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FUCKFACE MORON
Apr 23, 2010

by sebmojo

SHOAH NUFF posted:

Use Dil Mil instead of shaadi.com
Been there done that. Anyways, this girl and I have a lot of common interests. We'll see where it goes.

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weird Asian candy
Aug 23, 2005

Ask me about how my football team's success determines my self worth, and how I wish I lived in New Orleans.
I've had a suck weekend fellas. It was finally move time for the company, which if you have never moved an office from one location to the another as an IT guy...it's awful. Planning, coordinating, implementing internet, cabling, electric, hvac, new switching, moving esx hosts, san arrays, firewalls, user machines and monitors, etc. Ugh, what a pain in the rear end but it is done and everything went pretty smoothly overall and I am in desperate need of sleep.

Pron on VHS
Nov 14, 2005

Blood Clots
Sweat Dries
Bones Heal
Suck it Up and Keep Wrestling
I met my fiancé on coffee meets bagel too, it’s pretty good

Pron on VHS
Nov 14, 2005

Blood Clots
Sweat Dries
Bones Heal
Suck it Up and Keep Wrestling

Eli Wiggum posted:

Been there done that. Anyways, this girl and I have a lot of common interests. We'll see where it goes.

Just be sure you are talking to her and not her mom, that happened to me once

axeil
Feb 14, 2006

SHOAH NUFF posted:

I met my fiancé on coffee meets bagel too, it’s pretty good

:hfive: fellow coffee-bageler

My gf and I clicked very quickly. We both have very similar values, styles of communication and humor so it all seemed very natural. She loves the Eagles too. Her mom's even crazier about them than I am when they lose which given my reputation for meltdowns on this site when we lose is uh, saying something.

I'm watching the Raiders game on Xmas with her, her mom and her dad so I pray to god we win. I don't wanna get shot or something.

Ehud
Sep 19, 2003

football.

SHOAH NUFF posted:

where did the thread title come from, it's a Seinfeld name in a Jurassic Park quote and it confuses me

It's a Seinfeld quote

Elaine is dating that jackass Brett who is obsessed with a designer named Karl Farbman

Jerry is out in the rain and Brett drives up and says

The Glumslinger
Sep 24, 2008

Coach Nagy, you want me to throw to WHAT side of the field?


Hair Elf

axeil posted:

Bumble's amazing.

1. Bumble
2. Coffee Meets Bagel (met my gf from it)
3. OkCupid/Tinder


A giant chasm

PlentyofFish

What about Farmers Only? Christian Mingle? J Date?

FUCKFACE MORON
Apr 23, 2010

by sebmojo

SHOAH NUFF posted:

Just be sure you are talking to her and not her mom, that happened to me once
That actually happened to me on Match lol

sean10mm
Jun 29, 2005

It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, MAD-2R World

axeil posted:

This.

If you look reasonably okay, can carry on a conversation, and show general interest in the person you're talking to, you will clean up. Keep in mind it's also a volume game though. During the peak of my online dating time I was sending about 10-12 messages/day on OkCupid and had about a 20% response rate. Of those that responded to my initial message I probably went on a date with about half of them, and ended up hooking up with around a third of those. So doing out the math I would have about 6 messages a week (assuming I sent 30 messages), 3 dates set up and around 1 hook-ups. A week. Honestly the hardest part was coordinating schedules for dates.

I have some friends getting into online dating now and it's hilarious/sad just how bad at it they are. I tried to give them tips on how to write a good message (show common interests, be funny but don't force it and ultimately seem normal/don't focus on books/movies/tv shows at the expense of all else) and they just refuse to listen.

edit: most people complaining about dating sites are usually failing one of the first three items. they either don't care about their appearance/have terrible photos, talk like :spergin: mixed with :geno:, are so self-centered it's a huge turn off or are full in on :females:

I guess there's also the people going for super models when they're an average joe/jane at the exclusion of everyone else but that sorta falls into the first category.

Pretty much this.

Though I'm so old I remember when none of things you named really existed and IIRC match.com was the only non-skeevy option. The same basic principles applied though.

achillesforever6
Apr 23, 2012

psst you wanna do a communism?

axeil posted:

This.

If you look reasonably okay, can carry on a conversation, and show general interest in the person you're talking to, you will clean up. Keep in mind it's also a volume game though. During the peak of my online dating time I was sending about 10-12 messages/day on OkCupid and had about a 20% response rate. Of those that responded to my initial message I probably went on a date with about half of them, and ended up hooking up with around a third of those. So doing out the math I would have about 6 messages a week (assuming I sent 30 messages), 3 dates set up and around 1 hook-ups. A week. Honestly the hardest part was coordinating schedules for dates.

I have some friends getting into online dating now and it's hilarious/sad just how bad at it they are. I tried to give them tips on how to write a good message (show common interests, be funny but don't force it and ultimately seem normal/don't focus on books/movies/tv shows at the expense of all else) and they just refuse to listen.
My problem seems mainly I overthink things way too much because I don't want to be the guy who says "Hey how's it going", but that usually that leads me going to a very specific part of their profile that makes me seem like a robot (ie "What was your major in college) or a question they get asked 10,000 times (mostly when I see someone likes video games or movies).

In other news that isn't my depressingly sad social/romantic life
https://twitter.com/SVP_vertpaleo/status/937807165871423489
Amazing we live in a world where all the Paleontologists are suing the President; I know Trump and the GOP have done worse things, but this is one of the more personal attacks since those monuments not only are sacred ground to Native Americans, but its also a treasure trove in Mesozoic fossils. That and I worked conservation out there, though I was pampered in Bryce Canyon when I was in the UCC, but I knew a whole ton of people who worked in Grand Staircase.
They had to use horses to carry their chainsaws and cross rivers and backcountry camp all the while the work involved cutting the invasive tree Russian Olive. Russian Olive is this really awful tree that is thorny and the tough to cut along with being a really dirty wood so not only they had to carry these chainsaws all over the place, but they had to maintain them constantly to keep them cutting. (Meanwhile in Bryce Canyon I'm cutting white firs like a knife through hot butter and barely have to resharpen the saw bits) So it pisses me off all that hard work is going to go to waste.

Mainly because the UT state government is going to immediately sell off all this land to fossil fuels companies even though the UT economy makes way more money on tourism (nearly 2 billion dollars) than fossil fuels (around 700 mil). And the dumb poo poo ranchers and Mormons are going to love it.

FizFashizzle
Mar 30, 2005







have you considered...... craigslist?! :kheldragar:

axeil
Feb 14, 2006

The Glumslinger posted:

What about Farmers Only? Christian Mingle? J Date?

Non-joke answer: the niche sites are so niche I never used them so I can't really say anything about them

Match seems like it's ok too and they own Tinder/OkCupid but I never used them.

Kalli
Jun 2, 2001



Back in the day you had the <cityname> Phoenix which had all sorts of dating services advertised in it that come to find out were all just escort services

Its Rinaldo
Aug 13, 2010

CODS BINCH

axeil posted:

This.

If you look reasonably okay, can carry on a conversation, and show general interest in the person you're talking to, you will clean up. Keep in mind it's also a volume game though. During the peak of my online dating time I was sending about 10-12 messages/day on OkCupid and had about a 20% response rate. Of those that responded to my initial message I probably went on a date with about half of them, and ended up hooking up with around a third of those. So doing out the math I would have about 6 messages a week (assuming I sent 30 messages), 3 dates set up and around 1 hook-ups. A week. Honestly the hardest part was coordinating schedules for dates.

I have some friends getting into online dating now and it's hilarious/sad just how bad at it they are. I tried to give them tips on how to write a good message (show common interests, be funny but don't force it and ultimately seem normal/don't focus on books/movies/tv shows at the expense of all else) and they just refuse to listen.

edit: most people complaining about dating sites are usually failing one of the first three items. they either don't care about their appearance/have terrible photos, talk like :spergin: mixed with :geno:, are so self-centered it's a huge turn off or are full in on :females:

I guess there's also the people going for super models when they're an average joe/jane at the exclusion of everyone else but that sorta falls into the first category.

I'm real bad at it I guess. I haven't had any luck on bumble or tinder in my suburb. I'm relatively normal in person but online I guess I'm a goon?

Blitz of 404 Error
Sep 19, 2007

Joe Biden is a top 15 president
- Get a Bumble/Tinder
- Make your profile something lighthearted and noncommittal "I'm only here because Farmersonly dot com didn't work out"
- make sure your pictures look normal/fun/adventurous and make sure you're not the one holding the camera
- make your main profile pic the one with your dog, preferably a yellow lab
- if you don't have a dog go back to step zero and rescue a pup
- fuckin enjoy

axeil
Feb 14, 2006

achillesforever6 posted:

My problem seems mainly I overthink things way too much because I don't want to be the guy who says "Hey how's it going", but that usually that leads me going to a very specific part of their profile that makes me seem like a robot (ie "What was your major in college) or a question they get asked 10,000 times (mostly when I see someone likes video games or movies).

I have a really, really good tip for you. Ask about travel. Usually people have pictures of them on trips or will say where they wanna go. It's a question that you know they care about (since they are advertising it on their page) and it makes you seem way more interesting than someone asking about movies/tv/whatever. Try this:

"Oh wow, I saw you went to <COUNTRYNAME>, that's awesome! I've always wanted to go there and see <TOURISTTHING>. What was your favorite part?"

Pron on VHS
Nov 14, 2005

Blood Clots
Sweat Dries
Bones Heal
Suck it Up and Keep Wrestling

Ehud posted:

It's a Seinfeld quote

Elaine is dating that jackass Brett who is obsessed with a designer named Karl Farbman

Jerry is out in the rain and Brett drives up and says



I got it mixed up with “I got Dodgson here!”

Ehud
Sep 19, 2003

football.

FizFashizzle posted:

have you considered...... craigslist?! :kheldragar:

missed connections

saw you at the gas station

You had on a white shirt and were driving a black F150

Your wife was in the passenger seat but I could tell you love cock in your mouth

reply with what kind of hat I was wearing so I know it's u

YOLOsubmarine
Oct 19, 2004

When asked which Pokemon he evolved into, Kamara pauses.

"Motherfucking, what's that big dragon shit? That orange motherfucker. Charizard."

Jiminy Christmas! Shoes! posted:

Forget the girlfriend. Get a dog.

Get a cute dog. Take the cute dog to a park. Meet cute girls who want to meet your cute dog.

axeil
Feb 14, 2006

Blitz7x posted:

- Get a Bumble/Tinder
- Make your profile something lighthearted and noncommittal "I'm only here because Farmersonly dot com didn't work out"
- make sure your pictures look normal/fun/adventurous and make sure you're not the one holding the camera
- make your main profile pic the one with your dog, preferably a yellow lab
- if you don't have a dog go back to step zero and rescue a pup
- fuckin enjoy

My picture was me holding a stuffed horse over my head like a Sand Person from Star Wars on top of a pile of snow. It was an utterly bizarre picture and I got a lot of messages on Bumbler/Tinder that were just "okay what the gently caress is up with your picture"

If you have a good, recent photo that is funny, use that one.

edit: also make sure you have at least 1 full-body photo that isn't a mirror selfie.

Blitz of 404 Error
Sep 19, 2007

Joe Biden is a top 15 president

Ehud posted:

missed connections

saw you at the gas station

You had on a white shirt and were driving a black F150

Your wife was in the passenger seat but I could tell you love cock in your mouth

reply with what kind of hat I was wearing so I know it's u

Shot in the dark, red MAGA hat??

Pron on VHS
Nov 14, 2005

Blood Clots
Sweat Dries
Bones Heal
Suck it Up and Keep Wrestling
I spent most of my late 20s doing the online dating thing and one day I went on a first date off CmB and on the way home from it I deleted all my dating apps bc I knew I had found the one , Stay strong bachelor/ette goons

seiferguy
Jun 9, 2005

FLAWED
INTUITION



Toilet Rascal
Plenty of fish is horrific and everyone I know who's met someone on there (myself included) has a horror story. I once made a fake profile there to look someone up, found the douchiest photo possible (a guy wearing a fedora, a tie with no shirt) and filled my 'about me' part with language that would make the staunchest MRA blush. All this in effort to make sure no one messaged me. I still got messages. One girl was so desperate that I even said "this is a fake profile, everything on here is fake" and she went "aw, you're so honest. We should get coffee." I did not get coffee with her.

I tried cougar life for a month, too. That was a mistake.

Flikken
Oct 23, 2009

10,363 snaps and not a playoff win to show for it

Ehud posted:

missed connections

saw you at the gas station

You had on a white shirt and were driving a black F150

Your wife was in the passenger seat but I could tell you love cock in your mouth

reply with what kind of hat I was wearing so I know it's u

A local radio station plays those out on the air every morning. Mountains of western PA, draw your own conclusions on what they are like.

D-LINK
Oct 1, 2007

I was talking to peachy Peach about kissy Kiss. He bought me a soda.

seiferguy posted:

Plenty of fish is horrific and everyone I know who's met someone on there (myself included) has a horror story. I once made a fake profile there to look someone up, found the douchiest photo possible (a guy wearing a fedora, a tie with no shirt) and filled my 'about me' part with language that would make the staunchest MRA blush. All this in effort to make sure no one messaged me. I still got messages. One girl was so desperate that I even said "this is a fake profile, everything on here is fake" and she went "aw, you're so honest. We should get coffee." I did not get coffee with her.

I tried cougar life for a month, too. That was a mistake.

Tell me anecdotes about cougar life, please.

seiferguy
Jun 9, 2005

FLAWED
INTUITION



Toilet Rascal

MY NIGGA D-LINK posted:

Tell me anecdotes about cougar life, please.

Sadly there isn't much to say, which was why it was a mistake. The majority of the profiles there were 1. Fake, 2. Showed ages of being early 20s, 3. Both 1 and 2, 4. Women that only wanted long term relationships. I'm pretty sure they're owned by the same parent company as Ashley Madison too.

I only chatted up one woman there. We chatted for awhile, exchanged a few lewd photos, but then another (younger) woman entered my life and I never did meet up with her.

Mr. Nice!
Oct 13, 2005

c-spam cannot afford



Pof is slumpbuster central and the best case on there is you come across someone as honest as yourself.

D-LINK
Oct 1, 2007

I was talking to peachy Peach about kissy Kiss. He bought me a soda.
My divorced buddy loves Ashley Madison. He thinks it's the greatest thing in the history of the world

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010

MY NIGGA D-LINK posted:

My divorced buddy loves Ashley Madison. He thinks it's the greatest thing in the history of the world

I noticed you included pertinent information about your friend

Quiet Feet
Dec 14, 2009

THE HELL IS WITH THIS ASS!?





Shimrra Jamaane posted:

Ugh I don't even loving remember how to date. I met this girl nearly 3 years ago working at Barnes and Noble and before that I was at school so meeting girls was easy as hell. gently caress do I do now?

Ugh I'm just bummed.

I'm basically a stew of fat and social anxiety seasoned with weird habits and neuroses. My best man told me 2 days before my wedding that he thought I would never find anybody. I've somehow parlayed this into a stable 13-year relationship and marriage.

I know the situation sucks but I think you'll be fine.

Edit: I hope that doesn't sound dismissive. Your situation sucks but you can absolutely get through it and don't sweat dating. Weirder people have gone on to have happy relationships. :glomp:

Quiet Feet fucked around with this message at 00:33 on Dec 5, 2017

Air Skwirl
May 13, 2007

Neither snow nor rain nor heat nor gloom of night stays these couriers from the swift completion of their appointed shitposting.

seiferguy posted:

Plenty of fish is horrific and everyone I know who's met someone on there (myself included) has a horror story. I once made a fake profile there to look someone up, found the douchiest photo possible (a guy wearing a fedora, a tie with no shirt) and filled my 'about me' part with language that would make the staunchest MRA blush. All this in effort to make sure no one messaged me. I still got messages. One girl was so desperate that I even said "this is a fake profile, everything on here is fake" and she went "aw, you're so honest. We should get coffee." I did not get coffee with her.

I tried cougar life for a month, too. That was a mistake.

She was going to dope your coffee and then sell your organs on the black market so you made a good choice, but also

quote:

I once made a fake profile there to look someone up

What the gently caress?

D-LINK
Oct 1, 2007

I was talking to peachy Peach about kissy Kiss. He bought me a soda.

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

I noticed you included pertinent information about your friend

Took a second but when I got it, I laughed

seiferguy
Jun 9, 2005

FLAWED
INTUITION



Toilet Rascal

Skwirl posted:

What the gently caress?

I was looking to see if my ex was on there. Wounds were fresh. I think you were granted a few free searches then it told you that you needed an account. So I made one.

shyduck
Oct 3, 2003


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=me5ifeBFaFo

FizFashizzle
Mar 30, 2005








This was incredibly my poo poo.

Quiet Feet
Dec 14, 2009

THE HELL IS WITH THIS ASS!?






My daughter has one of those sets and would probably like this. :)

Intruder
Mar 5, 2003

I got a taste for blown saves
It's funny seeing "Just don't be a creep" followed by a mathematical breakdown of message to hookup ratio

Also didn't it come out that like 90% of the women on Ashley Madison are bots

C-Euro
Mar 20, 2010

:science:
Soiled Meat

YOLOsubmarine posted:

Get a cute dog. Take the cute dog to a park. Meet cute girls who want to meet your cute dog.

Get a corgi and have women throw themselves at youit like they do with mine. Too bad I'm married!

Also +1-ing the "go to classes at the gym" route, even if it's just to make friends. Where I live like half of my friends are people that I met going to this one guy's classes at the gym in my neighborhood.

axeil
Feb 14, 2006

this was really cool. i had those train tracks + thomas the tank engine train as a kid. they were good stuff.

Intruder posted:

It's funny seeing "Just don't be a creep" followed by a mathematical breakdown of message to hookup ratio

Also didn't it come out that like 90% of the women on Ashley Madison are bots

I can't deny my mathematical nature :shobon:

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Spoeank
Jul 16, 2003

That's a nice set of 11 dynasty points there, it would be a shame if 3 rings were to happen with it
Mueller pulled Manaforts bail deal lmbo

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