Marmaduke! posted:

This one had a follow-up, it was deleted but the title was pretty good:

[update] my (25m) wife (30f) made arrangment to have threesomes but her idea of guy-guy-girl made me very uncomfortable. Our issues were much deeper than that--her ex husband beat the crap out of me and she's disappeared.

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My girlfriend of 2 months started a huge fight yesterday. So basically I texted her a sweet godmorning text in the morning and she got really happy about it. Afterwards she asked what I was doing etc. and I replied but she didn't answer my text. She had said the day before that her friend was going to sleep over at her. And I thought she was spending time with her so I didn't bother if she didn't answer me for 4 hours. I wanted to give her space. After 4 hours she texts me all angry about why I do not care about her and why I didn't ask why she didn't reply, I said I thought you were with your friend and I saw on Facebook Messenger that you were active so I assumed nothing happened to you. She was furious and said she was testing me to see if I cared about her and I said that's not a nice thing to do. I said if you saw my message you should have replied. She got furious and started attacking me for being a bad boyfriend. She said she wanted a man not a boy. And I said I do care about you it was just because I thought you were with your friend and I wanted you to have your space. That's why I didn't ask if something had happened.

Long story short I ended up apologizing for not asking if something had happened to her during the hours she didn't reply. She still said that I was coming up with excuses and she didn't want me to be sorry. She said she didn't want to teach me how to behave like a man. I ended up apologizing and said I would ask more frequently how she is during the day just to check if she is alright. She said I need to call her when she doesn't answer for a while because she might be dead or she might be cheating on me. So finally after a 30 min intense phone call she says she is not angry any longer but wants time for herself and I said I respect that. So we ended the phone call. About 30 min after we hung up I heard my phone vibrating during the night and I woke up because of it. I saw texts from her saying she is breaking up with me because she feels like we are not compatible with eachother. I was like seriously? Before this argument we had such a good time together and just yesterday she said that she was so happy with me because I understood her and I was giving her so much affection and she loved it. I am just confused. I didn't end up pursuing her more because that's just my personality if someone doesn't want to be with me I won't force them because it requires that two people want to be in a relatipnship to make it work.

She was furious and said she didn't want this any longer and that I was like a girl. She started attacking me personally and said that she doesn't like relationships and said you have to come to my parents and ask them if I can propuse to their daughter. She wants an engagement already after two months. I said never I need to know someone for at least 1 to 2 years before I even think about engagement. She said I should leave her alone and should stay far away from her.

She is 20 and has already divorced once and I want to know her very well before I even think about marriage. I feel like she is forcing me to marry her fast I really feel uncomfortable.

I am really confused. Yesterday I was the best guy ever and the most loving man. Today I am a bad guy because she didn't reply to my text and I gave her space to be with her friend. Guess what? I ended up getting dumped.
I do not know what to do. Have someone ever been with a partner like this before? I don't feel like I have done something wrong. Should I fight for her or just leave her?

Tl;dr Girlfriend dumped me because I didn't ask her why she didn't reply to my text for a couple of hours. She by purpose did not reply to my text just to see if I cared about her. I wanted to give her space because she was with her friend. Not a good excuse according to her. Apologized and promised to more frequently ask about her but still ended up getting dumped.

Marmaduke! posted:

This one had a follow-up, it was deleted but the title was pretty good:

[update] my (25m) wife (30f) made arrangment to have threesomes but her idea of guy-guy-girl made me very uncomfortable. Our issues were much deeper than that--her ex husband beat the crap out of me and she's disappeared.

Haifisch posted:

My[24 M] girlfriend[21 F]wants to move into together. I'd love to but she refuses to train her dog in any form

Ride The Gravitron posted:

NSFW question/advice. Wife (30f) and I (25m) together 3 years made an agreement to have each "type" of threesome (two girls then two guys). We did the two girl but my wife's idea of two guy threesome is making me very uncomfortable.

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She doesn't include me in the planning for much. She's racked up a ton of credit card debt for her idea of selling purses on eBay without asking me, she turned in our car lease without asking me, she replaced all out furniture without asking me...this is just what she does.

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Look I didn't pick her... I was trying to make my wife happy. I'm sorry that we were "mean to her but she was a disaster. I have a hard time even describe what she was like. Ok imagine the rudest, overweight worker at the dmv getting drunk at your house, having sex with your wife, throwing up all over your bathroom, demanding to such your duck as you are driving her home, breathing puke breath on you, then walking her to her door to make sure she doesn't pass out in the desert then opening her door and having garbage literally fall out because she's apparently hoarder.

i don't think many Of the people knocking me would have her back

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Well in our intimate moments where we would talk about threesomes she would say stuff like "I want to watch you suck another man off..." And I would say rhat I would in the moment. BUT After we were done I would always say that if we do a two guy threesome it would be about her and I wasn't comfortable taking me touching another guy into reality.

Contrary to this is when she would talk about being with another girl she would always say it was something she wanted to try and would even bring it up outside of intimate times because it excited her.

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So here's the original...I was shocked at how many nice comments I got. A lot of people told me I was an idiot too, which is fair...anyways since so many people were invested in it I thought I owed an update.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/402urw/nsfw_questionadvice_wife_30f_and_i_25m_together_3/
So I think the last time I talked about this was Saturday morning after she had left me and most likely had spent the night screwing her ex husband (findmyfriends app showed her there before she turned it off). I took a lot of peoples advice and reported all of our credit cards and ATM cards lost (every single bit of finance info we have as a married couple is in my name as she has like a 200 credit score). After that at like 2pm I finally crashed and fell asleep. I woke up to her literally blowing up my cell and house phone. When I answered she screamed somthing like "YOU REPORTED ALL THE CREDIT CARDS STOLEN? WHAT THE gently caress IS WRONG WITH YOU. I HAVE NO MONEY." I told her to calm down that it was advice I'd gotten before I went ahead talking with a divorce lawyer on Monday. She told me to gently caress off and hung up. So I called one credit card company fraud department to see if I could figure out where she was by where the cards had been declined and sure enough...she had at some point driven to Phoenix and was trying to buy stuff at Pottery Barn, an expensive purse store and a cash advance at a Casino ATM type machine. That took a long time and by the time as it was done, she and her ex-husband had come to our apartment and were unlocking the door.
He instantly shoved his way into the door and started pushing and shoving me around screaming something about "get her the loving money she's owed dude or I will gently caress you up." and repeating basically that over and over again. Next thing I know I was waking up on the carpet. I guess he punched me and knocked me cold. I was still very dazed when I heard my wife saying "take that, take the computer, take the ipad..." and so on.
I heard them leave and got up and dialed 911 on my house phone (they took my iphone) and reported the assault and burgarly. The cops were there very fast as well as a paramedics. The paramedics checked me out and strongly recommenced taking me to the ER because I may have had a concussion. Cops took my statement (which wasn't much because it happened so fast) and started looking for both their cars and went to his apartment. I was checked out at the ER and was deemed I did have a minor concussion so I spent most of the rest of Saturday night and most Sunday in the ER being checked out.
When I got home there was a message from the police that a customs and border patrol worker saw a vehicle that matched his car going through the border at about 1AM sunday (we live in a border town, obviously). Her (my actually) car was found abandoned close to the big sand dunes but in other wise good decent shape they are going to have it towed back to me but since it was technically in another state, that state has to do their report so it should be sometime this week.
I checked around the apartment and while we didn't have a lot, she took most everything of value. She took most of my computer stuff, stereo flat screen tv, iphones, ipad. Probably what we had most money in was her purses--she was trying to start a business where she was buying really expensive purses at local stores and trying to sell them for more on ebay--and she took all of those. I still have my clothes, an older lap top, our furniture and thank god that our cat showed back up last night because I was worried she had taken him too.
I have an appointment with a divorce attorney tomorrow but his phone consultation said that she was present for the assault and all indications are she abandoned me will make this an easy divorce to get through also he is going to work a restraining order against both her and her ex husband. I talked with the management company of my apartment and they are going to let me move to another of their complexes across town with no penalty, and even into a smaller apartment that is quite a bit cheaper. I don't go back to work until tomorrow so I hope to spend my day just getting my head back together about all that has gone down in the last few days.
tl;dr: started off with advice about not wanting to go through with a threesome my wife had planned for me. I had the crap beat of my by her ex husband and she is probably in Mexico. Going to start divorce proceedings as soon as possible and move.

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Yeah lots...she cheated with her ex husband at least once. She never consulted me on anything she did with money like exchanging leases on cars and her "business" idea.

She's older so I think she found it easy to manipulate me and I guess I need some backbone so I'm not so easy to manipulate

maskenfreiheit posted:

Academic journal asked me to do unpaid work, now they won't accept it. Could I (with legal backing) charge them a fee? [Ontario, Canada] (self.legaladvice)

welcome to hell posted:

A few choice comments on the original:



And the update:
[update] my (25m) wife (30f) made arrangment to have threesomes but her idea of guy-guy-girl made me very uncomfortable. Our issues were much deeper than that--her ex husband beat the crap out of me and she's disappeared.

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My girlfriend living in a different state was always very on edge and standoffish when we talked or did things together after my last visit about a month ago, more recently she expressed that she did not want to talk to me unless it was something important in order to focus on other things.

The problem is we both use discord and I can see her online playing games and in calls with other people but I know if I join she will instantly be annoyed at me. This would make sense if she wanted to break up but she insists she wants to stay together and that I should be patient with her if I want to be with her. The situation makes me incredibly uneasy and I feel like poo poo whenever its night time and I see her talking or playing games with other people and seemingly not caring at all how much I miss her. Should I talk to her about it? How should I approach the problem? what is going on here.

tl;dr: long distance girlfriend doesnt want to talk or interact and it is weighing heavily on me, should I talk to her about it or just wait?

Palpek posted:

Me [22M] with my LDR gf [24F] of 5 months, doesnt want to talk or interact with me but insists she wants to be together.

just lol

fruit on the bottom posted:

My estranged sister [29F] of almost a decade is pregnant- my parents [56F/59M] are going to have a grandchild and not know about it

Clark Nova posted:

I hate how victim-blamey OP is here. People don’t just decide they hate one of their parents, go no/low contact and maintain it for decades without a very good reason.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

So about a day or two after that my wife started telling me that it was my turn to fulfill my end of the bargain. She started telling me how she couldn't wait to watch me have oral sex with the other guy and how she wanted to see my face when me and the other guy penetrated each other.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

If I had to guess it had to do with this brother she briefly mentions at the end ("I can't talk to my brother about this, that's another story, but he's basically a crazy white supremacist who's out of touch with reality and I try to limit my contact with him."), and them not defending her from his abuse.

Jeza posted:

You failed the reading class because she explicitly states that her sister reaches out to her racist brother and everybody else in the family, she only isolates her mother.

Clark Nova posted:

I hate how victim-blamey OP is here. People don’t just decide they hate one of their parents, go no/low contact and maintain it for decades without a very good reason.

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I'm trying to break up/cut off contact with a really cute guy I have met on Tinder back in October. At first he struck me as shy and inexperienced, but I found his shyness and awkwardness endearing.

As we were getting to know each other better, it became obvious, that he's very bad at communication, especially via text, and rather emotionally removed. When he had positive feelings towards me, he would mostly express them (if at all) by teasing me, being mean, pulling pranks and wrestling. As funny and endearing as it might have been at first, I started growing really tired of it.

After the New Years he "broke up" with me via texting, but still using very vague phrasing like "I'm trying to be less into you" and sending me links to songs about breakup.

I got mad, vented about this to all of my friends, and decided that maybe it was for the better, since he was a toxic person anyways.

Two days later he messages me again, to say the whole thing was "just a prank".

I tell him that I'm done with this, and I can tell him why so he understands his mistake, but for that he should have the courage to meet me in person. It seems like a good idea at the time, also because of a strong urge to give him a slap.

We meet two days later for a walk, I cry, vent and scold him, he apologises profusely, but the apology doesn't have much depth to it - I'm not even sure if he understands what hurt me exactly. But he makes me laugh by making goofy, self-deprecating jokes and teasing me again, and insists that we go grab a coffee. That, and seeing his pretty face from across the table melts all my defenses away, and I end up going to his place to make out with him that evening.

I feel stupid and defeated by my own sexual attraction. This guy is obviously an immature s***head but I'm seemingly unable to stand my ground firmly when we're talking in person

What do I do? I feel weak and stupid. How do I become more assertive and resistant to this superficial charm?

tl;dr: How to stand one's ground when arguing/breaking up with a partner despite feeling a very strong sexual attraction towards said partner?

Palpek posted:

Me [29F] trying to break up with a FwB [24M], can't resist his physical attractiveness

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A 29-year-old wrote this.

Palpek posted:

Me [29F] trying to break up with a FwB [24M], can't resist his physical attractiveness

A 29-year-old wrote this.

fruit on the bottom posted:

My estranged sister [29F] of almost a decade is pregnant- my parents [56F/59M] are going to have a grandchild and not know about it

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First off, I feel ridiculous writing this. I 30M recently moved into a new rental with my wife 29F of 5 years. When we moved in, we didn't realize the previous tenant had left 2 of her cats. They slowly started showing up after we moved in. My wife loves cats and took to them immediately. She has also taken in another stray and now is basically the primary caregiver for our neighbors cat as well (now she has 3-4 cats total depending on how you look at it). She feeds them throughout the day and plays with them. She also carries them around and kisses them 100+ times a day. She will leave the cats in her lap while we watch TV and just rub her face up and down the cat and kiss it. I feel like she is borderline Angela from The Office.

I'm not positive, but I think I have some form of Ailurophobia (fear of cats). I don't like them, I have no desire to touch them and I find them kind of disgusting. I'm afraid they will attack me sometimes, they have tried in the past. My wife now has scars on her arms and chest from feeding them and holding them. I now get cat hair in my food occasionally from the cats being around so much and I have to throw the food out, even thinking of their hair in my food makes me wince. I recently had to tell my wife she can't let the cats on our bed, bedroom or furniture, it was just too much. This hurt her I think as she doesn't get how someone could not love them. I'm not certain she complies with this rule anyways while I'm at work. She holds the cat in her lap still while we watch movies because it's not technically on the couch. It is however on her and the blanket.

Anyways, now to the part I'm having issues with. Because she rubs this cat up and down her face and kisses it, it makes me less sexually attracted to her. She is a beautiful woman and I find her very psychically attractive, but I can't stop thinking about her rubbing her face on these cats and then it getting on me. Oh god it is so nasty having to write about this.

How do I move forward? She knows I hate the cats and tolerate them for her sake. I haven't told her I'm losing sexual interest in her over this. If I did, I think it would break her heart. Do I need to see a medical professional to get over my fear/hate of cats? Asking my wife to get rid of these cats isn't an option for me. They are one of the best parts of her life.

outlier posted:

Puzzling on multiple fronts, largely due to the OP being utterly naive:

* Reviewing papers is pretty weak sauce when it comes to academic careers
* You don't win brownie points / credibility / anything for doing reviews for editors, you're just doing unpaid work for them
* No ones going think you're an amazing academic because of a paper you reviewed
* There's no contract or any legal structure involved, so good luck with suing.

Blue Train posted:

Am I (31f) wrong or just not getting it with my fiance (31m)?

u/winnerloser2017

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So my fiance and I are having a decent day together before the work week starts again tomorrow and we're watching the show the mist.

Once the first episode is over he looks at me and says to watch the next episode I have to take his cup which I can't see the contents of and pour it on myself, otherwise if I don't he's going to delete the rest of the series (it's saved to our PC.) He makes me promise 3 times I'll do this. Thinking he's playing around I say sure give me the cup and it's still half full of water. I really don't want to get soaked and joking I run into the bathroom and pour it over my arm.

Apparently he wasn't joking and proceeded to delete the show off the PC and then gets angry when I start to get irritated. Apparently going back on my word means he can't believe a thing I say and that I can never admit to being wrong just like his dad did to him as a kid. A bet is a bet in his eyes and by not following through on this bet I'm a an untrustworthy person.

We've been together 6 years and generally in the past when he's done something similar he's joking and doesn't do what he says he's going to do but I never think of that and freak out and he says I act stuck up so for once I thought I'd joke back thinking he's just playing around.

TLDR; Fiance thinks I won't keep my word for other more serious matters because I failed to follow through on a silly bet.

Blue Train posted:

Then I guess she better call the battered women's hotline and leave him tonight, which is a completely justified and reasonable reaction to him deleting the tv show they downloaded. If she doesn't she could be dead by morning

fruit on the bottom posted:

My estranged sister [29F] of almost a decade is pregnant- my parents [56F/59M] are going to have a grandchild and not know about it

Palpek posted:

Me [29F] trying to break up with a FwB [24M], can't resist his physical attractiveness

A 29-year-old wrote this.

triangular man posted:

Phyzzle posted:

Remembering that post, I vaguely recall that no one understood that she did exactly what he told her to do. He just carried out the punishment anyways. It's one of the strangest attempts at a power play.

Haifisch posted:

My [23f] old friend [23f] carried out a bizarre “test” of my husband’s [24m] loyalty. Very angry at her and don’t know if I should stop hanging with her or if I should chalk it up to a one-time poor judgement?

Absurd Alhazred posted:

My [16/M] girlfriend [19/F] of 11 months learned about my business and how much money I make. She's upset that I kept it a secret from her and thinks I've been unfair in our relationship.

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I tried to find my previous post about this but I think I must have deleted it. My boyfriend and I have been having problems lately because of a new female friend that he made, Katherine. In my first post I mentioned how we have been together for 10 years and live together.

His new friend from school quickly became his best friend from the program he is in. I was feeling really uncomfortable about their friendship because my bf told me how she was very touchy with him. She'd put her hand on his leg in the car, rest her head on his shoulder in class, link arms with him while walking, touch his face to show how cold her hands were. She also sent him hearts a lot in her texts. She also has a boyfriend who lives a few hours away that she sees on weekends.

My boyfriend told me about all of it because he was unsure of how to feel about it. I told him that it sounded like she just enjoyed getting attention from him. I asked him to set a boundary with her. I understand some people are touchy. I don't think I should have to be uncomfortable with their relationship because "that's how she is". And a good friend should be able to respect a boundary. At this point they had only known each other for six months but the touchiness started very shortly after they met. He told me that that would make things awkward between them to bring it up to her, and that he didn't want to do that and kept accusing me of wanting him to stop being her friend. I never asked him to do that and told him many times that's not what I wanted.

So obviously that caused a lot of strain in our relationship. I felt misunderstood and disrespected, and he felt that I was being jealous and controlling. Ithink what started happening was that Me focusing on their relationship so much was pushing him away, and he was getting closer to her at the same time.

We were on the verge of breaking up, neither of us were really sure if that was the right decision because we both love each other very much, and the good qualities that he has are things that I know are rare to find in people. So we decided to keep trying to work on us.

I had met Katherine once before and tried extremely hard to be open minded and give her a fair chance, regardless of feeling like she didn't respect our relationship. She seemed very outgoing and I got a vibe from her that she seemed fake in the way that she liked to people please, if that makes sense. Like she tried to act a certain way depending on who she was with.(we were in a group of like 8 people that night). I didn't tell my bf that and I told him that she seemed nice enough. Which was true, and I was trying to give her a chance.

After that, the flirtiness and the touchiness continued. My bf and I went through another cycle of the same thing, almost breaking up, deciding to stay together.

He invited me to come to his friend's apartment about 3 weeks ago. It was another friend from school that I had met and liked very much. She lives with her bf and we had been on double dates a few times and I really liked hanging out with them. So we were supposed to go to their apartment and Katherine would be there too. It was supposed to be a way for her and I to get to know each other more and hopefully become friends so that she could stop being a problem for me. She knew this because my bf had told her before that we have problems because of her. (And to that she told him that he shouldn't have to deal with that kind of jealousy).

Anyway that night we were all drinking. I ended up telling Katherine how I didn't like that she was so touchy with my bf. Then she spent the whole night talking to me, really trying to convince me that My bf is "like a brother" to her. She just kept telling me that all night. That I had nothing to worry about and that he loves me. (Not that I needed to hear that from her). She seemed pretty convincing. I was actually having a pretty good time and thought that maybe I had misread her. I ended up going to sleep first. As soon as I fell asleep Katherine came on to my bf. She got up close to him and tried to kiss him multiple times. He asked what she was doing and kept physically pushing her away, she said "you know what I'm doing".

She said she's liked him for a very long time. She told him how smart and handsome she thought he was and how she wanted to be there for him because his mom passed away when he was younger and he has problems with his dad. She kept insisting that she knew he liked her too. He said he had confusing feelings about her. He tried to rationalize with her even though he was really drunk. And she even admitted to giving Him the most alcohol, like she was trying to get him to cheat on me. He told her that she had a boyfriend and he's with me and that what she was doing was wrong.

Then she physically got on her knees and kept saying "let me suck your dick" and kept trying to grab at his belt. All this time I was laying on the air mattress 2 feet away from them, passed out. The ONLY reason nothing physical happened is because my bf wouldn't let it. The friend whose house we were at was sleeping, but her bf happened to see and hear a lot of their conversation and when he saw Katherine on her knees he called My bf over to take him out of that situation. At that point Katherine was crying and saying she felt really rejected. She went and threw up and then cried herself to sleep.

I only know about this because my bf wanted to be honest with me. The next morning, I had no idea that this had all happened. Katherine was acting completely normal and so was my bf. They were talking normally and joking around and I had no reason to think anything. Katherine ended up driving us home because we both felt sick and on the ride home she was touching his face and I remember thinking they were being a little flirty while I was right in the backseat, but basically shut down the feeling because I didn't want to get myself jealous when that night was supposed to have the opposite effect. We got home and I took like a 3 hour nap then got up to go to work. My bf was acting extremely weird and wouldn't tell me what was wrong until I got off work and he told me everything. He said he's always been attracted to her but swears that he never had feelings for her while they were friends. But that when an attractive girl that he liked as a friend threw herself at him, he said he felt his feelings change in that moment, but didn't let anything physical happen. I believe him.

I need to vent to someone because I have so many emotions that I don't even know what to do with them. I'm hurt that he had (has?) feelings for someone else. Especially someone who did something so hosed up to me. I understand being attracted to other people. And I don't take it lightly that even though he was drunk he didn't let anything physical happen.

I'm angry and humiliated that he didn't get us both out of the situation and shut it down the moment it occurred, but instead let me be friendly towArds her the next morning. He even still rode to class with her the next day because he wanted to "talk to her" about what happened. I went the whole day assuming he probably at least kissed her. He said nothing physical happened and I do believe him. But I'm angry that once again he didn't seem to care that I was being disrespected.

I feel upset that Katherine is such an evil person and I have no one to talk to about it. After their talk on the car ride to school my bf told her they couldn't be friends anymore. She didn't understand why. She ended up just going back home to her bf for Christmas break and probably told him nothing of what happened. She even told the friend whose house we were at that the only thing that happened was that my bf told her that he liked her. Which, sure, isn't a lie but that's not exactly what happened. She's a liar. She's malicious and manipulative. I'm so shocked that there are actually people like that in the world. To be so insistent on spending the whole night trying to convince me that nothing was going on between them only to throw herself at him thhat same night just seems loving evil.

I feel extremely confused about what to do next. My bf has been very honest with me. I know that he would never physically cheat on me. I do think though, that this whole situation spiraled because of their closeness and also that he confided in her about our relationship. I think that she probably enjoyed knowing our relationship was struggling and felt powerful knowing her was attracted to her and close to her emotionally. (Not because he told her but because she is just a very pretty girl. Apparently she's never been rejected before). I can't help but think that if I had been more willing to get to know her before, and made my presence known to her, and was less jealous of a person, this might not have happened. And I also feel that if my boyfriend had set a clear boundary, she wouldn't have even considered coming onto him because he would have let it be known early on that there was absolutely no way that he would ever even consider doing anything with her. She shouldn't have ever thought it might have been a possibility.

I want to move past this and I want to be with my bf still. But he still stands by his opinion that nothing about their friendship before this was inappropriate. That scares me. I've wrote a letter to her. I'm big on writing out my feelings. I debated on sending it to her, but she seems to have no remorse or even embarrassment for what she did so I really think it would be pointless to talk to someone who lies and says whatever she thinks people want to hear. It made me feel a little better just to write it out anyway.

I wrote a letter to her boyfriend that I also decided not to send. I've met him once. I really think he deserves to know what a oval office he's dating but I'm not trying to give her any reason to somehow be involved in my life anymore. She'll gently caress up her own relationship eventually.

I guess I’m wondering how to process all of these emotions I’m dealing with, and move past this. I know it’s not fair to my bf to be angry with him when we’ve decided to stay together, but I’m just having a hard time.

TL;DR: I felt that my bf’s new female friend was being flirty with him, but he didn’t want to make things awkward by setting a boundary with her. She threw herself at him one night when we were all drinking and I want to be able to move past my anger about the situation.

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We have been together for 2 years now To make a verrrrryyy long and irritating story somewhat short, my boyfriends immediate family (3 sisters, grandparents, and parents) started hating me about a year into our relationship. They always have a different excuse as to why. His youngest sister [22F] has a burning hatred for me and never fails to voice it to my boyfriend. His mother would text me often saying my boyfriends life is declining because of me until I changed my phone number.

On the other hand, my family LOVES my boyfriend. He comes to my house after work and basically lives there. He just goes to his house to sleep. My mom invited him to come travel with us in Feb, boyfriend said yes, Mom bought our tickets. Last night, his mother texted him “your father is threatening me with divorce if you go on that trip”

Some backstory, his parents were divorced but remarried. His parents always lived together for the sake of their kids. My boyfriend is, in his fathers words, “his mothers responsibility” so whenever my boyfriend needs permission or needs anything, he goes to his mom.

My boyfriend did move out with us last year for about a month. His youngest sister actually kicked him out because she didn’t want him to live with her if he was still with me. After a month, his parents begged him to come back promising that they’d pay for his school, let him be independent, and they wouldn’t complain about me or disrespect my family. He felt bad and moved back in with them and then told me that he prefers living at my house because his home is always filled with bad vibes and fights. Slowly after he moved in, his parents took back everything they said and went back to how they were before (restricting him, harassing him, and picking random fights with JUST him and never his sisters)

TLDR: boyfriends father is threatening mother with divorce if boyfriend goes on a three day trip with my family, what should we do? What can I️ do to help?

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My (27F) bf’s (27M) new female friend (23F) did something awful to me.