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100% on the real, I am halfway from 29-30 and am experiencing some of the same stuff and working out/getting in shape/lifting weights/boxing regularly were all massive massive boosts in both the mortality and depression department. Some of us are doomed, but scientists believe that some of our generation will comfortably hit 110+ years without trying too hard given modern medicine and health practice. The first person to live to be 150 has already been born, people are having kids in their 40-50s a lot more regularly now. But for real when you are working out (go to a gym with headphones no one is looking at you and no one cares what you look like everyone is there for the same reason) and just spend time with your body. It won’t be so scary when poo poo starts going south because you know your body better and understand your own limits. All the added benefits of health and looking nicer aside, the endorphin release you get for an hour or two afterwards is fuckin lit and really helps me deal with wintertime blues.
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The other way of looking at this is that there is already a lot of knowledge out there that you don't know, and so just adding one more thing shouldn't cause an existential crisis. (One of the useful functions of a college education is that it makes you aware just how much you don't know.) You absolutely want to learn how to learn, since that ability is useful throughout your life, but the fact that you don't understand some random bit of tech news is not the end of the world.
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a TPU is a GPU with precision cut off cuz they don't need that poo poo for neural net calcs it's a sign that Google spends a disgusting amount of money on this poo poo and can pick low-hanging fruit for billion-dollar savings lol fun fact: the top PI's in neural networks are cresting over their 70's AI is done by geezers
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Police Automaton posted:There's this saying that age is just a number and there's a lot of truth to that. Do whatever you want IMHO, just do it for the right reasons. If you're 40 and want to experience skateboarding because you maybe never did or had no time, you should totally buy that skateboard and have fun. Just don't buy it because you want to be 20 again, that is not going to work and will only cause more frustration. I also had (and passed) a phase in life where I realized I'm officially old now for many but that feeling passed. I don't really care anymore and just live however I want to. It's not like you get another life anyways. I will 2nd avoiding alcohol though. All my acquaintances who used to drink a lot and party when they were younger (and still drink quite a bit now) not only look like poo poo but also regularly feel like poo poo and are doing somewhat worse in general. That stuff really makes you dumber. That all being said, mid-30s really isn't old. It's a great age. You know better than the 20 somethings but everything about your body and mind still isn't really age affected. There are still a lot of professional sportspeople your age! That’s not what people mean when they use that phrase.
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bob dobbs is dead posted:a TPU is a GPU with precision cut off cuz they don't need that poo poo for neural net calcs yea the 70 year old PIs are really personally doing the cutting edge work and aren't just grant writing machines i'm sure of it 
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fruit on the bottom posted:That’s not what people mean when they use that phrase. Can't you use it in that context too? I'm not a native English speaker. sugar free jazz posted:yea the 70 year old PIs are really personally doing the cutting edge work and aren't just grant writing machines i'm sure of it The dude who came up with a very important part of the lithium ion battery was 57 when he came up with it (without it, our modern handheld devices like smartphones or tablets would be a lot more unfeasible engineering-wise) and he came up with a new battery type at the age of 92. It's supposed to have three times the density and caught a lot of attention from industry bigshots.
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Part of me wants to believe that old people are the way they are because they simply stop trying to learn new things, but then I get stuck in line at self-checkout for 15 minutes at the grocery store because four different old people at four different checkout stations keep putting items back in their cart after scanning instead of in the bagging area.
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Arven posted:Part of me wants to believe that old people are the way they are because they simply stop trying to learn new things, but then I get stuck in line at self-checkout for 15 minutes at the grocery store because four different old people at four different checkout stations keep putting items back in their cart after scanning instead of in the bagging area. its less that they stop trying to learn btw things and more that they don't want to learn new things, and without learning new things change gets really scary
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how do I avoid becoming like that, assuming we live long enough to become elderly
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sugar free jazz posted:yea the 70 year old PIs are really personally doing the cutting edge work and aren't just grant writing machines i'm sure of it they're in corporateland gettin paid a quarter billion a year they don't need to write grants
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bob dobbs is dead posted:they're in corporateland gettin paid a quarter billion a year the dream......
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The Snoo posted:how do I avoid becoming like that, assuming we live long enough to become elderly Just keep posting bro, we got you.
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Police Automaton posted:Can't you use it in that context too? I'm not a native English speaker. Lol yeah, you can I’m just having fun. IME you’ll usually hear “you’re only as old as you feel”, whereas age being just a number is slightly more often with creeps and age gaps although both meanings do work.
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The Snoo posted:how do I avoid becoming like that, assuming we live long enough to become elderly keep challenging your mind, learning and solving puzzles and stuff like that
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I see a lot of kids in their 20's that just don't have that curiosity to dive into new things. I know when I was that age I was learning tons and I still am doing things I don't see others my age doing. It doesn't have to be just doing soduku or word puzzles - learn languages, dancing, drawing, photography, guitar, piano, singing, writing, programming, etc
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Bust Rodd posted:
Not in America, we're obese as poo poo.
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And also increasingly poor and mentally ill!
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sugar free jazz posted:the dream...... uhh don't pay attention to how much being a neural network peep sucked from like 1990 till 2005
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Most people are dumbasses, ergo most old people were/are dumbasses also. Flipside: try walking up to a 15 y/o kid and speaking modern day slang to them, and see how it goes. Also, raise your hand if you know how to use SnapChat, and Bitmoji.
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maskenfreiheit posted:you don't nessecarily turn into an idiot when you age same. if you stay active (including learning new things) you'll be fine. the diference between staying active and being a slug isn't that you'll live longer, its that you won't decline into dust. If you stay active you'll be basically normal until you're so old you spontaneously have an aneurism and die. If you become a slug you'll melt while still living and be on ventilators and not remembering your name and poo poo for years
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Also, people with negative attitudes towards old people and ageing have higher rates of dementia and decline when they get old. Change your attitude towards old people!
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therattle posted:Also, people with negative attitudes towards old people and ageing have higher rates of dementia and decline when they get old. Change your attitude towards old people! Number 1 symptom of dementia Hold your breath: Learning to like country and rap music If you start liking both, you've got a few months of "sanity" left
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quote:I'm dating a tranny. And before everyone jumps down my throat that's what she prefers so that's what I refer to her as. That's not really the confession though. My confession is that I'm starting to develop real feelings for this woman, but I'm terrified of introducing her to my friends and family. It's getting to the point where I'm trying to predecide if they don't accept her if it would be worth to sever completely from them. It's easy to just say "Oh, they're bigots, of course sever!" But in reality it could be throwing away my entire family support structure. They're all pretty open minded, but this might not fly. I don't see a reason to sever if they don't "accept" your girlfriend right away. It's not like there's gonna be an ultimatum scenario or anything super-dramatic like that. What are they going to do that would force your hand like that, order you not to date her? I say just introduce her and whatever their reaction is is their concern. By all means defend her if they are rude to your face, but it doesn't sound like they'd necessarily do that. Either way, you're their family like they are yours, and that's worth preserving. They can learn to accept your decisions, or they can be mad. quote:My husband may have permanently ruined us financially and destroyed our marriage. All in the name of “having a good Christmas”. Yeah uh can some Gentile chime in on this one because this doesn't seem like a normal reaction on the part of the guy or his mom Like, financially speaking I'd say "ruined" is a bit of a strong term since you're not in debt over it or anything, it was just a really irresponsible decision that doesn't suggest good things for the future. At the very least set some boundaries regarding what's an appropriate amount of money to spend on the holidays, because he went way past what they should be. also try to find out what his mom said to him to provoke this kind of reaction because that sounds like a possible emotional-abuse scenario e: please do not make a big deal out of him buying you token gifts, that makes it come off as petty and is kind of counter-intuitive to the whole "you spent too much money" argument loquacius fucked around with this message at 18:43 on Dec 29, 2017 |
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He had his midlife crisis early
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Well.... my brother in law married a sterile older lady. Family didn't care, well mother was sad that she couldn't have grandkids through him for the usual grandma stuff. So perhaps if you frame it as a question "would it be any different if I was brining home a biological female who could not bear children?". If so they are just bigots and you need to balance your need of happiness and your needs of fiscal aid.
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loquacius posted:Yeah uh can some Gentile chime in on this one because this doesn't seem like a normal reaction on the part of the guy or his mom I mean, I'm sure you can understand the pressure of a religious, overbearing mother  He's a mama's boy and a manchild.
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Get therapy and gently caress your therapist.
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quote:My husband, without my knowledge, dipped into our shared account for Christmas. This year, his mother hosted. He spent nearly 20,000 on presents for 10 people Step one: No more shared savings account.
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Holy poo poo, that is a huge betrayal of trust. Spending your savings on presents isn't smart, but it's understandable when it's people with like $1500 in savings and they have kids, but spending $20k on family to "make up" for it is pretty insane. I don't usually say things like this, but your husband's mom really did a number on him growing up. That's not a normal way to react to a parent's criticism. If he's refusing to even discuss the problem, then you're probably right in thinking of divorce. Trans girlfriend goon, don't put the cart before the horse. Take your own advice and just introduce her when you're both ready. One of my close friends was terrified of coming out of the closet because his dad is a huge right wing "man's man" and he didn't care at all and goes fishing with his boyfriend and everything. He built up all these horrible scenarios in his head, and none of them even came close to happening. Don't know why you'd even have to tell anyone she's trans. Is it like super obvious or something?
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Lol 20k in gifts. Dude should be on the curb by now.
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'yay a switch' said the confused 49 year old
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20k is a pretty insane chunk for middle class folks. I can't even fathom spending that much money in a three month period.
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8 Ball posted:'yay a switch' said the confused 49 year old
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skeemon posted:20k is a pretty insane chunk for middle class folks. I can't even fathom spending that much money in a three month period. Not even in a year to be honest. I mean unless you count rent and utilities etc. But certainly not on gifts. Send your husband to therapy. He needs it. But pick a male therapist, see thread title. Alternatively sever, for real.
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Solice Kirsk posted:Holy poo poo, that is a huge betrayal of trust. Spending your savings on presents isn't smart, but it's understandable when it's people with like $1500 in savings and they have kids, but spending $20k on family to "make up" for it is pretty insane. I don't usually say things like this, but your husband's mom really did a number on him growing up. That's not a normal way to react to a parent's criticism. If he's refusing to even discuss the problem, then you're probably right in thinking of divorce. same. sums up my thoughts for tranny dating goon deranged-christmas wife, weren't there any red flags? That's ultra hosed and seems pretty nuts to me. Like actual insanity to the point where there'd be warning signs or something. That previous Christmas is what I aim for, and I think a lot of people do the same. Is the mother in law guillotine level rich or just wacked out?
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maskenfreiheit posted:
I think it's awesome that Turbo Teen found a career that provides fulfillment.
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1 more puppetmaster feshquote:The puppetmaster is back kids, but not for long. The ironic part here is that he hosed up and accidentally used the code the DC leaker used instead of the one from the earlier puppetmaster emails. The puppetmaster emails used a code phrase about a specific SA poster (the one whose probation he was taking credit for); the DC leaker emails used a code phrase referencing an address in DC. This one is ostensibly a puppetmaster email, but it used the address code phrase. Meaning those two confessors are the same person. I mean, I can't doxx him based on that tidbit or anything, I just thought it was ironic considering the content v  vAnyway here's some friend drama quote:My best friend of five years called me the day after Christmas begging me to cosign on a huge loan She told me she's in debt to the mob and was being harassed at her place of work and that they know where she lives. This same friend is a compulsive gambler and I found out through a mutual friend that what really happened was she's a worse bookie than she is a gambler and really owes a bigger bookie. I felt betrayed and angry because she tried to sucker me into enabling her addiction and really was scared of not being able to gamble again. Upset and livid at her, I told her husband everything and now she says I'm dead to her. I told my friend from the beginning that her husband needs to know but after I found out she tried to sucker me I had no trust in her to do the right thing and felt it was important to let her husband know before her addiction ruined their financial situation and her self-destruction took them with her. But now I'm second guessing myself. I feel like I've potentially accelerated an already terrible situation and I also feel like a coward for going behind her back like that. Did I do the wrong thing? So, bookies basically ARE mob, right? I don't do illegal gambling but as I understand it both of these people will break your kneecaps if you're in debt to them. At any rate once someone like that is involved I think the situation is officially bigger than bros-before-hoes. Or, y'know, the gender-swapped equivalent. So yeah you're in the clear. e: also as my best friend Kvothe the Bloodless once told me, "there are two sure ways to lose a friend; one is to borrow, the other to lend" loquacius fucked around with this message at 17:29 on Dec 30, 2017 |
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What's the female version of bros before hoes? Can I suggest "sisters before misters"? Anyway, here is my opinion on puppetmaster: Dude needs someone to "pull his strings" i.e get laid ASAP. That much investment in online power game shenanigans on a dead gay forum is not healthy.
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Hopper posted:What's the female version of bros before hoes? maybe i'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like someone else with a secret phrase (the dc weirdo) pretended to be the puppetmaster and loq now assumes they're the both person?  did the feshes all come from the same email loq?
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Hopper posted:What's the female version of bros before hoes? - broads before rods - chicks before dicks - girls before churls "sisters before mistsers" doesn't have that negative connotation that the saying requires.
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