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I’m sorry to hear that Intruder. Was it a long time coming or a surprise?
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Intruder posted:My Christmas gift was a likely divorce  
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Dec 26, 2017 20:23
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Guys he said don’t feel bad for him. Congrats Intruder!
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went on a 4 mile walk with my dog. good dog. also played fetch with one of those plastic ball thrower things i got for my dad because he has bad shoulders and i think i can throw a tennis ball 80 mph with some practice
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SHOAH NUFF posted:I’m sorry to hear that Intruder. Was it a long time coming or a surprise? The writing has been on the wall for awhile I'll be waiting a bit to put some distance between the process and Christmas so the kids don't associate the two
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Dec 26, 2017 20:26
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Intruder posted:The writing has been on the wall for awhile Maybe this can all go smoothly and she'll die of a stroke or something. Fingers crossed
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Dec 26, 2017 20:28
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Well congrats Intruder I suppose. At the least I'm sure it's going to be a relief. I hope the kids handle things well and you...you know, get what you want there. That always seems like the messiest thing about divorces.
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Intruder posted:The writing has been on the wall for awhile Sorry buddy. Your move or hers? Or mutual?
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Dec 26, 2017 20:32
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Astros win a World Series, Intruder divorces his wife Fair trade-off imo
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Mine mostly I got some good advice. It's better to be alone than with someone who makes you miserable
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Oh wow I thought you were making a joke about my marriage earlier, but you were not. Good luck with single life. Get Tinder and learn all the new emoji poo poo.
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I got a cold for christmas but not too severe of a cold, mostly just head cold. My stepdad made a standing prime rib roast which was excellent. My wife got me a really nice handmade end-grain cutting board that a friend of hers made, my stepdad is gonna come over and upgrade my stereo system (he's an audiophile), my brother gave me lord of the rings LCG game packs (we play it together a lot, so it's a cool "for me but really for us to enjoy together" gift), my mom got me Mainias, Panics, and Crashes 7th edition, and I got some amazon money from my sister and my mother-in-law. Not bad! Plus the requisite piles of candy and chocolate. I've got the week off, today we're gonna go see the new star wars, and I still have three days to figure out presents for my wife's dad and stepmother who we're seeing saturday.
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Dec 26, 2017 21:19
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Goon grats intruder. Come to Asheville with me and no butt stuff if you wanna drink about it.
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Sorry to hear about that Intruder, also congrats Intruder. Do what's right for you.
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Intruder posted:Mine mostly Very good and accurate advice. Hope it works out for you, ending things is miserable even when it’s the right decision and kids make it that much harder. My sister did something similar about 3 years ago and I can say she’s genuinely never been happier.
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Eating that "food" caused Intruder's life to flash before his eyes and he realized that it wasn't working out.
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Intruder posted:Mine mostly This is true. It's also better for your children than being in a miserable household.
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Dec 26, 2017 21:52
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A divorce is never sad. It means 2 sad people will be a little less sad.
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Intruder posted:My Christmas gift was a likely divorce Come to NJ i'll hook you up with NJ house wifes
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seiferguy posted:A divorce is never sad. It means 2 sad people will be a little less sad. The kids might be more sad tho Call it a wash
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please do it https://twitter.com/tnewtondunn/status/945421649918201856
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I wish Obama would drop decorum and just throw a year long tour aimed at pissing off Trump just by going places and doing nice things.
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My parents divorced when I was around 5 or so, and they arranged joint custody. Both remarried within the next 5 years, so I grew up going back and forth between houses: my dad's house on weekdays, my mom's house most weekends and summers, and with effectively four parents. I understood it not to be the normal family thing but I was not greatly upset by it either. While I can't claim that I had a happy childhood, most of the bad stuff was not related to the fact of their divorce. The key thing was that (as I found out as an adult) while my mom had plenty of grievances towards my dad that were fully justified, neither of them ever exposed me to that: they didn't fight in front of me and they were mature about the joint custody and (until my mom remarried) alimony. If you let your kids understand that you're both still their parents and still love them, and that your decision to separate isn't their fault, that's good; the extension of that is to never use them as pawns in an ongoing game of petty revenge at the person who hurt you. I had friends of divorced parents who engaged in petty poo poo, like telling their kids how awful their other parent was, or buying them something their other parent specifically said they couldn't have, etc. A friend of mine's ex also decided unilaterally to move to the opposite side of the country, knowing full well that there was no way he could move there and no way he could afford to see his son regularly. It wasn't even for a great job or anything, she worked at starbucks and just got a job at another starbucks in north carolina (we're in California). It was just blatantly a decision on her part to not let him see his son and he had little practical recourse, not being in a financial position to take her to family court or anything. Basically don't do that petty poo poo, make sure your kids get to spend time with both parents and just do your best to make their time with you good (not "try to be their friend" you still need to be a drat parent, just give them what they need, including emotional support, discipline, and good modeling of mature adult behavior) and you'll be OK. They're going to be hurt, that's unavoidable, but be patient and try to get your ex on board with the basic idea that you have to keep your adult argument poo poo entirely out of their perception.
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Leperflesh posted:My parents divorced when I was around 5 or so, and they arranged joint custody. Both remarried within the next 5 years, so I grew up going back and forth between houses: my dad's house on weekdays, my mom's house most weekends and summers, and with effectively four parents. I understood it not to be the normal family thing but I was not greatly upset by it either. While I can't claim that I had a happy childhood, most of the bad stuff was not related to the fact of their divorce. Very pro-read post here. Sad to hear a number of TFF marriages collapsed this year but glad y'all are moving on and seem to be pretty mentally/emotionally healthy about it all.
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Intruder posted:Mine mostly gently caress like altuve hits balls
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20s: huh, a bunch of my friends are getting married 30s: huh, a bunch of my friends are getting divorced
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Mel Mudkiper posted:20s: huh, a bunch of my friends are getting married Not about you FUCKO
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axeil posted:a number of TFF marriages collapsed this year Well poo poo, I better stop posting here just to be safe 
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ZenVulgarity posted:Not about you FUCKO It was observational humor meant to be relatable to the average reader, BUTTHOLE
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Mel Mudkiper posted:20s: huh, a bunch of my friends are getting married
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My parents divorced me when I was 2, and there really was no way around it because my biological dad was going to end up killing my mother in some alcoholic rage if they didn't. Then in shared custody he would try to be the "fun dad" and let me do whatever, and leave my mom around to be the "responsible one." And yet, probably more damaging than that was him moving away while my mom and her new husband were moving somewhere else with me when I was 4, and it just... forced me to say goodbye in a way I'm not sure any kid should say goodbye to one of their parents. It required me to emotionally shut off a part of me that wanted to see him, and I think ever since, that hosed with me more than anything. Whenever I bitched in school therapy about the divorce, that's what I was really talking about, not something from when I was 2 and couldn't remember anything, but just all the awkwardness of saying goodbye. You seem like an incredibly good dude, Intruder, so just stay around your kids, like I'm sure you will. They'll be grateful for that more than anything in the long run.
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My parents never got divorced because they were never married
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I'm married and my previous girlfriend was obscenely clingy and routinely made horrible choices that hosed up her life. My wife's boyfriend before she met me was this super controlling conservative homophobe who nobody in her family liked. Every so often out of nowhere we just kind of go to each other like "yeah dating sucked I'm really glad I found you" and now we're weird nerds together and its pretty deece.
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I wanna gay marry my dog
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I married the first woman with whom I had a serious relationship, which will probably come back to haunt me in some way! We both acknowledge how much better we get along with each other than with anyone else, and how lucky we were to meet each other at least.
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Probably 50% of the people I know that got married in their 20s are either separated or divorced. Any of you dudes have a DxRacer gaming chair? Came into some cash over Xmas and thinking of treating myself because my old chair is dying a painful death.
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I saw The Last Jedi Kylo Ren is a young Snape and I cant unsee that
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Quiet Feet posted:I'm married and my previous girlfriend was obscenely clingy and routinely made horrible choices that hosed up her life. My wife's boyfriend before she met me was this super controlling conservative homophobe who nobody in her family liked. I'm almost the same except I'm not married to my gf. Yet. My ex was super clingy and manipulative, her ex was a compulsive liar that cheated many times. She constantly reminds me that she's happy to be with me 
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BlindSite posted:Probably 50% of the people I know that got married in their 20s are either separated or divorced. just get a steelcase/herman miller at a used office chair warehouse
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I don’t have much to say about divorced chat as I’m alone, non of my friends are divorced yet, and my parents should probably have divorced but my dad stuck around because my mom can’t really function in American society as a hard hearing immigrant who had a farm peasants education in post WWII Korea and now ive taken over for Dad since he passed being her keeper I hope you’re hale and happy whatever happens Intruder BlindSite posted:Probably 50% of the people I know that got married in their 20s are either separated or divorced. I got a dx racer and half expected it to be an over priced gimmick but it’s actually really comfy and I used to get muscle pain in my hip and back with a normal office chair f I sat in it for more than an couple hours but this I haven’t had any i forgot I even did
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