Pick posted:

that's bullshit, forensic files owns

maskenfreiheit posted:

if i lived in a legal state i'd probably put a few of those 500mg pot brownies in my fridge in my room.

if you keep it in the labeled container she can't go after you for poisoning, it's not your fault someone broke into your room and ate clearly labeled stuff.

quote:

My friend has been trying to set me up to get to know a friend of her husband and at first I was interested, but the next morning, I didn't feel it was a good idea (he is 8 years older/I don't like dating men above 30s), I plan on getting two masters, go to medical school and I need to mature, I just got out an emotionally abusive relationship) I told her this about a month ago. She called me recently and asked me if it was okay to give him my number, but I told her that I told her I wasn't interested and I had a feeling she was gonna call me about it. She felt bad after.

However, this situation really annoys me because I feel guilty from my parents and her and other friends for not being interested into getting to know him. When I met him, I really didn't feel like he was someone Id see myself with. Am I being unreasonable? Its like all this pressure makes me feel guilty.

tl;dr: Friend tried to set me up with someone and told her I am not interested a month ago and she called me today asking if it was okay to give him my number. My parents and friends made me feel guilty that I wasn't at least trying to getting to know him.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Am I (24/F) wrong for not wanting to get to know someone(30s/M) my friend (30/F) is trying to set me up with?


Why won't you saddle yourself with an older guy you don't like?! You're so selfish!!!

Doc Hawkins posted:

It'd be a real lovely friends and parents who pressured someone into doing that but she forgot to describe any way in which they are doing so besides calling her one time and apologizing when she said no.

Pick posted:

Who watches that much loving tv? I watch like 2-3 hours a week, max.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Me too but the numbers I've seen quoted are obscene even if mine are further exaggerated. Like 5 hours a day is the stated average I saw. I presume that's increased by some tv hog outliers but still, insane.

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/01/business/media/nielsen-survey-media-viewing.html

Barudak posted:

In 2014 a heavy tv viewer was defined as watching 705 minutes of tv or more.

A day.

Barudak posted:

In 2014 a heavy tv viewer was defined as watching 705 minutes of tv or more.

A day.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Hey, wanna get depressed just before Christmas?

My [17m] sister [17f] and I found out the truth about how we came into this world, and we don't know how to handle it. At all. Should I bring it back up or drop it?

Pick posted:

stay at home wives

retired people who hoping/waiting to die and have no money or desire to do anything else

crabs

Ham Sandwiches posted:

It's a bank, and banks tend to be extra leery of people with records, because they don't want any theft or fraud of the money that they keep around.

Pick posted:

stay at home wives

retired people who hoping/waiting to die and have no money or desire to do anything else

crabs

tater_salad posted:

the answer is probably no, but "I anal'

mind the walrus posted:

What kind of situation would allow that much free time? I consider myself pro at squandering the life I've been given and 11.75 hours a day still seems like an active commitment.

Enfys posted:

Pick posted:

My bf [25M] of 5 years is threatening to sue me [25F] for throwing away his old soda bottlesRelationships
672 points 916 comments submitted 1 year ago by Smushy010 to r/relationships


1...2...3...400. thats a lot of cans.

Khorne posted:

It's really confusing why she keeps calling him her boyfriend instead of her ex-boyfriend.

quote:

I'm sorry idk where else to post this..

So backstory is, my nephew is spending the night, everyone else is asleep and we're both night hawks. Nephew is my fiancé sisters kid, I've been in his life since he was in diapers. He's never acted weird around me at all or anything like that..

Tonight I decided to do my nails and my nail stuff is kept in the bathroom, nephew was in the bathroom so I waited, when he was out I went to get my stuff and my daughters(7) old iPod fell out from under the bag.. I noticed it was on and recording. At first I thought my daughter was trying to play a prank or catch a ghost or something but the video was only -5 minutes long so far... I watched the video and it's pointed directly at the toilet, the video would have caught my rear end going to sit on the toilet.. I put the iPod away in my purse right away and maybe 3 minutes after I got out of the bathroom my nephew went to the bathroom again. He came out and went straight to the spare room.. I didn't say anything and he didn't either.. idk if I should just ignore this or should I bring it up with my fiancé in the morning?! WTF!!!!

Sorry for the long rear end story but I'm weirded the gently caress out right now.. what the hell do I do?! I still think of him as a kid even if he's legally an adult now..

Also sorry for how it's written. I wrote it last night but couldn't make an throwaway for some reason.

TL;DR Found an iPod on record in the bathroom pointing at the toilet after nephew had been in there. Pretty sure he was trying to record my rear end.

Khorne posted:

It's really confusing why she keeps calling him her boyfriend instead of her ex-boyfriend.

maskenfreiheit posted:

I(27f) think I just caught my nephew(18m) trying to record me in the bathroom.Non-Romantic (self.relationships)

mind the walrus posted:

What kind of situation would allow that much free time? I consider myself pro at squandering the life I've been given and 11.75 hours a day still seems like an active commitment.

quote:

Here’s some backstory, it’s a lot, and mostly relevant. Sorry if this gets long, I can be a blabberer. I have a younger brother, I’ll call him Adam. Our parents divorced when I was 12, and he was 8. For the most part, I was okay. Adam was the one who really struggled. He got really anxious, and desperate for structure. Our parents had a system where one week, one parent got the kids for 3 days, the other got them for 4, and the next week, they’d switch up the amount. However, it was never the same days. So one week, we could be at our dads house on Monday, our mom’s on Tuesday to Thursday, then with our dad the rest of the week. The next, we’d be at Mom’s Monday and Tuesday, Dad’s on Wednesday, Mom’s on Thursday, Dad’s on Friday and Saturday, and back to mom on Sunday. Our parents both worked a lot, so Adam regulated himself and me. He would write it before the start of the day, plan it by the half hour increments, and make sure he held himself to it, and tried to make me do the same. It was kind of a pain in the rear end, and at that point, I didn’t realize the importance of it so I was kind of mean to him about it, and didn’t want to follow the schedule. Adam would write rules for whichever house we were at, and that’s what he really held me to. If I was still walking around at 9:30, he would come up to me and tell me to go to bed, because according to the rules, it was bedtime.

Adam is married, with 3 kids, and is in his pediatrics residency. When he and his girlfriend got pregnant with their first (8M), they were both still in college. It freaked him the hell out. He’d call me like clockwork, and was always Googling what to do, because he needed an answer. Our parents gave him a huge chunk of money when they decided to keep their baby, and continued to give him $1,000 a month until their son turned 5. His second (5F) was born right after they graduated, and before my brother went to med school. I stayed with his wife after their second was born (he married her shortly before their first was born- to “follow the rules”), and I noticed that there was a whiteboard just of rules and policies, and his wife told me that Adam gets very serious about it, so it’s hard for him to raise their children, because it stresses him out when they break rules. They had their third last year, and she turned 1 over the summer.

I have my own son, he’s also 5. He’s a sensitive, anxious little kid. Like, roadkill makes him feel like he’s going to cry. If he spends too much time thinking, he starts shaking and pulling his hair. We work with a therapist, and we have strategies in place to help him with his anxiety. His big tactic is to come find us when he’s getting stressed, and we try to talk it out with him. If he can’t get calm from that, then we try other techniques, like lying down with him, trying to get his mind off of it. We’re spending the holidays at Adam’s house, and it’s already getting on my nerves.

Adam has a rule that kids eat at the kids table, adults eat at the adult table. Kids don’t get up from the kids table, they don’t come to the adult table. My nephew has hit the stage where he loves to talk about guns and violence, and it stresses my son out. It was giving him anxiety, so he came to go find me. The second he got out of his chair, Adam went, “Kids stay at the kid table.” Adam does this irritating thing where if someone does something “against the rules”, he says the rule, and if anyone argues or keeps doing it, he repeats it in a louder voice. If they continue, he keeps repeating it until he ends up shouting. My son said he needed me, and Adam repeated himself. He kept going, climbed up into my lap, and Adam repeated it until he was yelling at my son. I had to leave the room, covering my son’s ears while my son was pulling his hair and crying.

Once I got my son calmed, I asked Adam to come into the living room with me. I told him that my son needed to sit with me sometimes, and he just said, “The kids stay at the kids table.” I kept trying to argue it, but he just kept doing it until he was yelling again, and I had to give up. Adam also does taxidermy in his basement, but they’re in the process of redoing the area of their home where the kids’ rooms were to make more space, so all their children sleep in the basement, and my son is expected to sleep with them. Adam’s rule is “kids stay in the basement past 8pm.” His taxidermy is right across from where my son sleeps, and it scares him. So, my son will go try to find me or my fiancée, and will instead be met with Adam going, “kids stay in the basement past 8pm.”

Adam told me he “knows I’m a rule breaker,” and said my son can’t turn out like me if I intend for him to be a successful human. I know this is likely trauma from his childhood, and he should go to therapy- but I can’t make him do anything about that. I just need help getting through this holiday. My son is actively going to be harmed by these rules, if he can’t come to me for anxiety relief or be able to be in an environment where he feels safe and comfortable. How can I try to get Adam to lower his boundaries? Am I being unreasonable in asking him to change things up for my son? His kids are disciplined as hell, it’s not like letting my son crawl up in my lap when he’s anxious will make his house go to poo poo.

TLDR: My brother is super centered on rules, and has been making my son follow the rules even when it’s not beneficial.

Barudak posted:

In 2014 a heavy tv viewer was defined as watching 705 minutes of tv or more.

A day.

welcome to hell posted:

My brother (27M) is super focused on rules, and won’t let up, even with my (31F) son’s (5M) anxiety

welcome to hell posted:

My brother (27M) is super focused on rules, and won’t let up, even with my (31F) son’s (5M) anxiety

welcome to hell posted:

My brother (27M) is super focused on rules, and won’t let up, even with my (31F) son’s (5M) anxiety

welcome to hell posted:

My brother (27M) is super focused on rules, and won’t let up, even with my (31F) son’s (5M) anxiety

quote:

I (19f) was originally placed in a dorm room with 5 other girls, but requested a new room due to anxiety and switched rooms a week and a half into the semester. My roommate (18f), Ally, and I were randomly put together. Before I moved into our dorm, my roommate didn't have a roommate and lived in the room by herself.

Ally seems to think that since she has lived there a week and a half longer than me, she has seniority over me or something; she literally said to me "it was my room first" a couple of times (we pay the same amount for housing....)

She's pretty controlling about our room, doesn't really compromise, -and wants her terms and conditions to be absolute.

For example, at the beginning of the semester, Ally emphasized the fact that she didn't want any alcohol in our room whatsoever. I was disappointed, but I said fine. Then, about three weeks ago, she briefly mentions in passing that her boyfriend (21m) is going to bring her alcohol. I was and still kind of am livid; she made a whole big deal about there being no alcohol in our room and didn't even discuss with me changing the rules about it.

She also goes to bed every night around 10 and wants lights out by 9:30 every night. She wakes up via an alarm at 7 AM, turns on the lights, and makes a lot of noise getting ready. I've told her that she wakes me up and to please not turn the lights on, but she still does it.

The only time I'm ever woken up before her was when I was going home for the weekend. I dropped a metal water bottle, it made a loud noise, and she later made a snarky comment to me about how I woke her up.

She also FaceTimes her bf in our room every night from like 6 to 9:30. It gets kind of annoying after a while, but I don't say anything and just deal with it. I was pissed though because during finals week, I was in the library all day, came back to our dorm, and texted my roommate that I was studying in our room and I'd prefer it to be quiet so I could focus. She comes back like 20 minutes later, face timing her bf in our dorm.

This annoys me because I have come into the room before and said a brief hi to her, only for her to say "I'm doing work right now, don't talk to me"

I'm on winter break right now and want to know how I should deal with this next semester because I'm getting tired of it real fast.

TL;DR: my (19f) roommate (18f) wants things her way and only her way. I'm tired of it. What do I do?

maskenfreiheit posted:

Joe felt ill because he needed a new liver. He didn't come back after summer vacation and was dead by the following spring.

maskenfreiheit posted:

My (19f) roommate (18f) acts like our dorm room is only hers and only wants things her way.

Blue Raider posted:

i wonder what the parameters are of that. people who have a tv on while theyre doing something else? or someone who is actively and exclusively watching shows?

i mean i leave the tv on all the time while im doing stuff. by that measure i probably watch like 30 hours a week

Outrail posted:

I bet that principal felt like a shitheel after that... Nah, self righteous assholes don't feel guilt.