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Faffel posted:I've been on tons of AD and lost up to 80lb while on them. People respond differently to different meds. Some people might plump up, some might go 'are you sure you're eating enough?!' thin. It's really a roll of the dice. I've gotten the 'less <1% of patients reported _____' side effects on a few (which were ridiculous ones like random uncontrollable hand tremors or excessive sweating). But enough about med chat, here seems to be a rare reddit gem where the OP wholly denotes the situation is weird and what they are thinking is not normal Me [22F] with my brother [25M] who is an almost perfect guy and turned into my standard for men. Everyone falls short. This is unhealthy quote:My parents have two kids, me and my brother. We had a pretty vanilla upbringing bordering on boring. Our parents always kept us comfortable, and we fought here and there but because there's a three year difference, we didn't have a lot of overlapping things to fight over. It sounds like a bit of hero worship coupled with the brother having the means/money to take care of things most others wouldn't be able to. I had/have a generally lousy relationship with my older brother though, so I don't really get fawning over an older sibling.
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My fiance [26 M] cheated on me [24 F], together 5 yearsquote:My fiance is in the navy and whilst away for 9 weeks, two nights ago cheated on me by getting really drunk, taking cocaine, and sleeping with a prostitute. It is unlike him to take cocaine, but he does have an issue with getting too drunk. He has always said no to nights out in the Navy as it doesn't interested him and this was his first one. He has history from before we got together of sleeping with a prostitute in Amsterdam. He is back next Thursday. quote:His messages were getting worse and worse (drunk, letters all over the place) and said he was going to cross the border into a different country with two of his friends to carry on clubbing. I was concerned for his safety so I used friend finder (we normally only use it when the other is coming home, to know when to get a tea ready for them!), and was shocked to find that when he said he was in a club, there were no clubs near by, just a brothel. I sent a message to a friend he said he was with, and the friend said he wasn't with him. He admitted the next day he was with someone the rank above him who decided to go. I wasn't sure of myself but in the morning kept messaging him anyway asking what really happened, which initially he kept denying until finally admitting to it about half an hour later. quote:<How did this conversation come up?> quote:We weren't on a break and had just put down a deposit for our wedding next year, which they had all been discussing earlier on the night before he got ridiculously drunk (he was telling me about their conversations). quote:Thank you your answer is really sweet and thoughtful. And yeah that is a big thing I've been thinking about (if he's done it before and I just never knew). quote:It's so frustrating because he actually hates it in there and regrets joining so he's been actively trying to leave early and looking forward to the end of his return of service. quote:Yeah, I really don't want to be the type of person that's worried about their partner going out and getting anxious or jealous. It's just come as such a shock - I mean how am I going to know if someone else in the future won't do this to me? I have no idea how people recover from being cheated on, it's such a strange wave of emotions. quote:I still haven't made me decision but he's stated he will be going to counselling, whether we remain together or not, of his own accord. Whether this is true it is a different story but we will see. quote:The thing is that I know he would be, I can't begin to describe his amazing qualities. If it wasn't for that night, he is genuinely the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful man I have ever met and he is amazing with his niece and nephew. Brings me a cup of tea every morning, does housework without asking, has supported me through so much, we have the same humor, play games together etc. But then he does this.
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LadyPictureShow posted:People respond differently to different meds. Some people might plump up, some might go 'are you sure you're eating enough?!' thin. It's really a roll of the dice. I've gotten the 'less <1% of patients reported _____' side effects on a few (which were ridiculous ones like random uncontrollable hand tremors or excessive sweating). Have sex with the brother, find out he's terrible in bed, now your world crashes down around you.
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I Was The Fury posted:My (35f) am confused about rare, but unhealthy, behavior of newlywed husband (31m) 
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How do medications break thermodynamic laws, is it mostly just waterweight or do they just affect your appetite and self control? If you're still eating a reasonable amount and exercising regularly it shouldn't be physically possible to put on 50 pounds.
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ArbitraryC posted:How do medications break thermodynamic laws, is it mostly just waterweight or do they just affect your appetite and self control? If you're still eating a reasonable amount and exercising regularly it shouldn't be physically possible to put on 50 pounds. As per WebMD quote:Although there are a number of theories as to why antidepressants lead to weight gain, Sussman believes that both appetite and metabolism may be affected.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Me [22F] with my brother [25M] who is an almost perfect guy and turned into my standard for men. Everyone falls short. This is unhealthy What I don't really get is how any of the things she lists add up to an unrealistic or "unhealthy" standard.
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EDIT: And that's what happens when I forget to refresh the page.
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Doc Hawkins posted:What I don't really get is how any of the things she lists add up to an unrealistic or "unhealthy" standard. Most adult men want to drink and cry, not fix poo poo.
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Doc Hawkins posted:What I don't really get is how any of the things she lists add up to an unrealistic or "unhealthy" standard. uh she's saying her standard is a rich fit guy that can afford to support his parents, donate to charity, and still has the free time to fly across the country to fix an insulation leak in your attic on a whim. She's right in thinking it's fairly unlikely she'll find such a match.
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Oct 26, 2017 18:41
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Hell, I’m in love with the guy too.
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Oct 26, 2017 18:42
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fruit on the bottom posted:My fiance [26 M] cheated on me [24 F], together 5 years
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Her brother assuredly beats the everloving poo poo out of homeless guys on the weekend like some Patrick Bateman poo poo
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The posts are short, please give reading them a shot. He flew overseas because his aunt was in the hospital and alone, not to fix a leak. I mean she's not finding anyone like that, but that's at least a reasonable thing to do if you have money. e: but yeah guaranteed dude has a weird porn habit minimum
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Doc Hawkins posted:What I don't really get is how any of the things she lists add up to an unrealistic or "unhealthy" standard. Same, to be honest. Like maybe she's just dating lovely dudes? While I don't expect boyfriends to suddenly drop cash on broken car lights without discussing it with their partner, i wouldn't be surprised if the boyfriends don't put in as much effort in the relationship as they could and that's how she's trying to express her dissatisfaction? In summary four twenty date women every day.
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The subreddit is full of tedious romance bullshit, but this is the good stuff that should stir some debate: My boyfriend [28M] abuses my work phone to call me about personal things. I [27F] regret ever giving him the number and don't know what to do. quote:u/workphonecalls If I was having chips and couldn’t find the vinegar, drat straight I’d be on the blower to the missus.
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Anne Whateley posted:The posts are short, please give reading them a shot. He flew overseas because his aunt was in the hospital and alone, not to fix a leak. I mean she's not finding anyone like that, but that's at least a reasonable thing to do if you have money. I was making a joke by combining him being handy and frequently helping fix stuff for relatives with him also being be able to drop everything, buy a plane ticket, and fly across the country. I mean yeah if you have the time available it's a nice thing to do. i was in grad school when my mom's favorite dog died so I took a day off and drove 6 hours to spend the weekend with her, but like not everyone can just cancel Friday or afford to make such a trip, it's not something reasonable to "expect" but it is something to respect if someone can do it.
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Milotic posted:The subreddit is full of tedious romance bullshit, but this is the good stuff that should stir some debate: Dump this idiot for not comprehending how to text in tyool 2017. What kind of a dope calls their partner for "where is the vinegar"?
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Buzkashi posted:Dump this idiot for not comprehending how to text in tyool 2017. What kind of a dope calls their partner for "where is the vinegar"? one who doesn't know where the vinegar is and needs it for something they're in the process of cooking like he should be respecting her preferences, but there are a lot of people and jobs for who that would be a totally reasonable 30 second call
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DACK FAYDEN posted:/r/relationships: It is unlike him to take cocaine /r/relationships: It is unlike my seaman to take cocaine whilst drinking and banging strippers on shore leave
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Doc Hawkins posted:What I don't really get is how any of the things she lists add up to an unrealistic or "unhealthy" standard. It's unhealthy in that she's pitting any potential boyfriends against this perfect version of her brother. I mean the guy could be literally that perfect, but it's probable that she's got blinders to some sort of flaws (everyone has flaws). Many of the things she lists are also impossible unless you're rich as gently caress, yes they're all nice things to do, but they're nice and made possible by him being rich. At least she doesn't mention being jealous of his girlfriends or wishing she was them or anything so at least it's more of a "impossible standard" than a "I want to gently caress my brother" thing... There's nothing wrong with wanting to find a dude that is like her brother (since he sounds like he's a good guy), but she needs to take her admiration down a notch and realize not everyone can do what he's doing and she's idealizing him at least to some extent.
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Buzkashi posted:Dump this idiot for not comprehending how to text in tyool 2017. What kind of a dope calls their partner for "where is the vinegar"? It's kind of odd cause even tho texting should be perfect for short questions sometimes the medium just sorta lets people sit on stuff forever and forget about it so if it's something you need to know right now and not an hour from now it's not really that unreasonable to call them. Hitting someone up at work to ask about the vinegar is kind of a funny extreme of this tho.
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LGD posted:one who doesn't know where the vinegar is and needs it for something they're in the process of cooking There are also a lot of people who would respect their partners desire to not have their work number used for anything but emergencies. She should dump that guy and either find one of those people or preferably just never date because all people are terrible
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Also I hate that the dude is so loving clingy that he's crying about not being called during the work day
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Ouhei posted:It's unhealthy in that she's pitting any potential boyfriends against this perfect version of her brother. I mean the guy could be literally that perfect, but it's probable that she's got blinders to some sort of flaws (everyone has flaws). Many of the things she lists are also impossible unless you're rich as gently caress, yes they're all nice things to do, but they're nice and made possible by him being rich. At least she doesn't mention being jealous of his girlfriends or wishing she was them or anything so at least it's more of a "impossible standard" than a "I want to gently caress my brother" thing... yeah it's basically unhealthy in the same way dudes who have no dating experience sometimes latch onto their female friends/acquaintances and start fantasizing about how their life would be perfect with them, she's putting her brother on a pedestal cause she's never really had to deal with him on a level where she would realize his poo poo stinks too. That plus the whole "a lot of his good traits are entirely dependent on him being affluent" thing.
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fruit on the bottom posted:My fiance [26 M] cheated on me [24 F], together 5 years When I finally compile the list of things that cause me to instantly turn on the author, regardless of the content, using the word "whilst" will be at the top of the list.
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[AL] Apartment construction has me trapped inside a few days before I plan to move outquote:I am a renter in a small apartment building. Each side of the building, front and back, has a door and a set of stairs. So I have a back door in my bedroom that leads to the back stairs, and a front door in my living room that leads to front stairs. My lease is up and I gave a 30-day notice to move out this upcoming Saturday. My landlord acknowledged this at the time and knew that I was moving out.
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Unless you're from Britain you cannot use the term "whilst".
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She said it was important to know when he was going to be back so she could have a tea ready. Whatever country she’s in, she’s British.
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ArbitraryC posted:How do medications break thermodynamic laws, is it mostly just waterweight or do they just affect your appetite and self control? If you're still eating a reasonable amount and exercising regularly it shouldn't be physically possible to put on 50 pounds. That jacked up med they put me on made me literally eat in my sleep. Like entire cakes in one go. I'd wake up with all kinds of food smashed all over me. Seriously. gently caress any medication that reprograms your brain.
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Is this a violation of trust? Am I overreacting?quote:Okay so this is kind of a long story so bear with me. Awhile ago I (22F) went through my boyfriend's (29M) phone of around 3 years (I know I shouldn't have) and I found some messages between him and a girl that used to date... they were friends through high school and dated for a few months then, dated again in college, and then gave it one last shot when they were adults. Basically she texted him out of the blue and said "I still love you and I'll always love you no matter what" and he responded saying i love you too. She went on and on about how much he means to her and he said word for word "you're still the person that knows me best" (kind of a slap to my face). I was upset and confronted him and we got over it, even though it does still sting a little. So fast forward a few months and now we have a house together. We split the down payment for the house and the mortgage payments. We searched for the right house for awhile and he found one that he liked (that I didn't because it needed so much work) and put an offer on it without even consulting me! I was upset and confronted him and we worked through it. Now we make decisions together yada yada yada. Fast forward to now by a strange turn of events when I find out that this ex girlfriend lives right down the street to our house in the exact same neighborhood...literally 2 seconds away. You can see her house from our driveway. I confronted him, he lied said he didn't know, and then admitted he knew she lived there but just didn't think about it when putting the offer on our house (without me). I'm really uncomfortable with this whole thing...should I be? Is this kind of cheating or at the very least a big red flag? I'm not sure how to handle this or react but I do feel very blindsided and hurt by this whole thing.
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almightyerin posted:That jacked up med they put me on made me literally eat in my sleep. Like entire cakes in one go. I'd wake up with all kinds of food smashed all over me. Seriously. gently caress any medication that reprograms your brain. The jacked up med they put me on made me feel self-worth for the first time in my life and made me not want to kill myself.
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Doggles posted:Is this a violation of trust? Am I overreacting? lol
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Doggles posted:Is this a violation of trust? Am I overreacting? drat you should have left him when he put down an offer on a house without you. Possibly when he said he loved his ex still.
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I Was The Fury posted:The jacked up med they put me on made me feel self-worth for the first time in my life and made me not want to kill myself. loving big pharma, they'd do anything for a buck 
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Doggles posted:Is this a violation of trust? Am I overreacting? That parable about building a house on sand, seems very apt here.
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MF_James posted:drat you should have left him when he put down an offer on a house without you. Possibly when he said he loved his ex still. Yeah I don't know how you excuse away the whole being in love with his ex thing, does he just say he was lying to her? But yeah, dude is hung up on this ex for sure and it's only a matter of time before he cheats (if he isn't already).
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almightyerin posted:That jacked up med they put me on made me literally eat in my sleep. Like entire cakes in one go. I'd wake up with all kinds of food smashed all over me. Seriously. gently caress any medication that reprograms your brain. This is hilariously awful but I hope that you haven't extrapolated all of that from a single data point.
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