Labes for days posted:

The truth hurts, Sis. Good thing younger sister is willing to put it out there for her rear end in a top hat older sibling while Mom and Dad handle the child-abandoner with kid gloves.

Esoteric Scientist posted:

mermaid chick is back

Girlfriend [24F] had a weird thing with water that left me concerned, then she was gone and now she's back and I [28M] need help again.

Doc Hawkins posted:

This would make a good movie. Splash meets Don Juan Demarco.

Doc Hawkins posted:

This would make a good movie. Splash meets Don Juan Demarco.

LadyPictureShow posted:

Mom [66F] leaving stepdad [80M] after 27 yrs. New BF [57M], asked her to have a baby.

I'm so sad the post was removed because everything about this title is just

From the comments, the mother is rather well off, and they have been dating for all of three weeks.

pidan posted:

There have been a bunch of 66 year olds giving birth in the last 10 years. If this actually happened, maybe they asked the OP to donate egg cells.

Don't have kids in your 60s, you're likely to die or become an invalid before they're grown and it will be horrible for them. This goes for guys too by the way.

failing forward posted:

One of my HS friends had a dad who was in his 70's when she was 14. Her mom was in her early 40's. All those kids were f'ed up, and their dad was super weird. He used to walk around in his tidy whities all the time

Pick posted:

My uncle had kids in his 60s. booooy is it weird.

Bamabalacha posted:

I had a friend in high school whose dad was in his mid 70s when we were 16. He was a really well regarded cardiologist who met the mom when she was a resident under him.

He then set up my friend with one of his current residents when we were loving 16. Dude was in his late 20s and dating a high school girl and the whole thing had been set up by the parents. It was loving disgusting.

Gorilla Salad posted:

You never take such a huge decision away from another person. Never.

When it was that woman a few pages ago who went and removed every single memento and photo of her husband's late wife, everyone tore her apart. Because how dare anyone do something like that.

Yes, the letter may have hurt, but nothing gives a person the right to just destroy that. Steal that closure from a hurting mother and sister.

quote:

I've been dating this girl, Cara, for just over two months. I really like her! We have a lot of fun when we're together and share a lot of interests. Cara is polyamorous and has two other partners whom she has been dating longer than me. I'm fine with this — we've been really good about discussing boundaries, jealousy, etc. and I really like one of her other partners as a friend. I don't necessarily identify as poly myself, but so far this has been successful and I know that I am free to date other people if I would like to.

The only problem is her boyfriend, Aaron. Aaron and Cara have been dating for over a year, and I can't stand him. He smokes weed constantly, he's annoying, he has bad boundaries, he's often creepy towards younger women, he only talks about himself, he's not going anywhere with his life, etc. Everyone I know who has dated him in the past has said he's mistreated (but not abused) them in their relationship. He slept with a good friend of mine while she tripping and he was mostly sober — she was okay with it, but said that she didn't think it was consensual enough and he said things that made her think that he often seeks out women who are intoxicated. He sells drugs to freshmen at a nearby college. He's slightly racist/sexist/transphobic, but only enough to pick up on and not enough to bring up with anyone.

For some additional context, Cara has never indicated that their relationship is anything but great. She also rarely does drugs of any kind, though she is tolerant of his usage.
I don't need to hang out with Aaron in order to date Cara, but she talks about him relatively frequently and I know that they are serious about each other. I also know that she prefers for her partners to be friends with each other, but that's not possible for me. A large part of me feels weird dating someone who is dating someone I dislike so much. I've felt the same way about being friends with people who have lovely/similar friends, but usually they eventually realize their friends suck, or I feel comfortable asking them to not talk about those friends with me. Given the kind of weird web of relationships formed here, I'm not sure I want to stick around for that, if it ever happens. I am just so, so uncomfortable with the fact that, even if I don't need to be his friend, he's in my life now because we are dating the same person. And I'm a little worried for Cara, given that no one I know who has dated him has had anything good to say about him post-breakup.

At this point, if Cara were to choose between us, she would choose Aaron. I wouldn't ask her, but I know that she is much more serious about Aaron than myself. I really enjoy her company and we've been getting to know each other really well, and I don't want to throw that away over something like this. But I am not really sure how to proceed. I'm thinking my current options are:

1) break up

2) get over it

3) somehow bring it up?

I need advice on what to do. I'm more inclined towards 2 and 3, but I'm not really sure how to do either.

tl;dr: been dating a girl for a couple months, her boyfriend is an annoying deadbeat, not sure how to proceed

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Me [21F] with my gf [20F] of two months, she's poly and I hate her boyfriend [23M]



after ing Aaron, Jesus Christ.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Me [21F] with my gf [20F] of two months, she's poly and I hate her boyfriend [23M]

Dienes posted:

Kind of a nice racket he has going on there. Make money selling drugs to young women, then take advantage of them while they are on drugs.

She needs to get out of there before something bad happens to her.

quote:

Title: [NY] Resturants are rotting against me

Original Post:

It probably sounds like I'm mentally ill and paranoid, but it's actually happening.

I used to have this favorite resturant I went to every other week (I don't eat out much). One day, the staff wouldn't serve me and asked me to leave. Before I even sat down! I tried to reason with them but the manager came and threaten to call the police. It was so embarrasing.

I found another resturant nearby I liked, and started going there instead. After maybe a couple of months they did the exact same thing! Again, I hadn't even been seated so it's not like I did something wrong. I didn't bother to argue with them, just told them to go hell and went to yet another loving resturant.

So far it's a weird coincident, but now it gets creepy. I went to a resturant nearby that I've never been in before and they also asked me to leave! When I asked why, they just told me they weren't interested in my service, even tho they server other people right at that moment. It wasn't full or even close either.

There has to be somekinda agenda against me here. This can't possibly be legal, right? How do I begin to take legal action?

quote:

When I was actively a server we had to have an apron that held pen and paper, so to answer your question yes I always had pen and paper.>

You ARE NOT answering my question. Here's the question:

DO YOU EVERY SINGLE TIME COME TO THE TABLE WITH PAD AND PEN *********IN YOUR HANDS********* SO YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE YOU AREN'T WRITING IT DOWN? When it's in your apron pocket, the customer doesn't SEE it therefore, to them, their impression is that you aren't writing things down. Also, what did you do if you went to the table, then they asked for something, did you take your pad and pen out of your pocket? If you did, do you have to make them repeat it due to you not remembering it during the time you wasted of theirs to take it out of your apron pocket?

I am asking if you had a pad and pen ****IN YOUR HANDS****, IN YOUR HANDS, IN YOUR HANDS********* so the customer can see that you are going to write down a list. Without that, how will they know they can tell you 10 things at once with you remembering them, because it APPEARS* to the customer you aren't willing to write things down if the pad and pen are in your apron pocket, huh?

If you continuously have bad experiences at restaurants maybe it's not the establishments but you.>

NO, it's not me, it's the lazy, uncaring, and dingy staff members.

quote:

You servers need to STOP LEAVING SO FAST SO WE CAN ASK FOR MORE THAN ONE THING! PLEASE! I think servers do this because they are TOO LAZY TO WRITE THINGS DOWN and truly don’t want to do these request, am I right that it’s all about LAZINESS?

Also, sometimes servers will only write SOME PARTS of your order and not others such as once a waiter didn’t write down I wanted 2 sides of tartar sauce, then OF COURSE HE FORGOT THEM. WHY not write down the ENTIRE ORDER? WHY BE LAZY? WHY do you feel you should get a good tip if you don’t get the order correct for things you can control?

Please tell me WHY servers at times don’t write down your orders or even requests down? I mean you expect to remember 5 things after taking several other table’s request as well? That’s pretty hard for most people to do. I know I couldn’t do that without writing things down.

You don’t know HOW MANY THINGS I WILL ASK FOR. That’s WHY you WRITE THINGS DOWN!! We had a waitress at Bonefish Grill that was attempting to take our food orders WITHOUT WRITING THEM DOWN and eventually she took her pad and pen out, because it was too much I guess for her. WHY DO THIS poo poo? WHY NOT JUST BE PREPARED TO BEGIN WITH BY GETTING YOUR PAD AND PAPER OUT? WHY BE SO LAZY AND UNCARING about the customer, but then expect the customer to care about you at the end with a nice tip? Does that make ANY SENSE? If you want a good tip, you have to CARE about OUR DINING EXPERIENCE IN ORDER FOR US TO CARE ABOUT YOUR TIP!

WHY do you all LEAVE BEFORE WE HAVE A CHANCE TO ASK FOR EVERYTHING? Isn’t it because you know you can’t remember all of that without writing it ALL DOWN? BE HONEST NOW!!

Don’t you all want to make LESS TRIPS? Don’t you all want a GOOD TIP? I REALLY DON’T GET IT? You servers complain at times about bad tips, but then aren’t willing to WORK for that tip, WHY IS THAT? Well, I am waiting….. It’s just like not studying for a test and then expecting a good grade. You have to WORK for what you want in life! WHY can’t you servers out there not understand that, huh? By writing everything down, it would create LESS WORK and MORE TIME by combining things in LESS TRIPS, usually ONE TRIP rather than several and getting things faster means A BIGGER TIP IN MOST CASES. Makes EVERYONE HAPPIER, INCLUDING YOU ALL, THE SERVERS!

I am just truly frustrated with servers COMPLANING about this exact issue, but don’t want to actually *************DOOOOOOOO ANYTHING***** about it. If you want people not to run you, here are the things you need to do: 1. Have your pad and pen READY to write things down when you go to their table. 2. Ask if they need something. After one person speaks, say “anything else I can get you all” and if another person speaks, state again, “Anything else I can get you all.” Until they say “no” for sure. 3. OFFER specific things like get it in their mind like refills or another bar drink or a box, container for a condiment, more bread, etc. 4. Don’t leave BEFORE people have said their ENTIRE LIST either. I am so sick of servers that are doing that. I have that done A LOT! I mean, STAY PUT! I really think it’s that they don’t expect a list, but then want a list Either you do want to be ran or you don’t, PICK ONE! You can’t have it both ways to be too lazy to write things down, then want the customer to give you a list all at once of all the things they want. The average server is not going to remember 4 or more things especially after going to other tables that have called them over.

The main one is I really feel #1 that if you have your pad and pen, people will more likely tell you ALL the stuff they need, because they won’t be afraid you won’t remember all of that. Think about it. There’s no way I am going to give a list of 10 things if I see you aren’t writing them down anymore, I am just fed up with it! You either want to be ran or you don’t. You can’t have it BOTH WAYS! You don’t want to be ran, have your pad and pen. If you have dirty dishes, do like the Chili’s waitress I said that took my white russian order said “I have to write it down, because I won’t remember, so let me put these dishes down” is what she basically said to us. You can put them down on a dirty table or go to the kitchen and come back. I’d rather not have to tell you 2 and 3 times what I have already asked for and you’d rather not make more trips, so it’s a simple solution to try your best to remember what I said if you go back through your written list and get all the things you can out of that list to the customer.

Another time, I wanted to ask for a box, a bag, some containers for my condiments, and a refill on my soft drink, which all she got at first before she was going to run off was my bar drink order, which I got in at least the box and container request, she walked away BEFORE I could say more not wanting to get more request. I know why, she’s lazy and she doesn’t care. She WANTS to be ran and she doesn’t want to write it down either. You can’t have it both ways. I was going to ask for all of those things, which are 5 things. She wasn’t going to write my order down either, which she did, but I shouldn’t have to ask my server to write things down, especially food orders. I am just SICK of the servers like this that won’t LET YOU(GIVE YOU A CHANCE) to ask for everything you need at one time. WHY you servers want to complain about being ran, then not let us ask everything we need by running off so quickly?

I am just tired of servers complaining about this, then truly don’t want customers to ask them all at once. If you all did, you’d have your pad and pen READY to write down my every want EVERY SINGLE TIME you came to the table to ask us if we needed something. You would NEVER greet a table without your pad and pen, NOT EVER! You have NO CLUE if the customer is going to order a complicated bar drink with specific alcohols or an appetizer with modifications or fully order their entrées or fully order their entrées as well as appetizers or side salads, etc. or how many things they will ask for. BE PREPARED! Don’t act like you are perfect, NO ONE IS! A good server TRIES their best by writing EVERYTHING down. We recently had a time where I asked this waiter "Could you please possibly write my order down, because it's a lot?" His NASTY, LAZY rear end RESPONSE WAS "I HAVEN'T WRITTEN AN ORDER IN 12YRS." So he goes to get a pen and a napkin to write things down. Then he ask to ask AGAIN my husband's order that he ordered BEFORE he wrote mine down, which just *PROVED******* he ******NEEDED TO WRITE IT DOWN, that he *WASN'T PERFECT LIKE HE WAS ACTING LIKE. Instead of 25% he could have gotten, he got 18%-19%(can't remember if it was 18% or 19%). He didn't get 20% even, because of his nasty attitude.

So remember, when you want to complain about this issue, ASK YOURSELF***WHY****, is it *YOU or is it truly the CUSTOMER?

Now, have I as a customer unintentionally asked for things one at a time, YES, at a new restaurant for example, decided I wanted a margarita for example, but didn't when we ordered our non-bar drinks. Things like that, which was unintentional. Also, I have forgotten to ask for things, I am human just like everyone else. I do, HOWEVER, be nicer than most servers by APOLOGIZING when I do forget to ask for something. It's rare when I forget to ask for something, but when I do, I ALWAYS say I am sorry. I expect the same thing back from the server, but RARELY get it when THEY forget things. I am VERY NICE when I tell them about a mistake and when I order.

Plus sometimes when checks start getting past $100 plus and they only leave an 8 dollar tip it can be quite frustrating. >

It shouldn't be frustrating if you did a poor job. It depends on the service. If you did a good job, I 100 BILLION PERCENT TOTALLY AGREE with you, but if you didn't do a good job, I have to totally disagree with you on that.

quote:

lady.. youre complaining about free poo poo. gtfo.>

The ***SERVICE****** IS NOT FREE IDIOT! Doesn't the server want a tip DUMMY??? I am complaining about the SERVICE that I AM ****PAYING FOR******* YOU STUPID loving IGNORANT IDIOT that has to be explain this COMMON SENSE issue.

You are ignorant, NOT ME to have to be explained that service isn't free. Also, if you are in a large party or use a coupon that requires automatic gratuity, service isn't free if automatic gratuity is added.

It's not free, that's why I am complaining. MY TIME is being altered which I am PAYING* for called ******SERVICE********* you stupid moron that's getting DELAYED!

quote:

You are psychotic. I am VERY NORMAL. You are a VERY MEAN and HATEFUL person.

Just because I have common sense and told you the truth you have a problem with that, huh? Seriously, you are dumb!

quote:

H. I have ordered at Outback my fries "lightly cooked" "Not overdone and yellow not brown." I have had their fries before cooked the way I like them before many of times before this time I am talking about. This stupid waitress decided to blame the kitchen staff for REALLY DARK BROWN FRIES as if she was blind or something and my husband even told me he could see that they were really dark. My husband may not agree with me on every subject of course, but with that, you could EASILY tell just by LOOKING that those fries were overdone and very dark. She said she put in the order correctly. I am thinking, SO? I wish I could have said "Are you blind?" That was HER FAULT she DECIDED TO SERVE ME THOSE FRIES THAT WEREN'T CORRECT. I noticed the mistake within 3 seconds of my food being placed in front of me.

http://www.bunrab.com/dailyfeed/dailyfeed_images_feb-07/df07_02-04_baconn.jpg

You can tell in this picture above the bacon is very crispy just by simply LOOKING at it.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_vv2IGE5obwk/RwVi-0hZziI/AAAAAAAABjc/m6bP-Te_wJE/s320/IMG_8338.jpg

You can tell in this picture above the bacon is NOT CRISPY, just by simple LOOKING at the bacon.

quote:

"She's not pushing for restaurant patrons to tip more, she's pushing for servers' minimum wage to be raised so they DON'T have to rely solely on tips."

But that's not the employer's issue if the server decided to have kids, is it? If the employer paid more, the prices would go up in the restaurant, which means WE would be paying their wage in a way by the price hikes. We shouldn't be paying for servers to have kids. Servers having kids should NEVER be brought up in a tipping discussion, because it has nothing to do with tipping.

""Atlas Shrugged"

My husband read it, but I went see the movies with him(1st and 2nd movies). It was boring to me. I hate reading books, so you will NEVER catch me reading a book.

I never said I read any book, you do know that, right?

bubblebee posted:

Do people not realize that there are humans in the world who aren't trash garbage?

Adventure Pigeon posted:

Ok now I'm back to 3 years ago another 7 pages and she's still posting nothing except anger at restaurants except one post where she was angry about pizza delivery.

also lol


And from four years ago:


Auugggghhhhh

Adventure Pigeon posted:

I found something special in /r/legaladvice today

A person said restaurants were conspiring against them but deleted their post, so I found the bestoflegaladvice thread then I went to their post history and oh boy


Gee I wonder why she keeps getting banned from restaurants I guess we'll never... oh...






This is just a small sample of posts. All her posts on Reddit are about her being angry at restaurants. There are dozens and dozens of posts. They are spread out over several years

Edit: Holy gently caress I just went through five pages of her post history before I got bored and it was nothing but angry posts about restaurants.

Adventure Pigeon posted:

Ok now I'm back to 3 years ago another 7 pages and she's still posting nothing except anger at restaurants except one post where she was angry about pizza delivery.

ArbitraryC posted:

e: also lol at ordering a custom level of doneness for your food at a chain restaurant, you realize there's no real "chefs" back there right, it's all prepackaged stuff or at most as complicated as fast food.

...! posted:

I just started reading this thread and I’m laughing pretty hard at the guy who freaked out and ran out of the tent he was sharing with his crush when she started loudly masturbating and moaning at night. He thought she didn’t know he heard her and he was too embarrassed to say anything to her about it. This is a woman who specifically requested that he be the one she shared a tent with. And this happened multiple nights in a row.

I am notoriously horrible at reading women's signals. I would have gotten laid a lot more in high school and college if I wasn’t. But even I would have read this woman’s behavior as basically saying “Come gently caress me hard, you oblivious idiot!” It’s basically one step short of her tearing down the divider and thrusting her vagina into his face. And he got the gently caress out of there immediately! Multiple nights in a row!

drat, I wish my crushes did things like that. It makes me wonder what other signals she’d been giving that he’d been clueless about. She must have been trying pretty hard for a long time if she decided to resort to doing something that obvious. I’m glad I'm not the most clueless guy out there.

Adventure Pigeon posted:

I found something special in /r/legaladvice today

A person said restaurants were conspiring against them but deleted their post, so I found the bestoflegaladvice thread then I went to their post history and oh boy

Inescapable Duck posted:

Given recent events, I think it's unfair to mock presumably horny teenage boys for erring on the side of 'If she doesn't ask for it, she doesn't want to gently caress' rather than risk making unwanted advances on young women who may just have a poor sense of boundaries.

spite house posted:

Holy poo poo, is this the legendary Springs1? She's been around FOREVER. I remember her cutting up on Livejournal back in the mid-oughts. If a troll, the most dedicated troll who ever lived. Respect.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Also, if the genders were reversed and this guy was jerking off in the tent with a woman, would the thread be full of people mocking her for "not realizing" he's into her?

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Also, if the genders were reversed and this guy was jerking off in the tent with a woman, would the thread be full of people mocking her for "not realizing" he's into her?

Patrick Spens posted:

I agree that, "masturbate in the same tent as him," is a lousy way to express interest, but he was into her.

RatHat posted: