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La Brea Carpet posted:Once agian, if someone uses the phrase "sexy times" unironically they are not mature enough to be in a relationship. this dude sounds like a huge dick, but the author also sounds like an incredible nag.
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:i love how immediately, reactionarily defensive dudes get when their SO's request just, the tiniest modicum of emotional intimacy or tenderness without demanding they be diagnosed and crammed full of pills. Yeah, I don't really understand the reluctance to engage in platonic physical intimacy with your partner who you allegedly care about and enjoy feeling close to. What is wrong with that?
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Dec 3, 2017 21:23
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Yeah, I don't really understand the reluctance to engage in platonic physical intimacy with your partner who you allegedly care about and enjoy feeling close to. What is wrong with that? Uh, cause getting tuck tucked in nite nite with story stories and a warm glass of milk is the absolute opposite of adult? Platonic physical intimacy in an adult relationship is just cuddling in bed, lots of hugs throughout the day, hand holding, etc. Not this weird rear end adult baby poo poo.
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Dec 3, 2017 21:33
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If he were doing any of that I don't think she'd be literally begging for a 30-second tuck-in.
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Dec 3, 2017 21:36
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i like nice words
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:Uh, cause getting tuck tucked in nite nite with story stories and a warm glass of milk is the absolute opposite of adult? Platonic physical intimacy in an adult relationship is just cuddling in bed, lots of hugs throughout the day, hand holding, etc. Not this weird rear end adult baby poo poo. I don't really understand why you're injecting weird sex stuff into a woman asking her boyfriend to tuck her in at night and read her a story. Weirdo.
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Dec 3, 2017 21:41
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Hot take: tuck-ins and bedtime stories are 100% ddlg territory, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that
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Dec 3, 2017 21:47
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Real hosed up that people think my desire to be tied to a chair and licked by a woman in a cat costume is a sex thing, in my opinion It's an entirely normal expression of affection in a relationship
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Dec 3, 2017 21:47
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:Uh, cause getting tuck tucked in nite nite with story stories and a warm glass of milk is the absolute opposite of adult? Platonic physical intimacy in an adult relationship is just cuddling in bed, lots of hugs throughout the day, hand holding, etc. Not this weird rear end adult baby poo poo. I don't understand what the big deal is or what everyone is automatically turning this into some DD/lg poo poo. If someone had a heating pad and listened to a book on tape before bed you wouldn't bat an eye, but involving a partner automatically makes it infantalizing and weird? Why? When my SO is over and I leave for work before he's up, I tuck him in and give him a kiss and tell him I love him, am I trying to turn him into an adult baby?
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Dec 3, 2017 21:48
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13Pandora13 posted:I don't understand what the big deal is or what everyone is automatically turning this into some DD/lg poo poo. If someone had a heating pad and listened to a book on tape before bed you wouldn't bat an eye, but involving a partner automatically makes it infantalizing and weird? Why? Yes
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Dec 3, 2017 21:49
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I'm just trying to imagine what you all think of as a normal relationship. "Adult honey, I'm adult home. Let us now kiss, but in a very adult way, while filling out our taxes and paying our bills." "Oh, adult darling, let us have very serious and mature sex, involving absolutely zero cutesy names for each other." "That would be very adult and mature, spouse!"
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Dec 3, 2017 21:50
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I'm just trying to imagine what you all think of as a normal relationship. The parents from Leave it to Beaver, but slightly less affection
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Dec 3, 2017 21:52
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I'm just trying to imagine what you all think of as a normal relationship. MY CORPORATE IDENTDTY DOES NOT RECOGNIZE THIS AS A LEGITIMATE RELATIONSHIP AS THIS IS CLEARLY AN ADMIRALTY COUCH DUE TO THE GOLD FRINGE.
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Dec 3, 2017 21:53
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Imagine dating someone that is really awesome they can't even sleep properly and you have to cover them because their body is so hosed that they'll freeze to death / stay in discomfort and don't know how to work a blanket without your critical aid "hey I'm taking a trip for a few days" "But who's going to tuck me in!! And make my milk at night!! I also need a story to sleep"
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Dec 3, 2017 21:53
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it's not about the tucking in and reading a story, it's about getting all huffy and weird when she doesn't get tucked in and read a story either it's some dd/lg poo poo or she's starved for attention from her partner, either way something's up
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Dec 3, 2017 21:54
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She was either hugged too much or not enough as a child, whichever it is led us to this
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Dec 3, 2017 21:55
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13Pandora13 posted:If someone had a heating pad and listened to a book on tape before bed you wouldn't bat an eye, but involving a partner automatically makes it infantalizing and weird? Why? It's something parents do to their infants and toddlers, so when done to other adults, it's infantilizing.
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Dec 3, 2017 21:56
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Lol, just lol if you like your wife
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Dec 3, 2017 21:56
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This all reminds me of the thread where the OP said his girlfriend demanded he eat her rear end every night so she could fall asleep. It wasn't done during sex or anything, it was literally just like, "I wanna go to bed. Eat my rear end." Was that like a power play or something?
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Dec 3, 2017 22:00
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Batterypowered7 posted:This all reminds me of the thread where the OP said his girlfriend demanded he eat her rear end every night so she could fall asleep. It wasn't done during sex or anything, it was literally just like, "I wanna go to bed. Eat my rear end." Was that like a power play or something? So that's what Peggy meant when she kept asking Al to "rub her tush"!
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Dec 3, 2017 22:01
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Let's review the original post and you tell me how this is normal, healthy adult stuff:quote:My girlfriend goes to sleep earlier than I do. When it calls, she'll wander out into the living room in her baby-blue monkey pajamas and oversized IHEARTNY t-shirt and stand in the dark, shifting on one leg and then the other. When I finally see her shadow she'll say something along the lines of... Just try to picture the super steamy romance of your GF waiting for you in childish peejays and assuming the role of a child too as you kiss them on the forehead and tuck them in, making sure to place all the pillows correctly, and asking for a bedtime story
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Dec 3, 2017 22:01
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Let's review the original post and you tell me how this is normal, healthy adult stuff: Sounds adorable to me? Not everything in a relationship has to be steamy hot sex. 
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Dec 3, 2017 22:03
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Sounds adorable to me? Not everything in a relationship has to be steamy hot sex. If he wants to pretend to have a pseudo daughter and work the fantasy incest angle sure, it sure doesn't seem like a partnership where the two people are on the same level of responsibility and maturity Like your partner waiting around for you to stumble across them in their peejays and tuck them in, night after night after night, sounds super awful and not super adorable, to me.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:06
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Sounds adorable to me? Not everything in a relationship has to be steamy hot sex. But can you at least see why it also resembles the way a parent might put a young child to bed for the night?
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Dec 3, 2017 22:07
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Ham Sandwiches posted:If he wants to pretend to have a pseudo daughter and work the fantasy incest angle sure, it sure doesn't seem like a partnership where the two people are on the same level of responsibility and maturity Literal seven year olds go to bed with less of a production than that. I mean if my wife were sick and wanted to be babied for a day or two fine, but every night is bordering on "let's explore this in therapy" territory.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:08
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Look, it's weird but fine to want tucked in and read a story. To hop about on one foot and demand with excessive pleading to be tucked in at night like a five year old is entering creepy territory for me personally. It's self-infantilising behaviour, and no wonder it makes the bf feel uncomfortably paternal.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:10
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I'm on page 641 and I don't think I'm going to be able to catch up with the thread, so I'm saying hi to myself in the future. Also how is that new baby going? Remember when you only had one baby? Haha I do sucker.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:11
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My (26f) fiance (27m) of 5 years is severely depressed (on meds, therapy, etc...) his mom (50s?) is warning me that this is a bout of "extreme tantrum and laziness" and he's done it his entire life, says I should leave. I'm really torn. Relationships (self.relationships)quote:Obviously, this issue goes really deep but I'm going to try and keep it as short as possible. quote:Basically, is it time for me to cut my losses and go? 
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Dec 3, 2017 22:17
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Batterypowered7 posted:But can you at least see why it also resembles the way a parent might put a young child to bed for the night? I don't remember my childhood being like that, but okay?
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Dec 3, 2017 22:26
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I don't remember my childhood being like that, but okay? I didn't ask whether your childhood was like that or not, but okay?
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Dec 3, 2017 22:40
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Batterypowered7 posted:I didn't ask whether your childhood was like that or not, but okay? I wasn't expecting some kind of Spanish Inquisition.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:41
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Admiral Ray posted:It's something parents do to their infants and toddlers, so when done to other adults, it's infantilizing. Right, it doesn't need to be a sex thing: it's just a baby thing that he's doing with a person he has sex with. How could anyone be disturbed by that? 
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Dec 3, 2017 22:44
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Doc Hawkins posted:Right, it doesn't need to be a sex thing: it's just a baby thing that he's doing with a person he has sex with. How could anyone be disturbed by that? Yeah I would be weirded out as hell if someone asked me to do any of the things my mom did for me when I was a little boy I mean except for take care of me when I had poo poo like scarlet fever and was vomiting blood, that's fine and reasonable to expect your SO to do e: As long as nobody gets turned on by it
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Dec 3, 2017 22:46
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Doc Hawkins posted:Right, it doesn't need to be a sex thing: it's just a baby thing that he's doing with a person he has sex with. How could anyone be disturbed by that? I also used to make food for my partners, and vice versa, which is also something a parent would do for a child. Wow, this rabbit hole goes deeper than I'd thought!
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Dec 3, 2017 22:46
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Simple experiment for the people that don't think it's strange. Please get yourselves a set of pyjamas and reproduce the steps in the post every day for a month. Come back and report on your significant other's reaction.
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Dec 3, 2017 22:51
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Batterypowered7 posted:Simple experiment for the people that don't think it's strange. Please get yourselves a set of pyjamas and reproduce the steps in the post every day for a month. Come back and report on your significant other's reaction. LOL, like I'm ever going to have a significant other again. Good one!
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Dec 3, 2017 22:52
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I also used to make food for my partners, and vice versa, which is also something a parent would do for a child. Wow, this rabbit hole goes deeper than I'd thought! Lmao yeah making someone a frickin quesadilla is p much the same thing. At what point would you find this dudes SO's request weird? Would throwing in a stuffed animal be enough? Bringing her a pacifier?
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Dec 3, 2017 22:57
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I also used to make food for my partners, and vice versa, which is also something a parent would do for a child. Wow, this rabbit hole goes deeper than I'd thought! I want to believe you're kidding, but just in case anyone else is swayed by this: almost nobody gets tucked in except by their parents, but enormous amounts of cooking is done by people who have less intimate relationships with the people they're feeding, including purely commercial ones. Hence, the former act has a stronger association with childhood than the latter.
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Dec 3, 2017 23:00
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Doc Hawkins posted:I want to believe you're kidding, but just in case anyone else is swayed by this: almost nobody gets tucked in except by their parents, but enormous amounts of cooking is done by people who have less intimate relationships with the people they're feeding, including purely commercial ones. Hence, the former act has a stronger association with childhood than the latter. Ah, yes, the vast audience of people reading this thread who are this close to being convinced to dress up in jammies and ask to be tucked in and read the first Harry Potter novel. 
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Doc Hawkins posted:I want to believe you're kidding, but just in case anyone else is swayed by this: almost nobody gets tucked in except by their parents, but enormous amounts of cooking is done by people who have less intimate relationships with the people they're feeding, including purely commercial ones. Hence, the former act has a stronger association with childhood than the latter. Sorry Hon, I’m not going to make soup for you and bring it to when you’re sick. For the vast majority of people only parents do that to their children and I don’t want to infantilize you and our relationship!
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I wear my blue monkey pajajms to McDonalds and sway back and forth until the nice counter person notices me and takes my tendies order. Carol on third shift knows I only like the skinny tendies and draws a smiley face on my box lid.
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