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My boyfriend says he will murder me with passion.quote:Hey guys! So I’m looking for insight from other people about my situation. I’m 22 years old and my boyfriend is 23. He’s a quite guy, shy, loving but can say things that frighten me a bit. We’ve not been together long, just coming up to 6 months actually. We were both with partners before but our feelings developed more and we became an item after a while. Anyway, he says things to me that I used to just blow over but he’s been saying them more lately. All of which are “If you ever cheat on me, I will murder you” “If you lie and to me and I know you’re lying then I will kill you” and I say to him “you would murder me, why would you want to do that?” And his response would be “If I was to murder you, it will be a crime of complete passion. One day I could just crack and choke you to death or something”. He dreams a lot about me he says, and most of which are him killing me after I cheat on him and deny it. He always asks me everyday if I still love him, and my answer is always yes because I do! He always asks me if I’ve cheated which I haven’t but sometimes I feel like he doesn’t believe me when I’m being truthful? It’s getting to me all these sly accusations. I had a partner before him for just shy of 4 years, he however is, well, was a ladies man. Although he was with a girl before me for a year and he never told her he loved her but it took him 3 weeks into our relationship to tell me that he loved me which I was so surprised at. One time he put a pillow over my face and then asked if I could breath, when he lifted it up and asked me I said “no I couldn’t” then he pushed it back down on my face with a harder force for about 5 seconds. After this I felt uneasy and expressed my fear for my life and told him I didn’t like what he was saying or doing and he played it off saying he would never hurt me. He randomly just grabs my neck at the front sometimes and kisses me. I know what you’re all thinking “girl get TF out of there” but he’s never hurt me, never done anything like that. It’s his words that make me uneasy. We’re together a lot and it’s perfect, I’m in love and he’s always all over me telling me how much he loves me and cuddles me all the time. The only times I sometimes feel a bit helpless is during sex, we both like rough sex and he chokes me, pulls my hair, slaps my face etc which I’m fine with, but sometimes when he’s being too rough I do tell him and majority of the time (not always) he just says “shut the gently caress up” and pushes my face into the pillow. I don’t fear for my life, but when he says things like that it does make me think, is he capable? When I met him he was very depressed but since we’ve been together he’s really picked himself up and is happy again. He is very loving to me, always cuddles me and tells me how beautiful I am, says he’d do anything for me and that he wants to spend his life with me. Takes care of me when I’m sick and just always makes a fuss over me.I know you guys can’t give me an answer to this but please give me your insight to this. If I felt I was in real, immediate danger I would leave and never look back but I love this guy. Has anyone felt this way about their partner saying they’ll kill them and it’ll be “passionate”. Or has anyone been in this situation? He is very sweet and won't hurt me, he just hurts me during sex and ignores me when I say I don't like it.
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Well I guess she’s dead then. Have something funny instead! My [29F] mom [58F] is insisting on bring guitars to my baby shower and I can't get her to understand that I do not want them there. quote:u/Cooballz
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 22:51 |
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Admiral Ray posted:They are trying to conceive because they think it'll bring the love back into their marriage. It won't, the love was never there. from your brother but first sign him up to reddit so he can chronicle his future of hell for the edification of all.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 22:52 |
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BF [27M] takes football too seriously. How can I [29F] remind him it’s ‘just a game’ without ruffling his feathers?quote:BF of a year worships NFL. I have zero passion for it, but have accepted it. Will put up with him constantly checking his phone for fantasy updates without saying a word. Will listen to him spew stats and stories using terminology I don’t understand. Didn’t even say anything when he picked a “lighthearted” fight with a stranger when we were out because he was wearing the jersey for a team he dislikes.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 22:56 |
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Me (29f) with a roommate (19f) - apologizing for her thinking I was racistquote:I live with several roommates. The other night, one of my roommates (who is black) commented on a doll that she thought was racist. The doll is a figure of a Shinto dancer/performer, so it looks like a light-skinned Japanese man, but he is wearing a removable Shinto spirit mask that happens to be a dark brown. She commented several times that it made her uncomfortable, but I thought it was because Shinto spirits tend to have grotesque features. Guess reddit's take on this one.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 22:56 |
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:They are trying to conceive so she can say she quit her job because she wanted to be a stay at home mom and not because writing on a blackboard is too much strain on her clogged heart. yep turns out (as the op will soon discover) caring for infants and toddlers is also a lot of physical labor...
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 22:57 |
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Milotic posted:Well I guess she’s dead then. Have something funny instead! I refuse to believe this "baby shower terrorized by guitar playing" isn't a Tim and Eric sketch.
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Milotic posted:Well I guess she’s dead then. Have something funny instead! Just be thankful your mother is a talented guitar player, unlike mine who local CCP officialls personally asked to stop practicing her music while staying at a resort.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me (29f) with a roommate (19f) - apologizing for her thinking I was racist That the roommate is being a drama queen and unable to admit she's wrong? Cause like that's sort of what happened.
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Skutter posted:My boyfriend says he will murder me with passion. quote:I will speak to him this evening about everything and I will express my concerns. She got killed that very same night.
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Barudak posted:Just be thankful your mother is a talented guitar player, unlike mine who local CCP officialls personally asked to stop practicing her music while staying at a resort. CCP CCP CCP....Concealed Carry Pregnancy, used when you're pregnant but haven't told anyone yet
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Yeah, Anne just pull that from nowhere. Especially there isn't a "so willing to dump him quickly". The husband ditched, wife could tell he was upset, and then made the offer. Plus she then offered anal to the husband which seems an unlikely offer if it was rape. I'm all for believing victims, but not for creating them from aether. If OP comes back and says "guys, this is hosed up, she was raped", that's different.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:05 |
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ArbitraryC posted:That the roommate is being a drama queen and unable to admit she's wrong? Cause like that's sort of what happened. quote:Do not apologize. People constantly love to call out 'white privilege', but what you did was not racist in the least. She attempted to use her race as a way to shut down your rational, logical explaination and make something very minimal into a pity party for herself. The best thing you can do here is to not feed in to such utter bs quote:She over reacted and while I might apologize I would expect one from her. She wants you to honor her culture while calling yours racist. That’s not fair to you. quote:
If you had $5 on the REAL racists are the blacks, congrats, you win.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:07 |
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Admiral Ray posted:She got killed that very same night. And how do I know that? Because I was that shithead whose fetishization of violence had been normalized by patriarchal society ooooOOOOoooo!!
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:08 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:CCP CCP CCP....Concealed Carry Pregnancy, used when you're pregnant but haven't told anyone yet Pretty easy to conceal when you are so.fat you're out on disability. Lots of times mothers that fat don't notice if they do conceive because the morbid obesity has made their cycle irregular and they are used to having stomach problems anyway.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:09 |
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Jealous of my(20f) boyfriend's(30m) sexual pastquote:Finally got better mentally, decided to lose my virginity. Met a really great guy we both agreed that it was going to be just casual hook ups, now 10 months later we're in a relationship. We're happy, communicate well and have an active sex life. Randomly asked how many girls he had been with and he said high 20's. Now I'm not jealous of the girls, I'm jealous of the fact that he's had the chance to have 20+ partners. When we started hooking up I didn't want a relationship and I wanted to continue to explore in that way, a few casual hook ups. quote:I don't see a problem with the age difference, we're both adults. Sure, you're both adults, except for the entire decade of sexual exploration that he's had that you're now longing for.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:10 |
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Doggles posted:Jealous of my(20f) boyfriend's(30m) sexual past quote:10 months quote:he's talking about marriage
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:12 |
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He's trying to swoop in when she is still young enough to pick ducks for him.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:13 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:If you had $5 on the REAL racists are the blacks, congrats, you win. I wouldn't go so far as to say she's the real racist here or anything, it was obviously just a misunderstanding, but she is totally the one in the wrong here and the one who should apologize.
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Doggles posted:Jealous of my(20f) boyfriend's(30m) sexual past https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDUhINW3SPs&t=80s
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Anne Whateley posted:No that whole situation is definitely trash, but seriously think about how weird butthole bruising is. There's crazy rough porn out there, even mainstream porn is pretty rough, there are people who fetishize prolapses, and I still bet you've never seen a butthole bruise. That's where my thoughts came from, what the gently caress you have to be doing to cause massive internal bruising. That aside, her butthole probably wasn't bruised. She probably doesn't even exist. Khorne fucked around with this message at 23:21 on Dec 12, 2017 |
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Doggles posted:Jealous of my(20f) boyfriend's(30m) sexual past tbh I think it's kinda dumb to throw away a good relationship because you think you need more notches on your bedpost, but the age gap alone makes it sound like a bad relationship to me and I think she should trust her instincts to bail out.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:18 |
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Jon Irenicus posted:I refuse to believe this "baby shower terrorized by guitar playing" isn't a Tim and Eric sketch. Nah I've seen more mild version of this my self. Get a bunch of baby boomers who all "used to be in a band" at an event together and suddenly the guitars come out and everyone's trying to play a different song or "jam" together but no one knows the cords or the lyrics so it's hum-singing over each other. Specially if they get some drinks in them. My own dad has a tendency to turn a really lovely chill family/neighbourhood get together where everyone's sitting around a fire having interesting conversations and then out of nowhere there's a guitar and drunk hum-singing that stops all the conversations dead. That's usually when I go home and other people clear out or find a new place to gather, but he just can't not play guitar for a crowd. I imagine getting a few people like my poor dad together in one place and it being absolute musical chaos.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:20 |
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Throwing away a relationship because you want to sow wild oats after being together since 16 is a good chunk of the stories on the sub. I think this story in particular just proves that casual / FWB style relationships should be consigned to the same bin as open relationships.
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:21 |
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Baronjutter posted:Nah I've seen more mild version of this my self. Get a bunch of baby boomers who all "used to be in a band" at an event together and suddenly the guitars come out and everyone's trying to play a different song or "jam" together but no one knows the cords or the lyrics so it's hum-singing over each other. Specially if they get some drinks in them. My own dad has a tendency to turn a really lovely chill family/neighbourhood get together where everyone's sitting around a fire having interesting conversations and then out of nowhere there's a guitar and drunk hum-singing that stops all the conversations dead. That's usually when I go home and other people clear out or find a new place to gather, but he just can't not play guitar for a crowd. I imagine getting a few people like my poor dad together in one place and it being absolute musical chaos. have you ever tried hiding the guitar from him?
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# ? Dec 12, 2017 23:23 |
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She is way too young but 30? It's early to propose but I don't think it is too early to start talking about a future roadmap and if they feel marriage is likely going to be in the future.
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Three Olives posted:She is way too young but 30? It's early to propose but I don't think it is too early to start talking about a future roadmap and if they feel marriage is likely going to be in the future. 10 months is the part that is too early.
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Jon Irenicus posted:BF [27M] takes football too seriously. How can I [29F] remind him it’s ‘just a game’ without ruffling his feathers? Add "Eagles fans" to the Do Not Date List.
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Baronjutter posted:Nah I've seen more mild version of this my self. Get a bunch of baby boomers who all "used to be in a band" at an event together and suddenly the guitars come out and everyone's trying to play a different song or "jam" together but no one knows the cords or the lyrics so it's hum-singing over each other. Specially if they get some drinks in them. My own dad has a tendency to turn a really lovely chill family/neighbourhood get together where everyone's sitting around a fire having interesting conversations and then out of nowhere there's a guitar and drunk hum-singing that stops all the conversations dead. That's usually when I go home and other people clear out or find a new place to gather, but he just can't not play guitar for a crowd. I imagine getting a few people like my poor dad together in one place and it being absolute musical chaos. Have you ever tried clobbering him over the head with the guitar like you're El Kabong?
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me (29f) with a roommate (19f) - apologizing for her thinking I was racist i can not imagine these words coming out of anyone's mouth
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Khorne posted:Your coworker is wrong!!! I can also confirm that guy and his wife are fat idiots and his sister is the overbearing nurse who thinks being a nurse makes her Qualified. But she's actually right here. If you can't even afford healthcare bills and are quitting work at 30 due to being so drat obese maybe you should stop being so drat obese and not try to have children which are pretty expensive and physically taxing. Hell yeah!! Even though the sister is an OB nurse and knows what's up in terms of possible complications, I'm assuming they told her more in a 'baby, yay!' way, not 'hey sis, could you weigh in on if my wife's massive BMI will cause any issues?' Also, holy poo poo quitting/stopping work at age 30 due to prediabetes and chronic pain? I know teachers tend to be on their feet a lot but that's still pretty impressive. E: Do some subreddits enforce dumbass acronyms or something? I tried looking at justnomil to see if there were any ridiculous holiday family drama stories this thread could laugh at, but I couldn't understand what the Hell was going on in the posts. LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 23:58 on Dec 12, 2017 |
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YeahTubaMike posted:i can not imagine these words coming out of anyone's mouth I can definitely imagine someone hearing them.
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Me [27 M] with my wife [24 F] newly married, together 4 years, I don't understandquote:This isnt the first time I've run into this problem and usually it is related to us drinking, forewarning. We are recently married and I (agree with her that I didnt propose correctly)may have thrown the ring box at her in a fit of "anger" due to her being upset. Long story short I had planned to propose for a while but got cold feet ( had the ring but was waiting for the "perfect" time). We were drinking at a bar one night and I happened to interact with a women that was being harassed by a couple of truckers that were passing through and they gave off a rapey vibe. The recipient made it clear she was uncomfortable so I told her if she needed a ride home I'd be willing to give her one (my wife was there and equally creeped by the truckers). At the end of the night my wife became upset that I was interested in helping the woman so we argued. She said something along the lines of "If you're interested in other women go for it" so i pulled the ring from hiding and threw it at her saying "clearly I care but if you want to act this way I guess you can go marry yourself". There has been one other instance of us being out drinking while another woman was uncomfortable (not by a guy but karaoke and I encouraged her to sing) and my (now wife) became upset. I was able to explain that I like to help people that arent feeling confident and she seemed to understand at the time. My problem comes from the fact that she has brought this up several times since (while drinking, tonight included) and I can't make her understand that i truly am only looking out for others. To illustrate the point I have even told her that while I was in the army I would do very much the same thing and shield the new guys (Guys as in strictly men) from trouble too. I would very seriously put my career at risk because I felt it was right due to the fact that I had a few good leaders that went to bat for me when I truly didnt deserve it but they did it anyway. I feel that everyone deserves a chance. Of course I realize that all stories have three sides; his, hers, and the truth. quote:I dont want to sway other responses but she has specifically mentioned she is upset at the way i proposed. I have never disagreed with her in this regard but she only seems to get really upset when we start to talk about these two specific instances while drinking. I'm not entirely opposed to counseling but regional and religious interests tend to collide. she was raised very catholic and, while I was raised catholic, am very uninterested in religion. We live in the south east which is mostly anti-catholic but she also is moving away from religion which makes it hard to find someone to talk to quote:Again ,this is me trying to understand the situation. I know I messed up and although not the "right" way, I did get down on one knee the same night. In my mind I messed up he proposal but I have never second guessed the marriage. I'm just trying to understand a different perspective. quote:I appreciate your advice. I do understand that I screwed the proposal but I have explained several times that isnt what I had planned. I agree that someone to mediate may be the best way to understand each other but I have very clearly explained my side to her. I'll never say that I've been a saint all my life but I would hope a heart felt explanation of where I was at at the time would help soften the issue. I just feel that I cant quite get the right words out quote:I understand all the hate with the downvotes across the board but outside of a "real" proposal we have managed. We had been "engaged" for a little less than 2 years, had a wedding date, and had lived together without issue. This is all outside of a real proposal. again, I understand the proposal was lovely but if a proposal tanks everything after all other details are taken care of I feel that issues may lie somewhere else and I'm looking for advice.
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TheScott2K posted:Add "Eagles fans" to the Do Not Date List. Any time an Eagles fan tells you they're upset, you can't tell them they are wrong and need to listen to them.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 00:04 |
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Guys please leave my dad alone ok he just enjoys take it easy
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Chomp8645 posted:Any time an Eagles fan tells you they're upset, you should tell them they are wrong that they need to listen to reason. FTFY
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LadyPictureShow posted:Even though the sister is an OB nurse and knows what's up in terms of possible complications, I'm assuming they told her more in a 'baby, yay!' way, not 'hey sis, could you weigh in on if my wife's massive BMI will cause any issues?' Pregnancy can be really hard on a woman's body. Even women in perfect health develop gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, gallstones, and other problems normally associated with obesity. A woman already dealing with back pain and pre-diabetes can anticipate these problems getting even worse during pregnancy. Now if she has the resources to manage these symptoms then it is her choice if she wants to go down that route to have a child (and some women want a child badly enough to tough out the symptoms and complications). But she won't have the same degree of stability- I mean for crying out loud a teaching job is perfect to have if you want kids; your work schedule will be in sync with their school schedule and you have summers off.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 00:22 |
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Child-haver here: someone who can't (or has decided they "can't") handle a normal 9-5 job is not going to be good at being a parent, a job that does not come with sick days or weekends off. At all.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 00:31 |
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That's true. Being a full time stay at home parent, depending on circumstances, can be harder and more stressful than a full time job. Whatever issues made being a teacher too difficult are going to be amplified when she has an infant or toddler.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me (29f) with a roommate (19f) - apologizing for her thinking I was racist Nah, I agree with ArbyC, like usual. It's pretty retarded for someone to get up in arms about how a doll wearing a dark mask is racist. Like, come on, wooden masks aren't racist, that's just dumb.
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