Oct 25, 2017 14:59
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Stop trying to meet people in clubs, weirdo. It's not the frickin' '70s, you have other options besides the Discoteque. Well, stop trying to talk to people in them. It's totally possible to dance with someone, move over to the bar, and ask them to go home. But that would require the ability to read body language well enough to not get thrown out for pulling a night at the roxbury.
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Oct 25, 2017 15:07
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"I was at my local discotheque enjoying some Duran Duran, and every woman I met had the GALL to blow me off. I was even dressed in my best pastel Miami Vice outfit complete with skinny tie."
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Oct 25, 2017 15:20
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You can practically smell the fedora through his post.
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Oct 25, 2017 15:24
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Gorilla Salad posted:You can practically smell the fedora through his post.
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Oct 25, 2017 15:29
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Sorry, that should be trillby.
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Oct 25, 2017 15:32
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Ham Sandwiches posted:An interviewer [F/20s] canceled an interview with me for a job because I asked to do a phone call interview because the location is an hour away. Am I [30F] in the wrong here? Lmao, what a loving idiot. It would take me a whole hour to get there!
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Oct 25, 2017 15:56
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Showing zero effort is a great way to get a job.
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Oct 25, 2017 15:57
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An hour is too far to go once, but if you hire me I will do it 5 times a week.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:01
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I feel like an old man ranting about lazy kids but A) that person is somehow my age, and B) I'm so loving angry that someone would torpedo their shot at a job they're interested in and apparently had a good chance of getting because they didn't want to travel for a loving hour.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:03
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Two hours is a lot of travel for an interview you don't think will turn into a job. I've turned down interviews for jobs because they are like, a twenty minute drive from the hour-away train station in connecticut, I don't really blame her. I was not that desperate for a job though so if she is that's a little silly.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:08
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Two hours is a lot of travel for an interview you don't think will turn into a job. I've turned down interviews for jobs because they are like, a twenty minute drive from the hour-away train station in connecticut, I don't really blame her. I was not that desperate for a job though so if she is that's a little silly. Yeah, the problem isn't that she doesn't want to drive for the interview, the problem is that she tries to flake out if the interview, and then is mad she gets turned down for the job.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:11
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Two hours is a lot of travel for an interview you don't think will turn into a job. I've turned down interviews for jobs because they are like, a twenty minute drive from the hour-away train station in connecticut, I don't really blame her. I was not that desperate for a job though so if she is that's a little silly. It's part of an afternoon? Do you want a job or not? Am I having a stroke?
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Oct 25, 2017 16:11
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bad day posted:It’s really odd how some posters in this thread respond like those being quoted are reading their replies. yeah seriously, wtf is this? like if you want to respond to the person why not just post it in the reddit thread? that way even if it's old there's a chance they might read your "great" advice?
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Oct 25, 2017 16:12
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Would be easier to post a link to the thread, I dunno why that isn't a rule
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Oct 25, 2017 16:15
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Never actually post on Reddit
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Oct 25, 2017 16:16
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Yeah there's a few perspectives here, I think the OP was fairly vague From the "I got an interview offer for a job I wanted" perspective, then not wanting to spend 1 hr each way seems hard to reconcile. Along with the email saying that they don't feel qualified it just doesn't fit very well. I guess this would be the career perspective like you applied, got screened by HR, etc. From the "I was applying to a bunch of places, this place was interested but given that it was a reach I'm not sure I wanna burn 2 hrs for a no" perspective, it makes more sense, although I don't know why you would push for a phone screen in that situation. Maybe this is more for job type positions where it's not very well paying. My reading was that the person wanted the position but was just being too casual about it, like it's nbd whether they do it in person or via skype, and the first email came across to me as insecurity instead of declining the interview offer.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:17
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Patrick Spens posted:Yeah, the problem isn't that she doesn't want to drive for the interview, the problem is that she tries to flake out if the interview, and then is mad she gets turned down for the job. Floating the phone/skype interview wasn't even the worst part, it was adding "because I'm underqualified and don't want to waste our time." Look I am as self-effacing and aware of my shittiness as anyone on this dumb, dying planet but if I am interviewing for a job to put food on my family I'm in full on sales mode. "How would you say you are at multitasking?" I can't even do one task good. "I would say that's one of my strengths. In my previous positions I..."
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Oct 25, 2017 16:18
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I've gone out massively early for job interviews just to make sure I find the place on time and sufficiently caffeinated. You literally snooze, you literally lose, it's not like employers are generous nowadays.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:18
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Hell Yeah posted:yeah seriously, wtf is this? like if you want to respond to the person why not just post it in the reddit thread? that way even if it's old there's a chance they might read your "great" advice? 1. if this is confusing to you, you might be dumb. 2. don't touch the poop. edit: watch MST3K and yell at the dudes on the screen not to yell at the dudes on the screen tia
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Oct 25, 2017 16:25
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ReadingZucchini posted:1. if this is confusing to you, you might be dumb. Also invent two robots to yell with you.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:28
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Inescapable Duck posted:I've gone out massively early for job interviews just to make sure I find the place on time and sufficiently caffeinated. You literally snooze, you literally lose, it's not like employers are generous nowadays. I mean this person could leave the house at noon, stop for lunch or something on the way, do the interview and be home by four. This is all besides the point that she canceled the interview herself.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:43
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ReadingZucchini posted:1. if this is confusing to you, you might be dumb. yeah wait a minute, how does posting the exact same type of advice given in the responses on reddit qualify as touching the poop?
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Oct 25, 2017 16:54
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I've never gone into a job interview feeling like I wasn't horribly underqualified. Somehow I still keep getting hired and doing fine at jobs.
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Oct 25, 2017 16:59
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People at my workplace have literally flown in from other countries and stayed in hotels in order to interview for positions here...complaining about an hour's drive seems so dumb in comparison lmao
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Oct 25, 2017 17:00
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ranbo das posted:I've never gone into a job interview feeling like I wasn't horribly underqualified. Somehow I still keep getting hired and doing fine at jobs. Same except for the doing fine part. I am able to fake it well enough tho.
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Oct 25, 2017 17:01
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Tender Bender posted:It's part of an afternoon? Do you want a job or not? Am I having a stroke? A better example - in college, I was a senior and a company wanted me to fly to chicago for a second-round interview over a weekend. I didn't have any offers at the time but I had other interview prospects. I planned on going - a weekend is a lot and I had a bunch of schoolwork to do but finding a job was more important than any homework. However, upon reflection, I realized that I in no way wanted to work there, and I wasn't so desperate I'd just take anything, so I turned it down and spent the weekend chilling instead. (Apparently I was the only one to have done this?) If the interview had been in the city I lived in, I'd have happily gone and wasted their time because interview practice is valuable, but it wasn't worth the whole weekend. Now, the situation on reddit is different because she obviously did want the job even if it were an hour away, and she was self-effacing on the phone for some reason. Her actions are reasonable if she isn't desperate for a job, but make no sense if she is hard up.
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Oct 25, 2017 17:07
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Hell Yeah posted:yeah wait a minute, how does posting the exact same type of advice given in the responses on reddit qualify as touching the poop? 
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Oct 25, 2017 17:09
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I still would save the self-effacement regardless. I don't know how insular the salon owner community is, but it's probably safe to err on the side of assuming people talk regardless of the job type. I mean whether it's fair or it's right or it's even legal, people talk. So don't be complicit in your own sandbagging.
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Oct 25, 2017 17:10
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Adam Vegas posted:People at my workplace have literally flown in from other countries and stayed in hotels in order to interview for positions here...complaining about an hour's drive seems so dumb in comparison lmao It sounded like she was applying to a hair salon. That's not really comparable. Would you drive two hours to interview for Walmart cashier?
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Oct 25, 2017 17:10
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Yeah the whole situation is weird, I dug into the comments and here's more detail: The job is at some kind of hair salon The place where she'd be working is 30 minutes from her house, so it's 30 minutes to get there and 30 minutes back The interview location is an hour away The interview location was a cafe quote:Well the interview isn't being held in the same place as the salon. The place I'd work at is about 30 minutes from me quote:No it was being held at a cafe Ham Sandwiches fucked around with this message at 17:14 on Oct 25, 2017 |
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Oct 25, 2017 17:10
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Someone with a college degree and someone looking for a job in a hair salon have different career prospects
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Oct 25, 2017 17:13
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Yeah the whole situation is weird, I dug into the comments and here's more detail:
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Oct 25, 2017 17:15
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Do the OPs blank out their posts if they get controversial or is that mods/an automated process? The fucker with the cat-abusing girlfriend's post became just '[removed]' which I've seen happen to a few other posts where the commenters all rightly decided that OP was a loving turd.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:You know I did think it was weird that they mentioned an "interview location" - bizarre that it's not like, another site for the same business. She could have tried asking to do the interview at the salon. ("I'd like to see the workspace because XYZ" might do it.) Yeah asking for a different location (salon or coffee shop closer by) instead of a skype interview seems like it would have been the right move.
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