|
Palpek posted:Tonight I [21M] slept in bed with a girl I like [20F]. She's said repeatedly that we're only friends yet makes every move possible, what do I do? University is full of garbage women like this; that is the voice of bitter experience. Find somebody who is DTF.
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 11:22
|
|
|
|
| # ? Jun 12, 2024 18:36 |
|
|
Anony Mouse posted:Me [20M] with my Asian girlfriend [20 F]. Thinking about ending it because I'm her first Asian boyfriend. This is like "local man saws off arm because he believes it's possessed by demons" bullshit. If dude doesn't like his girlfriend enough to stay with her, then just be straight with her. Don't make up inane delusional excuses.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 14:17
|
|
|
Anony Mouse posted:Me [20M] with my Asian girlfriend [20 F]. Thinking about ending it because I'm her first Asian boyfriend. I found myself thinking "is this actually a thing?" then I remembered the time that my grandmother told me that she'd rather me be gay than bring a black girl home. I mean, talk to your GF about it, bro. You're both only 20, I don't think she's wanting to settle down if you're both in school.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 14:31
|
|
|
Palpek posted:Tonight I [21M] slept in bed with a girl I like [20F]. She's said repeatedly that we're only friends yet makes every move possible, what do I do? Khorne fucked around with this message at 14:51 on Dec 15, 2017 |
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 14:48
|
|
|
Khorne posted:How do you get into this situation and not have sex? I'm doing the math and zero times in my life have I not had sex. *voice of bitter experience* it happens. Move on, find somebody to gently caress. Preferably very quickly.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 14:50
|
|
|
Theophany posted:*voice of bitter experience* it happens. Move on, find somebody to gently caress. Preferably very quickly. You don't get rewarded for hovering, and if someone is interested in you you'll know real drat fast if you try to show some interest in them and it's reciprocated.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 14:53
|
|
|
Up until the part where he went home with her I've been in situations like that where I thought the girl was into me but it turned out she really wasn't. But by the end, yeah, what the hell.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 15:29
|
|
|
^^ It's an ego stroke for the woman. lemon-lyme disease posted:Bonus opportunity to argue about controlling versus boundaries and/or the concept of emotional cheating:
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 15:30
|
|
|
Leon Einstein posted:^^ What she really wants is the stability of Mr Doormat and the streaminess of an affair with young dude on the side.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 15:56
|
|
|
Palpek posted:Tonight I [21M] slept in bed with a girl I like [20F]. She's said repeatedly that we're only friends yet makes every move possible, what do I do? You are the safety blanket to her Linus, and like linus shes going to put you down so she can rub the ivory alone.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 16:03
|
|
|
Barudak posted:You are the safety blanket to her Linus, and like linus shes going to put you down so she can rub the ivory alone. Sometimes Linus lets the safety blanket watch her rub the ivory, so he might have that to look forward to.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 16:10
|
|
|
Vargatron posted:I found myself thinking "is this actually a thing?" then I remembered the time that my grandmother told me that she'd rather me be gay than bring a black girl home. I thought about the age but isn't it common in quite a few Asian cultures that if a woman isn't married with children in her early twenties, she must be broken and unmarriable? I wonder if her parents are also pressuring her to get married if they're pressuring her to marry an Asian man. Hypothetically, of course, since this guy is probably completely wrong and about to torpedo his relationship.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 16:53
|
|
|
Women's average age at first marriage in Japan is age 29-30, higher than it is in the US (which is 26). Even in mainland China, which is youngest, it's 25. Very tl;dr on changing norms around marriage in Asia, and that's from 2011, so another 6 years of change The "Christmas cake" thing (which was never early 20s and not married with kids, just with a man) is from the 80s and is p outdated. In conclusion, he's nuts and has been doing some MRA reading to think she hit the wall before 20.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:08
|
|
i like nice words
|
flick my Mr. Bean posted:I thought about the age but isn't it common in quite a few Asian cultures that if a woman isn't married with children in her early twenties, she must be broken and unmarriable? I wonder if her parents are also pressuring her to get married if they're pressuring her to marry an Asian man. Even so, early 20s and in med school is not the time to get married.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:23
|
|
|
My [24F] fwb [24M] apparently thought I was masturbating while he was sleeping after we had sex and I think it offended him? Kind of a funny storyquote:So a few weeks ago I was at my FWB's house and in the morning he was acting strange and seemed to want me to leave even though he never acts that way. He was distant and actually pretty rude.. I won't go into the details but I called him out and said I don't want to be treated that way. The male ego ladies and gentlemen. Also, if you have a FWB for years you have a boyfriend, congrats.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:32
|
|
|
LadyPictureShow posted:Normally I look for the biggest trainwrecks I can, but this one is just really, truly sad. Interestingly the abortion rate for downs syndrome post screening is basically 95%+ around the developed world, except for the united states, where it is around 65%.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:34
|
|
|
Enfys posted:Ignorant people aren't going to become curious if you treat them like they are mentally disabled when they say ignorant things (I'm talking about ignorance of basic knowledge, not things that tend to involve a moral/value/belief system). No one likes feeling stupid in front of other people, so they'll just avoid talking about anything outside their narrow interests, which creates a self-reinforcing cycle of not thinking about or learning about anything new. Encountering new and varied information regularly is important since it allows you to start making more and more connections between disparate topics, leading to deeper levels of understanding, but you have to be comfortable with admitting your own ignorance first and with putting yourself in socially vulnerable position. If you say something really dumb about the Iran/Iraq war, you can either try to learn more information about them or you can try to avoid ever talking about them so that you won't look stupid like that again. Obviously she's chosen the later and is responsible for choosing to remain ignorant, but she's not acting in a vacuum either. Curiosity is something other people can either encourage or punish as well. Yes, encouraging curiosity is very important in children, but it’s their disposition towards seeking knowledge or not is kind of locked in once you’re dealing with adults, which we are.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:35
|
|
|
lemon-lyme disease posted:I love all the animals I got to learn about just by sharing one pointless anecdote. quote:Basically, I had a group of people that I was friendly with for around 10 years, since we started high school. OK, it is super weird if you remain a close friendship with many friends from high school into adult life, you are probably majorly stunted in some way. One friend, OK, maybe the stars just aligned and it turns out you still get along in adult life, two, ehhh, I GUESS it is possible, odds aren't great but if you are still hanging around the same group that is loving weird, by your mid twenties your interests and lives should have diverged enough by then besides the occasional lunch or drink with one or two you don't regularly hang out with your high school lunch table.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:36
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My [24F] fwb [24M] apparently thought I was masturbating while he was sleeping after we had sex and I think it offended him? Kind of a funny story Well he got his didn't he!?!
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:36
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:OK, it is super weird if you remain a close friendship with many friends from high school into adult life, you are probably majorly stunted in some way. One friend, OK, maybe the stars just aligned and it turns out you still get along in adult life, two, ehhh, I GUESS it is possible, odds aren't great but if you are still hanging around the same group that is loving weird, by your mid twenties your interests and lives should have diverged enough by then besides the occasional lunch or drink with one or two you don't regularly hang out with your high school lunch table. you pick the weirdest goddamn things to get hung up on
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:38
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:OK, it is super weird if you remain a close friendship with many friends from high school into adult life, you are probably majorly stunted in some way. One friend, OK, maybe the stars just aligned and it turns out you still get along in adult life, two, ehhh, I GUESS it is possible, odds aren't great but if you are still hanging around the same group that is loving weird, by your mid twenties your interests and lives should have diverged enough by then besides the occasional lunch or drink with one or two you don't regularly hang out with your high school lunch table.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:42
|
|
|
Brother Entropy posted:you pick the weirdest goddamn things to get hung up on Who do you know who still regularly hangs out with their friends for high school as a large group? It's weird and tells me they are all developmentally stunted bolstered by the fact that they have that chat.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:45
|
|
|
[everyone at a wild party suddenly gets real quiet and stares when the person with many long lasted friendships walks into the room]
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:47
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:OK, it is super weird if you remain a close friendship with many friends from high school into adult life, you are probably majorly stunted in some way. One friend, OK, maybe the stars just aligned and it turns out you still get along in adult life, two, ehhh, I GUESS it is possible, odds aren't great but if you are still hanging around the same group that is loving weird, by your mid twenties your interests and lives should have diverged enough by then besides the occasional lunch or drink with one or two you don't regularly hang out with your high school lunch table. This post shows that you're the weirdo, hth
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:49
|
|
|
Many people do this; it helps a lot if your friends from highschool stayed in the same town and had similar life goal ambitions as you and stayed in the same financial circle. Conversely, I didnt stay in touch with highschool friends because I am boring and they did things like move to russia to teach french after having a mental break coming home to find their girlfriend cheating on them in a devils threesome.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:50
|
|
|
cowofwar posted:Interestingly the abortion rate for downs syndrome post screening is basically 95%+ around the developed world, except for the united states, where it is around 65%. I read a pearlclutching article a while back that said the abortion rate for downs is so high in Iceland that there's practically nobody on the whole island with downs. Their take of course was that this was rank eugenics at best, and more probably actually genocide.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:50
|
|
|
lol I still have 7-8 people I would consider good friends that are from high school, I've also made dozens of other good friends since then. As for extremely close friends? Probably 2 of those from high school (one is actually from elementary school!) and a 3-4 more from college/after college life. You, sir, are the weird one, perhaps you picked bad friends in high school, or, most likely, you had no friends in high school.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:51
|
|
|
You can just call it a threesome, you don't have to be like "no no it was the icky gross kind" every time #MFMsAreValid
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:51
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:Who do you know who still regularly hangs out with their friends for high school as a large group? It's weird and tells me they are all developmentally stunted bolstered by the fact that they have that chat. Despite being different people than we were fifteen years ago, we all still put in the effort to maintain contact because it's genuinely rewarding to see people I like achieve their goals and dreams, get married, have kids, buy houses, and be good parents.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:54
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My [24F] fwb [24M] apparently thought I was masturbating while he was sleeping after we had sex and I think it offended him? Kind of a funny story Lmao. Maybe it's just me, but if my girlfriend was masturbating after we had sex, I would be really turned on and excited. Not, uh, annoyed or pissed off. What a loser. 
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:56
|
|
|
Anne Whateley posted:You can just call it a threesome, you don't have to be like "no no it was the icky gross kind" every time I just used it for descriptive flair so i didnt need to get technical in a short story of a man deciding russia is where true love could bloom for him. Ill refer to it as a Texas Longhorn in the future.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:56
|
|
|
tactlessbastard posted:I read a pearlclutching article a while back that said the abortion rate for downs is so high in Iceland that there's practically nobody on the whole island with downs. Their take of course was that this was rank eugenics at best, and more probably actually genocide. I'm still facebook friends with a highschool classmate, probably because I'm a broken human being, and she recently had a baby with downs syndrome. She spent the pregnancy making her persecution complex public by posting articles about how Iceland wants her baby dead and people think she's a monster for not aborting.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:57
|
|
|
sleepwalkers posted:A big portion of my friends that I speak to on a regular basis (via group chats, mostly during work hours since we all have desk jobs) are people I met in high school. There've been people who've drifted in and out over the years as we grow up, but it's entirely possible to both have friends you've met as an adult and still be friends with people who you've known for over a decade. We're all scattered around the country by now, since we've all grown up, went to school around the country, explored the world, got real jobs, settled down, etc. See, that is normal. quote:there’s around 15 people who actively meet up for drinks/dinner/parties etc once a week. This is developmentally stunted retards. Keeping in touch, that is fine and normal but 15 people are still so in sync developmentally and in life goals and relationships that they meet up every week since high school, that is not normal. Three Olives fucked around with this message at 18:00 on Dec 15, 2017 |
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:57
|
|
|
There are probably 4 people from high school that I keep in steady contact with, but I rarely see any of them in person because the closest one lives 4 hours away. I guess that's a normal situation though, considering that I was in boarding school.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:58
|
|
|
tactlessbastard posted:I read a pearlclutching article a while back that said the abortion rate for downs is so high in Iceland that there's practically nobody on the whole island with downs. Their take of course was that this was rank eugenics at best, and more probably actually genocide. You havent lived until youve been called a genocidal nazi for saying if you had a deaf child and there was a way to give them hearing you would do it.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 17:59
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:This is developmentally stunted retards.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 18:03
|
|
|
Three Olives posted:See, that is normal. Three Olives posted:OK, it is super weird if you remain a close friendship with many friends from high school into adult life, you are probably majorly stunted in some way. And the normal people who have normal friendships with people they've known forever are going "hey wait, you know it's possible to do that and not be a group of massive dipshit goobers trying to hold onto the last shreds of youth by drowning our collective sorrows in alcohol, right?"
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 18:03
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My [24F] fwb [24M] apparently thought I was masturbating while he was sleeping after we had sex and I think it offended him? Kind of a funny story I've known guys that would get pissy if you touched your clit while they were loving you. Yawgmoth posted:just because you can't maintain a friendship for longer than 15 minutes doesn't mean other people can't or shouldn't Most people mature and change significantly from the kids they were in high school. I loved my friends in high school but we have 0% in common now and we're very different people separated by hundreds or thousands of miles. I have maybe one or two friends from high school that I still speak with regularly, but see my college and grad school friends all the time. Not saying Three Olives is right that its weird, just that its not weird or a red flag if you've moved on from high school relationships either.
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 18:05
|
|
|
Having a downs child is like buying a terribly behaved parrot except way more expensive and you can't lock it in a cage with a cover and close the door to the room it is in. I hate children in general but I get there is a certain appeal to raising a child and seeing it develop into an independent adult that takes care of you in old age and gives you grand children, a downs child is like all the terrible parts of having a child except worse with no upside. Abort, shut down your poisoned womb and adopt a dog which will be more rewarding than a downs child but a lot less effort and they live like 15 years so they don't become a long term burden to society if or when you can not longer take care of them. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 18:06
|
|
|
|
| # ? Jun 12, 2024 18:36 |
|
|
Three Olives posted:Having a downs child is like buying a terribly behaved parrot except way more expensive and you can't lock it in a cage with a cover and close the door to the room it is in. Can't blame the womb on this one, it's just hosed up gametes
|
|
#
?
Dec 15, 2017 18:13
|
|